Idk if anyone else relates to this but I still made a crappy meme 🙃
https://redd.it/nu3abk
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My first post here so I drew myself for pride month in all of flamboyant glory
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I know this has been done like a thousand times but the whole don't eat my snacks at the bottom of is 💯💯 relatable
https://redd.it/nu6ljl
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Ace and aro dragon designs
https://www.reddit.com/gallery/nu6ck6
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The colors ended up a little off, but I made an ace cake for pride
https://redd.it/nu7rs0
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Finally, a proper "My scales" that shows sexual and romantic orientations as a spectrum.
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Just found out I'm ace. 35f. So here's what happened.
I figured it out a couple days ago, but it makes my whole life make sense. I'd heard the word forever, but didn't know what it meant. So I'm browsing lgbtq stuff, cause I have some friends and I like to be supportive and I come across the whole ace thing. And wow. I thought for a couple days, it doesn't really change anything for me. I'm living happily in a platonic relationship that just works for us. There's not really any reason to "come out" as it were.
But I'm browsing the subreddit and other places and I start to see that younger people need the older aces to be visible.
So here I am. I'm ace.
Trigger warning(?)
I was married for 15 years. I had 3 pregnancies. 2 I gave up for adoption. 1 was aborted.
I was terrified of the marriage. I had never wanted to have sex. I told my boyfriend no many times. (I never wanted a boyfriend either) But then it happened anyway and I was raised in a religious area where a woman should marry her rapist. So I did. After that sex was a duty to be performed in order for God to see me as a good wife. (Wtf?)
15 years later, I was tired. Just so tired of all the abuse. Mental emotional sexual ... So at 29 I ran away. Drove 3,000 miles away in secret. Moved in with a cishet male friend who is just tired of the whole dating/sex/relationship thing. We've lived together platonically for 6 years now. I'm happier than I've ever been. I never have to even think about sex again if I don't want to. I wasn't originally going to post anything because like I said, being Ace doesn't change anything for me. It clarifies things and that's what I needed. But If I can help by being visible, then hi! Here's me!
https://redd.it/nub1l8
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I figured it out a couple days ago, but it makes my whole life make sense. I'd heard the word forever, but didn't know what it meant. So I'm browsing lgbtq stuff, cause I have some friends and I like to be supportive and I come across the whole ace thing. And wow. I thought for a couple days, it doesn't really change anything for me. I'm living happily in a platonic relationship that just works for us. There's not really any reason to "come out" as it were.
But I'm browsing the subreddit and other places and I start to see that younger people need the older aces to be visible.
So here I am. I'm ace.
Trigger warning(?)
I was married for 15 years. I had 3 pregnancies. 2 I gave up for adoption. 1 was aborted.
I was terrified of the marriage. I had never wanted to have sex. I told my boyfriend no many times. (I never wanted a boyfriend either) But then it happened anyway and I was raised in a religious area where a woman should marry her rapist. So I did. After that sex was a duty to be performed in order for God to see me as a good wife. (Wtf?)
15 years later, I was tired. Just so tired of all the abuse. Mental emotional sexual ... So at 29 I ran away. Drove 3,000 miles away in secret. Moved in with a cishet male friend who is just tired of the whole dating/sex/relationship thing. We've lived together platonically for 6 years now. I'm happier than I've ever been. I never have to even think about sex again if I don't want to. I wasn't originally going to post anything because like I said, being Ace doesn't change anything for me. It clarifies things and that's what I needed. But If I can help by being visible, then hi! Here's me!
https://redd.it/nub1l8
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Just found out I'm ace. 35f. So here's what happened.
I figured it out a couple days ago, but it makes my whole life make sense. I'd heard the word forever, but didn't know what it meant. So I'm...
I'm suprised at how quickly Akinator guessed this, i wasn't expecting him to get it at all.
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I made some pride dinosaurs (and non-dinosaurs) drawings to sell as stickers and I wanted to show off the ace, demi and aro ones here! I hope you like them and happy pride!
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Gyno refused to see me because of sexual history
We scream it to the roof tops but yet they can't understand "sex isn't for everyone and life doesn't revole around it"
I'm 26f. When I was a teen/20-22 I thought I had to get a relationship or I was weird. I was very embarrassed that the only thing I ever did was kiss my ex boyfriend. But everytime a potential partner presented themselves I always freaked out when it got to the more "saucier" flirting and ghosted. As I got older I realized the thought of sex or being that intimate with anyone doesn't entice me. When I was 24 I learned the term Asexual and it fit me to a tee. Sometimes I think I may be more demi, but I've yet to find one person I'm interested enough in to get close enough to find out. I'm happy alone, and happy about the prospect of living a life that's solely for me. I enjoy my dog. I enjoy my friends. I love not having a partner. I get to be myself all the time and I love it. However I do not tell people about this. My sex life, or lack thereof, isn't anyone's business and it's still an uncomfy topic for me. Because it's so hard for people to understand.
So that's me. Now for my vent.
Sitting here at an appointment were I had to give my sexual history. Rad, I have no issue with that. Zero partners in the last forever.
So the nurse comes and gets my paperwork, he goes over it with me before giving it to the doctor. And he gets to that question.
Nurse: "so you've had no sex in the last 6 months?"
Me: "nope!" thinking of a little joke because this is awkward "don't wanna get pregnant hahaha...."
Nurse: "...can still have sex and not get pregnant. And you have the inplant(birthcontrol)"
Me: "YeAh..."
Nurse: "....so I'll go check on the doctor!"
So not too bad, but that brought up a memory I had in the same office.
Back in January I went for a pap smear. I use nexplanon as my birthcontrol, which I use to control my periods and my hormones (no BC I'm a heavy cycle full of rage person)
The 3 years were up so I needed it replaced.
To get it renewed I needed a pap smear.
And I was assigned a middle aged male gynecologist. His gender doesn't bother me, I expect him to be a professional and experienced gyno.
So he comes in. I'm on the table and ready to go. He asks my sexual history as he puts on gloves. "No sex" I say
"No sex in the last year...?"
Me: "no. Ever."
And he stops.
Doc: "so you're a virgin?"
Me: "yeah?"
Doc: "I don't feel comfortable doing this"
Me, thinking he's joking: "haha really?"
Doc: "I'm not doing this. And why are you even on birthcontrol if you're not having sex??"
Me: "my periods and hormones...? Um... i really need my birthcontrol"
Doc: "I still don't feel comfortable. You're going to have to go somewhere else."
At this point I'm so embarrased I'm in tears.
Turns out the female doctor just came in as the male left the room and he asked her to go see me. She was very kind and did the pap smear and set me up to get my implant the next day.
But God. Was I so embarrassed.
But now, months later I'm sitting thinking... was I really just refused a medical procedure because I don't have sex XD I mean I can laugh about it now.
But, I just don't understand lol! The whole Virgin thing freaked a doctor out so much he refused me.
So there's my vent. I gotta know for other Asexuals have you ever had weird medical conversations because you straight up don't have sex?
Edit: thanks for the awards! Really did need a hug after that appointment
Also, after posting this I recalled another story from a different healthcare provider. I’m military so I’ll try explaining this, so this guy is my companies healthcare provider. We have to go see him first to get referred to actual doctors. All he can do is hand out basic pain pills and referrals.
Well a few years back I was battling with depression that made me gain enough weight to be put on the obese scale (5’8 over 200 lbs)
Then I developed chronic, intense foot pain that was later diagnosed as planter fasciitis.
Anywho, before I could get into see a doctor to get a referral I
We scream it to the roof tops but yet they can't understand "sex isn't for everyone and life doesn't revole around it"
I'm 26f. When I was a teen/20-22 I thought I had to get a relationship or I was weird. I was very embarrassed that the only thing I ever did was kiss my ex boyfriend. But everytime a potential partner presented themselves I always freaked out when it got to the more "saucier" flirting and ghosted. As I got older I realized the thought of sex or being that intimate with anyone doesn't entice me. When I was 24 I learned the term Asexual and it fit me to a tee. Sometimes I think I may be more demi, but I've yet to find one person I'm interested enough in to get close enough to find out. I'm happy alone, and happy about the prospect of living a life that's solely for me. I enjoy my dog. I enjoy my friends. I love not having a partner. I get to be myself all the time and I love it. However I do not tell people about this. My sex life, or lack thereof, isn't anyone's business and it's still an uncomfy topic for me. Because it's so hard for people to understand.
So that's me. Now for my vent.
Sitting here at an appointment were I had to give my sexual history. Rad, I have no issue with that. Zero partners in the last forever.
So the nurse comes and gets my paperwork, he goes over it with me before giving it to the doctor. And he gets to that question.
Nurse: "so you've had no sex in the last 6 months?"
Me: "nope!" thinking of a little joke because this is awkward "don't wanna get pregnant hahaha...."
Nurse: "...can still have sex and not get pregnant. And you have the inplant(birthcontrol)"
Me: "YeAh..."
Nurse: "....so I'll go check on the doctor!"
So not too bad, but that brought up a memory I had in the same office.
Back in January I went for a pap smear. I use nexplanon as my birthcontrol, which I use to control my periods and my hormones (no BC I'm a heavy cycle full of rage person)
The 3 years were up so I needed it replaced.
To get it renewed I needed a pap smear.
And I was assigned a middle aged male gynecologist. His gender doesn't bother me, I expect him to be a professional and experienced gyno.
So he comes in. I'm on the table and ready to go. He asks my sexual history as he puts on gloves. "No sex" I say
"No sex in the last year...?"
Me: "no. Ever."
And he stops.
Doc: "so you're a virgin?"
Me: "yeah?"
Doc: "I don't feel comfortable doing this"
Me, thinking he's joking: "haha really?"
Doc: "I'm not doing this. And why are you even on birthcontrol if you're not having sex??"
Me: "my periods and hormones...? Um... i really need my birthcontrol"
Doc: "I still don't feel comfortable. You're going to have to go somewhere else."
At this point I'm so embarrased I'm in tears.
Turns out the female doctor just came in as the male left the room and he asked her to go see me. She was very kind and did the pap smear and set me up to get my implant the next day.
But God. Was I so embarrassed.
But now, months later I'm sitting thinking... was I really just refused a medical procedure because I don't have sex XD I mean I can laugh about it now.
But, I just don't understand lol! The whole Virgin thing freaked a doctor out so much he refused me.
So there's my vent. I gotta know for other Asexuals have you ever had weird medical conversations because you straight up don't have sex?
Edit: thanks for the awards! Really did need a hug after that appointment
Also, after posting this I recalled another story from a different healthcare provider. I’m military so I’ll try explaining this, so this guy is my companies healthcare provider. We have to go see him first to get referred to actual doctors. All he can do is hand out basic pain pills and referrals.
Well a few years back I was battling with depression that made me gain enough weight to be put on the obese scale (5’8 over 200 lbs)
Then I developed chronic, intense foot pain that was later diagnosed as planter fasciitis.
Anywho, before I could get into see a doctor to get a referral I
spent months fighting with my company’s healthcare man to give me that referral so I could make an appointment with a foot doctor.
anyways, we had many fights about this. He blamed my depression for making me think the pain was worse then he thought it was. He blamed my weight. Etc.
Well, in our last fight he brought up sex and I got the joy of laughing in his face.
He looks at me and goes, “if you don’t lose the weight, how will you have kids?”
Me: “I don’t want kids, So I don’t see your point, not every women wants to be a mom”
Him: “well how will you find a boyfriend? No one is going to be attracted to an obese girl.”
Me: “who said I want a partner? Got news for you, My sex life isn’t your business when we’re supposed to be talking about my feet!”
Him: “I’m just saying you’d have an easier time finding a sexual partner if you lost weight...”
Me: “I DONT WANT SEX. I WANT MY FEET FIXED!”
Eventually I had to get the captain (our boss) to come in and swing the hammer, told the guy he was way out of place and I got to go to a podiatrist. And that’s my other weird medical story that somehow involved my sex life
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anyways, we had many fights about this. He blamed my depression for making me think the pain was worse then he thought it was. He blamed my weight. Etc.
Well, in our last fight he brought up sex and I got the joy of laughing in his face.
He looks at me and goes, “if you don’t lose the weight, how will you have kids?”
Me: “I don’t want kids, So I don’t see your point, not every women wants to be a mom”
Him: “well how will you find a boyfriend? No one is going to be attracted to an obese girl.”
Me: “who said I want a partner? Got news for you, My sex life isn’t your business when we’re supposed to be talking about my feet!”
Him: “I’m just saying you’d have an easier time finding a sexual partner if you lost weight...”
Me: “I DONT WANT SEX. I WANT MY FEET FIXED!”
Eventually I had to get the captain (our boss) to come in and swing the hammer, told the guy he was way out of place and I got to go to a podiatrist. And that’s my other weird medical story that somehow involved my sex life
https://redd.it/nuk67z
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Gyno refused to see me because of sexual history
We scream it to the roof tops but yet they can't understand "sex isn't for everyone and life doesn't revole around it" I'm 26f. When I was a...