Ibn Ḥibbān رحمـــه الله said:
Etiquette is a sign of excellent manners. Whoever learns etiquette in his youth will benefit from it in his maturity.
The people who learn etiquette and eloquence the most are the scholars.
📚 A Collection on Etiquettes.
Etiquette is a sign of excellent manners. Whoever learns etiquette in his youth will benefit from it in his maturity.
The people who learn etiquette and eloquence the most are the scholars.
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📚 A Collection on Etiquettes.
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Ibn Ḥibbān رحمـــه الله said:
The worst kind of wealth is that which a person does not use to satisfy his obligations.
The wise person shouldn't expect Allah's blessings to continue forever, so he delays performing his obligations with it (such as Hajj).
Extrapolate from this and apply it to every opportunity to do good while you have the means, such as helping the needy & spending in Allāh’s cause إن شـــــــاء الله.
📚 Shaykh Ibn Bāz about Charity
The worst kind of wealth is that which a person does not use to satisfy his obligations.
The wise person shouldn't expect Allah's blessings to continue forever, so he delays performing his obligations with it (such as Hajj).
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Extrapolate from this and apply it to every opportunity to do good while you have the means, such as helping the needy & spending in Allāh’s cause إن شـــــــاء الله.
📚 Shaykh Ibn Bāz about Charity
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Ibn Hibbān رحمـــه الله said:
The worst people are those who abandon their brothers in times of difficulty and need.
Whoever knew the reward for helping others would not hold back from helping in any way, even before being asked for help.
And that the best deeds are done before one is asked to do them.
The worst people are those who abandon their brothers in times of difficulty and need.
The Prophet ﷺ said:
Whoever alleviates a burden for his brother, Allah alleviates a burden on the Day of Judgment for him. [Muslim]
Whoever knew the reward for helping others would not hold back from helping in any way, even before being asked for help.
And that the best deeds are done before one is asked to do them.
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Ibn Hibbān رحمـــه الله said:
The Arabs considered the pinnacle of generosity to be feeding others and honoring guests, and they didn't consider a person generous until he had walked a mile or two looking for a guest.
One of the ways to honor your guest is to join them in good conversation, welcome them with a smiling face, and serve them yourself.
A wise person should invite guests often and feed poor people because Allah's blessings are guarded and maintained by using those blessings for doing good, and if not, then they return from whence they came.
The Arabs considered the pinnacle of generosity to be feeding others and honoring guests, and they didn't consider a person generous until he had walked a mile or two looking for a guest.
The Prophet ﷺ said:
He who believes in Allah and the Last Day should honor his guest. [Bukhari]
One of the ways to honor your guest is to join them in good conversation, welcome them with a smiling face, and serve them yourself.
A wise person should invite guests often and feed poor people because Allah's blessings are guarded and maintained by using those blessings for doing good, and if not, then they return from whence they came.
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Ibn Hibbān رحمـــه الله said:
Anyone who is given a gift or shown kindness must show appreciation and give back better or the same as he received.
Those who are unable to give a gift in return should praise the person, because praise can stand in the place of appreciation for a good deed, and nobody is without need of praise and appreciation.
Anyone who is given a gift or shown kindness must show appreciation and give back better or the same as he received.
The Prophet ﷺ said:
Whoever is not grateful to the people, he is not grateful to Allah. [Abu Dawūd]
Those who are unable to give a gift in return should praise the person, because praise can stand in the place of appreciation for a good deed, and nobody is without need of praise and appreciation.
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The Prophet ﷺ said:
Ibn Hibbān رحمـــه الله said:
The wise person relegates the dunya to its proper place and refrains from becoming reliant on it and needing it, while sending forth what he can for his permanent life and eternal bliss.
🎬 A Reflection on this Hadith
Whoever awakes in the morning in good health, a state of safety, and (with) his sustenance for that day, then it is as if the riches of the world have been gathered for him.' [Tirmidhi]
Ibn Hibbān رحمـــه الله said:
The wise person relegates the dunya to its proper place and refrains from becoming reliant on it and needing it, while sending forth what he can for his permanent life and eternal bliss.
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🎬 A Reflection on this Hadith
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Concluding the book with a reminder on the ultimate truth–Death.
Ibn Hibbān رحمـــه الله said:
"Death is a cup that is passed around from person to person, and every single soul must eventually drink from it. The wise person doesn't forget something that he is waiting for.
The grave is the first stage of the Hereafter and the last stage of the dunya. Blessed is the one who prepared for themselves a comfortable grave throughout their life and sent forth good deeds for their Hereafter."
Imām Ibn Hibbān رحمـــه الله ends the book with the hope that:
"(It) will lead the reader to learn the behaviors and ways of the people of knowledge and wisdom.
Those who traverse the path of the people of knowledge will find success and affluence by simply contemplating and practicing their ways."
The Prophet ﷺ said:
Remember death–the killer of pleasures often. [Ahmad]
Ibn Hibbān رحمـــه الله said:
"Death is a cup that is passed around from person to person, and every single soul must eventually drink from it. The wise person doesn't forget something that he is waiting for.
The grave is the first stage of the Hereafter and the last stage of the dunya. Blessed is the one who prepared for themselves a comfortable grave throughout their life and sent forth good deeds for their Hereafter."
Imām Ibn Hibbān رحمـــه الله ends the book with the hope that:
"(It) will lead the reader to learn the behaviors and ways of the people of knowledge and wisdom.
Those who traverse the path of the people of knowledge will find success and affluence by simply contemplating and practicing their ways."
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About the Books
The reminders will be lessons derived from the advice of Luqmān to his son, based on two books:
I) The Advice of Luqmān The Wise To His Son by Shaykh Rabee' Al Madkhali رحمـــه الله [MTWS Publications]
II) The Wise Counsel of Luqmān by Shaykh 'Abdul Razzāq Al-Badr حفظـــه الله [Dār As-Sunnah Publishers]
About the Quoted Figure:
Allāh ﷻ said:
"And We had certainly given Luqman wisdom." [31:12]
About the Authors:
1) Shaykh Rabee' Bin Hādi Al-Madkhali رحمـــه الله
• Al Albāni رحمـــه الله described the Shaykh with: "The flagbearer of al-Jarh wa Ta'dil today in present times and in truth."
• Al 'Allāmah Muqbil Bin Hādi رحمـــه الله said, "From those who have the most insight and knowledge of the groups (jamaa’aat) and the pollution of these groups in our time is the brother, Shaikh Rabee’ Ibn Haadee رحمـــه الله ."
• More Testimonials by the Scholars
2) Shaykh Abd Ar Razzāq Al-Badr حفظـــه الله
The eminent Shaykh is the son of the renowned Muḥaddith, Shaykh ʿAbd al-Muḥsin al-ʿAbbād. He is a teacher, author, specialist in ʿAqīdah, and faculty member at Islamic University of Madinah.
His Teachers Include:
Shaykh al Albāni
Shaykh Abdul Muhsin al Abbad (Father)
Shaykh Al Uthaymeen
Shaykh Ibn Bāz
[Taken From a Booklet authored by the Shaykh]
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Tauheed
Shaykh Rabee' Al-Madkhali رحمـــه الله said, "Allah praised Luqman due to Him granting him the gift of wisdom.
Wisdom is to place things in their proper place. And from wisdom is to traverse upon the methodology of the Prophets by beginning with the most important matters first.
Allāh ﷻ said:
The Shaykh rules,
'The Aqeedah and Tawheed, and purifying the minds and the society from shirk is the foundation and it is not permissible to begin with anything before it.'
Shaykh Rabee' Al-Madkhali رحمـــه الله said, "Allah praised Luqman due to Him granting him the gift of wisdom.
Wisdom is to place things in their proper place. And from wisdom is to traverse upon the methodology of the Prophets by beginning with the most important matters first.
Allāh ﷻ said:
In a similar fashion Luqman called his son to the oneness of Allah (Tawheed) and prohibited him from (shirk) then after that he commanded him with the prayer and enjoining the good and forbidding the evil, this is proof of his wisdom."وإذ قال لقمان لابنه وهو يعظه يا بني لا تشرك بالله إن الشرك لظلم عظيم
And (remember) when Luqman said to his son when he was advising him: "O my son! Join not in worship others with Allah. Verily! Joining others in worship with Allah is a great Zulm (wrong) indeed. [31:13]
The Shaykh rules,
'The Aqeedah and Tawheed, and purifying the minds and the society from shirk is the foundation and it is not permissible to begin with anything before it.'
The Advise of Luqmān The Wise to his Son | pg. 11-13
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Rights of Parents
Shaykh Rabee' رحمـــه الله said:
There are numerous verses where Allah تبــارك و تعــالى connects the rights of the parents to His rights.
Here the advice of Luqman to his son is mentioned and followed by His statement:¹
Shaykh Abdur Razzāq Al-Badr حفظـــه الله reminds us:
Reflect oh child! Remember the time when your mother had to bear you, feed and nurture you. Remember how for nine months you did not let her rest even during her sleep. Remember how she had to experience excruciating pain to deliver you into this world. These hardships your mother went through should never be forgotten and should always be at the back of your mind.²
Shaykh Rabee' رحمـــه الله said:
There are numerous verses where Allah تبــارك و تعــالى connects the rights of the parents to His rights.
Here the advice of Luqman to his son is mentioned and followed by His statement:¹
Allāh ﷻ said:
ووصينا الإنسان بوالديه حملته أمه وهنا على وهن وفصاله في عامين أن اشكر لي ولوالديك إلي المصيرAnd We have enjoined on man (to be dutiful and good) to his parents. His mother bore him in weakness and hardship upon weakness and hardship, and his weaning is in two years give thanks to Me and to your parents, unto Me is the final destination. [31:14]
Shaykh Abdur Razzāq Al-Badr حفظـــه الله reminds us:
Reflect oh child! Remember the time when your mother had to bear you, feed and nurture you. Remember how for nine months you did not let her rest even during her sleep. Remember how she had to experience excruciating pain to deliver you into this world. These hardships your mother went through should never be forgotten and should always be at the back of your mind.²
¹The Advise of Luqmān The Wise to his Son | pg. 15
²The Wise Counsel of Luqmān | pg. 35/36
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The Right of Allah ﷻ over Parents' rights.
Allāh ﷻ said:
Shaykh Abdur Razzāq Al-Badr حفظـــه الله said, "If one's parents ask him to associate partners with Allah (ie. commit shirk) or to commit a sin, then they cannot be obeyed." ¹
Shaykh Rabee' رحمـــه الله said, "But you are not absolved from showing them kindness even if they strive against you and harm you in order to make you disbelieve in Allah ﷻ rather it is incumbent upon you to not forget their rights upon you."²
Allāh ﷻ said:
وإن جاهداك على أن تشرك بي ما ليس لك به علم فلا تطعهما وصاحبهما في الدنيا معروفا
But if they (both) strive with you to make you join in worship with Me others that of which you have no knowledge, then obey them not; but behave with them in the world kindly.[31:15]
Shaykh Abdur Razzāq Al-Badr حفظـــه الله said, "If one's parents ask him to associate partners with Allah (ie. commit shirk) or to commit a sin, then they cannot be obeyed." ¹
The Prophet ﷺ said:
There's no obedience to the creation in disobedience to Allah. [Muslim]
Shaykh Rabee' رحمـــه الله said, "But you are not absolved from showing them kindness even if they strive against you and harm you in order to make you disbelieve in Allah ﷻ rather it is incumbent upon you to not forget their rights upon you."²
¹The Wise Counsel of Luqmān | pg. 40
²The Advise of Luqmān The Wise to His Son | pg. 19
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The verse continues as Allāh ﷻ says:
Shaykh Rabee' رحمـــه الله said:
(It means) following the path of those who turn to Him in repentance and obedience from the Prophets and those who follow them, the scholars who advise, and the righteous slaves of Allah.
The path of those who turn to Allah in repentance and obedience is to fulfill the rights of Allah and the rights of His creation.
This includes commanding the good and forbidding the evil, giving dawah, and as well as other appropriate matters.
واتبع سبيل من أناب إليَّ
And follow the path of him who turns to Me in repentance and in obedience. [31:15]
Shaykh Rabee' رحمـــه الله said:
(It means) following the path of those who turn to Him in repentance and obedience from the Prophets and those who follow them, the scholars who advise, and the righteous slaves of Allah.
The path of those who turn to Allah in repentance and obedience is to fulfill the rights of Allah and the rights of His creation.
This includes commanding the good and forbidding the evil, giving dawah, and as well as other appropriate matters.
The Advise of Luqmān The Wise to His Son | pg. 20
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Shaykh Abdur Razzāq Al-Badr حفظـــه الله draws a lesson from the above mentioned āyah.
He says:
It is not proper for a true believer to sit with whomsoever he desires. We should choose our friends from among the God-fearing and those who are good natured.
He says:
It is not proper for a true believer to sit with whomsoever he desires. We should choose our friends from among the God-fearing and those who are good natured.
The Wise Counsel of Luqmān | pg. 43
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After Allah's & The Parents' rights, Allah warns the creation towards the end of the āyah:
Shaykh Rabee' رحـــمه اللـــه comments:
Was the child dutiful to his parents?
Were the parents upright upon the true religion of Allāh?
The final destination of all mankind is to Allāh ﷻ and He will take them to account for everything and inform them of what they used to do.
Allāh ﷻ says:
ثم إلي مرجعكم فأنبئكم بما كنتم تعملونThen to Me will be your return, and I shall tell you what you used to do.[31:15]
Shaykh Rabee' رحـــمه اللـــه comments:
Was the child dutiful to his parents?
Were the parents upright upon the true religion of Allāh?
The final destination of all mankind is to Allāh ﷻ and He will take them to account for everything and inform them of what they used to do.
The Advise of Luqmān The Wise to His Son | pg. 21
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Pinned Message Update
Section III: Should children be withdrawn from the first row of the masjid if they take the place first?
The advice continues, reinforcing the warning given in the previous āyah,
as Allah ﷻ mentions:
Shaykh Rabee' رحمـــه الله said:
(It emphasizes that) nothing causes Him ﷻ difficulty and not even an atom's weight is hidden from Him.
This is a tremendous belief system which the Muslim has to be cognizant of during every moment of his life. He must be cognizant that Allah is looking at him and watching over him and is fully aware of him.
as Allah ﷻ mentions:
يا بني إنها إن تك مثقال حبة من خردل فتكن في صخرة أو في السماوات أو في الأرض يأت بها الله إن الله لطيف خبيرO my son! If it be (anything) equal to the weight of a grain of mustard seed, and though it be in a rock, or in the heavens or in the earth, Allah will bring it forth. Verily, Allah is Subtle (in bringing out that grain), Well-Aware (of its place). [31:16]
Shaykh Rabee' رحمـــه الله said:
(It emphasizes that) nothing causes Him ﷻ difficulty and not even an atom's weight is hidden from Him.
This is a tremendous belief system which the Muslim has to be cognizant of during every moment of his life. He must be cognizant that Allah is looking at him and watching over him and is fully aware of him.
The Advise of Luqmān The Wise to His Son | pg. 26
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Endearment
Shaykh al-Badr حفظـــه الله draws attention to an important lesson on manners.
He says:
Luqmān addressed his son not by his name but by the call:
and keeps repeating this warm phrase.
There is endearment attached to this address that pulls at the listener's heartstrings.
The desired objective i.e. the listener acting upon the advice is achieved if advice overflows with compassion.
However if advice is given without compassion, it heads towards failure.
For example, if one calls out "O boy!" or does what is norm among some people, i.e. addressing the child using an animal's name, do you think the child will listen to the advice let alone act upon it? On the contrary, it promotes dissension and buffoonery!
Shaykh al-Badr حفظـــه الله draws attention to an important lesson on manners.
He says:
Luqmān addressed his son not by his name but by the call:
يا بُنيّ
"O my [dear] son!" [31:16]
and keeps repeating this warm phrase.
There is endearment attached to this address that pulls at the listener's heartstrings.
The desired objective i.e. the listener acting upon the advice is achieved if advice overflows with compassion.
However if advice is given without compassion, it heads towards failure.
For example, if one calls out "O boy!" or does what is norm among some people, i.e. addressing the child using an animal's name, do you think the child will listen to the advice let alone act upon it? On the contrary, it promotes dissension and buffoonery!
The Wise Counsel of Luqmān | pg. 29-30
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As-Salāt
There is no merit in one being a Muslim when he fails to fulfill his prayers, says Shaykh Abdur Razzāq Al-Badr حفظـــه الله²
Luqmān advises his Son on the Prayer as Allah ﷻ mentions:
Shaykh Rabee' رحمـــه الله said:
He did not say, 'pray' (صلي) rather He said 'establish the prayer*'(أَقِمِ الصَّلاةَ).¹
*Refer to the book for details
Shaykh al-Badr adds:
Prayer is the pinnacle and the most superior of obligations. Performing the prayers distinguishes between a Muslim and a disbeliever.
One who is steadfast in it can claim to have faith, while non-performance is a sure sign of disbelief and oppression.
It will be the first thing to be questioned on the Day of Judgement. If it is proper, then all other deeds will be in order. If it is improper, then all other deeds will in disarray.
It will be a source of victory on Judgment Day and he will be assembled alongside the Prophets (al-Nabiyin), the truthful (al-Sidiqin), the martyrs (al-Shuhada) and the pious (al-Salihin). What good compatriots they are!
Those who neglect their prayers will find no solace on the Day of Judgment. They shall be losers that day and will be assembled along side evil men like the Pharaoh, Qärün and Ubay ibn Khalaf.
May Allah protect us!
There is no merit in one being a Muslim when he fails to fulfill his prayers, says Shaykh Abdur Razzāq Al-Badr حفظـــه الله²
Luqmān advises his Son on the Prayer as Allah ﷻ mentions:
يا بُنَيَّ أَقِمِ الصَّلاةَ
O my son! Establish the prayer. [31:17]
Shaykh Rabee' رحمـــه الله said:
He did not say, 'pray' (صلي) rather He said 'establish the prayer*'(أَقِمِ الصَّلاةَ).¹
*Refer to the book for details
Shaykh al-Badr adds:
Prayer is the pinnacle and the most superior of obligations. Performing the prayers distinguishes between a Muslim and a disbeliever.
One who is steadfast in it can claim to have faith, while non-performance is a sure sign of disbelief and oppression.
It will be the first thing to be questioned on the Day of Judgement. If it is proper, then all other deeds will be in order. If it is improper, then all other deeds will in disarray.
It will be a source of victory on Judgment Day and he will be assembled alongside the Prophets (al-Nabiyin), the truthful (al-Sidiqin), the martyrs (al-Shuhada) and the pious (al-Salihin). What good compatriots they are!
Those who neglect their prayers will find no solace on the Day of Judgment. They shall be losers that day and will be assembled along side evil men like the Pharaoh, Qärün and Ubay ibn Khalaf.
May Allah protect us!
¹The Advise of Luqmān The Wise to His Son | pg. 29
²The Wise Counsel of Luqmān | pg. 48-49
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Shaykh al-Badr حفظـــه الله says,
there is an old Arabic saying:
'If you don't call (people to do good),
you are called (to do evil).'²
The Āyah continues:
Shaykh Rabee' رحمـــه الله explains:
Al-Maruf is that which is known by the legislation of Islam and Islam calls to it.
You enjoin every good beginning with Tawheed until the last good deed from the righteous actions, until the affair of removing something harmful from the pathway.
Al-Munkar is that which the legislation of Islam disapproves of and regards as despicable, warns from it and prohibits it.
You forbid shirk, you forbid sins, the major sins and the minor sins, (forbidding from) the various types of immorality and sin, the major and minor.¹
there is an old Arabic saying:
'If you don't call (people to do good),
you are called (to do evil).'²
The Āyah continues:
وَأمُر بِالمَعروفِ وَانهَ عَنِ المُنكَرِEnjoin what is right, forbid what is wrong. [31:17]
Shaykh Rabee' رحمـــه الله explains:
Al-Maruf is that which is known by the legislation of Islam and Islam calls to it.
You enjoin every good beginning with Tawheed until the last good deed from the righteous actions, until the affair of removing something harmful from the pathway.
Al-Munkar is that which the legislation of Islam disapproves of and regards as despicable, warns from it and prohibits it.
You forbid shirk, you forbid sins, the major sins and the minor sins, (forbidding from) the various types of immorality and sin, the major and minor.¹
¹The Advise of Luqmān The Wise to His Son | pg 36-37
The Wise Counsel of Luqmān | pg. 50²
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