Ibn แธคibbฤn ุฑุญู
ูููู ุงููู said:
"One of the worst character defects is to be fickle in terms of friendship."
Fickle: Changing your opinions, feelings, or loyalties suddenly and without a good reason.
"One of the worst character defects is to be fickle in terms of friendship."
A man from Khuza'ah wrote the following poetry:
My brother is not someone who shows me his love by speech alone;
Rather, my brother is someone who loves me through the difficult times,
Whose wealth is my wealth if I become destitute,
And whatever is mine is his if his fate changes.
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Fickle: Changing your opinions, feelings, or loyalties suddenly and without a good reason.
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Ibn แธคibbฤn ุฑุญู
ูููู ุงููู said:
"Jealousy leads to miseryโhave you not seen Iblis?
"Jealousy leads to miseryโhave you not seen Iblis?
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Ibn แธคibbฤn ุฑุญู
ูููู ุงููู said:
"Anger sows the seed of regret. So a person is better at fixing what angered him before he becomes angry than he is after that."
"Anger sows the seed of regret. So a person is better at fixing what angered him before he becomes angry than he is after that."
A man came to the Messenger of Allฤh ๏ทบ and said: "Teach me something that is not too much for me so that I may abide by it."
He said, "Do not get angry." [Bukhฤri]
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Ibn แธคibbฤn ุฑุญู
ูููู ุงููู said:
"Blessed is the person whose heart is reticent and whose gaze is never affected by desire.
How many greedy people become tired and humbled and never achieve their goal, and how many content people have peaceful and productive lives.
Whoever desires wealth is humbled and subjugated, but whoever is satisfied with what he has is reticent and wealthy."
Reticent: Holding back from something/Being Independent
"Blessed is the person whose heart is reticent and whose gaze is never affected by desire.
How many greedy people become tired and humbled and never achieve their goal, and how many content people have peaceful and productive lives.
Whoever desires wealth is humbled and subjugated, but whoever is satisfied with what he has is reticent and wealthy."
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Reticent: Holding back from something/Being Independent
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Ibn แธคibbฤn ุฑุญู
ูููู ุงููู said:
"It is better to miss out on a need than to seek it from the wrong person."
"It is better to miss out on a need than to seek it from the wrong person."
The Prophet ๏ทบ said,
"It is better for you to take a rope and carry some wood and sell it than to ask for something from a person who may give to you or refuse." [Bukhฤri]
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๐ฌ A Reel on this Topic
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Ibn Hibbฤn ุฑุญู
ูููู ุงููู said:
"One of the greatest and most important gifts that Allah can give his slaves is contentment.
There is nothing more peaceful for the body than being pleased with Allah's decree.
When someone does not have contentment, then there is no limit to his desire, effort, and frustration for the things that he feels he has missed out on."
"One of the greatest and most important gifts that Allah can give his slaves is contentment.
Muhammad bin Munkadir said, "Contentment is wealth that never runs out."
There is nothing more peaceful for the body than being pleased with Allah's decree.
When someone does not have contentment, then there is no limit to his desire, effort, and frustration for the things that he feels he has missed out on."
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Abud-Darda' said, "Rizq seeks the slave just as he seeks it."
Ibn Hibbฤn ุฑุญู ูููู ุงููู said, "Someone forbidden from something will not attain it even if he seeks it, and the one who is bestowed a thing will attain it even if sitting still."
Ibn Hibbฤn ุฑุญู ูููู ุงููู said, "Someone forbidden from something will not attain it even if he seeks it, and the one who is bestowed a thing will attain it even if sitting still."
Footnote p86
The reality of tawakkul is the reliance of the heart upon Allah alone while still making use of the means. As for the one who does not make use of the means and yet claims he has tawakkul, then he is delusional.
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Ibn แธคibbฤn ุฑุญู
ูููู ุงููู said:
All of mankind must keep away from the causes that lead to hatred and enmity between people and divide their groups and split their unity.
The Prophet ๏ทบ said, "The tale-bearer shall not enter Paradise." [Muslim]
Imam Ahmad said, "If you meet a man who learned from Hammad bin Salamah, then pay attention to him." (Tadhkirah al-Huffaz 1/202)
All of mankind must keep away from the causes that lead to hatred and enmity between people and divide their groups and split their unity.
The Prophet ๏ทบ said, "The tale-bearer shall not enter Paradise." [Muslim]
Hammad bin Salamahยน said, "A man offered to sell his slave to another man; [the slave] said, 'You will be safe from any tale-carrying from me.' So he bought him based on that. So the slave went to his mistress and said to her, 'Your husband does not love you-he buys female servants and he marries them; do you want him to love and appreciate you?' She said, 'Yes!' So he said, "Take a razor and cut some hairs from underneath his beard and burn them like incense for him.' Then he went to the man and said, 'Your wife is cheating on you and plans to murder you. Do you want me to prove it to you?' He said, 'Yes!' The slave then said, "Then tonight pretend to be asleep!' So he pretended to sleep and she approached him with a razorblade to cut the hair from his beard, so he grabbed her and killed her. Then, her family seized him and killed him."
Imam Ahmad said, "If you meet a man who learned from Hammad bin Salamah, then pay attention to him." (Tadhkirah al-Huffaz 1/202)
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Ibn แธคibbฤn ุฑุญู
ูููู ุงููู said:
If someone apologizes for a past offense or a shortcoming, the wise person should accept his apology and treat him as if he had never done anything wrong.
Offering an apology for a mistake requires humility. If a person is sincere in his apology, he will be humble in both his speech and actions.
If someone apologizes for a past offense or a shortcoming, the wise person should accept his apology and treat him as if he had never done anything wrong.
Offering an apology for a mistake requires humility. If a person is sincere in his apology, he will be humble in both his speech and actions.
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Ibn แธคibbฤn ุฑุญู
ูููู ุงููู said:
A person should not make up excuses for someone who does not want to accept an apology. Excuses often become lies.
Rarely have I seen someone apologize without mixing his apology with lies.
A person should not make up excuses for someone who does not want to accept an apology. Excuses often become lies.
Rarely have I seen someone apologize without mixing his apology with lies.
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Ibn แธคibbฤn ุฑุญู
ูููู ุงููู said:
A secret is a trust and spreading it is treachery.
Being too relaxed with secrets is a weakness, and if someone hides something from his enemy, he does not necessarily need to reveal it to his friend.
A secret is a trust and spreading it is treachery.
Being too relaxed with secrets is a weakness, and if someone hides something from his enemy, he does not necessarily need to reveal it to his friend.
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Ibn แธคibbฤn ุฑุญู
ูููู ุงููู said:
The person who has a secret, as we previously described, should tighten his chest, but if he feels he must share his secret, he should do so by consulting someone who is religious, intelligent, and beloved,
and he should never seek advice from someone who does not possess these three characteristics.
The person who has a secret, as we previously described, should tighten his chest, but if he feels he must share his secret, he should do so by consulting someone who is religious, intelligent, and beloved,
and he should never seek advice from someone who does not possess these three characteristics.
If he is not religious, he will betray him;
if he is not intelligent, then he will make a mistake regarding the correct course;
and if he is not loved, then he may not give him sincere advice.
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Update: Section III
Q.9) How should a believer disapprove of evil when he sees someone committing such an act?
Ali bin Abi Talib ุฑุถู ุงููู ุนููููู said: "Show your sincere affection for your brother by advising him."
Ibn Hibbฤn ุฑุญู ูููู ุงููู said:
Nasฤซhรขh is obligatory upon every Muslim; however, it should only be done in private, because whoever counsels his brother publicly will disgrace him.
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Whom does this hadith apply to?
The Prophet ๏ทบ said:
This is if the boycotting is due to worldly affairs and personal reasons, but in terms of the people of Bid'ah (innovation), then the boycotting lasts until they repent.ยน
Shaykh Abdul Qฤdir Jฤซlanฤซ ุฑุญู ูููู ุงููู said: The believer ought not to emulate the heretical innovators [ahl al-bida'], nor should he give them any credit. He should not even salute them with the Islamic greeting.ยฒ
Ibn al-Qayyim ุฑุญู ูููู ุงููู said, "Keep away from the people of innovations, not to meet them with happy faces and not to greet them either."ยณ
References:
Fatwฤ Added to Section I & III
The Prophet ๏ทบ said:
It is not lawful for a Muslim to avoid speaking with his brother beyond three days. [Bukhari]An-Nawawi ุฑุญู ูููู ุงููู said:
This is if the boycotting is due to worldly affairs and personal reasons, but in terms of the people of Bid'ah (innovation), then the boycotting lasts until they repent.ยน
Shaykh Abdul Qฤdir Jฤซlanฤซ ุฑุญู ูููู ุงููู said: The believer ought not to emulate the heretical innovators [ahl al-bida'], nor should he give them any credit. He should not even salute them with the Islamic greeting.ยฒ
Ibn al-Qayyim ุฑุญู ูููู ุงููู said, "Keep away from the people of innovations, not to meet them with happy faces and not to greet them either."ยณ
References:
ยนSelections from The Garden of the Wise and the Meadow of the Virtuous by Imฤm Ibn Hibbฤn, p112 & Footnote #2, p.114.๐ Instagram Post on Bid'ah
ยฒSufficient Provision for Seekers of the Path of Truth, Al Baz Publishing, Vol I, p274
ยณSupporting the Distressed Against the Tricks of Shaytฤn, p104.
Fatwฤ Added to Section I & III
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Ibn แธคibbฤn ุฑุญู
ูููู ุงููู said:
The Arabs used to call hastiness
"the mother of regret."
The hasty person
speaks before he knows,
responds before he is asked,
praises something before he tries it,
disparages after he praises,
is determined before he has considered,
and advances before he is determined.
The Arabs used to call hastiness
"the mother of regret."
The hasty person
speaks before he knows,
responds before he is asked,
praises something before he tries it,
disparages after he praises,
is determined before he has considered,
and advances before he is determined.
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Ibn แธคibbฤn ุฑุญู
ูููู ุงููู said:
Etiquette is a sign of excellent manners. Whoever learns etiquette in his youth will benefit from it in his maturity.
The people who learn etiquette and eloquence the most are the scholars.
๐ A Collection on Etiquettes.
Etiquette is a sign of excellent manners. Whoever learns etiquette in his youth will benefit from it in his maturity.
The people who learn etiquette and eloquence the most are the scholars.
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๐ A Collection on Etiquettes.
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Ibn แธคibbฤn ุฑุญู
ูููู ุงููู said:
The worst kind of wealth is that which a person does not use to satisfy his obligations.
The wise person shouldn't expect Allah's blessings to continue forever, so he delays performing his obligations with it (such as Hajj).
Extrapolate from this and apply it to every opportunity to do good while you have the means, such as helping the needy & spending in Allฤhโs cause ุฅู ุดูููููููุงุก ุงููู.
๐ Shaykh Ibn Bฤz about Charity
The worst kind of wealth is that which a person does not use to satisfy his obligations.
The wise person shouldn't expect Allah's blessings to continue forever, so he delays performing his obligations with it (such as Hajj).
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Extrapolate from this and apply it to every opportunity to do good while you have the means, such as helping the needy & spending in Allฤhโs cause ุฅู ุดูููููููุงุก ุงููู.
๐ Shaykh Ibn Bฤz about Charity
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