I feel like someone needs this repost today…

Why do people develop narcissistic, sociopathic or even psychopathic behaviors?

Usually it’s because they were traumatized themselves. Most have buried that trauma deep into their psyches where it now causes them to continue the chain of pain from an unconscious level. They think they are operating completely rationally and correctly, while in reality, it’s their Shadow that is doing the operating.

But just because we can see and understand what happened to them, does that mean that we excuse their behavior and continue to let them hurt people? Do we continue to interact with toxic people just because we know why they are toxic? We might see the cause of the dysfunction but is letting them off the hook because it “wasn’t their fault” the right course of action? Does it help an abuser to let them continue to be abusive?

Obviously, no. And when someone shows you over and over who and what they are, if you choose to ignore that, the consequences are on you.

So who has to stop that chain of events?
You know who.
{{sigh}}
You.

And you have to do it even when it’s hard af and it feels like you’re ripping your own heart out by setting that boundary. Because guess what…you’re the only one who can. It’s sure as hell not going to be the abuser. Not usually. Not 99 times out of 100. I mean miracles can happen, sure, but I’m not holding my breath on that one. Not anymore. Not in these circumstances. I’ll wait from afar, but I will not stay in the room with the poison hoping that it magically goes away.

So, even though the abuse wasn’t your fault and even though you wish with all your heart it could be different, and even though it’s really and truly not fucking “fair”…
You have to be the one who stands up and stops it.

Otherwise, you’re going to pass it on. Most likely to your own children if you have them. Or onto those around you who become the targets of your own projected pain and frustration, just as was done to you.

So, understand that your anger rises up from within to protect you. Yes, you have to control it, but it’s your friend. Not your enemy. And many of us didn’t learn that growing up. Many were taught that the only safe thing to do was to stuff it all down and paint on a smile.
And if you swallowed all of that anger and sadness, it morphed and festered and probably made you very sick, or depressed, or addicted, or ____________. (You fill in the blank, these things manifest in a multitude of forms.)

The point is that these Emotions do not go away. They are Energy. They cannot be Created or destroyed. They can only change form. And they must be dealt with through the Art of Transmutation. There is no other way.

And the irony of it all is that the person who caused you to bury your own pain was in all likelihood doing it to themselves first. Not your choice or your fault, but still…..the sins of the father will be visited upon the son unless someone breaks the chain.

It’s a pattern. And one that has to stop. The new Energies are not even going to allow that kind of discordance to exist. But we have to work through what’s already been calcified in our systems.

Let the trapped emotions out.
Listen to what they have to tell you, because they were carrying messages for you all along. Emotions carry the Truth of a situation.

And the Truth…will set you Free.

Love,
~TR ✨💞✨
—30 July 2024—
(Edited 21 December 2024)

I can attest to this myself, having lived through this. I’m so happy I put up a boundary. It’s very hard to get to that point. I’m grateful for the support I got from you Steph and others here.

It IS hard.
Especially when you realize that one of the most common results of childhood trauma and familial dysfunction is a lack of boundaries. You were likely conditioned not to have boundaries at all. So, learning to set them is a MASSIVE shift.

People who grew up with healthy self-trust have boundaries automatically. And they can set and change them as needed. It’s a skill that’s just part of who they are.

People who do not have this skill have to build it from scratch and it’s painful and difficult. It feels at every step like you’re doing something WRONG. And that is why it’s so hard.

And in many cases the one you need to set boundaries with is the very person who taught you not to have them. It’s like facing the monster at the center of the labyrinth. The closer you get, the harder it is to do. 🔥

Gonna be a busy week. Starting today.

ICYMI…

Ohhhhh boy! Here we fucking go!

https://x.com/aanon55/status/2020285600058994756

Now THAT is interesting.

https://x.com/capitolpolice/status/2020659914243235852

Read the Energy.

One of the best ways we learn is when we realize we had it wrong and we can backtrack to how we DID feel and see where we miscalculated…See where our Minds overrode our Intuition. Often this happens bc the person is saying all the right things - so we disregard the Energy that we are, in fact, picking up.

I tuned Bannon out years ago. Simply bc I couldn’t ignore the Energy I felt from him. But I had to learn that the hard way by listening to Lin Wood and then realizing that he was full of shit later.

I felt dumb, but what I realized was that I had had a VERY CLEAR signal of ICK that came off of him right after the election in 2020. BUT I IGNORED IT because he seemed to say all the right things.

I wouldn’t have learned to trust my inner ICK-meter if that hadn’t happened.

Everything happens for a reason. Don’t get lost in defensiveness or feeling embarrassed. Just take the info and LEARN.

In Love,
~TR 💖

A 49-minute Exercise? Involving emergency vehicles and helos?
That’s wild.

What did y’all really do?

https://x.com/capitolpolice/status/2020827361013641543

Of course she did.

Just as the Clintons will.

But that speaks VOLUMES.

https://x.com/jsolomonreports/status/2020883749114728954