THE COQUETTE: (one of the archetypes in Art Of Seduction by Robert Greene)
The ultimate art in seduction is delaying pleasure.
Coquettes are masters at waiting, orchestrating constant movement between hope and frustration.
They bait with the promise of reward (physical pleasure, happiness, power), but since it is elusive – it will make the target pursue it more intensely.
Coquettes seem self-sufficient, they don’t need you, and this narcissism is devilishly attractive.
You want to conquer them, but it is they who hold the cards. Trying to hold them for yourself is like catching cloud in a jar.
Josephine was the Coquette in her relationship with Napoleon.
The French general, despite his restraint and discipline, was maddened by her behavior.
A few theatrics and a little coldness was enough on her part to make Napoleon her eternal slave.
His last word on his death bed was “Josephine.”
People are perverse, an easy conquest is not as valuable as a difficult one.
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The ultimate art in seduction is delaying pleasure.
Coquettes are masters at waiting, orchestrating constant movement between hope and frustration.
They bait with the promise of reward (physical pleasure, happiness, power), but since it is elusive – it will make the target pursue it more intensely.
Coquettes seem self-sufficient, they don’t need you, and this narcissism is devilishly attractive.
You want to conquer them, but it is they who hold the cards. Trying to hold them for yourself is like catching cloud in a jar.
Josephine was the Coquette in her relationship with Napoleon.
The French general, despite his restraint and discipline, was maddened by her behavior.
A few theatrics and a little coldness was enough on her part to make Napoleon her eternal slave.
His last word on his death bed was “Josephine.”
People are perverse, an easy conquest is not as valuable as a difficult one.
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We only want what we cannot fully possess. Your greatest seductive power is your ability to turn away.
Most people do the opposite, they surrender too soon, worried that the other person will lose interest, or that giving the other person what they want will grant them power over them.
Most people do the opposite, they surrender too soon, worried that the other person will lose interest, or that giving the other person what they want will grant them power over them.
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Forwarded from The Polymath (Limitless Reader)
How to find your purpose in life - Thread of the day:
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This thread is out of the scope of this channel's theme. But let me put it out here. Useful stuff.👇
Forwarded from Basedonia™ - By E-go (E-go)
"How is this relevant to my goals?"
Ask this question more often.
If it's not getting you closer to your ideal self, it's a waste of time.
Define your purpose and pursue it relentlessly.
Ignore the distractions, the gossip & the haters.
Ignore anything that doesn't serve your purpose.
Ask this question more often.
If it's not getting you closer to your ideal self, it's a waste of time.
Define your purpose and pursue it relentlessly.
Ignore the distractions, the gossip & the haters.
Ignore anything that doesn't serve your purpose.
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🛎️⚠️ INTROVERTED or not, your people skills is the most valuable asset you can possess in the pursuit of an influential, richer and fulfilling life.
> If you often find yourself correcting people, you are in trouble (even if you are right and they are wrong)
> If you find yourself fidgeting in a high-social-stress environment, you are in trouble
> If you find it hard to maintain long conversations (even if it is boring), you are in trouble
> If you have a habit of shrinking your body to take up less space in the presence of dominant/authoritative figure, you are in trouble
> And finally, if you agree with everyone (even when you know in your bones that you shouldn't) and have trouble saying 'NO', you are in big trouble
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🛎️⚠️ INTROVERTED or not, your people skills is the most valuable asset you can possess in the pursuit of an influential, richer and fulfilling life.
> If you often find yourself correcting people, you are in trouble (even if you are right and they are wrong)
> If you find yourself fidgeting in a high-social-stress environment, you are in trouble
> If you find it hard to maintain long conversations (even if it is boring), you are in trouble
> If you have a habit of shrinking your body to take up less space in the presence of dominant/authoritative figure, you are in trouble
> And finally, if you agree with everyone (even when you know in your bones that you shouldn't) and have trouble saying 'NO', you are in big trouble
Learn how to deal with each of the above to its roots. Set yourself up for 2023, with just 4 months left.
Join the SOCIAL SKILLS UNIVERSITY today
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THE DUNNING KRUGER EFFECT
A condition where under achievers fail to recognise their shortcomings and incompetence.
This is the mirror image of the Impostor syndrome.
People with DK effect think themselves to be masters of their supposed field when in fact they are far from anything like it.
They lack any effective feedback system where there flaws are addressed back to them.
They are the ones who think they have mastered a subject by watching a YouTube video or reading a pdf.
A little knowledge can lead to overconfidence.
They lack the ability of metacognition preventing them from updating their knowledge and addressing their own incapabilities.
At one point they might have overcome a challenge which in their perspective was very difficult but in fact may have been a mild one in reality.
This will have inflated their sense of self-worth and falsely think they are talented at this.
Another reason DK might occur is due to overcaring family and/or friends.
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A condition where under achievers fail to recognise their shortcomings and incompetence.
This is the mirror image of the Impostor syndrome.
People with DK effect think themselves to be masters of their supposed field when in fact they are far from anything like it.
They lack any effective feedback system where there flaws are addressed back to them.
They are the ones who think they have mastered a subject by watching a YouTube video or reading a pdf.
A little knowledge can lead to overconfidence.
They lack the ability of metacognition preventing them from updating their knowledge and addressing their own incapabilities.
At one point they might have overcome a challenge which in their perspective was very difficult but in fact may have been a mild one in reality.
This will have inflated their sense of self-worth and falsely think they are talented at this.
Another reason DK might occur is due to overcaring family and/or friends.
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The Powerhold
THE DUNNING KRUGER EFFECT A condition where under achievers fail to recognise their shortcomings and incompetence. This is the mirror image of the Impostor syndrome. People with DK effect think themselves to be masters of their supposed field when in fact…
To avoid any discouragement, parents might not point out the flaws and faults in their children and may even praise their simplest achievements more than necessary.
Dunning Kruger, hence is not a purely human bias or psychological phenomenon.
How to know if you are in DK effect and how to counter it?
People under DK never realise this about themselves.
However, if you notice that everyone around you agrees with you on everything or that nobody cares to even bring up a counter argument, be sure they're fed up with your 'expertise'.
Once you realise this, contradict your own beliefs/knowledge.
Can you bring up good justification for that first knowledge? What needs to change? How can you change it?
Developing this kind of metacognition will help you keep DK in check.
Dunning Kruger, hence is not a purely human bias or psychological phenomenon.
How to know if you are in DK effect and how to counter it?
People under DK never realise this about themselves.
However, if you notice that everyone around you agrees with you on everything or that nobody cares to even bring up a counter argument, be sure they're fed up with your 'expertise'.
Once you realise this, contradict your own beliefs/knowledge.
Can you bring up good justification for that first knowledge? What needs to change? How can you change it?
Developing this kind of metacognition will help you keep DK in check.
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