Sometimes people walk away from love because it is so beautiful that it terrifies them. Sometimes they leave because the connection shines a bright light on their dark places and they are not ready to work them through.
Sometimes they run away because they are not developmentally prepared to merge with another- they have more individuation work to do first. Sometimes they take off because love is not a priority in their lives- they have another path and purpose to walk first. Sometimes they end it because they prefer a relationship that is more practical than conscious, one that does not threaten the ways that they organize reality.
Because so many of us carry shame, we have a tendency to personalize love's leavings, triggered by the rejection and feelings of abandonment. But this is not always true. Sometimes it has nothing to do with us. Sometimes the one who leaves is just not ready to hold it safe. Sometimes they know something we don't- they know their limits at that moment in time.
Real love is no easy path- readiness is everything. May we grieve loss without personalizing it. May we learn to love ourselves in the absence of the lover..🥂
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Sometimes they run away because they are not developmentally prepared to merge with another- they have more individuation work to do first. Sometimes they take off because love is not a priority in their lives- they have another path and purpose to walk first. Sometimes they end it because they prefer a relationship that is more practical than conscious, one that does not threaten the ways that they organize reality.
Because so many of us carry shame, we have a tendency to personalize love's leavings, triggered by the rejection and feelings of abandonment. But this is not always true. Sometimes it has nothing to do with us. Sometimes the one who leaves is just not ready to hold it safe. Sometimes they know something we don't- they know their limits at that moment in time.
Real love is no easy path- readiness is everything. May we grieve loss without personalizing it. May we learn to love ourselves in the absence of the lover..🥂
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Sometimes the hardest goodbye is the one you make while you’re still in love.
There comes a moment when you have to say, “I love you, and I probably always will… but I’m no longer interested in the level of life and inconsistency you’re offering me.” And that truth hurts in a way few things do. Because love doesn’t just vanish. But it can get overshadowed by the reality that your values, your emotions, your needs, and your future togetherness they no longer take seriously.
You’re not asking them to change. You’re not trying to mold them into someone else. You’re simply acknowledging that who they are...and how they choose to live, how they choose to take you for granded..no longer fits the emotions you’re building. And for your own peace, your own evolution, and your own sanity, you have to step back..
“You can live how you want… but you can’t play with my genuine feelings anymore.”
Loving someone from a distance is still love. It just means you’re choosing yourself too. The love in your heart may remain, but you know you deserve more than inconsistency, stagnation, or taking you for granted. You deserve a love that offers you love back, not one that holds you back or keeps you guessing over all the time. You deserve environments where your peace is protected, where your soul feels safe, and where your love for them and emotions are considered ...not hindered..
This isn’t rejecting them. This is honoring you. It’s choosing to stop accepting a version of love that doesn’t nurture your spirit anymore. And yes, it’s painful. But it’s also the most self-respecting, self-loving decision you can make.
People might judge. They might not understand. But protecting your peace is not something you ever owe an explanation for. Some choices are made quietly, privately, and bravely...for the sake of the person you’re becoming..🥂
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There comes a moment when you have to say, “I love you, and I probably always will… but I’m no longer interested in the level of life and inconsistency you’re offering me.” And that truth hurts in a way few things do. Because love doesn’t just vanish. But it can get overshadowed by the reality that your values, your emotions, your needs, and your future togetherness they no longer take seriously.
You’re not asking them to change. You’re not trying to mold them into someone else. You’re simply acknowledging that who they are...and how they choose to live, how they choose to take you for granded..no longer fits the emotions you’re building. And for your own peace, your own evolution, and your own sanity, you have to step back..
“You can live how you want… but you can’t play with my genuine feelings anymore.”
Loving someone from a distance is still love. It just means you’re choosing yourself too. The love in your heart may remain, but you know you deserve more than inconsistency, stagnation, or taking you for granted. You deserve a love that offers you love back, not one that holds you back or keeps you guessing over all the time. You deserve environments where your peace is protected, where your soul feels safe, and where your love for them and emotions are considered ...not hindered..
This isn’t rejecting them. This is honoring you. It’s choosing to stop accepting a version of love that doesn’t nurture your spirit anymore. And yes, it’s painful. But it’s also the most self-respecting, self-loving decision you can make.
People might judge. They might not understand. But protecting your peace is not something you ever owe an explanation for. Some choices are made quietly, privately, and bravely...for the sake of the person you’re becoming..🥂
I hope they will understand what emotional coaster ride one go through when they are in deep love..🥂
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What I refuse to deal with again…
Ghosting, mixed emotions, false promises, constant uncertainty, and people who love the idea of me but not me. I’ve outgrown all of that. I’ve learned too much. I’ve healed too much. I’ve walked through situations that drained me, confused me, and left me questioning my own worth just trying to understand people who were never meant to stay.
Ghosting : That silent cruelty that makes you feel like you imagined the connection. I refuse to entertain anyone who disappears when honesty would have taken ten seconds. Anyone who chooses silence over communication is showing me exactly why they don’t deserve access to my heart. I won’t sit around waiting for explanations from people who don’t value my presence enough to offer one.
Mixed emotion : The confusion, the inconsistency, the up and down energy. I refuse to deal with someone who cannot decide what they want but still wants me to stick around while they figure it out. My heart is not a placeholder. My time is not a testing ground. If your feelings shift with the wind, I’m not the person for you.
False promises : The words that sound beautiful in the moment but collapse the second real effort is required. I’m done with people who promise stability but deliver chaos, who promise honesty but give excuses, who promise love but never show it in action. I don’t need fantasy. I need follow through..
Constant uncertainty : The emotional roller coaster, the guessing game, the anxious waiting, the feeling of never knowing where I stand. I refuse to romanticize confusion. I refuse to call inconsistency passion. Real love is steady. Real effort is clear. Real connection brings peace, not turmoil..
And most of all… I refuse to deal with people who love the idea of me but not me. People who love the way I make them feel but not the responsibility of showing up for me. People who admire my strength but cannot handle my softness. People who want the benefits of my heart without giving anything in return. I won’t shrink myself to fit someone’s fantasy. I won’t perform for someone’s convenience.
What I refuse to deal with again is everything that taught me the hard way what my worth actually is. I’m not bitter.. I’m just done settling. I’m not guarded… I’m aware. And from now on, I only entertain what brings clarity, consistency, peace, and a love that feels real enough to stay..🥂
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Ghosting, mixed emotions, false promises, constant uncertainty, and people who love the idea of me but not me. I’ve outgrown all of that. I’ve learned too much. I’ve healed too much. I’ve walked through situations that drained me, confused me, and left me questioning my own worth just trying to understand people who were never meant to stay.
Ghosting : That silent cruelty that makes you feel like you imagined the connection. I refuse to entertain anyone who disappears when honesty would have taken ten seconds. Anyone who chooses silence over communication is showing me exactly why they don’t deserve access to my heart. I won’t sit around waiting for explanations from people who don’t value my presence enough to offer one.
Mixed emotion : The confusion, the inconsistency, the up and down energy. I refuse to deal with someone who cannot decide what they want but still wants me to stick around while they figure it out. My heart is not a placeholder. My time is not a testing ground. If your feelings shift with the wind, I’m not the person for you.
False promises : The words that sound beautiful in the moment but collapse the second real effort is required. I’m done with people who promise stability but deliver chaos, who promise honesty but give excuses, who promise love but never show it in action. I don’t need fantasy. I need follow through..
Constant uncertainty : The emotional roller coaster, the guessing game, the anxious waiting, the feeling of never knowing where I stand. I refuse to romanticize confusion. I refuse to call inconsistency passion. Real love is steady. Real effort is clear. Real connection brings peace, not turmoil..
And most of all… I refuse to deal with people who love the idea of me but not me. People who love the way I make them feel but not the responsibility of showing up for me. People who admire my strength but cannot handle my softness. People who want the benefits of my heart without giving anything in return. I won’t shrink myself to fit someone’s fantasy. I won’t perform for someone’s convenience.
What I refuse to deal with again is everything that taught me the hard way what my worth actually is. I’m not bitter.. I’m just done settling. I’m not guarded… I’m aware. And from now on, I only entertain what brings clarity, consistency, peace, and a love that feels real enough to stay..🥂
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I will regret it for the rest of my life because I know in my heart you are the only one for me. My heart allowed me to feel for you when even a thought of someone else made me scare. The truth sits heavy yet gentle like a memory that refuses to fade. I carry your name, and what I feel for you in the quiet moments when the world forgets to be loud and I feel the ache of everything we could have been. I walk through days pretending your ignorance doesn't affects me, while a part of me stays where my feelings and emotions for you win over your ignorance. If love is a lesson then you are the chapter I will keep rereading hoping the ending changes even though I already know it will not..🥂
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All you need for life to keep getting better as you get older is good taste: good taste for what kind of person you want to be, good taste for what kind of person you want to marry or befriend, good taste for where you want to live, good taste for what you want to create..🥂
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Introverts can smell a lie from a mile away. Trust me, they never miss. It’s almost psychic. They won’t call you out. They won’t confront you. They won’t make a scene. But they’ll know. They notice the tiny things you think no one sees. The shift in your tone. The flicker in your eyes. The hesitation in your breath. Even that nervous scratch you swear was nothing.
They read your energy before you even speak. Believe me, you can’t get away.
So save your breath. And save your explanations. And just be real. Because once an introvert senses you’re not… you’ve already lost them..🥂
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They read your energy before you even speak. Believe me, you can’t get away.
So save your breath. And save your explanations. And just be real. Because once an introvert senses you’re not… you’ve already lost them..🥂
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I cannot stop thinking about you and the thought itself becomes a gentle place where the world slows and my mind finds rest. It is my favorite quiet time when your presence fills the spaces that once felt empty.
When we talk and I hear your voice, the noise inside my mind fades and something softer rises like a calm tide carrying every scattered piece of me back home. You are my peace and my comfort the steady warmth that gathers around my heart and teaches it to breathe without fear. You're so much to me I wish you could ever understand..🥂
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When we talk and I hear your voice, the noise inside my mind fades and something softer rises like a calm tide carrying every scattered piece of me back home. You are my peace and my comfort the steady warmth that gathers around my heart and teaches it to breathe without fear. You're so much to me I wish you could ever understand..🥂
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Sometimes you gotta step back and let things unfold. If someone truly wants you, they'll make the effort to be with you, they'll show up, and make things work without you having to chase or compromise your own worth. Don't sacrifice your needs and boundaries for someone who's not willing to meet you halfway – you're worth more than that..🥂
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I’m perfectly fine being left alone, I just need you to stop acting like you care when you really don’t. Don’t check in out of guilt, don’t pretend you’re still invested, and don’t play with my feelings. If you’re done, be done. I’m okay on my own — I just don’t want the fake concern..🥂
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Nobody talks about how exhausting it is to live in that space between “things will get better” and “I can’t handle this anymore.” It’s like your emotions are constantly swinging, leaving you both hopeful and defeated in the same day..🥂
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Now we are family of 1000 members ❤️❤️
Thank you so much for the love and support 🥂
Thank you so much for the love and support 🥂
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It’s heartbreaking when you come to terms with the fact that maybe the safest way to live is alone. You start to realize you’re getting older, and finding someone real to build a life with just isn’t likely..
Most people are either too into themselves, still chasing the streets, stuck on an ex, trapped in their past, or they come into your life just enough to confuse you. They want you, but not enough to choose you, and still won’t let you go. We’re living in a time where being toxic is normalized, and it’s depressing to admit that being single might be the only way to truly protect your peace and mental health. Relationships today feel nearly impossible. So many people lack honesty, consistency, and real communication.
And the worst part is knowing exactly what you have to offer, but never finding someone who has a table worth bringing it to..🥂
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Most people are either too into themselves, still chasing the streets, stuck on an ex, trapped in their past, or they come into your life just enough to confuse you. They want you, but not enough to choose you, and still won’t let you go. We’re living in a time where being toxic is normalized, and it’s depressing to admit that being single might be the only way to truly protect your peace and mental health. Relationships today feel nearly impossible. So many people lack honesty, consistency, and real communication.
And the worst part is knowing exactly what you have to offer, but never finding someone who has a table worth bringing it to..🥂
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Better off alone than questioning someone’s intentions, for solitude can be a clean and honest place where the heart hears itself without the tremble of doubt.
Better off alone than waiting for a truth that arrives late or twisted, for silence can be kinder than promises spoken with trembling hands.
Better off alone than reading signs that keep shifting like smoke, for clarity grows in stillness and the soul rises when it is free from guessing. Better off alone because loneliness can be softened, but mistrust sharpens every breath.
Better off alone when the choice is between your own peace and a love that keeps you wondering. Better off alone, for the heart blooms strongest in the light of certainty..🥂
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Better off alone than waiting for a truth that arrives late or twisted, for silence can be kinder than promises spoken with trembling hands.
Better off alone than reading signs that keep shifting like smoke, for clarity grows in stillness and the soul rises when it is free from guessing. Better off alone because loneliness can be softened, but mistrust sharpens every breath.
Better off alone when the choice is between your own peace and a love that keeps you wondering. Better off alone, for the heart blooms strongest in the light of certainty..🥂
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A lot of people are setting low expectations for themselves because they can't handle the pressure, but life becomes so much more fun once you decide instead to grow more mental strength and "talent," by investing in yourself until you can fearlessly tackle the challenging problems that the confident version of yourself would choose to tackle without hesitation..🥂
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Lack of success is lack of focus and wrong priorities.
No one ever got talented by spending their time admiring talented people.
No one ever got healthy without sticking to some "boring" eating, training, sleeping habits.
No one ever got wealthy by constantly spending their money on their mimetic desires.
No one ever got loved without commitment and efforts to become a person worthy of love.
No one ever built long-lasting meaningful friendships without getting their personal life in order first.
No one ever got clear-minded without spending extended amounts of time alone.
No one ever got the life they wanted without overcoming their fears and making painful choices.
No one ever got things done without occasionally temporarily ignoring the rest of the world..🥂
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No one ever got talented by spending their time admiring talented people.
No one ever got healthy without sticking to some "boring" eating, training, sleeping habits.
No one ever got wealthy by constantly spending their money on their mimetic desires.
No one ever got loved without commitment and efforts to become a person worthy of love.
No one ever built long-lasting meaningful friendships without getting their personal life in order first.
No one ever got clear-minded without spending extended amounts of time alone.
No one ever got the life they wanted without overcoming their fears and making painful choices.
No one ever got things done without occasionally temporarily ignoring the rest of the world..🥂
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Foolish decisions often come from having too much free time, that's when you overthink the details that don't matter, that's when you seek unnecessary stimulation to escape your boring daily life, that's when you destroy what you've built without noticing it until it's too late..🥂
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I wanted to share a reminder about how love should look after reading, studying and experiencing what works and doesn't work. Being in a relationship means: "Loving someone the way they want to be loved, not just the way that is familiar or comfortable to us."
My understanding on how to love: This has to be mutually agreeable to both people in the relationship or it will not work.
Both must agree to love in SERVICE. The service component addresses what the need to love someone the way the person needs, not what is familiar to us.
When both individuals consciously choose to approach it this way, that commitment needs to be firm and unwavering at all times, excluding select days when life hits us really hard and we need to step back into ourselves and refill our bucket.
Here's what happens when both commit to this approach: Our individual Ego's are limited in their ability to control our response to each other. When individuals respond from the human Ego within a relationship, it creates a sort of tension for control in the form of arguments. Taking the Ego out of the dynamic keeps the focus on serving each other instead of ourselves..
There are a couple of catches to this to be aware of. This service must come naturally and authentically. If either person feels like they are forcing it, then they are doing it wrong and their Ego will take charge and destroy what has been built, including trust..
This service applies to every possible dynamic in the relationship. Sex, dinner preparation, cleaning, planning dates, etc. It must be a 50/50 arrangement that is equal in agreement and application. Now, depending on the circumstances of a particular relationship, one person might be the financial provider and that is ok as long as it not used as a source to control or manipulate..
For Example: For me, I'm traditional in some ways. I like to provide financially and I feel happy when I do it for the one I love and this is a part of my service to her and taking care of her and nurturing her. It's not used as a method to control and that needs to be very clear. If she happens to have more wealth than me because of her strength and skills, if she is earning more than I do, I don't feel threatened by that at all. In that dynamic, I would ask her that despite the circumstances, I would like to pay for most everything including our dates because that is in my nature to provide.. Let's say she's filthy rich and has a lavish house. She moves me in and it works. I still want to pay for our dates etc. So it's an equal exchange of meeting the needs of each other in service and the Ego is never given a chance to destroy..
I share this because it's vitally important to protect and preserve the love, trust, and purity in the relationship at all times and this protection needs to come from both individuals effortlessly..
I hope this is helpful in some way..🥂
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My understanding on how to love: This has to be mutually agreeable to both people in the relationship or it will not work.
Both must agree to love in SERVICE. The service component addresses what the need to love someone the way the person needs, not what is familiar to us.
When both individuals consciously choose to approach it this way, that commitment needs to be firm and unwavering at all times, excluding select days when life hits us really hard and we need to step back into ourselves and refill our bucket.
Here's what happens when both commit to this approach: Our individual Ego's are limited in their ability to control our response to each other. When individuals respond from the human Ego within a relationship, it creates a sort of tension for control in the form of arguments. Taking the Ego out of the dynamic keeps the focus on serving each other instead of ourselves..
There are a couple of catches to this to be aware of. This service must come naturally and authentically. If either person feels like they are forcing it, then they are doing it wrong and their Ego will take charge and destroy what has been built, including trust..
This service applies to every possible dynamic in the relationship. Sex, dinner preparation, cleaning, planning dates, etc. It must be a 50/50 arrangement that is equal in agreement and application. Now, depending on the circumstances of a particular relationship, one person might be the financial provider and that is ok as long as it not used as a source to control or manipulate..
For Example: For me, I'm traditional in some ways. I like to provide financially and I feel happy when I do it for the one I love and this is a part of my service to her and taking care of her and nurturing her. It's not used as a method to control and that needs to be very clear. If she happens to have more wealth than me because of her strength and skills, if she is earning more than I do, I don't feel threatened by that at all. In that dynamic, I would ask her that despite the circumstances, I would like to pay for most everything including our dates because that is in my nature to provide.. Let's say she's filthy rich and has a lavish house. She moves me in and it works. I still want to pay for our dates etc. So it's an equal exchange of meeting the needs of each other in service and the Ego is never given a chance to destroy..
I share this because it's vitally important to protect and preserve the love, trust, and purity in the relationship at all times and this protection needs to come from both individuals effortlessly..
I hope this is helpful in some way..🥂
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One day, you'll take a photo that becomes the last photo you ever take with someone.
It won't feel like a last - It won't be staged or planned. You'll smile, maybe laugh, and go on with your day.
And only later, days, months, or years later, you'll look back at it and realize... this was it.
The last time you stood side by side.
The last time you hugged.
The last time they were here.
They can be gone at any moment, and that photo might be all you have left.
If you lost them tomorrow, would you have anything to remember them by?
So take the photos.
Even when your hair's a mess. Even when you don't feel "photo ready." Because one day, it won't matter how you looked, only that you were there..🥂
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It won't feel like a last - It won't be staged or planned. You'll smile, maybe laugh, and go on with your day.
And only later, days, months, or years later, you'll look back at it and realize... this was it.
The last time you stood side by side.
The last time you hugged.
The last time they were here.
They can be gone at any moment, and that photo might be all you have left.
If you lost them tomorrow, would you have anything to remember them by?
So take the photos.
Even when your hair's a mess. Even when you don't feel "photo ready." Because one day, it won't matter how you looked, only that you were there..🥂
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The people who hurt us the most rarely stay long enough to see the aftermath—the quiet nights where we replay their words, the moments we question our worth, the way their absence becomes a weight heavier than their presence ever was. They walk away carrying nothing, while we’re left holding the pieces of a heart they didn’t bother to handle with care. And yet somehow, we still try to make sense of it all, trying to understand how someone we trusted could leave such a deep bruise without ever looking back.
But even with shaking hands and a fractured spirit, we rebuild. Not because we’re unbroken, but because something inside us refuses to let the pain be the end of our story. Every small step, every breath through the heaviness, every attempt to soothe wounds they never stayed to see is proof of our resilience. Healing isn’t graceful, and it isn’t quick—but in the quiet struggle, we become stronger than the ones who left us behind..🥂
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But even with shaking hands and a fractured spirit, we rebuild. Not because we’re unbroken, but because something inside us refuses to let the pain be the end of our story. Every small step, every breath through the heaviness, every attempt to soothe wounds they never stayed to see is proof of our resilience. Healing isn’t graceful, and it isn’t quick—but in the quiet struggle, we become stronger than the ones who left us behind..🥂
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