“You’ve got to get up every morning with determination if you’re going to go to bed with satisfaction.” – George Lorie

​​How to overcome Learned Helplessness

When a person feel that he has no control on situation, he may begin to behave in a helpless manner. It's called learned helplessness. Person with learned helplessness usually has difficulties with setting goals, overcoming difficulties, achieving success and starting the action. Nevertheless learned helplessness can be overcomed.

Don't say weak words

Don't say these words: I can't, I don't want, everything is useless, I've never done that, I'm always late/I always forget etc.

Behind all these words lies disbelief in one's own strength, anxiety and fear of failure, the lack of a positive outlook and disbelief that other options for solution may exist and be applied.

Take small steps

Set the small aim which is easy to achieve. You will be proud of yourself and can go further. When small aim will be done, it will be easier for you to set bigger goals and accomplish them.

Don't blame yourself

Most of bad things happened not because of your fault. And if it's your fault that doesn't mean that you need to stop doing anything - for example, Donald Trump was bankcrupt 4 times and after those didn't give up.

Think under another angle

In the experiment the dogs didn't try to avoid an electric shock because during the experiment they tried to avoid it several times , but since it did not work out, they stopped. If dogs thought about solutions, for example, that they can try to jump over or break the walls, it could work out for them. Same for people: sometimes you just need stop and thing about different possibilities and options.

Motivation and optimism

It's always a good booster for you to start. Objects from which people get motivation are very different and you need to find one for yourself. I usually get motivation from famous people who accomplished big goals.

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WHY SOME RELATIONSHIPS DON’T LAST!

God in His infinite wisdom has programmed destiny in a way that life thrives on relationships, but in His infinite wisdom, He has also designed it that we are unique and different.

In marital relationships, the reality is that unlike attracts, sanguine might not likely marry another sanguine else the house will be Fuji house of commotion; if two phlegmatic personalities marry, their house might be very cold except for few exceptions who have mastered the art of communication.

Now, we see extroverted people marry introverts or less extroverted like them, God designed that we balance one another, the weakness of one is the strength of another, so one will help the other in the area of weakness - the principle of balance.

If we are all of the same personalities, who will strengthen and balance, who will help the other, in fact, life will be boring.

God made us differently unique so we can complement each other.

This rule applies to all forms of relationships and this wisdom is needed for us to sustain tangible relationships.

UNITY IS NOT THE SAME AS UNIFORMITY

The eyes are meant to see
The ears are meant to ear
The nose is meant to smell
The hands are meant to hold or write
The legs are meant to walk.
It is the combination of all that makes the body.

If all parts were seeing, who will hear, who will smell?
If all we're talking, who will walk?

We will be different and we will never be the same but we can always complement each other.

The eyes will see it, the mouth will say it and the hand will write it, that is what makes a perfect and balanced body or family.

People might not change to become who you are, but you can complement by supplying what they lack.

This understanding will save us from stress in relationships

Even the worst of men if any at all, still possess some good attributes.

Remember UNITY IS NOT UNIFORMITY.

I recommend this book: WHY YOU ACT THE WAY YOU DO BY TIM LAHAYE.