Alone together

As we move online, we misunderstand each other more often. Say, a message that seems “cold” in chat might sound perfectly fine face-to-face. But spending lots of time online isn’t necessarily harmful. The issue begins when it replaces real-life bonds.

Researchers found that 58% of teens are heavily dependent on social media and digital tools. The problem here is that they are more lonely than ever.

Social media seems like a perfect place to easily connect with people. Yet most online chats lead to a couple of exchanged memes or a conversation that dies mid-sentence. As a result, teens never feel truly connected, and their social skills do not get enough practice, making real-life conversations even more uncomfortable.

The trick here is that these shallow interactions give a quick hit of comfort. Our brains love anything that brings instant relief, so people end up repeating the behavior.

But why do online connections stay shallow – if everyone involved is looking for something meaningful?

One reason is that heavy online use makes teens less willing to take initiative. In virtual spaces, social hierarchies matter less, and they don’t need to take charge to get attention. In fact, they start caring less about social approval. This can help them become more independent, but it also makes it harder to build trusting relationships, leading to emotional isolation.

Social media isn’t bad – it’s how we stay connected today. Problems arise when it becomes the only way to connect. Teens need to think critically about their screen time and understand how it affects their relationships. And by the way, if family becomes the main source of support, it can make all the difference teens need!

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When life gets heavy, put the phone down

Many people spend hours on social media — but for teenagers it often turns into a real addiction, when they get the constant urge to check their profiles. And the reason goes deeper than just the desire to stay connected with peers.

Research found that teens who overuse social media have one thing in common — they have trouble managing their emotions. They blame themselves, imagine the worst and overthink. It’s easy for teenagers to fall down this spiral because their personality is only taking shape: they have fragile self-esteem, care a lot about what others think, and haven’t yet learned healthy ways to handle stress.

Social media can become an easy escape from negative feelings. A teenager drowning in self-criticism and bad thoughts will get stuck scrolling their feed just to avoid overwhelming emotions. Moreover, every like or comment makes those with unstable self-esteem feel a little better — at least for a moment.

Bad news is, in the long run it doesn’t help — it actually makes stress worse. Too much time on social media leaves you overwhelmed from all the information you consumed, isolated because you haven’t spent time with friends, and generally less happy. On top of that, social media makes it easy to start comparing yourself to others.

The good news is, teenagers who learn to find something positive in any difficult situation are less likely to turn to social media to cope with their emotions. Say, if a teen is left out of a group, they could see it as a chance to reach out to someone new they always wanted to talk to — and now there’s no need to escape the hurt, because it doesn’t hurt that much.

After all, we all have a choice in how we react — where we focus our attention and how we interpret what’s happening. Seeing the silver lining in every cloud is a skill to be learned, just like any other.

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Love Settings: Installed by Parents?

What shapes our love stories? Why do some of us keep worrying (anxious attachment), while others keep their distance (dismissing attachment)? Some both want and fear closeness, while others feel secure about their partner no matter what…

Much of it starts with our early relationships with parents, when we get our picture of what “family” means: how much attention to give to your closest ones, how to react to their mistakes and their feelings, and what to expect in return.

You probably heard:

Men choose partners who remind them of their mothers.

But research says this is true for both men and women. The mother is usually the first and most important relationship model. So the bigger the gap between how a partner behaves and how the mother figure felt in childhood — warm vs distant, predictable vs inconsistent — the more instability there is: men more often react with emotional distance, while women can feel both distance and anxiety.

Some patterns stay with us, regardless of who our partner is. If the mother was emotionally distant, the woman may grow up feeling more anxious in relationships. Girls build their sense of femininity by identifying with their mother, so when that bond is denied, it leads to self-doubt — they would constantly look for proof that they are loved and blame themselves for every little problem in relationships.

Fathers have their say too. Like mother, a cold father for women leads to higher anxiety, while a warm and supportive one builds a sense of safety and makes communication with men easier later on. For men, a calm but unpredictable father leads to higher avoidance. When a parent feels detached and hard to understand it makes closeness feel unsafe, so a child learns to rely only on themselves.

For people with anxiety or avoidance relationships are stressful and emotionally draining. What they actually experience often looks nothing like their “ideal family” — and every miscommunication only confirms their fears. And still, everything may change — as they recognize their patterns, connect with a supportive partner, and just give it some time.

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A teenager has been staring at their new post for over an hour… And it still has only three likes.

Is there something wrong with how I look?

The longer they stare, the more flaws they see in that selfie.

It’s often said that teens who struggle to recognize and manage their emotions are more likely to fall into unhealthy social media habits. But is it really the case? And what actually helps them handle worries about the looks in the times of endless comparison online?

Research says that some teens who have difficulties dealing with emotions do overuse social media — but so do some with strong emotional skills. So, even if they’re emotionally aware and self-controlled, they’re not automatically safe from social media addiction.

Neither does it protect teens from appearance pressure online. No matter who they are — boys or girls, heavy users or casual scrollers, emotionally developed or not — many still are hyper-aware of how attractive they seem to others on social media.

Emotional intelligence may help teens deal with the feelings triggered by seeing “perfect” people online but doesn’t change how strongly they absorb the beauty standards. In fact, it can make them even more focused on how they present themselves on the Internet.

So, what really helps teens handle all this pressure?

Surprisingly, the answer is parents. When they are actively involved — helping teens question “perfect” images or supporting them after harsh online comments — teens worry less about how they are perceived online. This way they build critical thinking and stop taking everything they see online at face value.

Yet, this kind of support is of most help to girls — boys see it less often and it doesn’t seem to be as beneficial to them, so they might need a different kind of guidance. But one thing we know for sure is it’s never about strict rules or constant monitoring. It’s the quality of parental support, rather than its intensity, that makes a difference.

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Different Worlds, Different Wounds

A 15-year-old in Moscow refreshes her feed before breakfast. A 15-year-old in Havana probably checks messages later, when the connection allows.

We often talk about social media addiction as if it’s universally the same. A group of researchers compared Russian and Cuban teens and found that the story behind their screens is very different.

For Russian teens, social media is where they learn news, make friends and build identity. So they are more dependent and feel frustrated when they can’t get online. Cuban teens have grown up with limited access to the internet, so they use social media more carefully — sometimes having to choose between chatting with friends and looking up school materials.

Still, social media addiction exists in both countries — it just plays out differently. For example, Russian teens who spend their weekends on the phone often feel low, anxious, and emotionally drained. In Cuba, extra screen time on weekends results in insomnia, bad eating habits, and clashes with the family.

Overall, in Russia, social media addiction hits mostly from the inside — more overthinking, more trouble focusing. In Cuba, it’s more visible on the outside: teens may neglect basic needs like meals and sleep, and tension with parents grows, as parents become worried about the emotional distance.

But regardless of the country, teens who feel anxious, sad, or emotionally low are more likely to experience the darker side of social media overuse, like sleep disorders, communication problems or depression. So, how teens feel while scrolling the feed is even more important than how long they do that.

Cultural differences make social media addiction look different and require different solutions. In Russia, where attention suffers, structured breaks from scrolling may help restore focus. In Cuba, where family tension rises, phone-free meals and shared screen time can rebuild connections. Yet, of course, there’s no universal cure — only one rule: look closely at what social media is actually doing in each teen’s life, and respond to that reality.

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Starting school is a big step for any child. Whether it turns into a confident stride often comes down to one thing: do other children accept them? So what makes one child everyone’s favorite, while another ends up feeling like a black sheep?

Research shows that whether other kids want to be friends with a child often depends on the child’s executive function skills.

Working memory may help them keep social rules in mind, like “It’s good to share”. Inhibitory control may stop them from snapping if a classmate grabs their pencil without asking. Cognitive flexibility helps them adjust their behavior: if the classmate pushes the boundaries too far, they can quickly change tactics and stand their ground to win the authority.

In short, executive function skills help children respond in more socially accepted ways. And that often determines whether they’re invited to share a desk or end up being left out.

Moreover, children with developed self-regulation are more likely to win over the specific peers they want to connect with. And this matters even more for how happy a child feels in their group than their formal popularity status.

Interestingly, how popular a child feels depends less on their skills and more on the emotional climate they had in kindergarten. In classrooms where teachers created a supportive atmosphere and helped children work through feelings, kids grew up with the “I belong” sense — which in turn makes it easier for them to form real friendships.

Although kindergarten experiences matter, early labels aren’t as fixed as we think. A child who wasn’t the first choice for play in kindergarten might become the go-to partner for school projects. Research shows: there’s always a chance, as you step into a new environment, that the previously unnoticed qualities become exactly what others need.

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A calm and focused teacher can turn a stressful morning into a playful learning moment. A tired one who hates their job will hardly do the same. The way teachers feel about their work directly affects the quality of the learning environment. So what protects them from burnout when their work requires full emotional involvement every single day?

Research found that preschool teachers are more satisfied with their work than one might expect. In both Russia and Serbia, they report strong positive well-being and relatively few negative emotional states. And it is thanks to the psychological resources they bring to their work — although these look differently in each country.

Serbian preschool teachers spoke more about the meaning and deep interest they find in their work and the positive emotions they get from it. Russian teachers, by contrast, tend to focus more on their achievements at work and are more willing to admit that the job can bring difficult emotions.

Serbian culture places emphasis on community, and enjoyment of life. In Russia, people often highlight personal achievement and perseverance, and success is sometimes defined by the ability to overcome difficulties — so, higher negative emotions may reflect a cultural tendency to acknowledge struggle as part of meaningful work.

The things that keep teachers engaged in their work also differ slightly. In Serbia, teachers feel more involved when they are happy at work, feel a sense of accomplishment, and deal with fewer negative emotions. For Russian teachers, positive emotions and a sense of achievement also matter — but another strong driver is meaning.

Interestingly, although Serbian teachers have a higher sense of meaning in their work, meaning played a bigger role in motivating Russian teachers. When Russian teachers feel that what they do truly matters — that they are helping children grow and learn — their engagement grows strongest.

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Not all who scroll are lost

Does scrolling through their phone between classes change how teens experience school – their main “training ground” for life?

Research suggests it does. The more time teens spend online and the closer it gets to addiction – the less they enjoy school. They feel out of place, get worse grades, and even more than that, they are not satisfied with their life altogether.

But it’s not that simple.

Screentime alone does not cause problematic social media use or all the problems that come with it. In fact, for Russian students, more time online even leads to better math grades. A phone can be a study tool or a way to decompress after a stressful day. The problem starts when it mixes with something else like loneliness or lack of support. That’s when it can spiral into addiction.

And there’s an even bigger factor at play – school motivation. Teens who are genuinely curious, who learn because they want to, are far less vulnerable to the downsides of digital life. After all, picture a student who loves physics: they can spend time online binging on YouTube videos about space or chatting on popular science forums. That kind of screen time is certainly different from scrolling TikTok – and will affect their lives differently.

So no, you can’t just take their phone away. Because the real question isn’t how much teens use their phones – it’s why. Give a curious student a phone, and they’ll use it to explore the world. Give a pressured one the phone, and they’ll use it to hide from it. Seems like the real job is not cutting screen time but helping them spark their curiosity.

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Run, brain, run!

Sports helps kids stay fit – and also be more focused, in control of themselves and even memorize things better. But only specific kinds of sports.

Research shows that when kids do aerobic exercise like running or playing energetic games it improves how well they manage their impulses. It works in two ways.

First, biology: when kids move a lot, more oxygen reaches the brain, the prefrontal cortex in particular – the very part that’s responsible for decision-making. The brain also starts producing a special protein that makes it easier to build new connections.

Second, psychology: take a game like skipping rope. A child is jumping in a certain rhythm, and it’s easy to get carried away, go too fast or too slow. To keep playing, they have to hold themselves back and not rush, learning to control their reactions.

Another type of activity that boosts self-control is balance. Imagine a child trying to stay on one foot during a game, wobbling a little but keeping steady. Every tiny adjustment they make to keep them from falling trains their brain to control their body even while it"s on the move.

Moreover, activities that improve agility, speed and power also improve memory. When kids are jumping or dodging in a game, they have to remember the sequence of moves, plan what comes next, and react right away. They’re training their brain to hold onto information and use it in the moment.

In any case, the best option is activities that mix thinking with moving. For example, a game like “Red light, Green light” where they have to remember the rules and make quick decisions while being active — such games build thinking skills more effectively than exercise alone.

And remember: kids learn a lot by watching the grown-ups around them. In kindergartens, children move more when teachers move too. So maybe the best place to start is with us, adults.

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If you are a mental health worker and you feel tired – you’re not alone. Almost half of your colleagues around the globe feel emotionally drained, and 1 in 3 are considering leaving the profession, especially those just starting out.

If you are gentle with yourself and feel rewarded in your career – that definitely helps. But research talks about something else: volunteering.
Therapists who put their energy into volunteer work often feel better both physically and mentally. And there are three reasons for it.

Protects against burnout. Volunteer sessions are built around a shared goal like helping a community or responding to a crisis. This creates a sense of connection and reminds you that you’re part of something bigger. Yet, it works best as prevention – if someone is already burned out, volunteering might not be enough.

Helps move beyond the professional role. In everyday practice, it’s easy to get stuck in expectations – how you should act or what you should say. While volunteering, you show up more as a person, and reconnect with why you chose this path in the first place.

Brings meaning on a neurological level. When we help others, areas in our brain linked to social connection become more active. Positive interactions strengthen that response and leave us feeling more fulfilled and purposeful, and less stressed.

True, therapists who already feel better have more energy to volunteer. But in fact, it’s a two-way street. Because it helps you reconnect with why you started in the first place – compassion, acceptance, and readiness to help.

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