Most men are timid and shy

U NEED to be willing to move first

Stop waiting for the perfect moment or for people to make it easy for u. Say what u think. Ask for what u want. Start the conversation. Take the fucking initiative.

Don’t be afraid to be seen. If u believe something then say it. If u want something then go for it. It doesn’t even matter if u get a NO bruv just take the feedback and keep moving.

Learn to read the room. Don’t walk in already trying to figure out how everyone sees u. Pay attention to what’s actually happening. Stay relaxed. Make ur move and let reality tell u what comes next.

Practise it. U won’t become confident overnight. Keep moving first.

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You literally get luckier in life when you stop watching porn. I don't know how to explain it scientifically but every man who's quit it knows exactly what I'm talking about.

If you get addicted to things easily, good, your problem is aim. Point that same obsession at a skill, your body, or your work for 2 years and people will start calling you "disciplined" instead.

- Dan koe

btw in your 20s and 30s you’ll start finding your way back to the random shit you were obsessed with as a kid. pay attention to that. you don't need to turn everything into a career. some of those interests were just you being yourself before you started trying to become someone else.

“She broke my heart.

I'll show her.

I'll become so successful that she'll regret ever leaving me.”

Well it was that or accepting that she left, wasn't it.

You found a way to turn the pain into a mission.

From there.

You didn't know the suffering was optional. You thought it was part of the story. So you did the right thing, to keep going.

But somewhere along the way, you started believing the pain was what would make the victory meaningful.

It wasn't.

You wanted the thing.

You didn't need the heartbreak.
You didn't need the poverty.
You didn't need the years of misery.

Now stop making the suffering sacred.

Go get what you fucking want.

You need to be lore-maxxing. Taking risks. Failing miserably. Relentlessly strategizing and experimenting. Nobody wants to die with a story that isn't worth telling.

being a good person won't automatically make u respected. being useful won't automatically make u untouchable either. build real competence. learn to handle shit other people can't. make yourself someone who can create options instead of begging for them. stop trying to convince people you're valuable. give them a reason to see it.

a man's life starts falling apart when he stops taking responsibility for it. he escapes into comfort, blames his circumstances, and keeps waiting for things to change. but nothing changes until he does. every setback gives u a chance to adjust, make a different move, and become more capable. or u can keep telling yourself the same story. your call.

Most people who dream of a quiet life without work are just exhausted from work they hate. The reason you get bored on vacation after a week is that you are meant to move, pursue something exciting, and engage your body and mind in something useful. Do whatever it takes to find work that energizes you. It may take years, but it will have the most meaningful effect on your quality of life. -> Dan Koe

Love this quote from the DUNE series: Semen retention is the KEY

If you want unique ideas, you need unique experiences.

There is a reason the guy who built the world's most valuable company (Apple) tripped LSD, became a hippie, only ate fruit, and wandered India for 9 months before starting the business.

If he followed a conventional path, he would never have accessed the strange states of consciousness that preceded the insights and vision that brought Apple into reality.

The more unique the experiences, the more unique the ideas. Jobs is a perfect example of this.

If following a linear path were the way to create astronomically successful businesses, then Harvard, Yale, and Stanford would produce thousands of unicorns every year. But they don't. The students who build these companies are the ones who drop out.

To create something non-linear, you must go non-linear yourself.

You can get 99% of the money, women & status of a $10M net worth while making $15k/mo if you exploit one flaw in the human brain

The average human is mentally incapable of seeing nuance

They don't see gradients, percentages or middle ground. Their brain is a binary switch that only reads 1 or 0, true or false, yes or no

Look at how a normal person judges you in 3 seconds:
- Rich or broke
- Jacked or fat
- Tall or short
- Authority or random brokie

There is no "he's 74% rich" or "his offer is 88% optimal" in a normal person's head

This is why autistic guys who try to optimize one thing to 1000% get lapped by guys who understand binary perception

Take fitness. A guy who is 6'0, 200 lbs at 12% body fat already flipped the "Jacked = YES" switch for 99% of the population. Going from 200 lbs lean to 250 lbs stage-ready takes 5x the drugs, ruins your organs & costs 4 years of your life... for 5% extra perceived status

Take lifestyle & women. A girl cannot tell the difference between a guy netting $20k/mo who leases a $1,200/mo Porsche & takes her to a $350 steakhouse vs a guy with $15M in treasury bonds. Both of them just register as "Rich = YES" in her head (except the $15M guy who dresses like a tech nerd in a Honda registers as "NO")

Take marketing & sales. You do not need a 1000% revolutionary product or a 40-page sales letter to close $10k deals

A buyer's brain is just looking for the fastest excuse to say YES or NO:
1. Do you have 5 screenshots of normal people winning? (Proof = YES)
2. Do you talk like a guy who doesn't need his money? (Status = YES)
3. Is your offer simple enough to explain in 2 sentences? (Clarity = YES)

Do you realize how much time you waste trying to go from 85% to 99% on shit people already said "yes" to?

Rich marketers & powerful men don't max out one stat until the returns go negative. They find the minimum threshold that triggers a "YES" in the average human brain, check all 5 boxes at 80%, and print $$$ while the perfectionists are still in the lab

Only after flipping the switch to YES can you focus on getting it to 100%