Consumption gives you more things to react to. Creation gives you something to stand on.

That's why you can spend an entire day consuming good ideas, good art, good conversations, and still feel strangely empty.

Nothing became yours.

You didn't make a choice. You didn't take a risk. You didn't put anything into the world that wasn't there before.

The day you stop putting everyone on a pedestal is the day conversations become easy.

You're not being judged.

You're just meeting another human.

See where it goes.

Potential means nothing if you never play.

But don't confuse your avoidance with your desire. sometimes the habit is just the thing you built to avoid wanting.

Stop talking about who you're supposed to become.

Find what you actually want.

Then go play for it.

Deleting tik tok and instagram is definitely a top 10 decision you can make for your life

Humans only pay money on three things only:

1: A solution. People will pay almost anything to make a problem disappear: pain, stress, debt, loneliness. That's why people pay a doctor without blinking.

2: Convenience. The richest companies on Earth are the easiest. They just made something faster, simpler, less of a headache. People pay a premium their whole lives just to skip the hard way.

3: Experience. People will pay a stupid amount of money to feel something they can't get anywhere else. Starbucks charges $5 for cheap coffee because you're not paying for the coffee. You're paying for the feeling.

That's the whole list: solutions, convenience, experiences. Pick the one you'll be the best at and the rest follows...

Half of male depression is solved by getting your energy back. The other half is solved by having a mission.

A moving man will always meet his luck

A gentle reminder that your mind is programmable.

The more you try to eliminate uncertainty, the more your brain learns that uncertainty is something to fear.

So you check again.

You overthink.

You plan every detail.

You seek reassurance.

And for a moment you feel better.

Then the anxiety comes back.

The answer isn't finding enough certainty.

It's becoming comfortable with not knowing.

"I don't know what will happen.

But I'll be okay."

That's the muscle you need to build.

People who spend long periods of time at home and slowly lose the desire to go outside often think they're just resting. But psychologically, many of them are experiencing something called mental rumination. It's a state where the brain starts slowing down while the number of thoughts inside keeps increasing and the motivation to do anything slowly disappears. The mind gets stuck in the past, worries about the future and burns itself out. This isn't laziness, it's a nervous system stuck in survival mode. And the longer it lasts, the more distant normal life begins to feel. And the difficult part is that you usually can't escape it through one massive burst of motivation. And sometimes,recovery starts with just one small step.

Prolactin is high in men who regularly jerks off

It weakens your immune system

Because it disrupts the hormonal signals that regulate inflammation and defense

that's why regular masturbators are always sick, always recovering, never fully well

Physical activity does more for your brain than for your body.

use whatever the fuck you have. looks, genetics, talent, connections, money, all of it.

there's nothing noble about choosing the hardest path just to feel like an underdog.

if you want more people in your corner, give them reasons to trust you. be easy to work with. keep your word. don't make everything about you. do the little things other people overlook. make your moves. take responsibility. when someone gives you an opening, don't make them regret it.

Matthew McConaughey reveals the difference between a nice guy and a good man

"A nice guy gets along. They don't necessarily have discernment or judgment, not sure what they stand for or stand against. It's like yes, yes, yes, sure"

"A good man has ideals that they stand for and they stand against. And when they're tested, a good man is not a nice guy"

"Being a good man is a lot harder for good reason. Not going to be the most popular. Not going to be always the most affable"

"It also doesn't mean you got to be a dick. It just means sometimes you got to go, I believe in this, this is for me, and that is not for me"

"A good man's not looking for trouble. But if it comes, and if something he cares about was trespassed on, a good man does what he can to stop that"

Most men are timid and shy

U NEED to be willing to move first

Stop waiting for the perfect moment or for people to make it easy for u. Say what u think. Ask for what u want. Start the conversation. Take the fucking initiative.

Don’t be afraid to be seen. If u believe something then say it. If u want something then go for it. It doesn’t even matter if u get a NO bruv just take the feedback and keep moving.

Learn to read the room. Don’t walk in already trying to figure out how everyone sees u. Pay attention to what’s actually happening. Stay relaxed. Make ur move and let reality tell u what comes next.

Practise it. U won’t become confident overnight. Keep moving first.

Easy as

You literally get luckier in life when you stop watching porn. I don't know how to explain it scientifically but every man who's quit it knows exactly what I'm talking about.

If you get addicted to things easily, good, your problem is aim. Point that same obsession at a skill, your body, or your work for 2 years and people will start calling you "disciplined" instead.

- Dan koe

btw in your 20s and 30s you’ll start finding your way back to the random shit you were obsessed with as a kid. pay attention to that. you don't need to turn everything into a career. some of those interests were just you being yourself before you started trying to become someone else.

“She broke my heart.

I'll show her.

I'll become so successful that she'll regret ever leaving me.”

Well it was that or accepting that she left, wasn't it.

You found a way to turn the pain into a mission.

From there.

You didn't know the suffering was optional. You thought it was part of the story. So you did the right thing, to keep going.

But somewhere along the way, you started believing the pain was what would make the victory meaningful.

It wasn't.

You wanted the thing.

You didn't need the heartbreak.
You didn't need the poverty.
You didn't need the years of misery.

Now stop making the suffering sacred.

Go get what you fucking want.

You need to be lore-maxxing. Taking risks. Failing miserably. Relentlessly strategizing and experimenting. Nobody wants to die with a story that isn't worth telling.

being a good person won't automatically make u respected. being useful won't automatically make u untouchable either. build real competence. learn to handle shit other people can't. make yourself someone who can create options instead of begging for them. stop trying to convince people you're valuable. give them a reason to see it.