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"A woman should train her children properly, for her children represent the men and women of the future."

Shaykh Saalih ibn Uthaymeen (rahimahullaah)
from The Uprightness of a Woman.
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You never know how your life is going to change.

You may be complaining about something insignificant when suddenly tragedy hits.

Even when faced with difficulties you need to remember that it's the qadr of Allah and it's a form of mercy. So be grateful for the hardships because Allah in His infinite mercy has chosen this as a way to purify you and help you to shape your character.

Itโ€™s also a good reminder to always be grateful for everything you have and to keep your complaints to a minimum. #Alhamdulillah

Life is so fragile and your world could shatter in minutes.
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MUST READ: A SILENT TRAGEDY!

There is a silent tragedy that is unfolding today in our homes, and concerns our most precious jewels: our children. Our children are in a devastating emotional state! In the last 15 years, researchers have given us increasingly alarming statistics on a sharp and steady increase in childhood mental illness that is now reaching epidemic proportions:

Statistics do not lie:
โ€ข 1 in 5 children have mental health problems
โ€ข A 43% increase in ADHD has been noted
โ€ข A 37% increase in adolescent depression has been noted
โ€ข There has been a 200% increase in the suicide rate in children aged 10 to 14

What is happening and what are we doing wrong?

Today's children are being over-stimulated and over-gifted with material objects, but they are deprived of the fundamentals of a healthy childhood, such as:
โ€ข Emotionally available parents
โ€ข Clearly defined limits
โ€ข Responsibilities
โ€ข Balanced nutrition and adequate sleep
โ€ข Movement in general but especially outdoors
โ€ข Creative play, social interaction, unstructured game opportunities and boredom spaces

Instead, in recent years, children have been filled with:
โ€ข Digitally distracted parents
โ€ข Indulgent and permissive parents who let children "rule the world" and whoever sets the rules
โ€ข A sense of right, of deserving everything without earning it or being responsible for obtaining it
โ€ข Inadequate sleep and unbalanced nutrition
โ€ข A sedentary lifestyle
โ€ข Endless stimulation, technological nannies, instant gratification and absence of boring moments

What to do?
If we want our children to be happy and healthy individuals, we have to wake up and get back to basics. It is still possible! Many families see immediate improvements after weeks of implementing the following recommendations:

โ€ข Set limits and remember that you are the captain of the ship. Your children will feel more confident knowing that you have control of the helm.
โ€ข Offer children a balanced lifestyle full of what children NEED, not just what they WANT. Don't be afraid to say "no" to your children if what they want is not what they need.
โ€ข Provide nutritious food and limit junk food.
โ€ข Spend at least one hour a day outdoors doing activities such as: cycling, walking, fishing, bird / insect watching
โ€ข Enjoy a daily family dinner without smartphones or distracting technology.
โ€ข Play board games as a family or if children are very small for board games, get carried away by their interests and allow them to rule in the game
โ€ข Involve your children in some homework or household chores according to their age (folding clothes, ordering toys, hanging clothes, unpacking food, setting the table, feeding the dog etc.)
โ€ข Implement a consistent sleep routine to ensure your child gets enough sleep. The schedules will be even more important for school-age children.
โ€ข Teach responsibility and independence. Do not overprotect them against all frustration or mistakes. Misunderstanding will help them build resilience and learn to overcome life's challenges,
โ€ข Do not carry your children's backpack, do not carry their backpacks, do not carry the homework they forgot, do not peel bananas or peel oranges if they can do it on their own (4-5 years). Instead of giving them the fish, teach them to fish.
โ€ข Teach them to wait and delay gratification.
โ€ข Provide opportunities for "boredom", since boredom is the moment when creativity awakens. Do not feel responsible for always keeping children entertained.
โ€ข Do not use technology as a cure for boredom, nor offer it at the first second of inactivity.
โ€ข Avoid using technology during meals, in cars, restaurants, shopping centers. Use these moments as opportunities to socialize by training the brains to know how to work when they are in mode: "boredom"
โ€ข Help them create a "bottle of boredom" with activity ideas for when they are bored.
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โ€ข Be emotionally available to connect with children and teach them self-regulation and social skills:
โ€ข Turn off the phones at night when children have to go to bed to avoid digital distraction.
โ€ข Become a regulator or emotional trainer for your children. Teach them to recognize and manage their own frustrations and anger.
โ€ข Teach them to greet, to take turns, to share without running out of anything, to say thank you and please, to acknowledge the error and apologize (do not force them), be a model of all those values โ€‹โ€‹you instill.
โ€ข Connect emotionally - smile, hug, kiss, tickle, read, dance, jump, play or crawl with them.

Article written by Dr. Luis Rojas Marcos Psychiatrist.

#parenting
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A MUST READ!

โ€“ When you feel like giving up, remember that Allah (swt) is always there for us; we only need to be grateful in all ways and to always look on the bright side. He created usโ€” weโ€™re so precious so we must take care of ourselves, Trust Allah (swt) & Donโ€™t lose hope beautiful souls! ๐Ÿค

Remember this verse from the Qurโ€™an:

โ€œO you who have believed, seek help through patience and prayer.โ€
(2:153)

Allah (swt) is the only who can save us all.
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Holding birthday parties for children

Q: Some of our Muslim brethren hold birthday parties for themselves and their children, what is the ruling on such festivals?

A: The basic principle regarding acts of Ibadah (worship) is that they are Tawqifiy (bound by a religious text and not amenable to personal opinion), and as such, no one is allowed to worship Allah in a way other than which He ordained, because the Prophet (peace be upon him) said in the Sahih (authentic) Hadith:

Anyone who introduces anything into this matter of ours (Islam) that is not part of it will have it rejected. [1]

He (peace be upon him) also said:

Anyone who does an action which is not in accordance with this matter of ours (Islam) will have it rejected. [2]

Birthday parties are an act of Bidโ€™ah (innovation in religion) that should not be done for any person, regardless of their rank or role in life.

The most honorable of all creation and the best of all Messengers (peace be upon them), i.e. Muhammad ibn โ€˜Abdullah (peace be upon him) was never reported to have held a festival for the day he was born, or even instructed his Ummah (nation based on one creed) to celebrate it.

Similarly, the best of this Ummah after its Prophet (peace be upon him) are the Rightly-Guided Caliphs and the Sahabah (Companions of the Prophet), but none of them is reported to have made a festival for the Prophetโ€™s birthday, or for any of them (may Allah be pleased with them), and all goodness is to be found in following their pathand patterning oneself after the teachings of the Prophet (peace be upon him).

Moreover, such Bid`ah pave the way to imitate the Jews, Christians and other Kafirs (non-Muslims) in terms of their newly invented festivals. Allah is the One sought for help!

May Allah grant us success! May peace and blessings be upon our Prophet Muhammad, his family, and Companions!

[1] Al-Bukhari, Sahih, Book on reconciliation, no. 2697; Muslim, Sahih, Book on judicial decisions, no. 1718; Abu Dawud, Sunan, Book on Al-Sunnah, no. 4606; Ibn Majah, Sunan, Introduction, no. 14; and Ahmad, Musnad, vol. 6, p. 240.

[2] Muslim, Sahih, Book on judicial decisions, no. 1718; and Ahmad Ibn Hanbal, Musnad, vol. 6, p. 180

Permanent Committee for Scholarly Research and Iftaโ€™
Chairman : Shaykh Abdul-Aziz ibn Abdullah ibn Baz
Source: Fatwas of the Permanent Committee
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When a new born baby scares the most "powerful" countries in the world โ€” like Fir'awn... may they meet the same fate as him. Aameen!

Verily, Firโ€˜aun (Pharaoh) exalted himself in the land and made its people sects, weakening (oppressing) a group (i.e. Children of Israel) among them: killing their sons, and letting their females live. Verily, he was of the Mufsidรปn(i.e. those who commit great sins and crimes, oppressors, tyrants). (28:4)
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Daughters are a blessings
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Ask children what kind of a Prophet's day they had:
Was it like a Jonah/Yunus day that you felt alone and trapped and thought to give up?
Was it like a Moses/Musa day that you weren't sure if you could do what you were tasked with?
Was it like a Mary/Maryam day where someone mocked, judged, and made you feel rejected?
Was it like a Hajar day that you prayed, then acted and therefore were able to quench your own need and protect someone else you cared for?
Was it like a David/Dawud day that you had to stand up by yourself to a bully?
Was it like a Solomon/Sulayman day that you were so present in your surroundings you felt you could talk and connect with the animals and creation around you even if you felt alone?
Was it like a Noah/Nuh day that you stayed strong in what you believed in even as people laughed at your concerted, quiet confidence?
Was it like a Joseph/Yusuf day that you stayed humble even as you achieved leadership and were in charge of things?
Was it like an Adam or Eve day that you felt maybe scared you didn't know what lay ahead and everything seemed new and overwhelming?
Was it like a Jesus/Esa day that you spoke up and defended someone even though you felt small?
Was it like a Prophet Muhammad day that you smiled easily at others and they thanked you for your kindness?
Spiritualize our youngsters' struggles and successes by humanizing changemakers of scripture and bringing them alive to the reality of our days.
Be it so. Amen
Afeefa Syeed
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Sounds like a principal that understands his/her students and knows the pressure that is put on some.
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PRAYER OF THE FATHER

Shaykh Muhammad ibn Saalih al-โ€˜Uthaymeen (rahimahullah ) said:

โ€œThe prayer of a fatherโ€ โ€“ in some versions of the hadith it says โ€œagainst his childโ€ and in some version it is not mentioned; in other words, fatherโ€™s prayer may be for or against his child. This is the more correct version.

The fatherโ€™s prayer for or against his child will be answered. As for his praying for him, he prays for him out of compassion and mercy, and whoever shows mercy to people, Allah, may He be glorified and exalted, will show mercy to him. As for praying against him, he cannot pray against his son unless the son deserves it, and if he prays against him when he deserves it, then Allah will answer his prayer.

These are the three answered prayers:

โ— The prayer of one who has been wronged;
โ— The prayer of the traveller, and
โ— The prayer of the parent, whether that is the mother or father.

Sharh Riyadh as-Saaliheen (3/157), Dar Ibn Haytham
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Forwarded from Jannah is Our Dream
Messenger of Allah (๏ทบ) as saying:

๐—”๐—บ๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ด ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—บ๐—ผ๐˜€๐˜ ๐—ฒ๐˜…๐—ฐ๐—ฒ๐—น๐—น๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜ ๐—ผ๐—ณ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐—ฑ๐—ฎ๐˜†๐˜€ ๐—ถ๐˜€ ๐—™๐—ฟ๐—ถ๐—ฑ๐—ฎ๐˜†; ๐˜€๐—ผ ๐—ถ๐—ป๐˜ƒ๐—ผ๐—ธ๐—ฒ ๐—บ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐˜† ๐—ฏ๐—น๐—ฒ๐˜€๐˜€๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด๐˜€ ๐—ผ๐—ป ๐—บ๐—ฒ ๐—ผ๐—ป ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฎ๐˜ ๐—ฑ๐—ฎ๐˜†, ๐—ณ๐—ผ๐—ฟ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐—ฏ๐—น๐—ฒ๐˜€๐˜€๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐˜„๐—ถ๐—น๐—น ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ ๐˜€๐˜‚๐—ฏ๐—บ๐—ถ๐˜๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ฑ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—บ๐—ฒ.They (the Companions) asked: Messenger of Allah, how can our blessings be submitted to you, when your body has decayed? He (๏ทบ) said: Allah has prohibited the earth from consuming the bodies of Prophets.

[๐Ÿ“šSunan Abi Dawud 1531 (Sahih)]

๐Ÿ”ป๐Ÿ”ปโœฝโ€Œยปโ€Œโฃ๐Ÿƒโœฟ๐Ÿƒโฃยปโ€Œโœฝ๐Ÿ”ป๐Ÿ”ป

Imam ash-Shafi'i ุฑุญู…ู‡ ุงู„ู„ู‡ said:

โ€œI Love to continuously send abundant peace and blessings upon the Messenger of Allah ๏ทบ ,and this love intensifies on the day of ๐—๐˜‚๐—บ๐—บ'๐—ฎ๐—ต.โ€

[๐Ÿ“šKitab al-Umm]



‎ุงู„ู„ูŽู‘ู‡ูู…ูŽู‘ ุตูŽู„ูู‘ ุนูŽู„ูŽู‰ ู…ูุญูŽู…ูŽู‘ุฏู
‎ูˆูŽุนูŽู„ูŽู‰ ุขู„ู ู…ูุญูŽู…ูŽู‘ุฏู ูƒูŽู…ูŽุง ุตูŽู„ูŽู‘ูŠู’ุชูŽ
‎ุนูŽู„ูŽู‰ ุฅูุจู’ุฑูŽุงู‡ููŠู…ูŽ ูˆูŽุนูŽู„ูŽู‰ ุขู„ู ุฅูุจู’ุฑูŽุงู‡ููŠู…ูŽ
‎ุฅูู†ูŽู‘ูƒูŽ ุญูŽู…ููŠุฏูŒ ู…ูŽุฌููŠุฏูŒ

‎ุงู„ู„ูŽู‘ู‡ูู…ูŽู‘ ุจูŽุงุฑููƒู’ ุนูŽู„ูŽู‰ ู…ูุญูŽู…ูŽู‘ุฏู
‎ูˆูŽุนูŽู„ูŽู‰ ุขู„ู ู…ูุญูŽู…ูŽู‘ุฏู ูƒูŽู…ูŽุง ุจูŽุงุฑูŽูƒู’ุชูŽ
‎ุนูŽู„ูŽู‰ ุฅูุจู’ุฑูŽุงู‡ููŠู…ูŽ ูˆูŽุนูŽู„ูŽู‰ ุขู„ู ุฅูุจู’ุฑูŽุงู‡ููŠู…ูŽ
‎ุฅูู†ูŽู‘ูƒูŽ ุญูŽู…ููŠุฏูŒ ู…ูŽุฌููŠุฏูŒ

Allฤhumma แนฃalli สฟalฤ Muแธฅammad wa สฟalฤ ฤli Muแธฅammad, kamฤ แนฃallayta สฟalฤ Ibrฤhฤซm wa สฟalฤ ฤli Ibrฤhฤซm innaka แธฅamฤซdun majฤซd

Allฤhumma bฤrik สฟalฤ Muแธฅammad wa สฟalฤ ฤli Muแธฅammad, kamฤ bฤrakta สฟalฤ Ibrฤhฤซm wa สฟalฤ ฤli Ibrฤhฤซm innaka แธฅamฤซdun majฤซd
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A mother who loves her kids will never teach them to hรกte their father no matter what..
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"Allaah will protect the children and grandchildren of a person by way of his righteousness."

-al-Munkadir, al-Hilyah (v. 3, p. 148)
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Creating safety for a child is an important part of a connected and secure relationship.

What does it look like to create safety for a child?
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โ€œBoth, the mother & the father have tremendous roles to play in society, as the home is where generations are raised and cultivated.

Invaluable advice to both the husband and wifeโฌ‡๏ธโ€

https://twitter.com/markazbukhari/status/1652712491145723905?s=46&t=XlzqgSF8jmZLSWya8RFkKw
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