💕O Allah Forgive My Parents For They Did Bring Me Up When I Was Younger Ameen!

وَقَالَ اللَّيْثُ حَدَّثَنِي هِشَامٌ، عَنْ عُرْوَةَ، عَنْ أَسْمَاءَ، قَالَتْ قَدِمَتْ أُمِّي وَهْىَ مُشْرِكَةٌ فِي عَهْدِ قُرَيْشٍ وَمُدَّتِهِمْ، إِذْ عَاهَدُوا النَّبِيَّ صلى الله عليه وسلم مَعَ أَبِيهَا، فَاسْتَفْتَيْتُ النَّبِيَّ صلى الله عليه وسلم فَقُلْتُ إِنَّ أُمِّي قَدِمَتْ وَهْىَ رَاغِبَةٌ ‏{‏أَفَأَصِلُهَا‏}‏ قَالَ ‏ "‏ نَعَمْ صِلِي أُمَّكِ ‏"‌‏.‏

Narrated Asma': "My mother who was a Mushrikah (pagan, etc.), came with her father during the period of peace pact between the Muslims and the Quraish infidels. I went to seek the advice of the Prophet (ﷺ) saying, "My mother has arrived and she is hoping (for my favor)." The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "Yes, be good to your mother."

Sahih al-Bukhari 5979
https://sunnah.com/bukhari:5979

The dua’a of the father is powerful…

Your children learn very little from your words and a lot from your actions.

You want them to be honest? Be honest with them and before them. Lying is not for adults, it is bad for everybody.

You want them to be humble? Show them how!

You want them to read the Qur'an often? They will have to see you do it often, rather than a ramadan ritual.

You want them to be responsible men? Let them learn from how responsible you are to their mother.

You want ladies that will be the coolness of their husband's eyes? Let them see how much of a devoted wife you are to their father.

When it comes to parenting, it is hard to give what you don't have. You cant teach your child to develop a character you don't possess. Be a parent that can conveniently say " do as I do" rather than "do as I say" (only).

When you keep criticizing your Kids....

INHERITANCE/PROPERTY:

The scholars are unanimously agreed that ownership of the estate passes to the heirs as soon as the deceased dies. It says in al-Mawsoo‘ah al-Fiqhiyyah (24/76): The fuqaha’ are unanimously agreed that the estate passes to the heir, if there are no debts, from the moment the deceased dies. End quote.

If a man dies and leaves behind a wife, sons and daughters, and he did not leave behind any other heir, then the wife gets a share of one eighth, because there are descendants who inherit. Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):

“but if you leave a child, they get an eighth of that which you leave after payment of legacies that you may have bequeathed or debts”

[an-Nisa’ 4:12].

The rest goes to the sons and daughters, with each male getting the share of two females, because Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):

“Allah commands you as regards your children’s (inheritance); to the male, a portion equal to that of two females”

[an-Nisa’ 4:11].

If the deceased man has sons, then his siblings are blocked, they dont have any share.

His heirs will be as follows:

1. Wife (1/8 part of total property)

2. Mother if alive (1/6 part of total property)

3. Father if alive (1/6 part of total property)

4. Remaining of the part will be equally divided among Sons and Daughters

If the heirs have agreed among themselves to some way of dividing the estate, there is nothing wrong with that and it is called “division by mutual consent.” But if they disagree then the way to deal with it is to refer to the sharee‘ah courts.

Division by mutual consent is that which is done with the approval of all partners.

Compulsory division is that which is done through the court because there is no agreement among the partners. End quote.

For more:
https://youtu.be/E3-zoHs8pdc

It was narrated from Ibn Abbas that the Messenger of Allah(ﷺ) said:
"There is no man whose two daughters reach the age of puberty and he treats them kindly for the time they are together, but they will gain him admittance to Paradise."

Sunan Ibn Majah 3670

Uqbah bin Amir said, I heard the Messenger of Allah(ﷺ) say:
"Whoever has three daughters and is patient towards them, and feeds them, gives them to drink, and clothes them from his wealth; they will be a shield for him from the Fire on the Day of Resurrection.'"

Sunan Ibn Majah 3669

It was narrated that Sa'sa'ah the paternal uncle of Ahnaf, said:
"A woman entered upon Aisha with her two daughters, and she gave her three dates. (The woman) gave each of her daughters a date, then she split the last one between them. She (Aisha) said: 'Then the Prophet(ﷺ) came and I told him about that.' He said:' Why are you surprised? She will enter Paradise because of that.'"

Sunan Ibn Majah 3668

Ibn Battal said: “If your parents order you with two different things, obey your mother since her rights are three times more (than your father).”

Source: ash-Shaamila (v. 17, p. 227)

Ammi,Mother, Ummi, Maa..
*Our parents are getting old . they may be getting moody and cranky, it's all related to aging . kindly don't hurt them and take a very good care of them In Sha Allah .
may Allah always keep their shadow upon us and may Allah grant Jannah to those who are not there anymore ameen!*

Rabbi arhamhuma kama rabbayanee sagheeran . ameen!

Jabir ibn Abdullah reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Do not supplicate against yourselves, do not supplicate against your children, and do not supplicate against your wealth, lest it coincide with a time in which Allah is asked and he gives and your supplication is answered.”

In another narration, the Prophet said, “Do not supplicate against your servants.”

Source: Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 3014

Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Muslim

عَنْ جَابِرِ بْنِ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ لَا تَدْعُوا عَلَى أَنْفُسِكُمْ وَلَا تَدْعُوا عَلَى أَوْلَادِكُمْ وَلَا تَدْعُوا عَلَى أَمْوَالِكُمْ لَا تُوَافِقُوا مِنْ اللَّهِ سَاعَةً يُسْأَلُ فِيهَا عَطَاءٌ فَيَسْتَجِيبُ لَكُمْ

وفي رواية أبي داود قال وَلَا تَدْعُوا عَلَى خَدَمِكُمْ

3014 صحيح مسلم كتاب الزهد والرقائق باب حديث جابر الطويل وقصة أبي اليسر

PLEASE WAKE UP
Dear Parents,
* Tarzan lives half naked,
* Cinderella comes home at midnight,
* Pinocchio lies all the time,
* Aladdin is the king of thieves,
* Batman drives at 200 mph,
* Romeo and Juliet commit suicide out of love,
* Harry Potter uses witchcraft,
* Mickey and Minnie are more than just friends
* Sleeping Beauty is lazy,
* Dumbo gets drunk and hallucinates,
* Scooby Doo gives nightmares,
* and Snow White lives with 7 guys.
We shouldn’t be surprised children misbehave, they get it from their storybooks and cartoons which ''we'' provide them...
We should instead be teaching them stories like
*Abu Bakr (ra)’s loyalty and undying service for his master,
*Umar ibn Khatthab (ra)’s love for justice and tolerance,
*Uthman ibn Affan (ra)’s level of shyness and modesty,
*Ali ibn Abi-Talib (ra)’s show of courage and bravery,
*Khalid ibn Waleed (ra)’s desire of combating evil,
*Fatima bint Muhammad (ra)’s love and respect to her father,
*Sallahuddin Al-Ayubi (ra)’s conquest of the promised land,
and much much more to tell about…
Above all, we should teach them about Allah (subhanahu wa ta'ala), Qur’an and the Sunnah with love... very important aspect is this!
And then see how the change begins...! In sha Allah!

#Teach_Islam

Be dutiful and pleasing to your parents

WHAT TO SAY AFTER THE RECITATION OF THE QURAN

People have been accustomed to say: ‘ṢadaqAllāh-ul-‘Adhīm’ when they finish reciting the Qurān al-Karīm,
اعتاد الكثير من الناس أن يقولوا: صدق الله العظيم عند الانتهاء من قراءة القرآن الكريم

But this act is baseless and it should not be taken as a custom.
وهذا لا أصل له، ولا ينبغي اعتياده

According to the principles of Sharī'ah (Islāmic law), it is a form of Bid’ah.
بل هو على القاعدة الشرعية من قبيل البدع

Shaykh ʿAbd al-ʿAzīz bin ʿAbd Allāh bin Bāz, Majmūʿ al-Fatāwá 24/410
ابن باز، مجموع فتاوى ٢٤/٤١٠

*An Abandoned Sunnah after Reciting the Quraan.*

It is preferred, on finishing the recitation of the Quraan to say:

سُبْحَانَكَ اللَّهُمَّ وَبِحَمْدِكَ، أشهد أن لاَ إِلَهَ إِلاَّ أَنْتَ، أَسْتَغْفِرُكَ وَأَتُوبُ إِلَيْكَ

"SunhaanakaLlaahumma wabihamdik ash-hadu an laa ilaaha illaa anta astaghfiruka wa atuubu ilayk".

The evidence for this is as follows:

Aaishah - may Allaah be pleased with her - mentioned that:

The Messenger of Allaah (sal-Allaahu alayhi wasallam) was never in a sitting, never recited the Quraan, nor did he ever offer a prayer, except that he ended them all with certain words.

She added:

''So i said to him, O Messenger of Allaah, I noticed that you never are in a sitting, nor do you ever recite the Quraan, nor observe a Salaat, except that you end off with these words''.

He replied by saying, ''Yes''.

''Whoever has said good (words) would have them placed as a seal over the good he has done and whoever has said evil (words) would have them used as an expiation for the evil he uttered''.

(They are):

سُبْحَانَكَ اللَّهُمَّ وَبِحَمْدِكَ، أشهد أن لاَ إِلَهَ إِلاَّ أَنْتَ، أَسْتَغْفِرُكَ وَأَتُوبُ إِلَيْكَ).

Subhaanakallaahumma wabihamdik ash-hadu an laa ilaaha illaa anta astaghfiruka wa atuubu ilayk.

Unfortunately, these days the majority of the people (except those Allaah blesses) have abandoned this Sunnah (either due to ignorance of it or due to forgetfulness).

After reciting the Quran, they replaced this sunnah with:

Sadaqallaahul adheem or kissing the Quraan.

Thus, it is incumbent upon us to spread this sunnah so it can be established once again.

Imaam An-Nasaa'ee named the chapter of this hadeeth in his book as "What to conclude the recitation of the Quraan with."

Its isnaad is authentic as explained by An-Nasaa'ee in "As-Sunanul kubraa".

Ibn Hajar also mentioned in "An-Nukat" (733/2) that its chain of narration is authentic.

Al-Albaanee equally said in "Silsilatu Saheehah" (495/7) that "this is also an authentic chain that conforms with the conditions of Imaam Muslim"

Shaykh Muqbil Al-Waadi'ee mentioned in "Al-Jaami'u Saheeh Mimmaa Laysa Fee Saheehayn" (128/2) that "this is an authentic narration"

Ibn al Jawzi (rahimahullah) wrote: The intelligent ones acknowledge the rights of their parents and are greatful for their efforts.

Unfortunately its common nowadays to hear children being disrespectful to their parents. Some even go as far as cursing them! We seek Allaah's help and protection from all type of (foolish and disgusting) insolence!

I have personally heard statements such as:

• "What have they ever done for me?"
• "My father did not spend any time with me while I was young."
• "My parents did not spend any money on me"
• "My parents have not done anything for me"

(and the like)

In some cases parents do indeed neglect or mistreat their children.

Despite this, there is no justification for children to pay back their parents with hurt or throw back abuse!

Children have rights, but the rights of their parents are far, far greater.

📚[At Their Feet: Piety Towards Parents, Ibn al-Jawzi (rahimahullah), pg. 12]

WISDOM FOR PARENTING

1- Avoid Giving your child everything he asks for. He will grow up believing that he has the right to get everything he wants.

2-Avoid laughing when your child speaks insúlting words. He will grow up thinking that dísréspect is entertainment.

3-Avoid remaining insénsitive to bâd behavior that he can display without scølding him for his bâd behavior. He will grow up thinking that there are no rules in society.

4- Avoid picking up anything that your child mésses up. He will grow up believing that others must take responsibility for his méss.

5- Avoid letting him watch any program on TV. He will grow up thinking that there is no difference between being a child and being an adult.

6- Avoid giving your child all the money he asks for. He will grow up thinking that getting money is easy and will not hesitate to stëal for it.

7- Always avoid putting yourself on his side when he is wrøng against the neighbors, his teachers, the police. He will grow up thinking that everything he does is right, it is the others who are wrøn and he can always get away with everything.

8- Avoid leaving him alone at home when you go to the place of worship, otherwise he will grow up thinking that God does not exíst.

‎If you have children with access to the internet & haven’t taken the means to protect them from the ocean of filth online, please take the time to properly utilize hardware or software that can protect their hearts & minds, & save you much heartache-UmarQ

Hasan Al-Basrī رحمه الله said:

“Looking at the face of the mother is an act of worship!

So how about obeying her?”

[Musnad Ibn Mubārak: 146]

#mother #obedience

Advice To The One Who Has Been Cut Off By Their Mother – Shaykh Muhammad Bazmul

Questioner
My mother cut me off and I have tried time and time again to speak to her but she refuses to meet me. What advice do you have for me? May Allāh bless you.
Shaykh Muḥammad Bāzmūl
The advice I have for her is that she should continue to try, that she should pray for her mother, that she try to keep her filial duty to her and never be the one to cut ties, because Allāh gave parents a tremendous right, even when they are unbelievers, so can you think of how much greater it is when she is a Muslim? Her right would be that much more deserved. She should also think well of her mother and not carry bad memories of her and she should avoid anything that would lead to ties being severed.
She should also exercise patience and tolerance, continue to try to connect with her mother, pray for her and maintain her filial obligation towards her through acts of charity as well as through other means. We ask Allāh to help us and help her towards sources of good, righteousness and guidance.

https://dusunnah.com/video/advice-to-the-one-who-has-been-cut-off-by-their-mother-shaykh-muhammad-bazmul/