Forwarded from Authentic Duas
Ibn Rajab رحمه الله:
Many of the Salaf recommended making
an abundance of supplication on the days of at-Tashriq.
'Akramah said: It is recommended to supplicate on the days of at-Tashriq:
رَبَّنَآ ءَاتِنَا فِى ٱلدُّنْيَا حَسَنَةًۭ وَفِى ٱلْـَٔاخِرَةِ حَسَنَةًۭ وَقِنَا عَذَابَ ٱلنَّارِ
(Our Lord, give us in this world [that which is] good and in the Hereafter [that which is] good and protect us from the punishment of the Fire)
[al-Baqarah: 201]
This supplication is from the most comprehensive of supplications of good. The Prophet ﷺ used to supplicate with it abundantly.
It is narrated that he ﷺ would supplicate with it the most, and when he be would supplicate [with other supplications], he ﷺ would combine it with them.
The supplication combines the good of this life and the hereafter.
al-Hasan said: The good in this life is knowledge and worship and in the hereafter, paradise.
Sufyan said: The good in this life is knowledge and good, wholesome provisions, and in the hereafter, paradise.
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Many of the Salaf recommended making
an abundance of supplication on the days of at-Tashriq.
'Akramah said: It is recommended to supplicate on the days of at-Tashriq:
رَبَّنَآ ءَاتِنَا فِى ٱلدُّنْيَا حَسَنَةًۭ وَفِى ٱلْـَٔاخِرَةِ حَسَنَةًۭ وَقِنَا عَذَابَ ٱلنَّارِ
(Our Lord, give us in this world [that which is] good and in the Hereafter [that which is] good and protect us from the punishment of the Fire)
[al-Baqarah: 201]
This supplication is from the most comprehensive of supplications of good. The Prophet ﷺ used to supplicate with it abundantly.
It is narrated that he ﷺ would supplicate with it the most, and when he be would supplicate [with other supplications], he ﷺ would combine it with them.
The supplication combines the good of this life and the hereafter.
al-Hasan said: The good in this life is knowledge and worship and in the hereafter, paradise.
Sufyan said: The good in this life is knowledge and good, wholesome provisions, and in the hereafter, paradise.
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Dear Parents
Raising teenagers today cannot be left to chance. It requires us to be proactive, intentional and deliberate in our strategies. Most importantly, it requires our fervent du'a.
We have an immense task ahead of us if we are to raise morally upright, intellectually sound and spiritually grounded individuals.
To groom a generation that excels brilliantly in this duniya while keeping their focus firmly on Jannah, we must refuse to condone misbehaviour, whether at home or in school. Raising children with barakah is a joint effort. We need you to help us help you.
Never underestimate the small, consistent investments you make in your children today. Your time and attention, your firm chastisement and boundaries, your deliberate character building efforts - these are the exact bricks our teenagers need to build unshakable habits for success in both worlds.
Please, give the children what it takes, however taxing it seems. We cannot afford any laxity. Let us do this hard work together. Let us leave a legacy of grounded Muslim youth who will not only raise the banner of Islam with pride but also build honourable names for their families.
Remember, you are creating memories today. These teenagers will soon become adults. They will refer back to your actions tomorrow. Even if your discipline seems harsh to them now, they will be deeply grateful in later years when they understand it was done in good faith, out of pure love and for the good of their future.
Let's do the hard task today. Let's have that tough conversation today, so that we can rest and enjoy the returns tomorrow.
May we never cry or regret over our efforts in later years. May our children and students make us proud in this world and the next.
Aameen.
Raising teenagers today cannot be left to chance. It requires us to be proactive, intentional and deliberate in our strategies. Most importantly, it requires our fervent du'a.
We have an immense task ahead of us if we are to raise morally upright, intellectually sound and spiritually grounded individuals.
To groom a generation that excels brilliantly in this duniya while keeping their focus firmly on Jannah, we must refuse to condone misbehaviour, whether at home or in school. Raising children with barakah is a joint effort. We need you to help us help you.
Never underestimate the small, consistent investments you make in your children today. Your time and attention, your firm chastisement and boundaries, your deliberate character building efforts - these are the exact bricks our teenagers need to build unshakable habits for success in both worlds.
Please, give the children what it takes, however taxing it seems. We cannot afford any laxity. Let us do this hard work together. Let us leave a legacy of grounded Muslim youth who will not only raise the banner of Islam with pride but also build honourable names for their families.
Remember, you are creating memories today. These teenagers will soon become adults. They will refer back to your actions tomorrow. Even if your discipline seems harsh to them now, they will be deeply grateful in later years when they understand it was done in good faith, out of pure love and for the good of their future.
Let's do the hard task today. Let's have that tough conversation today, so that we can rest and enjoy the returns tomorrow.
May we never cry or regret over our efforts in later years. May our children and students make us proud in this world and the next.
Aameen.
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Have you ever seen a millionaire with righteous children? It's very rare. Despite having enough wealth to afford the best education and tarbiyah, their children often end up secular and unreligious.
On the other hand, most of the righteous people we know of grew up in poorer households and neighbourhoods.
However, the opposite can also be true. Sometimes, people who grow up in poorer households end up uninterested in Deen.
The point is, money is not the most important factor in raising righteous children. Money helps, without a doubt. But whoever wants to raise righteous children will find a way to do it, whether they live in a mansion or a tent. It's mainly about mindset and priorities.
The first step is to choose a righteous spouse who shares the same goals and values as you do. With the right person beside you, you'll be able to raise righteous children, whether you're rich or poor.
On the other hand, most of the righteous people we know of grew up in poorer households and neighbourhoods.
However, the opposite can also be true. Sometimes, people who grow up in poorer households end up uninterested in Deen.
The point is, money is not the most important factor in raising righteous children. Money helps, without a doubt. But whoever wants to raise righteous children will find a way to do it, whether they live in a mansion or a tent. It's mainly about mindset and priorities.
The first step is to choose a righteous spouse who shares the same goals and values as you do. With the right person beside you, you'll be able to raise righteous children, whether you're rich or poor.
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Abī Wāʾil (رحمه الله) said :
The daughter of ʿAbd Allāh ʾIbn Masʿūd approached [him], and she was a young girl, so he embraced her to his chest and then kissed her, and then said:
“Welcome, O my veil from the Fire”
كتاب مكارم الأخلاق للخرائطي
The daughter of ʿAbd Allāh ʾIbn Masʿūd approached [him], and she was a young girl, so he embraced her to his chest and then kissed her, and then said:
“Welcome, O my veil from the Fire”
كتاب مكارم الأخلاق للخرائطي
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The Prophet ﷺ said: “Allaah will give shade, to seven, on the Day when there will be no shade but His. (Among this seven will be): ‘a youth who has been brought up in the worship of Allaah.’”
[Saheehain]
Shaikh Ibn al-`Uthaymeen رحمه الله said:
“ ‘Youth’ (al-Shaab) is an age between 15 years and 30 years.”
[Sharh Riyaadh al-Saaliheen (1/462)]
[Saheehain]
Shaikh Ibn al-`Uthaymeen رحمه الله said:
“ ‘Youth’ (al-Shaab) is an age between 15 years and 30 years.”
[Sharh Riyaadh al-Saaliheen (1/462)]
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FAMILY PSYCHOLOGY: BITTER BUT TRUE
1. Emotionally distant parents often raise emotionally hungry adults.
Many people spend years searching for the love, validation, reassurance, and emotional safety they never received growing up.
2. Strict parenting often creates better liars, not better children.
When children fear punishment more than understanding, they learn to hide mistakes instead of being honest about them.
3. Children who feel emotionally safe become more confident adults.
When mistakes are met with guidance instead of shame, children learn resilience instead of fear.
4. Overprotective parenting can weaken self-belief.
Children who are never allowed to struggle often grow up doubting their ability to handle life on their own.
5. Parents teach relationships without saying a word.
Children learn how love looks, how conflict is handled, and what respect means by watching their parents every day.
6. Ignored children often become adults who constantly seek approval.
When emotional needs go unmet at home, many spend years trying to earn validation from everyone else.
7. Family wounds often show up in adult relationships.
Unhealed childhood experiences can quietly influence trust, boundaries, attachment, and self-worth.
8. Children remember how you made them feel more than what you bought them.
Years later, they may forget the gifts but they will remember whether they felt loved, safe, heard, and accepted.
9. The family cycle usually changes because one person chooses awareness.
The person who decides to heal, learn, and grow often becomes the reason future generations suffer less.
10. Love alone is not enough—presence matters too.
Many parents love their children deeply, but children also need time, attention, emotional safety, and connection.
Family shapes the mind long before the world does.
The words spoken at home...
the love given or withheld...
the emotional patterns repeated for years...
often become the voice people carry inside themselves for life.
That is why patience matters.
Understanding matters.
And emotional safety matters more than most people realize.
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1. Emotionally distant parents often raise emotionally hungry adults.
Many people spend years searching for the love, validation, reassurance, and emotional safety they never received growing up.
2. Strict parenting often creates better liars, not better children.
When children fear punishment more than understanding, they learn to hide mistakes instead of being honest about them.
3. Children who feel emotionally safe become more confident adults.
When mistakes are met with guidance instead of shame, children learn resilience instead of fear.
4. Overprotective parenting can weaken self-belief.
Children who are never allowed to struggle often grow up doubting their ability to handle life on their own.
5. Parents teach relationships without saying a word.
Children learn how love looks, how conflict is handled, and what respect means by watching their parents every day.
6. Ignored children often become adults who constantly seek approval.
When emotional needs go unmet at home, many spend years trying to earn validation from everyone else.
7. Family wounds often show up in adult relationships.
Unhealed childhood experiences can quietly influence trust, boundaries, attachment, and self-worth.
8. Children remember how you made them feel more than what you bought them.
Years later, they may forget the gifts but they will remember whether they felt loved, safe, heard, and accepted.
9. The family cycle usually changes because one person chooses awareness.
The person who decides to heal, learn, and grow often becomes the reason future generations suffer less.
10. Love alone is not enough—presence matters too.
Many parents love their children deeply, but children also need time, attention, emotional safety, and connection.
Family shapes the mind long before the world does.
The words spoken at home...
the love given or withheld...
the emotional patterns repeated for years...
often become the voice people carry inside themselves for life.
That is why patience matters.
Understanding matters.
And emotional safety matters more than most people realize.
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Allāh Is Most Merciful
Ḥammād Ibn Salamah [رحمه الله] said:
❝If I had the option, I would [still] prefer that Allāh held me accountable for my actions rather than my parents, since He is more merciful than even my own parents.❞
[Siyar Aʿlām Al-Nubalāʾ, (7/449)]
Ḥammād Ibn Salamah [رحمه الله] said:
❝If I had the option, I would [still] prefer that Allāh held me accountable for my actions rather than my parents, since He is more merciful than even my own parents.❞
[Siyar Aʿlām Al-Nubalāʾ, (7/449)]
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A Family’s Blessings are Connected to Their Righteousness
Imam Ibn Kathīr رحمه الله said:
“The blessings bestowed upon children are through the righteous deeds of their parents, and the blessings bestowed upon parents are through the supplications of their children.”
📚 Al-Bidāyah wa’n-Nihāyah (20/416)
The deeds of the parents are supported by the statement of Allah, the Mighty and Majestic, in Sūrat al-Kahf:
﴿وَكَانَ أَبُوهُمَا صَالِحًا﴾
“And their father was a righteous man.” (18:82)
And the supplication of the child is supported by the statement of the Messenger ﷺ in the hadith:
”When a person dies, his deeds are cut off except for three”, and then he mentioned: “…a righteous child who prays for him.”
(Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 1631).
And Allah knows best.
Imam Ibn Kathīr رحمه الله said:
“The blessings bestowed upon children are through the righteous deeds of their parents, and the blessings bestowed upon parents are through the supplications of their children.”
📚 Al-Bidāyah wa’n-Nihāyah (20/416)
The deeds of the parents are supported by the statement of Allah, the Mighty and Majestic, in Sūrat al-Kahf:
﴿وَكَانَ أَبُوهُمَا صَالِحًا﴾
“And their father was a righteous man.” (18:82)
And the supplication of the child is supported by the statement of the Messenger ﷺ in the hadith:
”When a person dies, his deeds are cut off except for three”, and then he mentioned: “…a righteous child who prays for him.”
(Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 1631).
And Allah knows best.
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From the Book: مكارم الأخلاق ومعاليها ومحمود طرائقها
Chapter: Compassion toward daughters, treating them well, and the virtue therein.
634 — Naṣr ibn Dāwūd al-Ṣāghānī narrated to us: ʿUbayd Allāh ibn ʿAmr, from the people of Mecca, narrated to us: Ṭalḥa ibn Zayd narrated to us, from al-Aʿmash, from Abī Wāʾil, who said:
A daughter of ʿAbd Allāh bin Masʿūd came forward — she was a young girl — so he drew her to his chest, then kissed her, then said: “Welcome! O veil of ʿAbd Allāh from the Fire!”
He then said: I heard the Messenger of Allāh ﷺ say: “Whoever has a daughter, and he teaches her good manners and does so well, and he nourishes her and does so well, and he lavishes upon her from the blessing that Allāh has lavished upon him — she will be for him a protection on his right and on his left from the Fire, leading him to Paradise.”
Chapter: Compassion toward daughters, treating them well, and the virtue therein.
634 — Naṣr ibn Dāwūd al-Ṣāghānī narrated to us: ʿUbayd Allāh ibn ʿAmr, from the people of Mecca, narrated to us: Ṭalḥa ibn Zayd narrated to us, from al-Aʿmash, from Abī Wāʾil, who said:
A daughter of ʿAbd Allāh bin Masʿūd came forward — she was a young girl — so he drew her to his chest, then kissed her, then said: “Welcome! O veil of ʿAbd Allāh from the Fire!”
He then said: I heard the Messenger of Allāh ﷺ say: “Whoever has a daughter, and he teaches her good manners and does so well, and he nourishes her and does so well, and he lavishes upon her from the blessing that Allāh has lavished upon him — she will be for him a protection on his right and on his left from the Fire, leading him to Paradise.”
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Kids Discipline.
“Play with them for the first seven years (of their life); then teach them for the next seven years; then advise them for the next seven years (and after that)." Ali ibn Abi Taalib radiyallahu anha.
·First Seven Years
In the first seven years, your goal is to build a strong connection to your child. This is the foundation, the base from which your relationship with them grows. If this is rock solid, the remaining years will be much easier. If this foundation forms poorly, the next years will be more challenging. If you have young children, this (first seven years) is the time to roll up your sleeves and invest, heavily, in your and their future.
·Next Seven Years
This is the time to teach them everything — aqeedah, halaal and haraam, fiqh, all the things they need to know to survive throughout their life. Qur’an and seerah are also very important. This is the time they are sponges, ready to soak up anything and everything you tell them, teach them, show them, and do in front of them. If you built that solid foundation in ages 0-7, they are now more than willing and happy to learn from you.
Teach them sports, too; Rasulullah (salallahu alayhi wa sallam) said: “Teach your children swimming, archery and horseback riding.” They gain many benefits from it, including physical fitness, learning teamwork, and sportsmanship.
·The Final Seven Years
Once your children hit 14, they are probably already mukallaf (full adults Islamically, and accountable for their actions) — this happens at puberty, or at age 15 at the latest.
At this age, you are mostly out of the picture. Children achieve independence; their personalities manifest; they look more to their peers than their parents and families. During these critical years, befriend them, advise them, and do what you can; understand that they are now full adults, and the choices are theirs to make, right or wrong.
If you worked hard during the last two periods of seven years, you will already be that trusted confidant, that advisor, that go-to person when they need help or advice. Be part of their lives, and advise them as best you can.
“Play with them for the first seven years (of their life); then teach them for the next seven years; then advise them for the next seven years (and after that)." Ali ibn Abi Taalib radiyallahu anha.
·First Seven Years
In the first seven years, your goal is to build a strong connection to your child. This is the foundation, the base from which your relationship with them grows. If this is rock solid, the remaining years will be much easier. If this foundation forms poorly, the next years will be more challenging. If you have young children, this (first seven years) is the time to roll up your sleeves and invest, heavily, in your and their future.
·Next Seven Years
This is the time to teach them everything — aqeedah, halaal and haraam, fiqh, all the things they need to know to survive throughout their life. Qur’an and seerah are also very important. This is the time they are sponges, ready to soak up anything and everything you tell them, teach them, show them, and do in front of them. If you built that solid foundation in ages 0-7, they are now more than willing and happy to learn from you.
Teach them sports, too; Rasulullah (salallahu alayhi wa sallam) said: “Teach your children swimming, archery and horseback riding.” They gain many benefits from it, including physical fitness, learning teamwork, and sportsmanship.
·The Final Seven Years
Once your children hit 14, they are probably already mukallaf (full adults Islamically, and accountable for their actions) — this happens at puberty, or at age 15 at the latest.
At this age, you are mostly out of the picture. Children achieve independence; their personalities manifest; they look more to their peers than their parents and families. During these critical years, befriend them, advise them, and do what you can; understand that they are now full adults, and the choices are theirs to make, right or wrong.
If you worked hard during the last two periods of seven years, you will already be that trusted confidant, that advisor, that go-to person when they need help or advice. Be part of their lives, and advise them as best you can.
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I watched the children grow.
On each of my children's graduation days, there is one thing that almost always happens: a quiet tear of joy. It comes from knowing how hard I have worked and how Allah, in His infinite Mercy, has blessed them, crowned our efforts, and rewarded the sacrifices made by both their father and me.
It is difficult to raise one child; how much more challenging is it to raise multiple children and teenagers as they journey toward adulthood?
Moments like these remind me that we should show even more gratitude to Allah for granting us this opportunity, while some of our beloved brothers and sisters are still waiting and praying for the same blessing.
We should be grateful that Allah blessed us with Islam and allowed our children to follow us upon this noble religion.
We should be grateful that He gave us the Qur'an and enabled our children to learn it, read it, and even memorize this noble Book.
Yet, while we give all praise and gratitude to Allah for these achievements, we continue to beg Him to grant them steadfastness upon the Deen, Islam, the Qur'an, Ṣalāh, Tawḥīd, and Tahajjud. We ask Him to rectify their shortcomings and correct any unhealthy habits or behaviors that may be present in them.
May Allah grant them hearts that fear Him, ears that listen to beneficial advice, and souls that readily accept correction when they are reminded of goodness and truth. May He make them a source of reward for us and not a proof against us on the Day of Judgment. Āmīn.
Umm Sumayyah Mai
On each of my children's graduation days, there is one thing that almost always happens: a quiet tear of joy. It comes from knowing how hard I have worked and how Allah, in His infinite Mercy, has blessed them, crowned our efforts, and rewarded the sacrifices made by both their father and me.
It is difficult to raise one child; how much more challenging is it to raise multiple children and teenagers as they journey toward adulthood?
Moments like these remind me that we should show even more gratitude to Allah for granting us this opportunity, while some of our beloved brothers and sisters are still waiting and praying for the same blessing.
We should be grateful that Allah blessed us with Islam and allowed our children to follow us upon this noble religion.
We should be grateful that He gave us the Qur'an and enabled our children to learn it, read it, and even memorize this noble Book.
Yet, while we give all praise and gratitude to Allah for these achievements, we continue to beg Him to grant them steadfastness upon the Deen, Islam, the Qur'an, Ṣalāh, Tawḥīd, and Tahajjud. We ask Him to rectify their shortcomings and correct any unhealthy habits or behaviors that may be present in them.
May Allah grant them hearts that fear Him, ears that listen to beneficial advice, and souls that readily accept correction when they are reminded of goodness and truth. May He make them a source of reward for us and not a proof against us on the Day of Judgment. Āmīn.
Umm Sumayyah Mai
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*How To Raise Corrupt Kids*
(1) Never invite or pray in front of them. Let them grow up thinking is just for old people.
(2) Hand them a screen, not your time. Let cartoons raise them. You’re too “busy,” remember?
(3) Be harsh when they mess up. But never praise their efforts or model forgiveness.
(4) Gossip in front of them. They’re listening. And learning.
(5) Don’t teach Qur’an until you’re “finally ready.” They’ll fill that gap up with TikTok reciters and Instagram imams.
(6) Compare them to other kids constantly. Build jealousy in them, and kill their confidence.
(7) Enroll them in a secular school, then expect Islām at home to win. You think 8 hours a day of reprogramming is a joke?
(8) Keep them far from scholars and students of knowledge.
(9) Never explain the “why” behind the rules and commandments.
(10) Often argue with your spouse in front of them. Let them feel unsafe and confused at home.
(11) Never apologize to them. Let your ego be greater than their emotional health.
(12) Avoid heart-to-heart conversations. They’ll open up — but not to you.
(13) Make everything about grades. Not about character, not about ʿibādah. Just grades.
(14) Dress them like mini influencers. Then be shocked when they crave attention over īmān.
(15) Be a Muslim only in name, not in routine. Let them see the hypocrisy early.
(16) Use Islam to shame, not to shape. Make them hate what was supposed to heal.
(17) Make them fear your slippers more than the fire of Jahannam.
(18) Ignore their talents. Mock their abilities. Then pray they “find their path” someday.
(19) Pay for toys, and never for good tarbiyah (upbringing) and materials.
(20) Never change, but expect them to.
Now flip it.
Do the opposite.
And you’ll raise righteous children (by the will of Allah).
Via Bryt
(1) Never invite or pray in front of them. Let them grow up thinking is just for old people.
(2) Hand them a screen, not your time. Let cartoons raise them. You’re too “busy,” remember?
(3) Be harsh when they mess up. But never praise their efforts or model forgiveness.
(4) Gossip in front of them. They’re listening. And learning.
(5) Don’t teach Qur’an until you’re “finally ready.” They’ll fill that gap up with TikTok reciters and Instagram imams.
(6) Compare them to other kids constantly. Build jealousy in them, and kill their confidence.
(7) Enroll them in a secular school, then expect Islām at home to win. You think 8 hours a day of reprogramming is a joke?
(8) Keep them far from scholars and students of knowledge.
(9) Never explain the “why” behind the rules and commandments.
(10) Often argue with your spouse in front of them. Let them feel unsafe and confused at home.
(11) Never apologize to them. Let your ego be greater than their emotional health.
(12) Avoid heart-to-heart conversations. They’ll open up — but not to you.
(13) Make everything about grades. Not about character, not about ʿibādah. Just grades.
(14) Dress them like mini influencers. Then be shocked when they crave attention over īmān.
(15) Be a Muslim only in name, not in routine. Let them see the hypocrisy early.
(16) Use Islam to shame, not to shape. Make them hate what was supposed to heal.
(17) Make them fear your slippers more than the fire of Jahannam.
(18) Ignore their talents. Mock their abilities. Then pray they “find their path” someday.
(19) Pay for toys, and never for good tarbiyah (upbringing) and materials.
(20) Never change, but expect them to.
Now flip it.
Do the opposite.
And you’ll raise righteous children (by the will of Allah).
Via Bryt
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Losing our children to these Western societies is a real threat and a real danger. Parents need to do everything in their power to help preserve their children’s Islamic identity.
Do not expect others to do your job. Parents need to be invested and active within the masjids and Islamic centres. This means being part of committees catering to the youth, contributing with time, ideas and money, signing your children up for activities and actually taking them and encouraging other parents to do the same.
We need to worry about and show
Concern for the future generations here. Building masjids and opening Islamic centres is great, but if we don’t bring our children in and make them feel like they belong, what’s the point?
Do not expect others to do your job. Parents need to be invested and active within the masjids and Islamic centres. This means being part of committees catering to the youth, contributing with time, ideas and money, signing your children up for activities and actually taking them and encouraging other parents to do the same.
We need to worry about and show
Concern for the future generations here. Building masjids and opening Islamic centres is great, but if we don’t bring our children in and make them feel like they belong, what’s the point?
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Do not give a child everything he wants, lest he grows up spoilt, with an entitlement mentality.
Do not deny a child everything he asks, lest he grows up feeling miserable.
If a child gets everything he wants, he'd feel entitled to own whatever he wants even if it means oppressing someone or killing people to get that thing by force
If a child gets denied everything, he'd grow up feeling hopeless, lost, vulnerable, and gives up easily on everything, even on his own life.
Take the middle cause, give a child what he wants sometimes and deny them some other time even if you can afford it. So he'd know that everything isn't meant for him alone, and he can't always get what he wants, his wishes won't be people's command, and other people matter as much as he does, because the world doesn't revolve around him alone !!
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Do not deny a child everything he asks, lest he grows up feeling miserable.
If a child gets everything he wants, he'd feel entitled to own whatever he wants even if it means oppressing someone or killing people to get that thing by force
If a child gets denied everything, he'd grow up feeling hopeless, lost, vulnerable, and gives up easily on everything, even on his own life.
Take the middle cause, give a child what he wants sometimes and deny them some other time even if you can afford it. So he'd know that everything isn't meant for him alone, and he can't always get what he wants, his wishes won't be people's command, and other people matter as much as he does, because the world doesn't revolve around him alone !!
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Raising boys is difficult, and raising girls is even more delicate.
So be patient with the difficulty, and pay attention to what is even more delicate.
Someone asked:
“How do I raise them? Trials are many, and corruption is easier than ever.”
The reply is:
Begin by rectifying yourself before trying to correct them. Strive to be an example of goodness in front of your children.
Perfect your prayer. Guard your tongue from careless speech. And be mindful that Allah is always watching you.
Know that goodness leaves an impact, and love for righteousness spreads through actions before words.
Children are deeply affected by what they see from their parents. Your actions raise them before your advice does.
The companions رضي الله عنهم spoke little but acted greatly, so their children learned more from their character than from long lectures.
If parents truly realized the immense reward and responsibility connected to raising children, they would endure every hardship with patience.
For a shadow can never become straight while the stick itself remains crooked.
So be patient with the difficulty, and pay attention to what is even more delicate.
Someone asked:
“How do I raise them? Trials are many, and corruption is easier than ever.”
The reply is:
Begin by rectifying yourself before trying to correct them. Strive to be an example of goodness in front of your children.
Perfect your prayer. Guard your tongue from careless speech. And be mindful that Allah is always watching you.
Know that goodness leaves an impact, and love for righteousness spreads through actions before words.
Children are deeply affected by what they see from their parents. Your actions raise them before your advice does.
The companions رضي الله عنهم spoke little but acted greatly, so their children learned more from their character than from long lectures.
If parents truly realized the immense reward and responsibility connected to raising children, they would endure every hardship with patience.
For a shadow can never become straight while the stick itself remains crooked.
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Beware of Istidraaj: When Delayed Punishment Becomes a Trial
بســـم اللــه الرحــمــن الـرحـــيــم
Brothers, beware of istidraaj — when Allaah allows a sinner to continue enjoying ease, success, status, and concealment while steadily increasing him in sin until destruction overtakes him unexpectedly.
Look at Fir‘awn. He was granted kingdom, power, authority, wealth, and influence until his very last moments. Yet he oppressed his wife, slaughtered innocent boys, humiliated women, enslaved a nation, and — greater than all of that — arrogantly rejected the clear signs brought by the Messenger of Allaah.
His worldly success was not honour. It was a rope being extended.
So do not be deceived when Allaah conceals your sins. Do not imagine that because punishment has not yet arrived, you are safe. A man may oppress his wife, betray trusts, nurture hidden hypocrisy, persist upon secret kufr, mock the limits of Allaah in private, and still wake up every day with provision, health, and reputation. That concealment is not always mercy. Sometimes it is a test. Sometimes it is abandonment.
Do not think you can spend the beginning of your life playing games with your Lord, then conveniently repent at the end when your desires weaken and death approaches. Allaah is not unjust, and evil plots only encircle its planner.
Even the grandfather of the Prophet ﷺ spent years protecting and supporting his grandson, defending him against harm and standing beside him in difficult times, yet he did not die upon Islaam. Good deeds alone do not guarantee a good ending. Nearness to righteousness is not righteousness itself. Lineage, service, intelligence, activism, reputation, or sacrifice cannot save a person if sincerity and submission to Allaah are absent.
So be humble.
Rush toward tawbah before the door closes. Increase in righteousness while you still possess strength. And constantly beg Allaah for steadfastness, because the greatest karāmah is not wealth, influence, intelligence, or admiration from people — it is to die upon guidance and sincerity.
A beautiful ending is not owed to anyone. It is granted by Allaah alone - And Allaah is not unjust!
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بســـم اللــه الرحــمــن الـرحـــيــم
Brothers, beware of istidraaj — when Allaah allows a sinner to continue enjoying ease, success, status, and concealment while steadily increasing him in sin until destruction overtakes him unexpectedly.
Look at Fir‘awn. He was granted kingdom, power, authority, wealth, and influence until his very last moments. Yet he oppressed his wife, slaughtered innocent boys, humiliated women, enslaved a nation, and — greater than all of that — arrogantly rejected the clear signs brought by the Messenger of Allaah.
His worldly success was not honour. It was a rope being extended.
So do not be deceived when Allaah conceals your sins. Do not imagine that because punishment has not yet arrived, you are safe. A man may oppress his wife, betray trusts, nurture hidden hypocrisy, persist upon secret kufr, mock the limits of Allaah in private, and still wake up every day with provision, health, and reputation. That concealment is not always mercy. Sometimes it is a test. Sometimes it is abandonment.
Do not think you can spend the beginning of your life playing games with your Lord, then conveniently repent at the end when your desires weaken and death approaches. Allaah is not unjust, and evil plots only encircle its planner.
Even the grandfather of the Prophet ﷺ spent years protecting and supporting his grandson, defending him against harm and standing beside him in difficult times, yet he did not die upon Islaam. Good deeds alone do not guarantee a good ending. Nearness to righteousness is not righteousness itself. Lineage, service, intelligence, activism, reputation, or sacrifice cannot save a person if sincerity and submission to Allaah are absent.
So be humble.
Rush toward tawbah before the door closes. Increase in righteousness while you still possess strength. And constantly beg Allaah for steadfastness, because the greatest karāmah is not wealth, influence, intelligence, or admiration from people — it is to die upon guidance and sincerity.
A beautiful ending is not owed to anyone. It is granted by Allaah alone - And Allaah is not unjust!
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YOU, YOUR WEALTH BELONGS TO YOUR FATHER"
It was narrated from Jabir bin 'Abdullah (radiAllahuanhu) that a man said: "O Messenger of Allah, I have wealth and a son, and my father wants to take all my wealth." He said: "You and your wealth belongs to your father." [Sunan Ibn Majah 2291 & Musnad Aḥmad].
حَدَّثَنَا هِشَامُ بْنُ عَمَّارٍ، حَدَّثَنَا عِيسَى بْنُ يُونُسَ، حَدَّثَنَا يُوسُفُ بْنُ إِسْحَاقَ، عَنْ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ الْمُنْكَدِرِ، عَنْ جَابِرِ بْنِ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ، أَنَّ رَجُلاً، قَالَ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ إِنَّ لِي مَالاً وَوَلَدًا وَإِنَّ أَبِي يُرِيدُ أَنْ يَجْتَاحَ مَالِي فَقَالَ " أَنْتَ وَمَالُكَ لأَبِيكَ " .
Commentary:
A man came to the Prophet and said, ‘O Messenger of Allāh ﷺ , my father wants to take my wealth.’ The Prophet ﷺ replied, ‘you and your wealth are for your father’.
There are 5 conditions which permits a father utilising some of the wealth of his son:
1. He has a need to utilise some of the wealth, and only takes according to his need.There should be no harm upon the son.
2. The wealth should be surplus to the needs of the son. For example, if the son requires his car to earn a living and going to work, it is not permitted for the father cannot take it for himself.
3. The father taking the wealth does not prevent the son fulfilling rights of others, such as spending upon his mother, or maintaining his wife and children.
4. The father is not being wasteful with the money, or comitting harām such as gambling.
5. The father cannot take wealth off one son, in order to give it to another son/child, as this is favouritism between children and oppression.
This Ḥadīth also shows the immense right of parents over their children, and that these rights do not cease as soon as a child leaves their parental home or becomes independant.
The correct meaning of this Ḥadīth is that ‘…your wealth [can be utilised] by your father’ and not ‘…[belong] to your father’. [Refer to Nayl al-Awtār by ash-Shawkāni Vol. 6 P. 17]
This Ḥadīth does not give the father complete ownership of the son’s wealth, rather it permits him to take some of it for a need. The son must still give its Zakāh, as well as it being his inheritance for others.
Related Āyāt:
{Worship Allāh, associate nothing with Him, and be good to your parents} [Al Qurʾān 4:36]
{Your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him, and be good to your parents} [Al Qurʾān 17:23]
{And lower to them the wing of humility out of mercy and say, “My Lord, have mercy upon them as they brought me up [when I was] small.”} [Al Qurʾān 17:24]
Related narrations:
The Prophet ﷺ said, ‘The father is the middle of the gates of Paradise, so keep to this gate or lose it.’ [At-Tirmidhī]
A man came to the Prophet ﷺ asking permission to wage jihad. The Prophet ﷺ said, ‘are your parents alive?’ The man replied, ‘yes’. The Prophet ﷺ said, ‘Then strive in the service of them both.’ [Al-Bukhārī & Muslim].
It was narrated from Jabir bin 'Abdullah (radiAllahuanhu) that a man said: "O Messenger of Allah, I have wealth and a son, and my father wants to take all my wealth." He said: "You and your wealth belongs to your father." [Sunan Ibn Majah 2291 & Musnad Aḥmad].
حَدَّثَنَا هِشَامُ بْنُ عَمَّارٍ، حَدَّثَنَا عِيسَى بْنُ يُونُسَ، حَدَّثَنَا يُوسُفُ بْنُ إِسْحَاقَ، عَنْ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ الْمُنْكَدِرِ، عَنْ جَابِرِ بْنِ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ، أَنَّ رَجُلاً، قَالَ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ إِنَّ لِي مَالاً وَوَلَدًا وَإِنَّ أَبِي يُرِيدُ أَنْ يَجْتَاحَ مَالِي فَقَالَ " أَنْتَ وَمَالُكَ لأَبِيكَ " .
Commentary:
A man came to the Prophet and said, ‘O Messenger of Allāh ﷺ , my father wants to take my wealth.’ The Prophet ﷺ replied, ‘you and your wealth are for your father’.
There are 5 conditions which permits a father utilising some of the wealth of his son:
1. He has a need to utilise some of the wealth, and only takes according to his need.There should be no harm upon the son.
2. The wealth should be surplus to the needs of the son. For example, if the son requires his car to earn a living and going to work, it is not permitted for the father cannot take it for himself.
3. The father taking the wealth does not prevent the son fulfilling rights of others, such as spending upon his mother, or maintaining his wife and children.
4. The father is not being wasteful with the money, or comitting harām such as gambling.
5. The father cannot take wealth off one son, in order to give it to another son/child, as this is favouritism between children and oppression.
This Ḥadīth also shows the immense right of parents over their children, and that these rights do not cease as soon as a child leaves their parental home or becomes independant.
The correct meaning of this Ḥadīth is that ‘…your wealth [can be utilised] by your father’ and not ‘…[belong] to your father’. [Refer to Nayl al-Awtār by ash-Shawkāni Vol. 6 P. 17]
This Ḥadīth does not give the father complete ownership of the son’s wealth, rather it permits him to take some of it for a need. The son must still give its Zakāh, as well as it being his inheritance for others.
Related Āyāt:
{Worship Allāh, associate nothing with Him, and be good to your parents} [Al Qurʾān 4:36]
{Your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him, and be good to your parents} [Al Qurʾān 17:23]
{And lower to them the wing of humility out of mercy and say, “My Lord, have mercy upon them as they brought me up [when I was] small.”} [Al Qurʾān 17:24]
Related narrations:
The Prophet ﷺ said, ‘The father is the middle of the gates of Paradise, so keep to this gate or lose it.’ [At-Tirmidhī]
A man came to the Prophet ﷺ asking permission to wage jihad. The Prophet ﷺ said, ‘are your parents alive?’ The man replied, ‘yes’. The Prophet ﷺ said, ‘Then strive in the service of them both.’ [Al-Bukhārī & Muslim].
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Fighting is common in preschool because young children are still learning to share, take turns, communicate, and regulate their emotions. The goal isn't just to stop the fight—it's to teach the skills that prevent future conflicts.
Here are some effective strategies:
* Stay calm and intervene immediately. Separate the children if needed and ensure everyone is safe.
* Acknowledge feelings. "I can see you're both upset."
* Find out what happened without assigning blame. Listen to each child briefly.
* Teach simple words they can use instead of hitting, such as "Can I have a turn?" or "I'm still using it."
* Help them solve the problem together. Offer choices: take turns, use a timer, find another toy, or play together.
* Praise positive behaviour. Notice when children share, use kind words, or solve problems peacefully.
* Look for patterns. Ask yourself:
* Does fighting happen over the same toys?
* Is it during transitions?
* Are the children tired, hungry, or overstimulated?
* Adjust the environment. Provide duplicate popular toys, create enough play space, and establish predictable routines.
* Teach social-emotional skills daily through stories, role-play, games, and modeling kind behaviour.
Remember, challenging behaviour is often a form of communication. Instead of asking, "How do I stop this behaviour?" ask, "What skill is this child missing, and how can I teach it?"
For preschoolers, every conflict is a learning opportunity. With consistent guidance, patience, and positive modeling, they gradually learn to manage disagreements, express their feelings appropriately, and build healthy relationships.
Here are some effective strategies:
* Stay calm and intervene immediately. Separate the children if needed and ensure everyone is safe.
* Acknowledge feelings. "I can see you're both upset."
* Find out what happened without assigning blame. Listen to each child briefly.
* Teach simple words they can use instead of hitting, such as "Can I have a turn?" or "I'm still using it."
* Help them solve the problem together. Offer choices: take turns, use a timer, find another toy, or play together.
* Praise positive behaviour. Notice when children share, use kind words, or solve problems peacefully.
* Look for patterns. Ask yourself:
* Does fighting happen over the same toys?
* Is it during transitions?
* Are the children tired, hungry, or overstimulated?
* Adjust the environment. Provide duplicate popular toys, create enough play space, and establish predictable routines.
* Teach social-emotional skills daily through stories, role-play, games, and modeling kind behaviour.
Remember, challenging behaviour is often a form of communication. Instead of asking, "How do I stop this behaviour?" ask, "What skill is this child missing, and how can I teach it?"
For preschoolers, every conflict is a learning opportunity. With consistent guidance, patience, and positive modeling, they gradually learn to manage disagreements, express their feelings appropriately, and build healthy relationships.
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Ibn Qayyim al-Jawziyyah (d. 751 AH) said: "Daughters are not a burden. Rather, they are a test of mercy, and whoever is merciful to them will receive mercy from Allah. Islam elevated their status, while ignorance buried them."
Alhamdulillāh, today, 3rd of July at 4:48 am, on 7th of Muharram, 1447 AH, Allah ﷻ has once again blessed me with a beautiful daughter.
Imam Ahmad would congratulate the one having a daughter by saying: "Congratulations, for the Prophets were mostly fathers of daughters."
They say that sons carry the name of their father, but what they don't tell you is that it's the daughters who carry their fathers. A father may hold his daughter's hands for a short while, but carries her in his heart forever.
The Prophet ﷺ said: “Do not dislike daughters. They are comforting and precious.” - (Musnad Ahmad 2114 – Graded Hasan by scholars like al-Albani)
May Allah ﷻ make us amongst the righteous and allow us to raise our children upon the Pleasure of Allah and nurture them upon good manners. May we be grateful to Him for this beautiful gift and allow our children to be righteous and come to maturity. May He allow us to make this world a better place for them. May He ﷻ allow us to be a good example for them, and may He protect them from all kinds of evil.
Ameen.
#blessing #daughters
Alhamdulillāh, today, 3rd of July at 4:48 am, on 7th of Muharram, 1447 AH, Allah ﷻ has once again blessed me with a beautiful daughter.
Imam Ahmad would congratulate the one having a daughter by saying: "Congratulations, for the Prophets were mostly fathers of daughters."
They say that sons carry the name of their father, but what they don't tell you is that it's the daughters who carry their fathers. A father may hold his daughter's hands for a short while, but carries her in his heart forever.
The Prophet ﷺ said: “Do not dislike daughters. They are comforting and precious.” - (Musnad Ahmad 2114 – Graded Hasan by scholars like al-Albani)
May Allah ﷻ make us amongst the righteous and allow us to raise our children upon the Pleasure of Allah and nurture them upon good manners. May we be grateful to Him for this beautiful gift and allow our children to be righteous and come to maturity. May He allow us to make this world a better place for them. May He ﷻ allow us to be a good example for them, and may He protect them from all kinds of evil.
Ameen.
#blessing #daughters
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