LOVING YOUR CHILD DOES NOT MEAN CLOSING YOUR EYES WHILE THEY DESTROY OTHERS.

A parent’s heart may ache for their son or daughter, but Islām does not allow love to become an excuse for sin. When you remain silent while your child breaks homes, betrays trusts, and harms innocent families—especially children—you are not protecting them. You are abandoning your duty.

Allah warns us with words that should shake every believing heart:
﴿يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا قُوا أَنفُسَكُمْ وَأَهْلِيكُمْ نَارًا﴾
O you who believe, protect yourselves and your families from the Fire.

Ask yourself: how can a parent watch their child walk toward the Fire and still call it love?

True love restrains.
True love corrects.
True love says “stop” even when it breaks the heart.

Allowing your child to become a home wrecker is not mercy—it is cruelty. Not only to the family being destroyed, but to your own child whose soul is being darkened, whose ākhirah is being placed at risk. The tears of abandoned spouses and confused children do not go unheard by Allāh.

A parent who truly loves their child will stand between them and sin, even if the child becomes angry, even if the world calls it harsh. Because love that leads to Jahannam is not love—it is betrayal.

If you think you are loving your child by tolerating their wrongdoing, then know this:
You are not loving them.
You are losing them.

اللَّهُمَّ احْفَظْنَا وَأَهْلِينَا مِنَ الْفِتَنِ مَا ظَهَرَ مِنْهَا وَمَا بَطَنَ، وَاهْدِ أَبْنَاءَنَا وَبَنَاتِنَا إِلَى طَاعَتِكَ، وَاصْرِفْ عَنْهُمُ السُّوءَ وَالْحَرَامَ، وَاجْعَلْهُمْ قُرَّةَ أَعْيُنٍ لَنَا فِي الدُّنْيَا وَالْآخِرَةِ، وَقِنَا وَإِيَّاهُمْ عَذَابَ النَّارِ.

O Allāh, protect us and our families from trials—those that are apparent and those that are hidden. Guide our sons and daughters to obedience to You, turn away from them all evil and what is unlawful, and make them a comfort to our eyes in this world and the Hereafter. Protect us and them from the punishment of the Fire.

YOU WILL CRY WHEN YOU READ
THIS

~A parent's home is always a child's home. But a child's home is not always a place their parents are welcome to stay.

~A parent's money is always for their children. But a child's money is not always set aside for their parents

~A parent's wealth will surely be enjoyed by their children. But a child's wealth is not always shared with their parents

So love your parents while you still can. Because in this world, there is no love more sincere than the love of your parents.

Please parents monitor your child on laptop Ipads and phones. Its NOT spying it's your duty to protect them from harm and to not misuse these devices.

I've personally seen mothers let their 5 year old daughters watch Tiktok videos, what effect will this have on your child's Haya if you let them access these kind of apps? Technology should be used for learning and seeking beneficial knowledge.

A righteous child is a blessing from Allaah....may Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى‎ grant us righteous children

The Prophet (ﷺ) said: “When the son of Aadam dies, his (good) deeds come to an end except for three: A recurring charity, a knowledge that is beneficial or a righteous child that supplicates for him.” [Reported by Muslim]

The Prophet (ﷺ) also said: "Indeed a man may ascend a level in Paradise and ask: ‘How did this happen?’ So it will be said to him: ‘By your child’s asking forgiveness for you.”' [Reported by Ahmad and Ibn Maajah]

The Prophet (ﷺ) said: “There are seven things of which their reward continue to pass on to the servant after he dies while he is in his grave: He who taught some knowledge, or allowed a river to flow, or dug a well, or planted a date-palm tree, or built a masjid, or bequeathed a mus-haf, or left behind a child that seeks forgiveness for him (from Allaah) after he dies." [A sound hadeeth reported by Ibn Maajah and Ibn Khuzaimah]

So based on this, the fathers and mothers are obligated to focus on raising their children upon uprightness so that they may serve as righteous deeds for them during their lifetime as well as after their death.

Book: Raising Children in Light of the Qur’an and Sunnah by Shaikh Saalih Al-Fawzaan, p. 13/14 | Translated by Isma’eel Alarcon | Al-lbaanah Book Publishing, USA

𝐁𝐞𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐒𝐨𝐜𝐢𝐞𝐭𝐲 𝐖𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐞𝐬 𝐨𝐧 𝐘𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐂𝐡𝐢𝐥𝐝’𝐬 𝐇𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐭, 𝐖𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐞 𝐆𝐨𝐨𝐝𝐧𝐞𝐬𝐬 𝐅𝐢𝐫𝐬𝐭

Al-Ghazālī, may Allah have mercy on him, says:

الصبي أمانة عند والديه، وقلبه الطاهر جوهرة نفيسة ساذجة خالية من كل نقش وصورة، وهو قابل لكل نقش ومائل إلى كل ما يمال إليه، فإن عُوِّد الخير وعُلِّمه نشأ عليه وسعد في الدنيا والآخرة، وشاركه في ثوابه أبواه، وكل معلم له ومؤدب. وإن عُوِّد الشر وأهمل إهمال البهائم شقي وهلك، وكان الوزر في رقبة القيِّم عليه والوالي له

(إحياء علوم الدين:106/4)

“𝘈 𝘤𝘩𝘪𝘭𝘥 𝘪𝘴 𝘢 𝘴𝘢𝘤𝘳𝘦𝘥 𝘵𝘳𝘶𝘴𝘵 𝘱𝘭𝘢𝘤𝘦𝘥 𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘩𝘢𝘯𝘥𝘴 𝘰𝘧 𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘱𝘢𝘳𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘴. 𝘏𝘪𝘴 𝘩𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘵 𝘪𝘴 𝘱𝘶𝘳𝘦, 𝘱𝘳𝘦𝘤𝘪𝘰𝘶𝘴, 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘶𝘯𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘦𝘥 — 𝘶𝘯𝘵𝘰𝘶𝘤𝘩𝘦𝘥 𝘣𝘺 𝘢𝘯𝘺 𝘭𝘢𝘴𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘪𝘮𝘱𝘳𝘪𝘯𝘵 𝘰𝘳 𝘪𝘮𝘢𝘨𝘦. 𝘐𝘵 𝘪𝘴 𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘥𝘺 𝘵𝘰 𝘳𝘦𝘤𝘦𝘪𝘷𝘦 𝘸𝘩𝘢𝘵𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳 𝘪𝘴 𝘱𝘭𝘢𝘤𝘦𝘥 𝘶𝘱𝘰𝘯 𝘪𝘵, 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘪𝘵 𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘺 𝘪𝘯𝘤𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘦𝘴 𝘵𝘰𝘸𝘢𝘳𝘥 𝘸𝘩𝘢𝘵𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳 𝘥𝘪𝘳𝘦𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘪𝘵 𝘪𝘴 𝘨𝘶𝘪𝘥𝘦𝘥. 𝘐𝘧 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘤𝘩𝘪𝘭𝘥 𝘪𝘴 𝘳𝘢𝘪𝘴𝘦𝘥 𝘶𝘱𝘰𝘯 𝘨𝘰𝘰𝘥𝘯𝘦𝘴𝘴 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘢𝘶𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘸𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘪𝘴 𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵, 𝘩𝘦 𝘸𝘪𝘭𝘭 𝘨𝘳𝘰𝘸 𝘶𝘱𝘰𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘱𝘢𝘵𝘩 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘢𝘵𝘵𝘢𝘪𝘯 𝘩𝘢𝘱𝘱𝘪𝘯𝘦𝘴𝘴 𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘭𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘯𝘦𝘹𝘵. 𝘏𝘪𝘴 𝘱𝘢𝘳𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘴, 𝘢𝘭𝘰𝘯𝘨 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘺 𝘵𝘦𝘢𝘤𝘩𝘦𝘳 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘦𝘥𝘶𝘤𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳 𝘸𝘩𝘰 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘵𝘳𝘪𝘣𝘶𝘵𝘦𝘥 𝘵𝘰 𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘶𝘱𝘣𝘳𝘪𝘯𝘨𝘪𝘯𝘨, 𝘸𝘪𝘭𝘭 𝘴𝘩𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘸𝘢𝘳𝘥. 𝘉𝘶𝘵 𝘪𝘧 𝘩𝘦 𝘪𝘴 𝘵𝘳𝘢𝘪𝘯𝘦𝘥 𝘪𝘯 𝘦𝘷𝘪𝘭, 𝘰𝘳 𝘯𝘦𝘨𝘭𝘦𝘤𝘵𝘦𝘥 𝘢𝘴 𝘢𝘯𝘪𝘮𝘢𝘭𝘴 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘯𝘦𝘨𝘭𝘦𝘤𝘵𝘦𝘥, 𝘩𝘦 𝘸𝘪𝘭𝘭 𝘣𝘦𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘦 𝘭𝘰𝘴𝘵 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘳𝘶𝘪𝘯𝘦𝘥. 𝘐𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘤𝘢𝘴𝘦, 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘣𝘶𝘳𝘥𝘦𝘯 𝘰𝘧 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘱𝘰𝘯𝘴𝘪𝘣𝘪𝘭𝘪𝘵𝘺 𝘧𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘴 𝘶𝘱𝘰𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘰𝘴𝘦 𝘸𝘩𝘰 𝘸𝘦𝘳𝘦 𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘳𝘶𝘴𝘵𝘦𝘥 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘤𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘢𝘶𝘵𝘩𝘰𝘳𝘪𝘵𝘺."

(Iḥyāʾ ʿUlūm al-Dīn, 4:106)

Precious, Precious Daughters

The shaikh, Dr. Muḥammad ibn Ghālib Al-ʿUmarī, may Allāh protect him, said:

Some fathers rejoice at having male offspring; they haven’t realized, along the same lines, the excellence of daughters and raising them.

How many a daughter tells the story of her father’s [good] work in raising her–through her good manners, her beautiful self-control, her true chastity and self-restraint.

She pays no attention to temptations, doesn’t get weak in the face of distractions, or become lax about matters concerning good behavior and conduct.

Daughters are the precious ones, the ones who give us much needed company, as our Prophet ﷺ said.

Source: @m_g_alomari. 21 May 21.

Translator: Mikail ibn Mahboob Ariff
Date published: May 21st, 2021

Conceal Your Child’s Beauty to Prevent the Evil Eye

al-Baghawī (رحمه الله) said:

“ʿUthmān once saw a beautiful child and said:
‘Cover the dimple on his chin so that he will not be affected by the evil eye.’”

Ibn ʿUthaymīn (رحمه الله) said:

“If a person dresses his children in worn or unattractive clothing out of fear of the evil eye, there is no harm in that…”

References:
• al-Baghawī, Sharḥ al-Sunnah, Vol. 12, p. 166
• Ibn ʿUthaymīn, Al-Qawl al-Mufīd ʿalā Kitāb al-Tawḥīd, Vol. 1, p. 180 — Ṣalāḥ al-Irānī.

Imagine you are a Muslim and a child asks you: Why do we pray Dhuhr and Asr silently while we recite aloud in Maghrib and Isha

(And you don't know the answer)

1. Historical Wisdom Protecting the Early Muslims:

In the early days of Islam in Makkah, Muslims were heavily persecuted.

If the Quran was recited loudly during the day, the disbelievers would mock the Quran and harm the believers. So Allah made some daytime prayers silent, helping Muslims worship safely and protect the message of Islam.

2. Psychological Wisdom - Calm During a Busy Day:

Dhuhr and Asr happen during the busiest hours of the day.

People are working, moving around, thinking about responsibilities, and surrounded by noise. Silent prayer creates a private moment of peace between a servant and Allah.

It helps the heart disconnect from worldly distractions and regain focus.

3. The Peace of the Night:

Fajr, Maghrib, and Isha happen during quieter times of the day.

At night and early morning, the environment is calmer and the heart is naturally more reflective.

Reciting the Quran aloud during these prayers increases concentration, prevents distraction, and brings a deeper feeling of tranquility and khushu.

4. Variety Prevents Routine:

If every prayer were exactly the same, people could fall into habit and lose attentiveness.

This beautiful balance between silent and loud prayers keeps the worshipper spiritually awake and mindful throughout the day.

Explanation for a Child:

Allah gave us quiet prayers during the busy day so we can find peace away from noise, and louder prayers during calm times so our hearts can deeply feel the beauty of the Quran.

We pray this way because the Prophet ﷺ prayed this way.

Allah says:

“Indeed in the Messenger of Allah you have an excellent example.” (Qur’an 33:21)

And the Prophet ﷺ said:

Pray as you have seen me praying.
(Sahih al-Bukhari 631)

Ibn Rajab رحمه الله:

Many of the Salaf recommended making
an abundance of supplication on the days of at-Tashriq.

'Akramah said: It is recommended to supplicate on the days of at-Tashriq:

رَبَّنَآ ءَاتِنَا فِى ٱلدُّنْيَا حَسَنَةًۭ وَفِى ٱلْـَٔاخِرَةِ حَسَنَةًۭ وَقِنَا عَذَابَ ٱلنَّارِ

(Our Lord, give us in this world [that which is] good and in the Hereafter [that which is] good and protect us from the punishment of the Fire)
[al-Baqarah: 201]

This supplication is from the most comprehensive of supplications of good. The Prophet ﷺ used to supplicate with it abundantly.

It is narrated that he ﷺ would supplicate with it the most, and when he be would supplicate [with other supplications], he ﷺ would combine it with them.

The supplication combines the good of this life and the hereafter.

al-Hasan said: The good in this life is knowledge and worship and in the hereafter, paradise.

Sufyan said: The good in this life is knowledge and good, wholesome provisions, and in the hereafter, paradise.

📖لطائف المعارف 505

Dear Parents

Raising teenagers today cannot be left to chance. It requires us to be proactive, intentional and deliberate in our strategies. Most importantly, it requires our fervent du'a.

We have an immense task ahead of us if we are to raise morally upright, intellectually sound and spiritually grounded individuals.

To groom a generation that excels brilliantly in this duniya while keeping their focus firmly on Jannah, we must refuse to condone misbehaviour, whether at home or in school. Raising children with barakah is a joint effort. We need you to help us help you.

Never underestimate the small, consistent investments you make in your children today. Your time and attention, your firm chastisement and boundaries, your deliberate character building efforts - these are the exact bricks our teenagers need to build unshakable habits for success in both worlds.

Please, give the children what it takes, however taxing it seems. We cannot afford any laxity. Let us do this hard work together. Let us leave a legacy of grounded Muslim youth who will not only raise the banner of Islam with pride but also build honourable names for their families.

Remember, you are creating memories today. These teenagers will soon become adults. They will refer back to your actions tomorrow. Even if your discipline seems harsh to them now, they will be deeply grateful in later years when they understand it was done in good faith, out of pure love and for the good of their future.

Let's do the hard task today. Let's have that tough conversation today, so that we can rest and enjoy the returns tomorrow.
May we never cry or regret over our efforts in later years. May our children and students make us proud in this world and the next.
Aameen.

Have you ever seen a millionaire with righteous children? It's very rare. Despite having enough wealth to afford the best education and tarbiyah, their children often end up secular and unreligious.

On the other hand, most of the righteous people we know of grew up in poorer households and neighbourhoods.

However, the opposite can also be true. Sometimes, people who grow up in poorer households end up uninterested in Deen.

The point is, money is not the most important factor in raising righteous children. Money helps, without a doubt. But whoever wants to raise righteous children will find a way to do it, whether they live in a mansion or a tent. It's mainly about mindset and priorities.

The first step is to choose a righteous spouse who shares the same goals and values as you do. With the right person beside you, you'll be able to raise righteous children, whether you're rich or poor.

‎Abī Wāʾil (رحمه الله) said :

‎The daughter of ʿAbd Allāh ʾIbn Masʿūd approached [him], and she was a young girl, so he embraced her to his chest and then kissed her, and then said:

‎ “Welcome, O my veil from the Fire”

‎كتاب مكارم الأخلاق للخرائطي

The Prophet ﷺ said: “Allaah will give shade, to seven, on the Day when there will be no shade but His. (Among this seven will be): ‘a youth who has been brought up in the worship of Allaah.’”
[Saheehain]

Shaikh Ibn al-`Uthaymeen رحمه الله said:
“ ‘Youth’ (al-Shaab) is an age between 15 years and 30 years.”
[Sharh Riyaadh al-Saaliheen (1/462)]

The meaning of the name “Ibrahim” (Abraham), is from the Syriac: “Ab-Rahim” (meaning: merciful father)

و { إِبْرَاهِيمَ } معناه في السريانية أب رحيم

FAMILY PSYCHOLOGY: BITTER BUT TRUE

1. Emotionally distant parents often raise emotionally hungry adults.
Many people spend years searching for the love, validation, reassurance, and emotional safety they never received growing up.

2. Strict parenting often creates better liars, not better children.
When children fear punishment more than understanding, they learn to hide mistakes instead of being honest about them.

3. Children who feel emotionally safe become more confident adults.
When mistakes are met with guidance instead of shame, children learn resilience instead of fear.

4. Overprotective parenting can weaken self-belief.
Children who are never allowed to struggle often grow up doubting their ability to handle life on their own.

5. Parents teach relationships without saying a word.
Children learn how love looks, how conflict is handled, and what respect means by watching their parents every day.

6. Ignored children often become adults who constantly seek approval.
When emotional needs go unmet at home, many spend years trying to earn validation from everyone else.

7. Family wounds often show up in adult relationships.
Unhealed childhood experiences can quietly influence trust, boundaries, attachment, and self-worth.

8. Children remember how you made them feel more than what you bought them.
Years later, they may forget the gifts but they will remember whether they felt loved, safe, heard, and accepted.

9. The family cycle usually changes because one person chooses awareness.
The person who decides to heal, learn, and grow often becomes the reason future generations suffer less.

10. Love alone is not enough—presence matters too.
Many parents love their children deeply, but children also need time, attention, emotional safety, and connection.

Family shapes the mind long before the world does.

The words spoken at home...
the love given or withheld...
the emotional patterns repeated for years...

often become the voice people carry inside themselves for life.

That is why patience matters.
Understanding matters.
And emotional safety matters more than most people realize.

✨🙌🏾💫

Allāh Is Most Merciful

Ḥammād Ibn Salamah [رحمه الله] said:

❝If I had the option, I would [still] prefer that Allāh held me accountable for my actions rather than my parents, since He is more merciful than even my own parents.❞

[Siyar Aʿlām Al-Nubalāʾ, (7/449)]

A Family’s Blessings are Connected to Their Righteousness

Imam Ibn Kathīr رحمه الله said:

“The blessings bestowed upon children are through the righteous deeds of their parents, and the blessings bestowed upon parents are through the supplications of their children.”

📚 Al-Bidāyah wa’n-Nihāyah (20/416)

The deeds of the parents are supported by the statement of Allah, the Mighty and Majestic, in Sūrat al-Kahf:

﴿وَكَانَ أَبُوهُمَا صَالِحًا﴾

“And their father was a righteous man.” (18:82)

And the supplication of the child is supported by the statement of the Messenger ﷺ in the hadith:

”When a person dies, his deeds are cut off except for three”, and then he mentioned: “…a righteous child who prays for him.”

(Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 1631).

And Allah knows best.

From the Book: مكارم الأخلاق ومعاليها ومحمود طرائقها

Chapter: Compassion toward daughters, treating them well, and the virtue therein.

634 — Naṣr ibn Dāwūd al-Ṣāghānī narrated to us: ʿUbayd Allāh ibn ʿAmr, from the people of Mecca, narrated to us: Ṭalḥa ibn Zayd narrated to us, from al-Aʿmash, from Abī Wāʾil, who said:

A daughter of ʿAbd Allāh bin Masʿūd came forward — she was a young girl — so he drew her to his chest, then kissed her, then said: “Welcome! O veil of ʿAbd Allāh from the Fire!”

He then said: I heard the Messenger of Allāh ﷺ say: “Whoever has a daughter, and he teaches her good manners and does so well, and he nourishes her and does so well, and he lavishes upon her from the blessing that Allāh has lavished upon him — she will be for him a protection on his right and on his left from the Fire, leading him to Paradise.”

Kids Discipline.

“Play with them for the first seven years (of their life); then teach them for the next seven years; then advise them for the next seven years (and after that)." Ali ibn Abi Taalib radiyallahu anha.

·First Seven Years

In the first seven years, your goal is to build a strong connection to your child. This is the foundation, the base from which your relationship with them grows. If this is rock solid, the remaining years will be much easier. If this foundation forms poorly, the next years will be more challenging. If you have young children, this (first seven years) is the time to roll up your sleeves and invest, heavily, in your and their future.

·Next Seven Years

This is the time to teach them everything — aqeedah, halaal and haraam, fiqh, all the things they need to know to survive throughout their life. Qur’an and seerah are also very important. This is the time they are sponges, ready to soak up anything and everything you tell them, teach them, show them, and do in front of them. If you built that solid foundation in ages 0-7, they are now more than willing and happy to learn from you.

Teach them sports, too; Rasulullah (salallahu alayhi wa sallam) said: “Teach your children swimming, archery and horseback riding.” They gain many benefits from it, including physical fitness, learning teamwork, and sportsmanship.

·The Final Seven Years

Once your children hit 14, they are probably already mukallaf (full adults Islamically, and accountable for their actions) — this happens at puberty, or at age 15 at the latest.

At this age, you are mostly out of the picture. Children achieve independence; their personalities manifest; they look more to their peers than their parents and families. During these critical years, befriend them, advise them, and do what you can; understand that they are now full adults, and the choices are theirs to make, right or wrong.

If you worked hard during the last two periods of seven years, you will already be that trusted confidant, that advisor, that go-to person when they need help or advice. Be part of their lives, and advise them as best you can.

I watched the children grow.

On each of my children's graduation days, there is one thing that almost always happens: a quiet tear of joy. It comes from knowing how hard I have worked and how Allah, in His infinite Mercy, has blessed them, crowned our efforts, and rewarded the sacrifices made by both their father and me.

It is difficult to raise one child; how much more challenging is it to raise multiple children and teenagers as they journey toward adulthood?
Moments like these remind me that we should show even more gratitude to Allah for granting us this opportunity, while some of our beloved brothers and sisters are still waiting and praying for the same blessing.

We should be grateful that Allah blessed us with Islam and allowed our children to follow us upon this noble religion.

We should be grateful that He gave us the Qur'an and enabled our children to learn it, read it, and even memorize this noble Book.

Yet, while we give all praise and gratitude to Allah for these achievements, we continue to beg Him to grant them steadfastness upon the Deen, Islam, the Qur'an, Ṣalāh, Tawḥīd, and Tahajjud. We ask Him to rectify their shortcomings and correct any unhealthy habits or behaviors that may be present in them.

May Allah grant them hearts that fear Him, ears that listen to beneficial advice, and souls that readily accept correction when they are reminded of goodness and truth. May He make them a source of reward for us and not a proof against us on the Day of Judgment. Āmīn.

Umm Sumayyah Mai

*How To Raise Corrupt Kids*

(1) Never invite or pray in front of them. Let them grow up thinking is just for old people.

(2) Hand them a screen, not your time. Let cartoons raise them. You’re too “busy,” remember?

(3) Be harsh when they mess up. But never praise their efforts or model forgiveness.

(4) Gossip in front of them. They’re listening. And learning.

(5) Don’t teach Qur’an until you’re “finally ready.” They’ll fill that gap up with TikTok reciters and Instagram imams.

(6) Compare them to other kids constantly. Build jealousy in them, and kill their confidence.

(7) Enroll them in a secular school, then expect Islām at home to win. You think 8 hours a day of reprogramming is a joke?

(8) Keep them far from scholars and students of knowledge.

(9) Never explain the “why” behind the rules and commandments.

(10) Often argue with your spouse in front of them. Let them feel unsafe and confused at home.

(11) Never apologize to them. Let your ego be greater than their emotional health.

(12) Avoid heart-to-heart conversations. They’ll open up — but not to you.

(13) Make everything about grades. Not about character, not about ʿibādah. Just grades.

(14) Dress them like mini influencers. Then be shocked when they crave attention over īmān.

(15) Be a Muslim only in name, not in routine. Let them see the hypocrisy early.

(16) Use Islam to shame, not to shape. Make them hate what was supposed to heal.

(17) Make them fear your slippers more than the fire of Jahannam.

(18) Ignore their talents. Mock their abilities. Then pray they “find their path” someday.

(19) Pay for toys, and never for good tarbiyah (upbringing) and materials.

(20) Never change, but expect them to.

Now flip it.

Do the opposite.

And you’ll raise righteous children (by the will of Allah).

Via Bryt