Parents are not just family they are a test of your iman.
Allah placed kindness to them right after His worship and the scholars linked honoring them to the strength of faith
Speak gently be patient lower your wing to them.
Allah placed kindness to them right after His worship and the scholars linked honoring them to the strength of faith
Speak gently be patient lower your wing to them.
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Forwarded from ســفيـنة الصـابريـن
Being dutiful to your parents is not a duty to be shared. It is an honor to compete for.
Not “your turn” and “my turn”, but who will be quicker to serve, who will speak more gently, who will earn a smile… or a du‘ā from them.
Because every moment with them is a door and every act of kindness brings you closer to Jannah. So rush to them before you are forced to wish for one more chance.
May Allah make us among those who honor their parents with sincerity. 🍃✨️
Not “your turn” and “my turn”, but who will be quicker to serve, who will speak more gently, who will earn a smile… or a du‘ā from them.
Because every moment with them is a door and every act of kindness brings you closer to Jannah. So rush to them before you are forced to wish for one more chance.
May Allah make us among those who honor their parents with sincerity. 🍃✨️
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“I will not force my children...”
Someone said: “I will not force my children to pray, nor will I impose the hijab upon them. Acts of worship must come from conviction, sincerity for the sake of Allah, and love for Him, and without it, it is unnecessary.”
We reply:
But when it comes to their worldly lives, you will wake them early for school, make them study, complete their assignments, and even give them medicine despite their dislike.
These are temporary matters, and you strive for them so they may succeed in this life.
As for striving to save them from the punishment of the Hereafter and guiding them toward eternal success, does that not also require care, effort, and a sense of responsibility?
Someone said: “I will not force my children to pray, nor will I impose the hijab upon them. Acts of worship must come from conviction, sincerity for the sake of Allah, and love for Him, and without it, it is unnecessary.”
We reply:
But when it comes to their worldly lives, you will wake them early for school, make them study, complete their assignments, and even give them medicine despite their dislike.
These are temporary matters, and you strive for them so they may succeed in this life.
As for striving to save them from the punishment of the Hereafter and guiding them toward eternal success, does that not also require care, effort, and a sense of responsibility?
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Kindness to Parents & Jihād
Al-Hassan Al-Basrī رحمه اللّٰه:
"Nothing in voluntary acts of worship compares to kindness to one's parents, not Hajj, nor Jihād."
[Adab Al-Hasan Al-Basri Dar An-Nawadir (p133) Trans: Abu Maryam]
Al-Hassan Al-Basrī رحمه اللّٰه:
"Nothing in voluntary acts of worship compares to kindness to one's parents, not Hajj, nor Jihād."
[Adab Al-Hasan Al-Basri Dar An-Nawadir (p133) Trans: Abu Maryam]
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Learn Manners before taking Knowledge
Malik ibn Anas, may Allah have mercy on him, said:
تَعَلَّمِ الأَدَبَ قَبْلَ أَنْ تَتَعَلَّمَ الْعِلْمَ
Learn good manners before seeking knowledge.
Source: Gharāʼib Mālik ibn Anas 45
And Malik said:
كانت أمي تعممني وتقول لي اذهب إلى ربيعة فتعلم من أدبه قبل علمه
My mother would dress me up and say to me: Go to Sheikh Rabi’ah and learn from his manners before his knowledge.
Source: Tartīb al-Madārik 1/130
Ibn Al-Mubarak, may Allah have mercy on him, said to the people of hadīth:
أنتم إِلَى قَلِيلٍ مِنَ الْأَدَبِ أَحْوَجُ منكم إِلَى كَثِيرٍ مِنَ الْعِلْمِ
You are in greater need of a little manners than a great deal of knowledge.
Source: Tārīkh Dimashq 32918
And Ibn Al-Mubarak said:
طلبت الأدب ثلاثين سنة وطلبت العلم عشرين سنة وكانوا يطلبون الأدب ثم العلم
I sought manners for thirty years and I sought knowledge for twenty years. The righteous predecessors would seek manners and then seek knowledge.
Source: Ghāyat al-Nihāyah 1/446
Sufyan Ath-Thawri, may Allah have mercy on him, said:
كَانَ الرَّجُلُ إِذَا أَرَادَ أَنْ يَكْتُبَ الْحَدِيثَ تَأَدَّبَ وَتَعَبَّدَ قَبْلَ ذَلِكَ بِعِشْرِينَ سَنَةً
If a man intended to write the hadīth, he would study good manners and worship for twenty years before doing so.
Source: Hilyat al-Awliyā 361
Al-Laith ibn Sa’d, may Allah have mercy on him, said to the people of hadīth:
تَعَلَّمُوا الْحِلْمَ قَبْلَ الْعِلْمِ
Learn forbearance before seeking knowledge.
Source: Jāmi’ Bayān al-‘Ilm 581
In fact, the righteous predecessors would learn more from a scholar’s manners than they would from his knowledge.
Az-Zuhri, may Allah have mercy on him, said:
كُنَّا نَأْتِي الْعَالِمَ فَمَا نَتَعَلَّمُ مِنْ أَدَبِهِ أَحَبُّ إِلَيْنَا مِنْ عِلْمِهِ
We would come to a scholar and what we learned from his manners was more beloved to us than his knowledge.
Source: Hilyat al-Awliyā 4575
Ibn Wahb, may Allah have mercy on him, said:
مَا تَعَلَّمْتُ مِنْ أَدَبِ مَالِكٍ أَفْضَلَ مِنْ عِلْمِهِ
What I learned from the manners of Malik was better than his knowledge.
Source: Jāmi’ Bayān al-‘Ilm 581
Malik ibn Anas, may Allah have mercy on him, said:
تَعَلَّمِ الأَدَبَ قَبْلَ أَنْ تَتَعَلَّمَ الْعِلْمَ
Learn good manners before seeking knowledge.
Source: Gharāʼib Mālik ibn Anas 45
And Malik said:
كانت أمي تعممني وتقول لي اذهب إلى ربيعة فتعلم من أدبه قبل علمه
My mother would dress me up and say to me: Go to Sheikh Rabi’ah and learn from his manners before his knowledge.
Source: Tartīb al-Madārik 1/130
Ibn Al-Mubarak, may Allah have mercy on him, said to the people of hadīth:
أنتم إِلَى قَلِيلٍ مِنَ الْأَدَبِ أَحْوَجُ منكم إِلَى كَثِيرٍ مِنَ الْعِلْمِ
You are in greater need of a little manners than a great deal of knowledge.
Source: Tārīkh Dimashq 32918
And Ibn Al-Mubarak said:
طلبت الأدب ثلاثين سنة وطلبت العلم عشرين سنة وكانوا يطلبون الأدب ثم العلم
I sought manners for thirty years and I sought knowledge for twenty years. The righteous predecessors would seek manners and then seek knowledge.
Source: Ghāyat al-Nihāyah 1/446
Sufyan Ath-Thawri, may Allah have mercy on him, said:
كَانَ الرَّجُلُ إِذَا أَرَادَ أَنْ يَكْتُبَ الْحَدِيثَ تَأَدَّبَ وَتَعَبَّدَ قَبْلَ ذَلِكَ بِعِشْرِينَ سَنَةً
If a man intended to write the hadīth, he would study good manners and worship for twenty years before doing so.
Source: Hilyat al-Awliyā 361
Al-Laith ibn Sa’d, may Allah have mercy on him, said to the people of hadīth:
تَعَلَّمُوا الْحِلْمَ قَبْلَ الْعِلْمِ
Learn forbearance before seeking knowledge.
Source: Jāmi’ Bayān al-‘Ilm 581
In fact, the righteous predecessors would learn more from a scholar’s manners than they would from his knowledge.
Az-Zuhri, may Allah have mercy on him, said:
كُنَّا نَأْتِي الْعَالِمَ فَمَا نَتَعَلَّمُ مِنْ أَدَبِهِ أَحَبُّ إِلَيْنَا مِنْ عِلْمِهِ
We would come to a scholar and what we learned from his manners was more beloved to us than his knowledge.
Source: Hilyat al-Awliyā 4575
Ibn Wahb, may Allah have mercy on him, said:
مَا تَعَلَّمْتُ مِنْ أَدَبِ مَالِكٍ أَفْضَلَ مِنْ عِلْمِهِ
What I learned from the manners of Malik was better than his knowledge.
Source: Jāmi’ Bayān al-‘Ilm 581
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You can be successful, respected, and admired by people… but if you’ve failed your parents, you’ve missed something huge.
They carried you before you could walk, fed you before you could earn, and loved you when you had nothing to offer in return.
Now roles reverse… and suddenly patience becomes “too much,” calls become “later,” and time becomes “when I’m free.”
Allah didn’t just recommend kindness to parents — He placed it right after His worship.
Not just obedience… but ihsaan — excellence.
Lower your voice.
Watch your tone.
Show up for them — not when it’s convenient, but when it matters. Because one day, that door will close… and no amount of regret will bring it back.
#Parents #RespectParents #LoveYourParents #FamilyFirst #IslamicReminder
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They carried you before you could walk, fed you before you could earn, and loved you when you had nothing to offer in return.
Now roles reverse… and suddenly patience becomes “too much,” calls become “later,” and time becomes “when I’m free.”
Allah didn’t just recommend kindness to parents — He placed it right after His worship.
Not just obedience… but ihsaan — excellence.
Lower your voice.
Watch your tone.
Show up for them — not when it’s convenient, but when it matters. Because one day, that door will close… and no amount of regret will bring it back.
#Parents #RespectParents #LoveYourParents #FamilyFirst #IslamicReminder
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Dear parents, know this.
Mobile is the world of your child (unfortunately) and if you take away his world, he/she will become crazy, aggressive, maniac, and what not and will make you an enemy.
All the rage, aggression and negative behaviors he/she exhibits is associated to their fear, anxiety and anger of being stopped, being surveilled. Their brain constantly releases dopamine and blocks their prefrontal cortex (which is the part of brain responsible for seeing consequences of an action. So literally they are a zombie at that time. And with the fear, anxiety and pressure of being stopped and watched, cortisol keeps releasing, which is the stress chemical, and adds to their rage and aggression.
So, your child does not hate religion.
Your child does not have mental health issue.
Your child does not have Nazar.
Your child does not have black magic.
He/she is simply being controlled by the strings that were designed 20 year ago to control and manipulate minds, and he/she is exactly the target of that and they have got trapped. Consider them as patients needing help, not normal. Forget about 20th century parenting methods. Research yourself about how to do parenting in the digital world. You will find lots and lots of stuff.
Mobile is the world of your child (unfortunately) and if you take away his world, he/she will become crazy, aggressive, maniac, and what not and will make you an enemy.
All the rage, aggression and negative behaviors he/she exhibits is associated to their fear, anxiety and anger of being stopped, being surveilled. Their brain constantly releases dopamine and blocks their prefrontal cortex (which is the part of brain responsible for seeing consequences of an action. So literally they are a zombie at that time. And with the fear, anxiety and pressure of being stopped and watched, cortisol keeps releasing, which is the stress chemical, and adds to their rage and aggression.
So, your child does not hate religion.
Your child does not have mental health issue.
Your child does not have Nazar.
Your child does not have black magic.
He/she is simply being controlled by the strings that were designed 20 year ago to control and manipulate minds, and he/she is exactly the target of that and they have got trapped. Consider them as patients needing help, not normal. Forget about 20th century parenting methods. Research yourself about how to do parenting in the digital world. You will find lots and lots of stuff.
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This generation is growing old before its time.
Parents think their children are fine, while the children are destroying themselves trying to live up to their parents’ expectations.
Some fall into the pain of love at a very young age, some are becoming mentally broken because of their parents’ constant fights, and some are only staying alive because suicide is forbidden.
Parents think their children are fine, while the children are destroying themselves trying to live up to their parents’ expectations.
Some fall into the pain of love at a very young age, some are becoming mentally broken because of their parents’ constant fights, and some are only staying alive because suicide is forbidden.
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WISDOM FOR PARENTING
1- Avoid Giving your child everything he asks for. He will grow up believing that he has the right to get everything he wants.
2-Avoid laughing when your child speaks insulting words. He will grow up thinking that disrespect is entertainment.
3-Avoid remaining insensitive to bad behavior that he can display without scolding him for his bad behavior. He will grow up thinking that there are no rules in society.
4- Avoid picking up anything that your child messes up. He will grow up believing that others must take responsibility for his responsibilities.
5- Avoid letting him watch any program on TV. He will grow up thinking that there is no difference between being a child and being an adult.
6- Avoid giving your child all the money he asks for. He will grow up thinking that getting money is easy and will not hesitate to steal for it.
7- Always avoid putting yourself on his side when he is wrong against the neighbors, his teachers, the police. He will grow up thinking that everything he does is right, it is the others who are wrong.
8- Avoid leaving him alone at home when you go to the place of worship, otherwise he will grow up thinking that God does not exist.
May our labour over our children not be in vain.
1- Avoid Giving your child everything he asks for. He will grow up believing that he has the right to get everything he wants.
2-Avoid laughing when your child speaks insulting words. He will grow up thinking that disrespect is entertainment.
3-Avoid remaining insensitive to bad behavior that he can display without scolding him for his bad behavior. He will grow up thinking that there are no rules in society.
4- Avoid picking up anything that your child messes up. He will grow up believing that others must take responsibility for his responsibilities.
5- Avoid letting him watch any program on TV. He will grow up thinking that there is no difference between being a child and being an adult.
6- Avoid giving your child all the money he asks for. He will grow up thinking that getting money is easy and will not hesitate to steal for it.
7- Always avoid putting yourself on his side when he is wrong against the neighbors, his teachers, the police. He will grow up thinking that everything he does is right, it is the others who are wrong.
8- Avoid leaving him alone at home when you go to the place of worship, otherwise he will grow up thinking that God does not exist.
May our labour over our children not be in vain.
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🖤 OH MUSLIMS, DO NOT SHARE PICTURES OF YOUR CHILDREN ON SOCIAL MEDIA 🖤
People don’t take this seriously enough…
Allah says in the Qur’an:
“And from the evil of the envier when he envies.”
(Surah Al-Falaq 113:5)
Not everybody that looks at your child loves your child.
Not everybody that smiles at your baby wishes them well.
Some people carry jealousy in their hearts…
and that jealousy can harm—by the permission of Allah.
When you constantly post your children, expose their beauty, their milestones, their happiness to the world… you are opening a door.
A door for envy.
A door for the evil eye.
The Prophet ﷺ said:
“The evil eye is real.”
Children are innocent.
They don’t protect themselves.
YOU are their protection.
So when your child suddenly becomes sick, irritable, drained…
ask yourself:
Who has been looking at them?
What have I exposed them to?
Not everything is meant to be shared.
Some blessings are meant to be protected.
Say: Masha’Allah. TabarakAllah.
Recite protection over your children.
Keep some things private.
Because not every eye that sees…
comes with love.
& Allahu is our source of strength. Ameen
People don’t take this seriously enough…
Allah says in the Qur’an:
“And from the evil of the envier when he envies.”
(Surah Al-Falaq 113:5)
Not everybody that looks at your child loves your child.
Not everybody that smiles at your baby wishes them well.
Some people carry jealousy in their hearts…
and that jealousy can harm—by the permission of Allah.
When you constantly post your children, expose their beauty, their milestones, their happiness to the world… you are opening a door.
A door for envy.
A door for the evil eye.
The Prophet ﷺ said:
“The evil eye is real.”
Children are innocent.
They don’t protect themselves.
YOU are their protection.
So when your child suddenly becomes sick, irritable, drained…
ask yourself:
Who has been looking at them?
What have I exposed them to?
Not everything is meant to be shared.
Some blessings are meant to be protected.
Say: Masha’Allah. TabarakAllah.
Recite protection over your children.
Keep some things private.
Because not every eye that sees…
comes with love.
& Allahu is our source of strength. Ameen