✨🌟✨*Beautiful Hadith about Fathers*

Abu Darda' (RA) heard the Prophet (ﷺ) say that: "The father is the middle door of Paradise (i.e. the best way to Paradise), so it is up to you whether you take advantage of it or not."

(Sunan ibn Majah, Vol. 5, Book 33, Hadith 3663)

Our fathers help raise us, provide for us and support our mothers and the entire family. We often elevate the status of our mothers - and we should - but it is important not to neglect the role of our fathers and the respect they deserve. Paradise lies at the feet of your mother and the door to it is through your father. Love, take care of and appreciate your parents. You only have them for a short time and they are a huge blessing in every way. Unfortunately, like all blessings, they are often only appreciated once they are taken away from us.

*May Allah bless all the fathers and mothers*

This is how a child loses trust in their parents;

- Asks a genuine question. Gets dismissed.
- Shares excitement about something. Gets mocked.
- Comes home with a problem. Gets lectured instead of heard.
- Cries. Gets told to stop being dramatic.
- Fails at something. Gets compared to someone else.
- Achieves something. Parents barely look up.
- Tries to talk. Parent is on the phone.
- Learns that home is not a safe place to be honest.
- Starts hiding things.
- No quality time. Only correction.
- No "I'm proud of you" without a condition attached.
- No listening without an agenda.
- No apology when the parent is wrong.
- No curiosity about who the child actually is.
- Child raises themselves emotionally.
- Grows up. Moves away as fast as possible.
- Calls home out of obligation, not love.
- Becomes a stranger who shares blood.

And the parent wonders why their child never opens up.

To raise a child who actually trusts you, do this;

- Put the phone down and look them in the eyes when they talk.
- Ask questions about their world without judging the answers.
- Apologize when you're wrong. They're watching everything.
- Celebrate who they are, not just what they achieve.
- Make home the safest place they know.
- Listen to understand, not to respond.
- Show up to the small moments. Those are the big ones.
- Tell them you love them without them having to earn it.
- Be the person they run to, not from.

NON-NEGOTIABLE.

We do good to our parents because we're commanded by Allah to do so. There's also a lot we can learn from their life experiences.

But that doesn't always mean they are the best to seek religious advice from. A lot of parents lack knowledge and understanding. And many are misguided.

Schools need to teach all of this on an urgent basis ...

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11. Mushroom Cultivation
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34. Rural Integrated Farm System
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The Prophets were Fathers of Daughters
– Ibnul-Qayyim al-Jawziyyah رحمه الله

💎💎💎💎

Ibnul-Qayyim al-Jawziyyah رحمه الله [751 AH] said; “Allah ﷻ has revealed in regards to the right of women

فَإِنْ كَرِهْتُمُوهُنَّ فَعَسَى أَنْ تَكْرَهُوا شَيْئًا وَيَجْعَلُ اللهُ فِيهِ خَيْرًا كَثِيراً “If you dislike them, it may be that you dislike a thing and Allah brings through it a great deal of good.” [Surah an-Nisā 4:19]

And just like daughters, a person may find much good in them in this life and the next. It is quite repulsive that a man should hate that which pleases Allah ﷻ, and to hate a blessing that is bestowed upon him. It was mentioned that Ṣāliḥ ibn Aḥmad said; ‘Whenever my father [Imām Aḥmad] had a daughter born to him, he would say: the Prophets were the fathers of daughters, and in regarding the daughters there has come [in the narrations a reward] that is known.’ Yaʿqūb ibn Bukhtān said; ‘Seven daughters were born to me, and every time I had a daughter born to me I would go to Aḥmad ibn Ḥanbal and he would say to me; ‘Yaʿqūb! The Prophets were fathers of daughters..’ and his speech would do away with my worry.'”

TRANSLATOR: Ṣalaḥ al-Irānī
SOURCE: Ṭuḥfat al-Mawdūd bi Aḥkām al-Mawlūd, Ibn Qayyim al-Jawzīyah, Muḥammad ibn Abī Bakr. al-Maktabah al-Qayyimah, 1961. P.26

✨ The Value of Parents — A Heart-Touching Advice

A young man once complained to a religious scholar:
“My parents are old. I fulfill all their needs, yet they remain unhappy with me.”

The scholar looked at him thoughtfully and said:
“My son, that is exactly the reason for their displeasure… you only give them what they ask for.”

The young man was surprised and asked for clarification.

The scholar replied:
“Have you ever thought… before you even came into this world, your parents had already prepared everything for you?
Your clothes, your food, your safety, your comfort… they took care of every small and big need of yours.”

“Did they ever ask you whether they should enroll you in school?
Did they seek your permission about how to shape your future?
No… they always fulfilled your needs even before you asked.”

“Your first bicycle, your first school, your first job…
Even your upbringing, your speech, your way of living…
everything was given to you without you asking for it.”

“And today you say you give them what they ask for…
My son, parents are not meant to ask.”

✨ The real lesson is this:
Learn to give to your parents before they ask.

✔ Ask about their problems
✔ Give them your time
✔ Serve them with love
✔ Take responsibility for their needs
✔ Consider them a blessing, not a burden

Sometimes massage their feet…
Sometimes apply oil to their hair…
Treat them the way they treated you in your childhood…

Remember:
Just as they raised you without expecting anything in return…
you too should treat them with kindness and sincerity.

Then you will see…
they will be happy, and Allah will be pleased with you.

Hearing this advice, tears flowed from the young man’s eyes…
and every heart in the gathering was deeply moved.

May Allah grant us the ability to value and honor our parents…
Ameen, Ya Rabb al-‘Alameen 🤲

⸻

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Read this with the intention to act upon it, and share it with your loved ones and community for the sake of Allah’s pleasure. Perhaps your small effort may become a means of changing someone’s life.

Raise your children correctly...

If your child shows no interest in a particular field of study, don’t force them into it.

Ibn al-Qayyim (rahimahullah) advises parents approximately 700 years ago to observe their child's aptitudes and interests, and not force them into a particular field if they have no inclination towards it. Instead, guide them towards areas where they show a natural talent or enthusiasm, while ensuring they receive essential religious education. This approach will help them excel and make a positive contribution, whether in academics, skills like horsemanship, or useful handicrafts. (Tuhfat al-Mawdood fi Ahkaam al-Mawlood (p. 243, 244))

Imam Ibn Hazm said 1000 years ago:
‎ من مال بطبعه إلى علم ما وإن كان أدنى من غيره فلا يشغلها بسواه فيكون كغارس النارجيل بالأندلس وكغارس الزيتون بالهند وكل ذلك لا ينجب
‘𝗜𝗳 𝘀𝗼𝗺𝗲𝗼𝗻𝗲 𝗵𝗮𝘀 𝗮 𝗽𝗮𝗿𝘁𝗶𝗰𝘂𝗹𝗮𝗿 𝗶𝗻𝘁𝗲𝗿𝗲𝘀𝘁 𝗶𝗻 𝘀𝗼𝗺𝗲 𝗳𝗶𝗲𝗹𝗱 - 𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗻 𝗶𝗳 𝗶𝘁’𝘀 𝗮𝗻 𝗶𝗻𝗳𝗲𝗿𝗶𝗼𝗿 𝘀𝗰𝗶𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝘀𝗼𝗺𝗲 𝗼𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿𝘀 - 𝗵𝗲 𝘀𝗵𝗼𝘂𝗹𝗱 𝗳𝗼𝗰𝘂𝘀 𝗼𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝗱𝗶𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘁 𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗲𝗳𝗳𝗼𝗿𝘁𝘀 𝘁𝗼𝘄𝗮𝗿𝗱𝘀 𝗼𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝘀𝗰𝗶𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲𝘀 [𝘄𝗵𝗶𝗰𝗵 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝘆 𝗮𝗿𝗲𝗻’𝘁 𝗶𝗻𝘁𝗲𝗿𝗲𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗱 𝗶𝗻].
𝗢𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿𝘄𝗶𝘀𝗲, 𝗶𝘁 𝘄𝗼𝘂𝗹𝗱 𝗯𝗲 𝗹𝗶𝗸𝗲 𝘁𝗿𝘆𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗼 𝗴𝗿𝗼𝘄 𝗰𝗼𝗰𝗼𝗻𝘂𝘁𝘀 𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲 𝗶𝗻 𝗔𝗻𝗱𝗮𝗹𝘂𝘀 [𝗦𝗽𝗮𝗶𝗻] 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗢𝗹𝗶𝘃𝗲𝘀 𝗶𝗻 𝗜𝗻𝗱𝗶𝗮!
𝗧𝗵𝗲𝘀𝗲 𝗳𝘂𝘁𝗶𝗹𝗲 𝗮𝘁𝘁𝗲𝗺𝗽𝘁𝘀 𝘄𝗶𝗹𝗹 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝗯𝗲 𝗳𝗿𝘂𝗶𝘁𝗳𝘂𝗹.’
[‘Al-Akhlaaq wal-Siyar’, 1/22 credits: Mohmand Afghan]

Mix Rosemary with Cloves: A Secret Nobody Will Ever Tell You – Thank Me Later
A whisper from the past, wrapped in the scent of home

There’s something about the scent of rosemary that instantly brings me back to my childhood—the kind of memory wrapped in the sound of a wooden spoon stirring a pot and the warmth of a kitchen filled with laughter. My mother would hum old folk songs while gently bundling rosemary with cloves, her fingers always sure, always gentle.
She never wrote her recipes down. Her secrets lived in her hands, in the way she touched the herbs, and in the stories she passed on during quiet afternoons. One of her favorite natural blends—one she called her “little helper”—was a mix of rosemary and cloves. Not something you’d find on a pharmacy shelf, but something that lived in the cupboard, waiting for its moment.
And now, I share it with you. A simple, traditional tip that has been quietly comforting generations before us.

🌿 Why Rosemary and Cloves Were Always in Grandma’s Kitchen
Before the age of sprays, pills, and machines, people trusted what they could grow or gather. Rosemary and cloves were staples in many old households—not only for cooking, but for supporting everyday health and creating a sense of well-being. Here are some of the ways this combination has been treasured:
Supports mental clarity: The scent of rosemary is often said to help with focus and alertness, especially during long afternoons or quiet study.
Believed to ease tension: In folk traditions, the warm aroma of cloves paired with rosemary is thought to help the body and mind feel more balanced.
Freshens the air naturally: This duo is known for creating a clean, herbal scent that helps replace artificial air fresheners.
May help deter bugs: Just like your grandmother’s lemon and cloves, this mixture is often used to help keep unwanted little visitors away.
Used to support scalp and hair vitality: Some traditional hair rinses include rosemary and cloves, believed to help nour

Parents Who Constantly Remind You Of Their Sacrifices Aren’t Seeking Love, They’re Demanding Repayment.
That’s Not Parenting, That’s Emotional Blackmail & Business.

The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said:

“A time will come when the nations will call one another against you just as people invite others to share a dish.”

The companions asked: “Will that be because we are few in number?”

He ﷺ replied:
“No, you will be many on that day, but you will be like the foam of the flood. Allah will remove the fear of you from the hearts of your enemies and will cast weakness into your hearts.”

They asked: “What is this weakness?”
He ﷺ said: “Love of the world (dunya) and hatred of death.”
(Sunan Abi Dawud 4297 — Hasan)

This is not just a prophecy, it is a mirror.

Foam looks large, but it has no weight, no direction, no strength. It moves wherever the current takes it.

And today, we see:
• A huge Ummah, yet divided
• Strength in numbers, but weakness in unity
• Knowledge available, but little action
• Attachment to dunya, but negligence of akhirah

The real problem is not external enemies, it is the internal condition.

Allah says in the Qur’an:
“Indeed, Allah will not change the condition of a people until they change what is in themselves.” (13:11)

This hadith is not meant to create fear, it is meant to awaken responsibility.

The solution is clear:
• Return to sincere faith (Iman)
• Hold firmly to unity (Ummah)
• Detach from excessive love of dunya
• Revive the Sunnah in our lives

Because real strength is not in numbers… it is in obedience to Allah and firmness upon

*أَبــــي وأُمّــــي* 👑 𝗠𝘆 𝗙𝗮𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿 *&* 𝗠𝗼𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿

_Take a moment and look at your father’s face, and the lines on your mother’s face… and realize that those pure faces have changed only through loving and raising you. Pause… look at their hair turning white...and know that they aged while giving you their best._

Gently hold their hands, feel the veins within them… those same hands once held you, protected you, fed you, wiped your tears, stayed awake for you, struggled and worked tirelessly…so that you could live with ease.

Sit beside them and notice the medicines they take… one for blood pressure, one for sugar, another for pain, another for cholesterol… until you realize how much they have endured for you, for your youth, your dreams, and even for the joy of your children.

When you see their backs bend and steps slow... know that the chance to earn Jannah through them is slipping, hold on tight and cherish them.

_Being dutiful to parents does not end. It continues in their lifetime and even after their death, through your duʿāʾ, your charity on their behalf, and every good you do for them._

Nothing is greater after Tawḥīd than being good to your parents.

*وَقَضَىٰ رَبُّكَ أَلَّا تَعْبُدُوا إِلَّا إِيَّاهُ وَبِالْوَالِدَيْنِ إِحْسَانًا ۚ إِمَّا يَبْلُغَنَّ عِندَكَ الْكِبَرَ أَحَدُهُمَا أَوْ كِلَاهُمَا فَلَا تَقُل لَّهُمَا أُفٍّ وَلَا تَنْهَرْهُمَا وَقُل لَّهُمَا قَوْلًا كَرِيمًا*
_*“And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him, and that you be kind to parents. Whether one or both of them reach old age with you, do not even say “uff” to them, nor repel them, but speak to them a noble word."*_

[سورة الإسراء ١٧:٢٣]

*رب ارحـمهـما كـما ربيـانـي صـغـيرا!*
_My Lord, have mercy upon them as they raised me when I was small. 🌸_

♀️ WOMEN LIFE CHANGES BY AGE 💛
♀️ خواتین کی زندگی میں عمر کے ساتھ تبدیلیاں 💛

No one prepares women enough for how much the body changes with age — and that silence often leaves many feeling confused or “not like themselves.”
عورتوں کو اکثر یہ نہیں بتایا جاتا کہ عمر کے ساتھ جسم میں کتنی تبدیلیاں آتی ہیں — اور یہی خاموشی انہیں الجھن اور بے چینی میں ڈال دیتی ہے۔

But here’s the truth: these changes are natural, not a weakness.
لیکن حقیقت یہ ہے: یہ تبدیلیاں قدرتی ہیں، کمزوری نہیں۔

🧕 As women move through phases like Perimenopause and Menopause, the body gradually shifts:
👱‍♀️ جب خواتین پیری مینوپاز (Perimenopause) اور مینوپاز (Menopause) جیسے مراحل سے گزرتی ہیں، تو جسم میں بتدریج تبدیلیاں آتی ہیں:

🔸 Age 35–40
Hormonal changes quietly begin ♀️
ہارمونی تبدیلیاں خاموشی سے شروع ہوتی ہیں

🔸 Age 40–44
Sleep problems may start 😴
نیند کے مسائل شروع ہو سکتے ہیں

🔸 Age 45–47
Early symptoms (fatigue, mood swings)
ابتدائی علامات (تھکن، موڈ میں تبدیلی)

🔸 Age 47–49
Periods become irregular 📅
ماہواری بے قاعدہ ہو جاتی ہے

🔸 Age 48–50
Hot flashes & night sweats 🌡️
گرمی کے جھٹکے اور رات کو پسینہ

🔸 Age 50–51
Mood swings become common 💭
موڈ سوئنگ عام ہو جاتے ہیں

🔸 Age 52–53
1 year without a period = Menopause ♀️
ایک سال تک ماہواری نہ آئے = مینوپاز

🔸 Age 53–55
Symptoms gradually lessen
علامات آہستہ آہستہ کم ہو جاتی ہیں

🔸 Age 55–57
Heart health needs attention ❤️
دل کی صحت پر توجہ ضروری
🔸 Age 57–60
Bone loss risk increases 🦴
ہڈیوں کی کمزوری کا خطرہ بڑھتا ہے

🔸 Age 60–65
Vaginal & urinary discomfort
ویجائنل اور پیشاب سے متعلق مسائل

⚠️ Common symptoms:
عام علامات:
• Sleep disturbance 😴 — نیند کی خرابی
• Fatigue & brain fog 😵‍💫 — تھکن اور دماغی دھند
• Irregular cycles 📅 — بے قاعدہ ماہواری
• Mood swings 💭 — موڈ میں اتار چڑھاؤ
• Bone & heart changes 🦴❤️ — ہڈیوں اور دل کی تبدیلیاں

✨ This phase needs awareness, not shame.
یہ مرحلہ شرمندگی نہیں بلکہ آگاہی مانگتا ہے۔

You’re not weak. You’re evolving.
آپ کمزور نہیں — آپ بدل رہی ہیں۔

💬 Save & share with a woman who needs this reminder.
اس پوسٹ کو محفوظ کریں اور کسی ایسی خاتون کے ساتھ شیئر کریں جسے اس کی ضرورت ہو۔

In this fleeting life, we strive in many directions — some attempts crowned with success, others ending in failure. At times we are content, submitting to the decree of Allah, knowing that success and failure alike are written. Yet one sorrow lingers in the heart: the sadness of our parents when they see us stumble. Their eyes that once glowed with joy at our first steps now dim when our steps falter in the path of life.

It is reported in Tārīkh al-Khaṭīb that Imām Abū Ḥanīfah — may Allah have mercy on him — once refused the appointment to judge, and for this he was beaten. On one occasion he wept, and when released he said: “The grief of my mother was heavier upon me than the beating itself.” Such is the weight of a parent’s sorrow, heavier than pain, harsher than blows, and more piercing than failure itself.

So strive, my dear brother and sister, never to burden your parents with your sadness. Conceal your stumbles and hardships, and do not let your struggles become a cause for their grief or worry. When you are in their presence, let your face shine with smiles, your words flow with gentleness, and your company bring them peace — even if pain lingers silently in your own heart. For this, indeed, is from the greatest forms of dutifulness and righteousness towards one’s parents.

Do not burden your parents with your disobedience.

A single tear that falls from the eyes of your mother or father can bring darkness into your life in ways you may never understand.

Be a source of comfort to them… not a cause of their pain.🍂

Ibn Qudamah رحمه الله said:

“A child is a trust in the care of his parents and his heart is a raw jewel capable of taking any shape. If he is raised upon goodness, he will grow with it and his parents and his educator will share in his reward. But if he is raised upon evil, it will cling to him and the burden will fall upon the guardian’s neck. Therefore, he must be protected, educated and disciplined, taught the virtues of good character, kept from bad companions, not indulged in luxury and not made to love the ways of comfort and ease.”

مختصر منهاج القاصدين 159

_One day your parents will become your children. Not in age, but in need._

_There will come a time when they forget things you just told them. When they move slower, ask the same question twice, and need help with what used to be easy._

_Don't see it as a burden._
_See it as debt of love being paid back._

*Call them more*📱
*Visit them more*💜

*Speak softer while you still can. Because one day the phone will stop ringing.*

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الأم مـدرســة
The mother is a school, if you prepare her well, you prepare a nation of noble roots.

And the greatest testimony a woman can attain in her entire life is that it is said about her:

“A mother of righteous children.” 🪻✨

Behind every great man is a woman who raised him.

Parents are not just family they are a test of your iman.

Allah placed kindness to them right after His worship and the scholars linked honoring them to the strength of faith

Speak gently be patient lower your wing to them.

Being dutiful to your parents is not a duty to be shared. It is an honor to compete for.

Not “your turn” and “my turn”, but who will be quicker to serve, who will speak more gently, who will earn a smile… or a du‘ā from them.

Because every moment with them is a door and every act of kindness brings you closer to Jannah. So rush to them before you are forced to wish for one more chance.

May Allah make us among those who honor their parents with sincerity. 🍃✨️