Don't forget to teach your child the deen

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It is recommended to make duʿā for one’s grandchildren along with one’s children, even before their existence. The wife of ʿImrān, the mother of Maryam, said:

{ وَإِنِّي سَمَّيْتُهَا مَرْيَمَ وَإِنِّي أُعِيذُهَا بِكَ وَذُرِّيَّتَهَا مِنَ الشَّيْطَانِ الرَّجِيمِ }
“And I have named her Maryam, and I seek refuge with You for her and for her descendants from Shayṭān, the outcast.” [Āl ʿImrān 3:36]

يستحب الدعاء للأحفاد مع الأولاد ولو قبل وجودهم، قالت امرأة عمران أم مريم: (وإني سميتها مريم وإني أعيذها بك وذريتها من الشيطان الرجيم)

Encouraging Children to Fast

Rubayyi' daughter of Mu'awwidh b. 'Afra' said that the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) sent (a person) on the morning of Ashura to the villages of Ansar around Medina (with this message):
He who got up in the morning fasting (without eating anything) he should complete his fast, and he who had had his breakfast in the morning, he should complete the rest of the day (without food). The Companions said; We henceforth observed fast on it (on the day of 'Ashura) and, God willing, made our children observe that.

We went to the mosque and made toys out of wool for them and when anyone felt hungry and wept for food we gave them these toys till it was the time to break the fast.

[Muslim 1136a]

Muhammad bin Sulaymān rahimahuLlaah said:

"Sons are blessings, and daughters are good deeds. Alläh, the Almighty and Majestic, will call one to account for the blessings, and He will reward for the good deeds."

Al-Adab al-Shar iyyah by Ibn Muflih, 1/154

When And How To Command Our Children To Pray by Shaykh Sulaymān ibn Salīmullāh al-Ruḥaylī
The Messenger of Allāh (ﷺ) said,
"Command your children to pray when they are seven and beat them about (not offering) it when they are ten."

(Abu Dawud no. 494,495 and Ahmad 2:187)

“Abandoning dua for one's parents makes livelihood difficult upon the child”

"One du'a from a parent's heart can change the entire life of a child."

A Parent's Du'a for Their Children

Ya Allah, Ya Wadud, Ya Ghaffar, Ya Rahman, Ya Raheem, Ya Hafeedh, Ya Hadi, Ya Noor, Ya Latif, Ya Aleem, Ya Kareem...

You entrusted these children to me, but their hearts belong to You. So I place them entirely in Your care.

Ya Allah...
Forgive me if I was not always the parent my children deserved. Forgive me for the moments I was too tired to listen. Forgive me for the times I did not understand their pain. Forgive me if my words ever hurt their hearts. Forgive me if I was strict when they needed gentleness... or distracted when they needed my attention the most.

If I made mistakes while raising them, forgive me. Correct what I did wrong. Heal any wounds my shortcomings may have left in their hearts. And replace my mistakes with Your mercy upon them.

Ya Allah...
Place love for You in their hearts. Let them love Your Book. Let them love Your Messenger ﷺ. Let them love what pleases You. And protect their hearts from loving what distances them from You.

Protect them from a world that tries to pull them away from You. Protect them from doubts that weaken faith, and from paths that appear beautiful but lead away from Your light. Guard them in ways my eyes will never see.

Ya Allah...
Guide their hearts to You before the world tries to guide them elsewhere. Let the Qur'an be their comfort in lonely moments. Let salah be the place where their hearts find peace. Let Your remembrance be where they return when life becomes heavy.

Fill their hearts with the light of iman. When darkness surrounds them, guide them with Your light. When confusion reaches them, steady them with Your wisdom. When temptations approach them, make their hearts firm upon Your deen.

Ya Allah...
Be gentle with them in ways I cannot be. When life hurts them, comfort them. When they feel lost, guide them. When they cry silently at night, hear the tears they hide from everyone. Never let them feel alone in a world that forgets them.

Make them a coolness for my eyes in this dunya. Let me see them standing in salah. Let me hear them reciting Qur'an. Let me witness their kindness toward others. Let their lives become a source of joy for me.

Ya Allah...
You see their future while I only see their present. So write for them a future filled with goodness, faith, sincerity and righteousness. Protect them from choices that would harm them, even if their hearts desire them. Open for them doors of goodness they could never imagine.

Beautify their character. Make them gentle in a harsh world. Make them truthful when lying becomes easy. Make them humble when arrogance surrounds them. Let them be a source of goodness wherever they go.

Ya Allah...
When I am no longer here, protect them. Surround them with people who remind them of You. Place righteous companions in their lives. And make them among those who never forget to pray for their parents.

Make my children better Muslims than I ever was. Let their faith be stronger than mine. Let their sincerity be deeper than mine. Let their closeness to You be greater than mine.

Let their final words one day be: La ilaha illa Allah.
Let their lives end upon iman. And reunite us together in Jannatul Firdaus under Your mercy.

Ya Allah... let my children run to You before they ever run to the world.

Ya Allah...
We ask You to reward every person who shared this du'a, every hand that passed it on, and every heart that sent it hoping it would benefit another.
Make the sharing of this du'a a sadaqah jariyah for them, a continuous charity whose reward flows to them even after they leave this world. Let every parent whose lips moved with these words, every heart that softened upon reading them, every soul that forwarded it in sincerity, let all of it be written for them as an act of worship in Your sight.

And Ya Allah, reward the person that sent this dua, and make it a sadaqah jariya for them, every child mentioned in the hearts of those who shared this, include them in every supplication made here. Protect their children as we have asked for our own. Guide their children as we have asked for our own. Grant their children iman, righteousness and a beautiful end, just as we have asked for our own.

Unite us all, and our children, and their children after them, in Jannatul Firdaus, together, under Your mercy and Your pleasure.

Ya Allah... let my children run to You before they ever run to the world.

Ameen, Ameen, Ameen, ya Rabb al'Alameen. 🤲

"One du'a from a parent's heart can change the entire life of a child.

✨🌟✨*Beautiful Hadith about Fathers*

Abu Darda' (RA) heard the Prophet (ﷺ) say that: "The father is the middle door of Paradise (i.e. the best way to Paradise), so it is up to you whether you take advantage of it or not."

(Sunan ibn Majah, Vol. 5, Book 33, Hadith 3663)

Our fathers help raise us, provide for us and support our mothers and the entire family. We often elevate the status of our mothers - and we should - but it is important not to neglect the role of our fathers and the respect they deserve. Paradise lies at the feet of your mother and the door to it is through your father. Love, take care of and appreciate your parents. You only have them for a short time and they are a huge blessing in every way. Unfortunately, like all blessings, they are often only appreciated once they are taken away from us.

*May Allah bless all the fathers and mothers*

This is how a child loses trust in their parents;

- Asks a genuine question. Gets dismissed.
- Shares excitement about something. Gets mocked.
- Comes home with a problem. Gets lectured instead of heard.
- Cries. Gets told to stop being dramatic.
- Fails at something. Gets compared to someone else.
- Achieves something. Parents barely look up.
- Tries to talk. Parent is on the phone.
- Learns that home is not a safe place to be honest.
- Starts hiding things.
- No quality time. Only correction.
- No "I'm proud of you" without a condition attached.
- No listening without an agenda.
- No apology when the parent is wrong.
- No curiosity about who the child actually is.
- Child raises themselves emotionally.
- Grows up. Moves away as fast as possible.
- Calls home out of obligation, not love.
- Becomes a stranger who shares blood.

And the parent wonders why their child never opens up.

To raise a child who actually trusts you, do this;

- Put the phone down and look them in the eyes when they talk.
- Ask questions about their world without judging the answers.
- Apologize when you're wrong. They're watching everything.
- Celebrate who they are, not just what they achieve.
- Make home the safest place they know.
- Listen to understand, not to respond.
- Show up to the small moments. Those are the big ones.
- Tell them you love them without them having to earn it.
- Be the person they run to, not from.

NON-NEGOTIABLE.

We do good to our parents because we're commanded by Allah to do so. There's also a lot we can learn from their life experiences.

But that doesn't always mean they are the best to seek religious advice from. A lot of parents lack knowledge and understanding. And many are misguided.

Schools need to teach all of this on an urgent basis ...

— Food Production
1. Kitchen Gardening
2. Container Gardening
3. Rooftop Gardening
4. Microgreens Production
5. Hydroponics (Wick System)
6. Backyard Aquaponics
7. Backyard Poultry + Compost + Vegetables Loop
8. Composting
9. Vermicomposting
10. Drought-Resistant Crops (Millets and Pulses)
11. Mushroom Cultivation
12. Rabbit Farming
13. Moringa Cultivation
14. Seed Saving
— Water Security
15. Rooftop Rainwater Harvesting
16. Farm Ponds and Earthen Tanks
17. Swales and Contour Bunding
18. Drip Irrigation
19. Solar-Powered Water Pump
20. Greywater Recycling
21. Ceramic Water Filters
— Energy Systems
22. Biogas Digester
23. Solar Home System
24. Solar Food Dryer
25. Plastic Pyrolysis (Waste Plastic to Fuel)
26. Micro-Hydropower
27. Small Wind Turbines
28. Rocket Mass Heater
29. Improved Cookstoves and solar cooking
— Shelter, Comfort and Passive Systems
30. Passive Cooling Design
31. Compressed Earth Blocks
32. Medicinal Kitchen Garden
— Integrated Systems
33. Urban Household Circular System
34. Rural Integrated Farm System
35. Community-Scale Decentralized System

The Prophets were Fathers of Daughters
– Ibnul-Qayyim al-Jawziyyah رحمه الله

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Ibnul-Qayyim al-Jawziyyah رحمه الله [751 AH] said; “Allah ﷻ has revealed in regards to the right of women

فَإِنْ كَرِهْتُمُوهُنَّ فَعَسَى أَنْ تَكْرَهُوا شَيْئًا وَيَجْعَلُ اللهُ فِيهِ خَيْرًا كَثِيراً “If you dislike them, it may be that you dislike a thing and Allah brings through it a great deal of good.” [Surah an-Nisā 4:19]

And just like daughters, a person may find much good in them in this life and the next. It is quite repulsive that a man should hate that which pleases Allah ﷻ, and to hate a blessing that is bestowed upon him. It was mentioned that Ṣāliḥ ibn Aḥmad said; ‘Whenever my father [Imām Aḥmad] had a daughter born to him, he would say: the Prophets were the fathers of daughters, and in regarding the daughters there has come [in the narrations a reward] that is known.’ Yaʿqūb ibn Bukhtān said; ‘Seven daughters were born to me, and every time I had a daughter born to me I would go to Aḥmad ibn Ḥanbal and he would say to me; ‘Yaʿqūb! The Prophets were fathers of daughters..’ and his speech would do away with my worry.'”

TRANSLATOR: Ṣalaḥ al-Irānī
SOURCE: Ṭuḥfat al-Mawdūd bi Aḥkām al-Mawlūd, Ibn Qayyim al-Jawzīyah, Muḥammad ibn Abī Bakr. al-Maktabah al-Qayyimah, 1961. P.26

✨ The Value of Parents — A Heart-Touching Advice

A young man once complained to a religious scholar:
“My parents are old. I fulfill all their needs, yet they remain unhappy with me.”

The scholar looked at him thoughtfully and said:
“My son, that is exactly the reason for their displeasure… you only give them what they ask for.”

The young man was surprised and asked for clarification.

The scholar replied:
“Have you ever thought… before you even came into this world, your parents had already prepared everything for you?
Your clothes, your food, your safety, your comfort… they took care of every small and big need of yours.”

“Did they ever ask you whether they should enroll you in school?
Did they seek your permission about how to shape your future?
No… they always fulfilled your needs even before you asked.”

“Your first bicycle, your first school, your first job…
Even your upbringing, your speech, your way of living…
everything was given to you without you asking for it.”

“And today you say you give them what they ask for…
My son, parents are not meant to ask.”

✨ The real lesson is this:
Learn to give to your parents before they ask.

✔ Ask about their problems
✔ Give them your time
✔ Serve them with love
✔ Take responsibility for their needs
✔ Consider them a blessing, not a burden

Sometimes massage their feet…
Sometimes apply oil to their hair…
Treat them the way they treated you in your childhood…

Remember:
Just as they raised you without expecting anything in return…
you too should treat them with kindness and sincerity.

Then you will see…
they will be happy, and Allah will be pleased with you.

Hearing this advice, tears flowed from the young man’s eyes…
and every heart in the gathering was deeply moved.

May Allah grant us the ability to value and honor our parents…
Ameen, Ya Rabb al-‘Alameen 🤲

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Read this with the intention to act upon it, and share it with your loved ones and community for the sake of Allah’s pleasure. Perhaps your small effort may become a means of changing someone’s life.

Raise your children correctly...

If your child shows no interest in a particular field of study, don’t force them into it.

Ibn al-Qayyim (rahimahullah) advises parents approximately 700 years ago to observe their child's aptitudes and interests, and not force them into a particular field if they have no inclination towards it. Instead, guide them towards areas where they show a natural talent or enthusiasm, while ensuring they receive essential religious education. This approach will help them excel and make a positive contribution, whether in academics, skills like horsemanship, or useful handicrafts. (Tuhfat al-Mawdood fi Ahkaam al-Mawlood (p. 243, 244))

Imam Ibn Hazm said 1000 years ago:
‎ من مال بطبعه إلى علم ما وإن كان أدنى من غيره فلا يشغلها بسواه فيكون كغارس النارجيل بالأندلس وكغارس الزيتون بالهند وكل ذلك لا ينجب
‘𝗜𝗳 𝘀𝗼𝗺𝗲𝗼𝗻𝗲 𝗵𝗮𝘀 𝗮 𝗽𝗮𝗿𝘁𝗶𝗰𝘂𝗹𝗮𝗿 𝗶𝗻𝘁𝗲𝗿𝗲𝘀𝘁 𝗶𝗻 𝘀𝗼𝗺𝗲 𝗳𝗶𝗲𝗹𝗱 - 𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗻 𝗶𝗳 𝗶𝘁’𝘀 𝗮𝗻 𝗶𝗻𝗳𝗲𝗿𝗶𝗼𝗿 𝘀𝗰𝗶𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝘀𝗼𝗺𝗲 𝗼𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿𝘀 - 𝗵𝗲 𝘀𝗵𝗼𝘂𝗹𝗱 𝗳𝗼𝗰𝘂𝘀 𝗼𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝗱𝗶𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘁 𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗲𝗳𝗳𝗼𝗿𝘁𝘀 𝘁𝗼𝘄𝗮𝗿𝗱𝘀 𝗼𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝘀𝗰𝗶𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲𝘀 [𝘄𝗵𝗶𝗰𝗵 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝘆 𝗮𝗿𝗲𝗻’𝘁 𝗶𝗻𝘁𝗲𝗿𝗲𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗱 𝗶𝗻].
𝗢𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿𝘄𝗶𝘀𝗲, 𝗶𝘁 𝘄𝗼𝘂𝗹𝗱 𝗯𝗲 𝗹𝗶𝗸𝗲 𝘁𝗿𝘆𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗼 𝗴𝗿𝗼𝘄 𝗰𝗼𝗰𝗼𝗻𝘂𝘁𝘀 𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲 𝗶𝗻 𝗔𝗻𝗱𝗮𝗹𝘂𝘀 [𝗦𝗽𝗮𝗶𝗻] 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗢𝗹𝗶𝘃𝗲𝘀 𝗶𝗻 𝗜𝗻𝗱𝗶𝗮!
𝗧𝗵𝗲𝘀𝗲 𝗳𝘂𝘁𝗶𝗹𝗲 𝗮𝘁𝘁𝗲𝗺𝗽𝘁𝘀 𝘄𝗶𝗹𝗹 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝗯𝗲 𝗳𝗿𝘂𝗶𝘁𝗳𝘂𝗹.’
[‘Al-Akhlaaq wal-Siyar’, 1/22 credits: Mohmand Afghan]

Mix Rosemary with Cloves: A Secret Nobody Will Ever Tell You – Thank Me Later
A whisper from the past, wrapped in the scent of home

There’s something about the scent of rosemary that instantly brings me back to my childhood—the kind of memory wrapped in the sound of a wooden spoon stirring a pot and the warmth of a kitchen filled with laughter. My mother would hum old folk songs while gently bundling rosemary with cloves, her fingers always sure, always gentle.
She never wrote her recipes down. Her secrets lived in her hands, in the way she touched the herbs, and in the stories she passed on during quiet afternoons. One of her favorite natural blends—one she called her “little helper”—was a mix of rosemary and cloves. Not something you’d find on a pharmacy shelf, but something that lived in the cupboard, waiting for its moment.
And now, I share it with you. A simple, traditional tip that has been quietly comforting generations before us.

🌿 Why Rosemary and Cloves Were Always in Grandma’s Kitchen
Before the age of sprays, pills, and machines, people trusted what they could grow or gather. Rosemary and cloves were staples in many old households—not only for cooking, but for supporting everyday health and creating a sense of well-being. Here are some of the ways this combination has been treasured:
Supports mental clarity: The scent of rosemary is often said to help with focus and alertness, especially during long afternoons or quiet study.
Believed to ease tension: In folk traditions, the warm aroma of cloves paired with rosemary is thought to help the body and mind feel more balanced.
Freshens the air naturally: This duo is known for creating a clean, herbal scent that helps replace artificial air fresheners.
May help deter bugs: Just like your grandmother’s lemon and cloves, this mixture is often used to help keep unwanted little visitors away.
Used to support scalp and hair vitality: Some traditional hair rinses include rosemary and cloves, believed to help nour

Parents Who Constantly Remind You Of Their Sacrifices Aren’t Seeking Love, They’re Demanding Repayment.
That’s Not Parenting, That’s Emotional Blackmail & Business.

The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said:

“A time will come when the nations will call one another against you just as people invite others to share a dish.”

The companions asked: “Will that be because we are few in number?”

He ﷺ replied:
“No, you will be many on that day, but you will be like the foam of the flood. Allah will remove the fear of you from the hearts of your enemies and will cast weakness into your hearts.”

They asked: “What is this weakness?”
He ﷺ said: “Love of the world (dunya) and hatred of death.”
(Sunan Abi Dawud 4297 — Hasan)

This is not just a prophecy, it is a mirror.

Foam looks large, but it has no weight, no direction, no strength. It moves wherever the current takes it.

And today, we see:
• A huge Ummah, yet divided
• Strength in numbers, but weakness in unity
• Knowledge available, but little action
• Attachment to dunya, but negligence of akhirah

The real problem is not external enemies, it is the internal condition.

Allah says in the Qur’an:
“Indeed, Allah will not change the condition of a people until they change what is in themselves.” (13:11)

This hadith is not meant to create fear, it is meant to awaken responsibility.

The solution is clear:
• Return to sincere faith (Iman)
• Hold firmly to unity (Ummah)
• Detach from excessive love of dunya
• Revive the Sunnah in our lives

Because real strength is not in numbers… it is in obedience to Allah and firmness upon

*أَبــــي وأُمّــــي* 👑 𝗠𝘆 𝗙𝗮𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿 *&* 𝗠𝗼𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿

_Take a moment and look at your father’s face, and the lines on your mother’s face… and realize that those pure faces have changed only through loving and raising you. Pause… look at their hair turning white...and know that they aged while giving you their best._

Gently hold their hands, feel the veins within them… those same hands once held you, protected you, fed you, wiped your tears, stayed awake for you, struggled and worked tirelessly…so that you could live with ease.

Sit beside them and notice the medicines they take… one for blood pressure, one for sugar, another for pain, another for cholesterol… until you realize how much they have endured for you, for your youth, your dreams, and even for the joy of your children.

When you see their backs bend and steps slow... know that the chance to earn Jannah through them is slipping, hold on tight and cherish them.

_Being dutiful to parents does not end. It continues in their lifetime and even after their death, through your duʿāʾ, your charity on their behalf, and every good you do for them._

Nothing is greater after Tawḥīd than being good to your parents.

*وَقَضَىٰ رَبُّكَ أَلَّا تَعْبُدُوا إِلَّا إِيَّاهُ وَبِالْوَالِدَيْنِ إِحْسَانًا ۚ إِمَّا يَبْلُغَنَّ عِندَكَ الْكِبَرَ أَحَدُهُمَا أَوْ كِلَاهُمَا فَلَا تَقُل لَّهُمَا أُفٍّ وَلَا تَنْهَرْهُمَا وَقُل لَّهُمَا قَوْلًا كَرِيمًا*
_*“And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him, and that you be kind to parents. Whether one or both of them reach old age with you, do not even say “uff” to them, nor repel them, but speak to them a noble word."*_

[سورة الإسراء ١٧:٢٣]

*رب ارحـمهـما كـما ربيـانـي صـغـيرا!*
_My Lord, have mercy upon them as they raised me when I was small. 🌸_