LOVING YOUR CHILD DOES NOT MEAN CLOSING YOUR EYES WHILE THEY DESTROY OTHERS.
A parent’s heart may ache for their son or daughter, but Islām does not allow love to become an excuse for sin. When you remain silent while your child breaks homes, betrays trusts, and harms innocent families—especially children—you are not protecting them. You are abandoning your duty.
Allah warns us with words that should shake every believing heart:
﴿يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا قُوا أَنفُسَكُمْ وَأَهْلِيكُمْ نَارًا﴾
O you who believe, protect yourselves and your families from the Fire.
Ask yourself: how can a parent watch their child walk toward the Fire and still call it love?
True love restrains.
True love corrects.
True love says “stop” even when it breaks the heart.
Allowing your child to become a home wrecker is not mercy—it is cruelty. Not only to the family being destroyed, but to your own child whose soul is being darkened, whose ākhirah is being placed at risk. The tears of abandoned spouses and confused children do not go unheard by Allāh.
A parent who truly loves their child will stand between them and sin, even if the child becomes angry, even if the world calls it harsh. Because love that leads to Jahannam is not love—it is betrayal.
If you think you are loving your child by tolerating their wrongdoing, then know this:
You are not loving them.
You are losing them.
اللَّهُمَّ احْفَظْنَا وَأَهْلِينَا مِنَ الْفِتَنِ مَا ظَهَرَ مِنْهَا وَمَا بَطَنَ، وَاهْدِ أَبْنَاءَنَا وَبَنَاتِنَا إِلَى طَاعَتِكَ، وَاصْرِفْ عَنْهُمُ السُّوءَ وَالْحَرَامَ، وَاجْعَلْهُمْ قُرَّةَ أَعْيُنٍ لَنَا فِي الدُّنْيَا وَالْآخِرَةِ، وَقِنَا وَإِيَّاهُمْ عَذَابَ النَّارِ.
O Allāh, protect us and our families from trials—those that are apparent and those that are hidden. Guide our sons and daughters to obedience to You, turn away from them all evil and what is unlawful, and make them a comfort to our eyes in this world and the Hereafter. Protect us and them from the punishment of the Fire.
A parent’s heart may ache for their son or daughter, but Islām does not allow love to become an excuse for sin. When you remain silent while your child breaks homes, betrays trusts, and harms innocent families—especially children—you are not protecting them. You are abandoning your duty.
Allah warns us with words that should shake every believing heart:
﴿يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا قُوا أَنفُسَكُمْ وَأَهْلِيكُمْ نَارًا﴾
O you who believe, protect yourselves and your families from the Fire.
Ask yourself: how can a parent watch their child walk toward the Fire and still call it love?
True love restrains.
True love corrects.
True love says “stop” even when it breaks the heart.
Allowing your child to become a home wrecker is not mercy—it is cruelty. Not only to the family being destroyed, but to your own child whose soul is being darkened, whose ākhirah is being placed at risk. The tears of abandoned spouses and confused children do not go unheard by Allāh.
A parent who truly loves their child will stand between them and sin, even if the child becomes angry, even if the world calls it harsh. Because love that leads to Jahannam is not love—it is betrayal.
If you think you are loving your child by tolerating their wrongdoing, then know this:
You are not loving them.
You are losing them.
اللَّهُمَّ احْفَظْنَا وَأَهْلِينَا مِنَ الْفِتَنِ مَا ظَهَرَ مِنْهَا وَمَا بَطَنَ، وَاهْدِ أَبْنَاءَنَا وَبَنَاتِنَا إِلَى طَاعَتِكَ، وَاصْرِفْ عَنْهُمُ السُّوءَ وَالْحَرَامَ، وَاجْعَلْهُمْ قُرَّةَ أَعْيُنٍ لَنَا فِي الدُّنْيَا وَالْآخِرَةِ، وَقِنَا وَإِيَّاهُمْ عَذَابَ النَّارِ.
O Allāh, protect us and our families from trials—those that are apparent and those that are hidden. Guide our sons and daughters to obedience to You, turn away from them all evil and what is unlawful, and make them a comfort to our eyes in this world and the Hereafter. Protect us and them from the punishment of the Fire.
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*The Prophet ﷺ said:*
None of you should promise his child something and then not give it to him.
📚 Al-Mufrad 387 (Sahih)
None of you should promise his child something and then not give it to him.
📚 Al-Mufrad 387 (Sahih)
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The Power of a Parent’s Du‘a
Maryam’s (peace be upon her) righteousness did not begin with her worship.
It began with her mother’s sincerity.
Before she was born, her mother dedicated her to Allah’s service.
When she delivered her — though expecting a son — she accepted Allah’s decree without hesitation.
And she made a powerful du‘a:
> “I have named her Maryam, and I seek refuge for her and her offspring in You from Shayṭān, the expelled.”
(Surah Aal-Imran 3:36)
That one sincere du‘a became protection.
That intention became elevation.
That trust became legacy.
The secret?
A parent’s du‘a + sincerity = unstoppable barakah.
Hold on to your parents.
Ask them to make du‘a for you.
And never stop making du‘a for them.
May Allah bless our parents, forgive them, and raise their ranks. Ameen.
Maryam’s (peace be upon her) righteousness did not begin with her worship.
It began with her mother’s sincerity.
Before she was born, her mother dedicated her to Allah’s service.
When she delivered her — though expecting a son — she accepted Allah’s decree without hesitation.
And she made a powerful du‘a:
> “I have named her Maryam, and I seek refuge for her and her offspring in You from Shayṭān, the expelled.”
(Surah Aal-Imran 3:36)
That one sincere du‘a became protection.
That intention became elevation.
That trust became legacy.
The secret?
A parent’s du‘a + sincerity = unstoppable barakah.
Hold on to your parents.
Ask them to make du‘a for you.
And never stop making du‘a for them.
May Allah bless our parents, forgive them, and raise their ranks. Ameen.
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Serious about getting closer to Allah?
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It is recommended to make duʿā for one’s grandchildren along with one’s children, even before their existence. The wife of ʿImrān, the mother of Maryam, said:
{ وَإِنِّي سَمَّيْتُهَا مَرْيَمَ وَإِنِّي أُعِيذُهَا بِكَ وَذُرِّيَّتَهَا مِنَ الشَّيْطَانِ الرَّجِيمِ }
“And I have named her Maryam, and I seek refuge with You for her and for her descendants from Shayṭān, the outcast.” [Āl ʿImrān 3:36]
يستحب الدعاء للأحفاد مع الأولاد ولو قبل وجودهم، قالت امرأة عمران أم مريم: (وإني سميتها مريم وإني أعيذها بك وذريتها من الشيطان الرجيم)
{ وَإِنِّي سَمَّيْتُهَا مَرْيَمَ وَإِنِّي أُعِيذُهَا بِكَ وَذُرِّيَّتَهَا مِنَ الشَّيْطَانِ الرَّجِيمِ }
“And I have named her Maryam, and I seek refuge with You for her and for her descendants from Shayṭān, the outcast.” [Āl ʿImrān 3:36]
يستحب الدعاء للأحفاد مع الأولاد ولو قبل وجودهم، قالت امرأة عمران أم مريم: (وإني سميتها مريم وإني أعيذها بك وذريتها من الشيطان الرجيم)
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Encouraging Children to Fast
Rubayyi' daughter of Mu'awwidh b. 'Afra' said that the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) sent (a person) on the morning of Ashura to the villages of Ansar around Medina (with this message):
He who got up in the morning fasting (without eating anything) he should complete his fast, and he who had had his breakfast in the morning, he should complete the rest of the day (without food). The Companions said; We henceforth observed fast on it (on the day of 'Ashura) and, God willing, made our children observe that.
We went to the mosque and made toys out of wool for them and when anyone felt hungry and wept for food we gave them these toys till it was the time to break the fast.
[Muslim 1136a]
Rubayyi' daughter of Mu'awwidh b. 'Afra' said that the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) sent (a person) on the morning of Ashura to the villages of Ansar around Medina (with this message):
He who got up in the morning fasting (without eating anything) he should complete his fast, and he who had had his breakfast in the morning, he should complete the rest of the day (without food). The Companions said; We henceforth observed fast on it (on the day of 'Ashura) and, God willing, made our children observe that.
We went to the mosque and made toys out of wool for them and when anyone felt hungry and wept for food we gave them these toys till it was the time to break the fast.
[Muslim 1136a]
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Muhammad bin Sulaymān rahimahuLlaah said:
"Sons are blessings, and daughters are good deeds. Alläh, the Almighty and Majestic, will call one to account for the blessings, and He will reward for the good deeds."
Al-Adab al-Shar iyyah by Ibn Muflih, 1/154
"Sons are blessings, and daughters are good deeds. Alläh, the Almighty and Majestic, will call one to account for the blessings, and He will reward for the good deeds."
Al-Adab al-Shar iyyah by Ibn Muflih, 1/154
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When And How To Command Our Children To Pray by Shaykh Sulaymān ibn Salīmullāh al-Ruḥaylī
The Messenger of Allāh (ﷺ) said,
"Command your children to pray when they are seven and beat them about (not offering) it when they are ten."
(Abu Dawud no. 494,495 and Ahmad 2:187)
The Messenger of Allāh (ﷺ) said,
"Command your children to pray when they are seven and beat them about (not offering) it when they are ten."
(Abu Dawud no. 494,495 and Ahmad 2:187)
"One du'a from a parent's heart can change the entire life of a child."
A Parent's Du'a for Their Children
Ya Allah, Ya Wadud, Ya Ghaffar, Ya Rahman, Ya Raheem, Ya Hafeedh, Ya Hadi, Ya Noor, Ya Latif, Ya Aleem, Ya Kareem...
You entrusted these children to me, but their hearts belong to You. So I place them entirely in Your care.
Ya Allah...
Forgive me if I was not always the parent my children deserved. Forgive me for the moments I was too tired to listen. Forgive me for the times I did not understand their pain. Forgive me if my words ever hurt their hearts. Forgive me if I was strict when they needed gentleness... or distracted when they needed my attention the most.
If I made mistakes while raising them, forgive me. Correct what I did wrong. Heal any wounds my shortcomings may have left in their hearts. And replace my mistakes with Your mercy upon them.
Ya Allah...
Place love for You in their hearts. Let them love Your Book. Let them love Your Messenger ﷺ. Let them love what pleases You. And protect their hearts from loving what distances them from You.
Protect them from a world that tries to pull them away from You. Protect them from doubts that weaken faith, and from paths that appear beautiful but lead away from Your light. Guard them in ways my eyes will never see.
Ya Allah...
Guide their hearts to You before the world tries to guide them elsewhere. Let the Qur'an be their comfort in lonely moments. Let salah be the place where their hearts find peace. Let Your remembrance be where they return when life becomes heavy.
Fill their hearts with the light of iman. When darkness surrounds them, guide them with Your light. When confusion reaches them, steady them with Your wisdom. When temptations approach them, make their hearts firm upon Your deen.
Ya Allah...
Be gentle with them in ways I cannot be. When life hurts them, comfort them. When they feel lost, guide them. When they cry silently at night, hear the tears they hide from everyone. Never let them feel alone in a world that forgets them.
Make them a coolness for my eyes in this dunya. Let me see them standing in salah. Let me hear them reciting Qur'an. Let me witness their kindness toward others. Let their lives become a source of joy for me.
Ya Allah...
You see their future while I only see their present. So write for them a future filled with goodness, faith, sincerity and righteousness. Protect them from choices that would harm them, even if their hearts desire them. Open for them doors of goodness they could never imagine.
Beautify their character. Make them gentle in a harsh world. Make them truthful when lying becomes easy. Make them humble when arrogance surrounds them. Let them be a source of goodness wherever they go.
Ya Allah...
When I am no longer here, protect them. Surround them with people who remind them of You. Place righteous companions in their lives. And make them among those who never forget to pray for their parents.
Make my children better Muslims than I ever was. Let their faith be stronger than mine. Let their sincerity be deeper than mine. Let their closeness to You be greater than mine.
Let their final words one day be: La ilaha illa Allah.
Let their lives end upon iman. And reunite us together in Jannatul Firdaus under Your mercy.
Ya Allah... let my children run to You before they ever run to the world.
Ya Allah...
We ask You to reward every person who shared this du'a, every hand that passed it on, and every heart that sent it hoping it would benefit another.
Make the sharing of this du'a a sadaqah jariyah for them, a continuous charity whose reward flows to them even after they leave this world. Let every parent whose lips moved with these words, every heart that softened upon reading them, every soul that forwarded it in sincerity, let all of it be written for them as an act of worship in Your sight.
A Parent's Du'a for Their Children
Ya Allah, Ya Wadud, Ya Ghaffar, Ya Rahman, Ya Raheem, Ya Hafeedh, Ya Hadi, Ya Noor, Ya Latif, Ya Aleem, Ya Kareem...
You entrusted these children to me, but their hearts belong to You. So I place them entirely in Your care.
Ya Allah...
Forgive me if I was not always the parent my children deserved. Forgive me for the moments I was too tired to listen. Forgive me for the times I did not understand their pain. Forgive me if my words ever hurt their hearts. Forgive me if I was strict when they needed gentleness... or distracted when they needed my attention the most.
If I made mistakes while raising them, forgive me. Correct what I did wrong. Heal any wounds my shortcomings may have left in their hearts. And replace my mistakes with Your mercy upon them.
Ya Allah...
Place love for You in their hearts. Let them love Your Book. Let them love Your Messenger ﷺ. Let them love what pleases You. And protect their hearts from loving what distances them from You.
Protect them from a world that tries to pull them away from You. Protect them from doubts that weaken faith, and from paths that appear beautiful but lead away from Your light. Guard them in ways my eyes will never see.
Ya Allah...
Guide their hearts to You before the world tries to guide them elsewhere. Let the Qur'an be their comfort in lonely moments. Let salah be the place where their hearts find peace. Let Your remembrance be where they return when life becomes heavy.
Fill their hearts with the light of iman. When darkness surrounds them, guide them with Your light. When confusion reaches them, steady them with Your wisdom. When temptations approach them, make their hearts firm upon Your deen.
Ya Allah...
Be gentle with them in ways I cannot be. When life hurts them, comfort them. When they feel lost, guide them. When they cry silently at night, hear the tears they hide from everyone. Never let them feel alone in a world that forgets them.
Make them a coolness for my eyes in this dunya. Let me see them standing in salah. Let me hear them reciting Qur'an. Let me witness their kindness toward others. Let their lives become a source of joy for me.
Ya Allah...
You see their future while I only see their present. So write for them a future filled with goodness, faith, sincerity and righteousness. Protect them from choices that would harm them, even if their hearts desire them. Open for them doors of goodness they could never imagine.
Beautify their character. Make them gentle in a harsh world. Make them truthful when lying becomes easy. Make them humble when arrogance surrounds them. Let them be a source of goodness wherever they go.
Ya Allah...
When I am no longer here, protect them. Surround them with people who remind them of You. Place righteous companions in their lives. And make them among those who never forget to pray for their parents.
Make my children better Muslims than I ever was. Let their faith be stronger than mine. Let their sincerity be deeper than mine. Let their closeness to You be greater than mine.
Let their final words one day be: La ilaha illa Allah.
Let their lives end upon iman. And reunite us together in Jannatul Firdaus under Your mercy.
Ya Allah... let my children run to You before they ever run to the world.
Ya Allah...
We ask You to reward every person who shared this du'a, every hand that passed it on, and every heart that sent it hoping it would benefit another.
Make the sharing of this du'a a sadaqah jariyah for them, a continuous charity whose reward flows to them even after they leave this world. Let every parent whose lips moved with these words, every heart that softened upon reading them, every soul that forwarded it in sincerity, let all of it be written for them as an act of worship in Your sight.
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And Ya Allah, reward the person that sent this dua, and make it a sadaqah jariya for them, every child mentioned in the hearts of those who shared this, include them in every supplication made here. Protect their children as we have asked for our own. Guide their children as we have asked for our own. Grant their children iman, righteousness and a beautiful end, just as we have asked for our own.
Unite us all, and our children, and their children after them, in Jannatul Firdaus, together, under Your mercy and Your pleasure.
Ya Allah... let my children run to You before they ever run to the world.
Ameen, Ameen, Ameen, ya Rabb al'Alameen. 🤲
"One du'a from a parent's heart can change the entire life of a child.
Unite us all, and our children, and their children after them, in Jannatul Firdaus, together, under Your mercy and Your pleasure.
Ya Allah... let my children run to You before they ever run to the world.
Ameen, Ameen, Ameen, ya Rabb al'Alameen. 🤲
"One du'a from a parent's heart can change the entire life of a child.
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✨🌟✨*Beautiful Hadith about Fathers*
Abu Darda' (RA) heard the Prophet (ﷺ) say that: "The father is the middle door of Paradise (i.e. the best way to Paradise), so it is up to you whether you take advantage of it or not."
(Sunan ibn Majah, Vol. 5, Book 33, Hadith 3663)
Our fathers help raise us, provide for us and support our mothers and the entire family. We often elevate the status of our mothers - and we should - but it is important not to neglect the role of our fathers and the respect they deserve. Paradise lies at the feet of your mother and the door to it is through your father. Love, take care of and appreciate your parents. You only have them for a short time and they are a huge blessing in every way. Unfortunately, like all blessings, they are often only appreciated once they are taken away from us.
*May Allah bless all the fathers and mothers*
Abu Darda' (RA) heard the Prophet (ﷺ) say that: "The father is the middle door of Paradise (i.e. the best way to Paradise), so it is up to you whether you take advantage of it or not."
(Sunan ibn Majah, Vol. 5, Book 33, Hadith 3663)
Our fathers help raise us, provide for us and support our mothers and the entire family. We often elevate the status of our mothers - and we should - but it is important not to neglect the role of our fathers and the respect they deserve. Paradise lies at the feet of your mother and the door to it is through your father. Love, take care of and appreciate your parents. You only have them for a short time and they are a huge blessing in every way. Unfortunately, like all blessings, they are often only appreciated once they are taken away from us.
*May Allah bless all the fathers and mothers*
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This is how a child loses trust in their parents;
- Asks a genuine question. Gets dismissed.
- Shares excitement about something. Gets mocked.
- Comes home with a problem. Gets lectured instead of heard.
- Cries. Gets told to stop being dramatic.
- Fails at something. Gets compared to someone else.
- Achieves something. Parents barely look up.
- Tries to talk. Parent is on the phone.
- Learns that home is not a safe place to be honest.
- Starts hiding things.
- No quality time. Only correction.
- No "I'm proud of you" without a condition attached.
- No listening without an agenda.
- No apology when the parent is wrong.
- No curiosity about who the child actually is.
- Child raises themselves emotionally.
- Grows up. Moves away as fast as possible.
- Calls home out of obligation, not love.
- Becomes a stranger who shares blood.
And the parent wonders why their child never opens up.
To raise a child who actually trusts you, do this;
- Put the phone down and look them in the eyes when they talk.
- Ask questions about their world without judging the answers.
- Apologize when you're wrong. They're watching everything.
- Celebrate who they are, not just what they achieve.
- Make home the safest place they know.
- Listen to understand, not to respond.
- Show up to the small moments. Those are the big ones.
- Tell them you love them without them having to earn it.
- Be the person they run to, not from.
NON-NEGOTIABLE.
- Asks a genuine question. Gets dismissed.
- Shares excitement about something. Gets mocked.
- Comes home with a problem. Gets lectured instead of heard.
- Cries. Gets told to stop being dramatic.
- Fails at something. Gets compared to someone else.
- Achieves something. Parents barely look up.
- Tries to talk. Parent is on the phone.
- Learns that home is not a safe place to be honest.
- Starts hiding things.
- No quality time. Only correction.
- No "I'm proud of you" without a condition attached.
- No listening without an agenda.
- No apology when the parent is wrong.
- No curiosity about who the child actually is.
- Child raises themselves emotionally.
- Grows up. Moves away as fast as possible.
- Calls home out of obligation, not love.
- Becomes a stranger who shares blood.
And the parent wonders why their child never opens up.
To raise a child who actually trusts you, do this;
- Put the phone down and look them in the eyes when they talk.
- Ask questions about their world without judging the answers.
- Apologize when you're wrong. They're watching everything.
- Celebrate who they are, not just what they achieve.
- Make home the safest place they know.
- Listen to understand, not to respond.
- Show up to the small moments. Those are the big ones.
- Tell them you love them without them having to earn it.
- Be the person they run to, not from.
NON-NEGOTIABLE.
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We do good to our parents because we're commanded by Allah to do so. There's also a lot we can learn from their life experiences.
But that doesn't always mean they are the best to seek religious advice from. A lot of parents lack knowledge and understanding. And many are misguided.
But that doesn't always mean they are the best to seek religious advice from. A lot of parents lack knowledge and understanding. And many are misguided.
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Schools need to teach all of this on an urgent basis ...
— Food Production
1. Kitchen Gardening
2. Container Gardening
3. Rooftop Gardening
4. Microgreens Production
5. Hydroponics (Wick System)
6. Backyard Aquaponics
7. Backyard Poultry + Compost + Vegetables Loop
8. Composting
9. Vermicomposting
10. Drought-Resistant Crops (Millets and Pulses)
11. Mushroom Cultivation
12. Rabbit Farming
13. Moringa Cultivation
14. Seed Saving
— Water Security
15. Rooftop Rainwater Harvesting
16. Farm Ponds and Earthen Tanks
17. Swales and Contour Bunding
18. Drip Irrigation
19. Solar-Powered Water Pump
20. Greywater Recycling
21. Ceramic Water Filters
— Energy Systems
22. Biogas Digester
23. Solar Home System
24. Solar Food Dryer
25. Plastic Pyrolysis (Waste Plastic to Fuel)
26. Micro-Hydropower
27. Small Wind Turbines
28. Rocket Mass Heater
29. Improved Cookstoves and solar cooking
— Shelter, Comfort and Passive Systems
30. Passive Cooling Design
31. Compressed Earth Blocks
32. Medicinal Kitchen Garden
— Integrated Systems
33. Urban Household Circular System
34. Rural Integrated Farm System
35. Community-Scale Decentralized System
— Food Production
1. Kitchen Gardening
2. Container Gardening
3. Rooftop Gardening
4. Microgreens Production
5. Hydroponics (Wick System)
6. Backyard Aquaponics
7. Backyard Poultry + Compost + Vegetables Loop
8. Composting
9. Vermicomposting
10. Drought-Resistant Crops (Millets and Pulses)
11. Mushroom Cultivation
12. Rabbit Farming
13. Moringa Cultivation
14. Seed Saving
— Water Security
15. Rooftop Rainwater Harvesting
16. Farm Ponds and Earthen Tanks
17. Swales and Contour Bunding
18. Drip Irrigation
19. Solar-Powered Water Pump
20. Greywater Recycling
21. Ceramic Water Filters
— Energy Systems
22. Biogas Digester
23. Solar Home System
24. Solar Food Dryer
25. Plastic Pyrolysis (Waste Plastic to Fuel)
26. Micro-Hydropower
27. Small Wind Turbines
28. Rocket Mass Heater
29. Improved Cookstoves and solar cooking
— Shelter, Comfort and Passive Systems
30. Passive Cooling Design
31. Compressed Earth Blocks
32. Medicinal Kitchen Garden
— Integrated Systems
33. Urban Household Circular System
34. Rural Integrated Farm System
35. Community-Scale Decentralized System
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The Prophets were Fathers of Daughters
– Ibnul-Qayyim al-Jawziyyah رحمه الله
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Ibnul-Qayyim al-Jawziyyah رحمه الله [751 AH] said; “Allah ﷻ has revealed in regards to the right of women
فَإِنْ كَرِهْتُمُوهُنَّ فَعَسَى أَنْ تَكْرَهُوا شَيْئًا وَيَجْعَلُ اللهُ فِيهِ خَيْرًا كَثِيراً “If you dislike them, it may be that you dislike a thing and Allah brings through it a great deal of good.” [Surah an-Nisā 4:19]
And just like daughters, a person may find much good in them in this life and the next. It is quite repulsive that a man should hate that which pleases Allah ﷻ, and to hate a blessing that is bestowed upon him. It was mentioned that Ṣāliḥ ibn Aḥmad said; ‘Whenever my father [Imām Aḥmad] had a daughter born to him, he would say: the Prophets were the fathers of daughters, and in regarding the daughters there has come [in the narrations a reward] that is known.’ Yaʿqūb ibn Bukhtān said; ‘Seven daughters were born to me, and every time I had a daughter born to me I would go to Aḥmad ibn Ḥanbal and he would say to me; ‘Yaʿqūb! The Prophets were fathers of daughters..’ and his speech would do away with my worry.'”
TRANSLATOR: Ṣalaḥ al-Irānī
SOURCE: Ṭuḥfat al-Mawdūd bi Aḥkām al-Mawlūd, Ibn Qayyim al-Jawzīyah, Muḥammad ibn Abī Bakr. al-Maktabah al-Qayyimah, 1961. P.26
– Ibnul-Qayyim al-Jawziyyah رحمه الله
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Ibnul-Qayyim al-Jawziyyah رحمه الله [751 AH] said; “Allah ﷻ has revealed in regards to the right of women
فَإِنْ كَرِهْتُمُوهُنَّ فَعَسَى أَنْ تَكْرَهُوا شَيْئًا وَيَجْعَلُ اللهُ فِيهِ خَيْرًا كَثِيراً “If you dislike them, it may be that you dislike a thing and Allah brings through it a great deal of good.” [Surah an-Nisā 4:19]
And just like daughters, a person may find much good in them in this life and the next. It is quite repulsive that a man should hate that which pleases Allah ﷻ, and to hate a blessing that is bestowed upon him. It was mentioned that Ṣāliḥ ibn Aḥmad said; ‘Whenever my father [Imām Aḥmad] had a daughter born to him, he would say: the Prophets were the fathers of daughters, and in regarding the daughters there has come [in the narrations a reward] that is known.’ Yaʿqūb ibn Bukhtān said; ‘Seven daughters were born to me, and every time I had a daughter born to me I would go to Aḥmad ibn Ḥanbal and he would say to me; ‘Yaʿqūb! The Prophets were fathers of daughters..’ and his speech would do away with my worry.'”
TRANSLATOR: Ṣalaḥ al-Irānī
SOURCE: Ṭuḥfat al-Mawdūd bi Aḥkām al-Mawlūd, Ibn Qayyim al-Jawzīyah, Muḥammad ibn Abī Bakr. al-Maktabah al-Qayyimah, 1961. P.26
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✨ The Value of Parents — A Heart-Touching Advice
A young man once complained to a religious scholar:
“My parents are old. I fulfill all their needs, yet they remain unhappy with me.”
The scholar looked at him thoughtfully and said:
“My son, that is exactly the reason for their displeasure… you only give them what they ask for.”
The young man was surprised and asked for clarification.
The scholar replied:
“Have you ever thought… before you even came into this world, your parents had already prepared everything for you?
Your clothes, your food, your safety, your comfort… they took care of every small and big need of yours.”
“Did they ever ask you whether they should enroll you in school?
Did they seek your permission about how to shape your future?
No… they always fulfilled your needs even before you asked.”
“Your first bicycle, your first school, your first job…
Even your upbringing, your speech, your way of living…
everything was given to you without you asking for it.”
“And today you say you give them what they ask for…
My son, parents are not meant to ask.”
✨ The real lesson is this:
Learn to give to your parents before they ask.
✔ Ask about their problems
✔ Give them your time
✔ Serve them with love
✔ Take responsibility for their needs
✔ Consider them a blessing, not a burden
Sometimes massage their feet…
Sometimes apply oil to their hair…
Treat them the way they treated you in your childhood…
Remember:
Just as they raised you without expecting anything in return…
you too should treat them with kindness and sincerity.
Then you will see…
they will be happy, and Allah will be pleased with you.
Hearing this advice, tears flowed from the young man’s eyes…
and every heart in the gathering was deeply moved.
May Allah grant us the ability to value and honor our parents…
Ameen, Ya Rabb al-‘Alameen 🤲
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Read this with the intention to act upon it, and share it with your loved ones and community for the sake of Allah’s pleasure. Perhaps your small effort may become a means of changing someone’s life.
A young man once complained to a religious scholar:
“My parents are old. I fulfill all their needs, yet they remain unhappy with me.”
The scholar looked at him thoughtfully and said:
“My son, that is exactly the reason for their displeasure… you only give them what they ask for.”
The young man was surprised and asked for clarification.
The scholar replied:
“Have you ever thought… before you even came into this world, your parents had already prepared everything for you?
Your clothes, your food, your safety, your comfort… they took care of every small and big need of yours.”
“Did they ever ask you whether they should enroll you in school?
Did they seek your permission about how to shape your future?
No… they always fulfilled your needs even before you asked.”
“Your first bicycle, your first school, your first job…
Even your upbringing, your speech, your way of living…
everything was given to you without you asking for it.”
“And today you say you give them what they ask for…
My son, parents are not meant to ask.”
✨ The real lesson is this:
Learn to give to your parents before they ask.
✔ Ask about their problems
✔ Give them your time
✔ Serve them with love
✔ Take responsibility for their needs
✔ Consider them a blessing, not a burden
Sometimes massage their feet…
Sometimes apply oil to their hair…
Treat them the way they treated you in your childhood…
Remember:
Just as they raised you without expecting anything in return…
you too should treat them with kindness and sincerity.
Then you will see…
they will be happy, and Allah will be pleased with you.
Hearing this advice, tears flowed from the young man’s eyes…
and every heart in the gathering was deeply moved.
May Allah grant us the ability to value and honor our parents…
Ameen, Ya Rabb al-‘Alameen 🤲
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Read this with the intention to act upon it, and share it with your loved ones and community for the sake of Allah’s pleasure. Perhaps your small effort may become a means of changing someone’s life.
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If your child shows no interest in a particular field of study, don’t force them into it.
Ibn al-Qayyim (rahimahullah) advises parents approximately 700 years ago to observe their child's aptitudes and interests, and not force them into a particular field if they have no inclination towards it. Instead, guide them towards areas where they show a natural talent or enthusiasm, while ensuring they receive essential religious education. This approach will help them excel and make a positive contribution, whether in academics, skills like horsemanship, or useful handicrafts. (Tuhfat al-Mawdood fi Ahkaam al-Mawlood (p. 243, 244))
Imam Ibn Hazm said 1000 years ago:
من مال بطبعه إلى علم ما وإن كان أدنى من غيره فلا يشغلها بسواه فيكون كغارس النارجيل بالأندلس وكغارس الزيتون بالهند وكل ذلك لا ينجب
‘𝗜𝗳 𝘀𝗼𝗺𝗲𝗼𝗻𝗲 𝗵𝗮𝘀 𝗮 𝗽𝗮𝗿𝘁𝗶𝗰𝘂𝗹𝗮𝗿 𝗶𝗻𝘁𝗲𝗿𝗲𝘀𝘁 𝗶𝗻 𝘀𝗼𝗺𝗲 𝗳𝗶𝗲𝗹𝗱 - 𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗻 𝗶𝗳 𝗶𝘁’𝘀 𝗮𝗻 𝗶𝗻𝗳𝗲𝗿𝗶𝗼𝗿 𝘀𝗰𝗶𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝘀𝗼𝗺𝗲 𝗼𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿𝘀 - 𝗵𝗲 𝘀𝗵𝗼𝘂𝗹𝗱 𝗳𝗼𝗰𝘂𝘀 𝗼𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝗱𝗶𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘁 𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗲𝗳𝗳𝗼𝗿𝘁𝘀 𝘁𝗼𝘄𝗮𝗿𝗱𝘀 𝗼𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝘀𝗰𝗶𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲𝘀 [𝘄𝗵𝗶𝗰𝗵 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝘆 𝗮𝗿𝗲𝗻’𝘁 𝗶𝗻𝘁𝗲𝗿𝗲𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗱 𝗶𝗻].
𝗢𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿𝘄𝗶𝘀𝗲, 𝗶𝘁 𝘄𝗼𝘂𝗹𝗱 𝗯𝗲 𝗹𝗶𝗸𝗲 𝘁𝗿𝘆𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗼 𝗴𝗿𝗼𝘄 𝗰𝗼𝗰𝗼𝗻𝘂𝘁𝘀 𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲 𝗶𝗻 𝗔𝗻𝗱𝗮𝗹𝘂𝘀 [𝗦𝗽𝗮𝗶𝗻] 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗢𝗹𝗶𝘃𝗲𝘀 𝗶𝗻 𝗜𝗻𝗱𝗶𝗮!
𝗧𝗵𝗲𝘀𝗲 𝗳𝘂𝘁𝗶𝗹𝗲 𝗮𝘁𝘁𝗲𝗺𝗽𝘁𝘀 𝘄𝗶𝗹𝗹 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝗯𝗲 𝗳𝗿𝘂𝗶𝘁𝗳𝘂𝗹.’
[‘Al-Akhlaaq wal-Siyar’, 1/22 credits: Mohmand Afghan]
Ibn al-Qayyim (rahimahullah) advises parents approximately 700 years ago to observe their child's aptitudes and interests, and not force them into a particular field if they have no inclination towards it. Instead, guide them towards areas where they show a natural talent or enthusiasm, while ensuring they receive essential religious education. This approach will help them excel and make a positive contribution, whether in academics, skills like horsemanship, or useful handicrafts. (Tuhfat al-Mawdood fi Ahkaam al-Mawlood (p. 243, 244))
Imam Ibn Hazm said 1000 years ago:
من مال بطبعه إلى علم ما وإن كان أدنى من غيره فلا يشغلها بسواه فيكون كغارس النارجيل بالأندلس وكغارس الزيتون بالهند وكل ذلك لا ينجب
‘𝗜𝗳 𝘀𝗼𝗺𝗲𝗼𝗻𝗲 𝗵𝗮𝘀 𝗮 𝗽𝗮𝗿𝘁𝗶𝗰𝘂𝗹𝗮𝗿 𝗶𝗻𝘁𝗲𝗿𝗲𝘀𝘁 𝗶𝗻 𝘀𝗼𝗺𝗲 𝗳𝗶𝗲𝗹𝗱 - 𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗻 𝗶𝗳 𝗶𝘁’𝘀 𝗮𝗻 𝗶𝗻𝗳𝗲𝗿𝗶𝗼𝗿 𝘀𝗰𝗶𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝘀𝗼𝗺𝗲 𝗼𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿𝘀 - 𝗵𝗲 𝘀𝗵𝗼𝘂𝗹𝗱 𝗳𝗼𝗰𝘂𝘀 𝗼𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝗱𝗶𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘁 𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗲𝗳𝗳𝗼𝗿𝘁𝘀 𝘁𝗼𝘄𝗮𝗿𝗱𝘀 𝗼𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝘀𝗰𝗶𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲𝘀 [𝘄𝗵𝗶𝗰𝗵 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝘆 𝗮𝗿𝗲𝗻’𝘁 𝗶𝗻𝘁𝗲𝗿𝗲𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗱 𝗶𝗻].
𝗢𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿𝘄𝗶𝘀𝗲, 𝗶𝘁 𝘄𝗼𝘂𝗹𝗱 𝗯𝗲 𝗹𝗶𝗸𝗲 𝘁𝗿𝘆𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗼 𝗴𝗿𝗼𝘄 𝗰𝗼𝗰𝗼𝗻𝘂𝘁𝘀 𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲 𝗶𝗻 𝗔𝗻𝗱𝗮𝗹𝘂𝘀 [𝗦𝗽𝗮𝗶𝗻] 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗢𝗹𝗶𝘃𝗲𝘀 𝗶𝗻 𝗜𝗻𝗱𝗶𝗮!
𝗧𝗵𝗲𝘀𝗲 𝗳𝘂𝘁𝗶𝗹𝗲 𝗮𝘁𝘁𝗲𝗺𝗽𝘁𝘀 𝘄𝗶𝗹𝗹 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝗯𝗲 𝗳𝗿𝘂𝗶𝘁𝗳𝘂𝗹.’
[‘Al-Akhlaaq wal-Siyar’, 1/22 credits: Mohmand Afghan]
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