IF U HAVE A FATHER💚 WHO, PRAYS, WORKS & TAUGHT U DEEN THANK ALLAH, THESE MEN ARE RARE & PRICELESS!
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Do Not Burden Your Children With Liabilities - Leave Assets for Them
Consider this: you are a hardworking executive or a teacher with numerous awards and a good salary, too. But after you retire,
1. Your income ceases, and you are dependent upon your children's income, which they already have to support their families.
2. While your income is zero or a little pension, your debt, which you borrowed for your children's education and marriages stay there.
3. You realise that your savings do not increase, nor do you have income to buy assets.
4. You undergo anxiety every time your creditor calls for the return of money.
5. You or your spouse is sick but cannot afford medical expenses.
At the sunset of life, what are your options? Borrow more money? Beg for charity from friends and relatives who might be reluctant to give or wait for your death, leaving your debt for your unwilling children to repay.
On the other hand, if during your prime youth, that's between 30 to 45, if you had invested in a small business with little profit but a steady growth, at 60, it would be fetching you enough money to spend on your needs and repay the debt too. No small businesses are small if they have survived few years with a small unit of profits.
I know many people who have run a parallel small business during their employment days, whether they sold goods, started a small tea shop or even owned a running cafeteria. Upon retiring, these people had an established income and remained busy. They bore the weight of their children's marriage and also sponsored a few poor people's weddings and education, too.
My course, 'Business For Beginners', has successfully reached 500 learners, and many of them have successfully applied my advice.
This course has improved my own business analytical skills and helped a few clients of mine to revive their terminally sick businesses.
Never waste time scrolling through reels, but invest time in learning. If you have not done my Business For Beginners course, it's time you invest in and benefit from it. It is half the price of your mobile and multiple times more precious than your entire wardrobe.
Consider this: you are a hardworking executive or a teacher with numerous awards and a good salary, too. But after you retire,
1. Your income ceases, and you are dependent upon your children's income, which they already have to support their families.
2. While your income is zero or a little pension, your debt, which you borrowed for your children's education and marriages stay there.
3. You realise that your savings do not increase, nor do you have income to buy assets.
4. You undergo anxiety every time your creditor calls for the return of money.
5. You or your spouse is sick but cannot afford medical expenses.
At the sunset of life, what are your options? Borrow more money? Beg for charity from friends and relatives who might be reluctant to give or wait for your death, leaving your debt for your unwilling children to repay.
On the other hand, if during your prime youth, that's between 30 to 45, if you had invested in a small business with little profit but a steady growth, at 60, it would be fetching you enough money to spend on your needs and repay the debt too. No small businesses are small if they have survived few years with a small unit of profits.
I know many people who have run a parallel small business during their employment days, whether they sold goods, started a small tea shop or even owned a running cafeteria. Upon retiring, these people had an established income and remained busy. They bore the weight of their children's marriage and also sponsored a few poor people's weddings and education, too.
My course, 'Business For Beginners', has successfully reached 500 learners, and many of them have successfully applied my advice.
This course has improved my own business analytical skills and helped a few clients of mine to revive their terminally sick businesses.
Never waste time scrolling through reels, but invest time in learning. If you have not done my Business For Beginners course, it's time you invest in and benefit from it. It is half the price of your mobile and multiple times more precious than your entire wardrobe.
EVIL EYE.
Protect your children.
Your grandchildren.
And others.
From the evil eye.
Evil eye is the truth.
A real phenomenon.
Brought about by,
A malevolent gaze,
Usually inspired by envy
Can cause harm.
Regret not an option.
Use not social media to brag.
Do not compete for shares, likes,
A child is a trust.
Maintain that trust.
With Allah's permission.
Ibn Jamā'ah
Protect your children.
Your grandchildren.
And others.
From the evil eye.
Evil eye is the truth.
A real phenomenon.
Brought about by,
A malevolent gaze,
Usually inspired by envy
Can cause harm.
Regret not an option.
Use not social media to brag.
Do not compete for shares, likes,
A child is a trust.
Maintain that trust.
With Allah's permission.
Ibn Jamā'ah
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Your Child Was Not Created to Fulfill Your Unfinished Dreams
Alhamdulillah.
One of the quiet harms in parenting is turning a single, narrow prestige path into the definition of “success.” When this happens, tarbiyah is reduced to pressure, comparison, and anxiety, rather than guidance and cultivation.
Part of sound tarbiyah is helping a young person recognize the gifts Allah has placed within them and to pursue a ḥalāl path where they can excel, contribute, and serve with dignity. Not every child is meant for the same vocation, temperament, or public role.
The Prophet ﷺ set the framework clearly:
«اعْمَلُوا فَكُلٌّ مُيَسَّرٌ لِمَا خُلِقَ لَهُ»
“Work, for everyone will be facilitated toward that for which he was created.” (al-Bukhārī; Muslim)
Your role, then, is not to script your child’s destiny, but to protect dīn and character, to build real skill and competence, and to guide ambition with humility and responsibility. Parenting becomes distorted when a child is asked to carry a parent’s unfulfilled hopes, social anxieties, or wounded pride.
Success in Islam is about faithfulness to one’s purpose, integrity in one’s effort, and benefit to others.
وصلى الله على محمد، والحمد لله رب العالمين.
Alhamdulillah.
One of the quiet harms in parenting is turning a single, narrow prestige path into the definition of “success.” When this happens, tarbiyah is reduced to pressure, comparison, and anxiety, rather than guidance and cultivation.
Part of sound tarbiyah is helping a young person recognize the gifts Allah has placed within them and to pursue a ḥalāl path where they can excel, contribute, and serve with dignity. Not every child is meant for the same vocation, temperament, or public role.
The Prophet ﷺ set the framework clearly:
«اعْمَلُوا فَكُلٌّ مُيَسَّرٌ لِمَا خُلِقَ لَهُ»
“Work, for everyone will be facilitated toward that for which he was created.” (al-Bukhārī; Muslim)
Your role, then, is not to script your child’s destiny, but to protect dīn and character, to build real skill and competence, and to guide ambition with humility and responsibility. Parenting becomes distorted when a child is asked to carry a parent’s unfulfilled hopes, social anxieties, or wounded pride.
Success in Islam is about faithfulness to one’s purpose, integrity in one’s effort, and benefit to others.
وصلى الله على محمد، والحمد لله رب العالمين.
Honoring our parents is among the greatest paths to Allah’s pleasure. Through their love, sacrifice, and dua, doors open that no one else can open.
May Allah ﷻ allow us to serve them with gentleness, to be a source of joy for them in this life, and to meet them again through the gate of Paradise Ameen
May Allah ﷻ allow us to serve them with gentleness, to be a source of joy for them in this life, and to meet them again through the gate of Paradise Ameen
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Investing in Your Child’s Education: Sacrifice, Not Convenience
Alhamdulillah.
Investing in a child’s education is among the most consequential investments a parent makes, even when it is financially and emotionally burdensome. It is striking - and tragic - that some will stretch themselves for comforts or status symbols, yet hesitate to spend for the intellectual and moral formation of their own children. Education shapes not only earning potential, but discernment, confidence, agency, and the ability to carry faith with competence into the world.
The Salaf understood this intuitively. Some mothers bore poverty, labor, and long patience so their children could carry knowledge that would benefit others for generations. Ibn al-Jawzī records the well-known maternal counsel to Sufyān al-Thawrī: "يا بني اطلب العلم وأنا أكفيك بمغزلي" — “My son, seek knowledge, and I will provide for you with my loom.” (1) She did not promise him luxury; she promised him sacrifice.
And there is a striking story about Rabīʿah ibn Abī ʿAbd al-Raḥmān—Rabīʿat al-Raʾy—whose mother chose knowledge over wealth with a clarity that still shames many of our modern priorities. Al-Khaṭīb al-Baghdādī relates that Rabīʿah’s father left for a military campaign while his wife was pregnant, leaving thirty thousand dinars with her. He returned to Madīnah after twenty-seven years, arriving as a stranger. Not recognizing the grown son who emerged from the house, each accused the other with harsh words, and the dispute nearly turned violent until neighbors gathered. Then the mother came out and ended the confusion: “This is my husband, and this is my son.” They embraced and wept. Later, the father entered the Masjid of the Prophet ﷺ and saw a large circle of students gathered, the scholars and notable men attending—then learned it was his own son’s gathering. He said, in wonder: “لقد رفع الله ابني” — “Allah has raised my son.” When he returned home, his wife asked him: “Which is more beloved to you—thirty thousand dinars, or this station he has attained?” When he replied that nothing was dearer than this, she told him that she had spent the entire sum on their son’s education—and he answered: “فوالله ما ضيعته” — “By Allah, you did not waste it.” (2)
These women did not know the future stature of their sons. They did not invest because of guaranteed outcomes, but because they recognized that knowledge, character, and discernment are never wasted.
وصلى الله على محمد والحمد لله رب العالمين
(1) Ibn al-Jawzī, Ṣifat al-Ṣafwah, ed. Aḥmad b. ʿAlī (Cairo: Dār al-Ḥadīth, 1421/2000), 2:110.
(2) al-Khaṭīb al-Baghdādī, Tārīkh Baghdād (Tārīkh Madīnat al-Salām), ed. Muṣṭafā ʿAbd al-Qādir ʿAṭā (Beirut: Dār al-Kutub al-ʿIlmiyyah, 1st ed. 1417/1997; repr. 2nd ed. 1425/2004), 8:421.
Alhamdulillah.
Investing in a child’s education is among the most consequential investments a parent makes, even when it is financially and emotionally burdensome. It is striking - and tragic - that some will stretch themselves for comforts or status symbols, yet hesitate to spend for the intellectual and moral formation of their own children. Education shapes not only earning potential, but discernment, confidence, agency, and the ability to carry faith with competence into the world.
The Salaf understood this intuitively. Some mothers bore poverty, labor, and long patience so their children could carry knowledge that would benefit others for generations. Ibn al-Jawzī records the well-known maternal counsel to Sufyān al-Thawrī: "يا بني اطلب العلم وأنا أكفيك بمغزلي" — “My son, seek knowledge, and I will provide for you with my loom.” (1) She did not promise him luxury; she promised him sacrifice.
And there is a striking story about Rabīʿah ibn Abī ʿAbd al-Raḥmān—Rabīʿat al-Raʾy—whose mother chose knowledge over wealth with a clarity that still shames many of our modern priorities. Al-Khaṭīb al-Baghdādī relates that Rabīʿah’s father left for a military campaign while his wife was pregnant, leaving thirty thousand dinars with her. He returned to Madīnah after twenty-seven years, arriving as a stranger. Not recognizing the grown son who emerged from the house, each accused the other with harsh words, and the dispute nearly turned violent until neighbors gathered. Then the mother came out and ended the confusion: “This is my husband, and this is my son.” They embraced and wept. Later, the father entered the Masjid of the Prophet ﷺ and saw a large circle of students gathered, the scholars and notable men attending—then learned it was his own son’s gathering. He said, in wonder: “لقد رفع الله ابني” — “Allah has raised my son.” When he returned home, his wife asked him: “Which is more beloved to you—thirty thousand dinars, or this station he has attained?” When he replied that nothing was dearer than this, she told him that she had spent the entire sum on their son’s education—and he answered: “فوالله ما ضيعته” — “By Allah, you did not waste it.” (2)
These women did not know the future stature of their sons. They did not invest because of guaranteed outcomes, but because they recognized that knowledge, character, and discernment are never wasted.
وصلى الله على محمد والحمد لله رب العالمين
(1) Ibn al-Jawzī, Ṣifat al-Ṣafwah, ed. Aḥmad b. ʿAlī (Cairo: Dār al-Ḥadīth, 1421/2000), 2:110.
(2) al-Khaṭīb al-Baghdādī, Tārīkh Baghdād (Tārīkh Madīnat al-Salām), ed. Muṣṭafā ʿAbd al-Qādir ʿAṭā (Beirut: Dār al-Kutub al-ʿIlmiyyah, 1st ed. 1417/1997; repr. 2nd ed. 1425/2004), 8:421.
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*A message to all our Parents*
Take heed of this advice.
The messenger (May Allah’s peace and blessings be upon him) put his hand on the chest of a young boy and he recited:
*اَللّٰهُمَّ اغْفِرْ ذَنْبَه وَ طَهِـّرْ قَلْبَهُ وَحَصِّنْ فَرْجَهُ*
Oh Allah forgive his sins and purify his heart and protect his private parts
The sheikh Abdul Razzaak al Badr- breaks down and cries and gives us sincere advice from his heart.
*Listen and follow it*
The youth of today are in the times of fitan (music, dancing, woman, drinking, drugs ) all very easily available for them.
The youth in the time of the messenger ﷺ were not exposed to this kind of fitan yet he made this dua.
Our youth need to be protected even more . They need duas of their parents because parents duas for their children are always accepted by Allah.
Be careful 😮 mothers , O fathers : Do not curse your children, do not make dua for Allah to curse them, be very careful , for duas that come from a mother’s or father’s broken heart against their children are readily accepted by Allah.
Hold your tongues!!! And say only that which will benefit them.
Our youth are in need of these sincere duas from the heart of their parents . They are in need of sincere advice , they are in need of love , win their hearts and befriend them , show them affection and try to understand them. Do not let shaithaan overpower them because of your curses.
*May Allah guide and protect our children , keep them steadfast on* *deen and make them the coolness of our eyes and the leaders of the Muslim ummah.*
*Aameen*🤲🏻
Take heed of this advice.
The messenger (May Allah’s peace and blessings be upon him) put his hand on the chest of a young boy and he recited:
*اَللّٰهُمَّ اغْفِرْ ذَنْبَه وَ طَهِـّرْ قَلْبَهُ وَحَصِّنْ فَرْجَهُ*
Oh Allah forgive his sins and purify his heart and protect his private parts
The sheikh Abdul Razzaak al Badr- breaks down and cries and gives us sincere advice from his heart.
*Listen and follow it*
The youth of today are in the times of fitan (music, dancing, woman, drinking, drugs ) all very easily available for them.
The youth in the time of the messenger ﷺ were not exposed to this kind of fitan yet he made this dua.
Our youth need to be protected even more . They need duas of their parents because parents duas for their children are always accepted by Allah.
Be careful 😮 mothers , O fathers : Do not curse your children, do not make dua for Allah to curse them, be very careful , for duas that come from a mother’s or father’s broken heart against their children are readily accepted by Allah.
Hold your tongues!!! And say only that which will benefit them.
Our youth are in need of these sincere duas from the heart of their parents . They are in need of sincere advice , they are in need of love , win their hearts and befriend them , show them affection and try to understand them. Do not let shaithaan overpower them because of your curses.
*May Allah guide and protect our children , keep them steadfast on* *deen and make them the coolness of our eyes and the leaders of the Muslim ummah.*
*Aameen*🤲🏻
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*A message to all our Parents*
Take heed of this advice.
The messenger (May Allah’s peace and blessings be upon him) put his hand on the chest of a young boy and he recited:
*اَللّٰهُمَّ اغْفِرْ ذَنْبَه وَ طَهِـّرْ قَلْبَهُ وَحَصِّنْ فَرْجَهُ*
Oh Allah forgive his sins and purify his heart and protect his private parts
The sheikh Abdul Razzaak al Badr- breaks down and cries and gives us sincere advice from his heart.
*Listen and follow it*
The youth of today are in the times of fitan (music, dancing, woman, drinking, drugs ) all very easily available for them.
The youth in the time of the messenger ﷺ were not exposed to this kind of fitan yet he made this dua.
Our youth need to be protected even more . They need duas of their parents because parents duas for their children are always accepted by Allah.
Be careful 😮 mothers , O fathers : Do not curse your children, do not make dua for Allah to curse them, be very careful , for duas that come from a mother’s or father’s broken heart against their children are readily accepted by Allah.
Hold your tongues!!! And say only that which will benefit them.
Our youth are in need of these sincere duas from the heart of their parents . They are in need of sincere advice , they are in need of love , win their hearts and befriend them , show them affection and try to understand them. Do not let shaithaan overpower them because of your curses.
*May Allah guide and protect our children , keep them steadfast on* *deen and make them the coolness of our eyes and the leaders of the Muslim ummah.*
*Aameen*🤲🏻
Take heed of this advice.
The messenger (May Allah’s peace and blessings be upon him) put his hand on the chest of a young boy and he recited:
*اَللّٰهُمَّ اغْفِرْ ذَنْبَه وَ طَهِـّرْ قَلْبَهُ وَحَصِّنْ فَرْجَهُ*
Oh Allah forgive his sins and purify his heart and protect his private parts
The sheikh Abdul Razzaak al Badr- breaks down and cries and gives us sincere advice from his heart.
*Listen and follow it*
The youth of today are in the times of fitan (music, dancing, woman, drinking, drugs ) all very easily available for them.
The youth in the time of the messenger ﷺ were not exposed to this kind of fitan yet he made this dua.
Our youth need to be protected even more . They need duas of their parents because parents duas for their children are always accepted by Allah.
Be careful 😮 mothers , O fathers : Do not curse your children, do not make dua for Allah to curse them, be very careful , for duas that come from a mother’s or father’s broken heart against their children are readily accepted by Allah.
Hold your tongues!!! And say only that which will benefit them.
Our youth are in need of these sincere duas from the heart of their parents . They are in need of sincere advice , they are in need of love , win their hearts and befriend them , show them affection and try to understand them. Do not let shaithaan overpower them because of your curses.
*May Allah guide and protect our children , keep them steadfast on* *deen and make them the coolness of our eyes and the leaders of the Muslim ummah.*
*Aameen*🤲🏻
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Some parents give their children whatever they desire and lavishly bestow on them materialistic things thinking: "Take what you want and just let me be"!
The father/mother occupy themselves with work and fulfilling their ambitions, and in their free time occupy themselves with relationships with friends, social media and whatever else the parents find more enjoyment in than raising children.
He is busy, but he loves his son and is ‘concerned' for him... He expresses his love and ‘care’ through gifts and material luxuries.
My son asks me for something that is not in his best interest... To explain to him why, convince him, and provide him with the right alternative... is a difficult and "boring" process and the child is obstinate...
So take what you want, son... I will buy from you my ‘peace of mind’ and my time through this device that distracts you from me, so that I may invest my time more enjoyably than arguing with you!
These parents may appear ‘loving’ and doting towards their children, when in fact they are ruining them!
I am afraid that the statement of the Prophet ﷺ: "It is sufficient sin for a man that he neglects those whom he maintains." includes not only those who do not provide their children with the food and clothing they require, but also includes those who destroy them by giving them everything they want to spare themselves the effort of education and guidance!
Ibn al-Qayyim - may Allah have mercy on him - said in [Tuhfat Al-Mawlud]:
"How many have ruined both the Dunya and Akhirah for their child, their own blood, by neglecting him and abandoning his discipline and helping him fulfill his desires, while he claims that he has honored him when, in fact, he has insulted him, and claims to be showing mercy to the child when he has, in fact, done him an injustice and deprived him of goodness."
When you deprive your child of something he desires, explain it to him thus: ‘Oh my dear child, I can give you this device that you ask for, and you and I shall both be at ease for a short term, but it is not in your interest, and I am not giving it to you for your own good, because I love you and care about you. Giving your child whatever he wants is ‘sometimes’ an indication of neglect my dear child. It is not you who should envy your friends for their materialistic things, but rather it is them who should envy you for the care shown to you by your father.'
📝𝐃𝐫. 𝐄𝐲𝐚𝐝 𝐐𝐮𝐧𝐚𝐢𝐛𝐢
Dr. Eyad Qunaibi - English
The father/mother occupy themselves with work and fulfilling their ambitions, and in their free time occupy themselves with relationships with friends, social media and whatever else the parents find more enjoyment in than raising children.
He is busy, but he loves his son and is ‘concerned' for him... He expresses his love and ‘care’ through gifts and material luxuries.
My son asks me for something that is not in his best interest... To explain to him why, convince him, and provide him with the right alternative... is a difficult and "boring" process and the child is obstinate...
So take what you want, son... I will buy from you my ‘peace of mind’ and my time through this device that distracts you from me, so that I may invest my time more enjoyably than arguing with you!
These parents may appear ‘loving’ and doting towards their children, when in fact they are ruining them!
I am afraid that the statement of the Prophet ﷺ: "It is sufficient sin for a man that he neglects those whom he maintains." includes not only those who do not provide their children with the food and clothing they require, but also includes those who destroy them by giving them everything they want to spare themselves the effort of education and guidance!
Ibn al-Qayyim - may Allah have mercy on him - said in [Tuhfat Al-Mawlud]:
"How many have ruined both the Dunya and Akhirah for their child, their own blood, by neglecting him and abandoning his discipline and helping him fulfill his desires, while he claims that he has honored him when, in fact, he has insulted him, and claims to be showing mercy to the child when he has, in fact, done him an injustice and deprived him of goodness."
When you deprive your child of something he desires, explain it to him thus: ‘Oh my dear child, I can give you this device that you ask for, and you and I shall both be at ease for a short term, but it is not in your interest, and I am not giving it to you for your own good, because I love you and care about you. Giving your child whatever he wants is ‘sometimes’ an indication of neglect my dear child. It is not you who should envy your friends for their materialistic things, but rather it is them who should envy you for the care shown to you by your father.'
📝𝐃𝐫. 𝐄𝐲𝐚𝐝 𝐐𝐮𝐧𝐚𝐢𝐛𝐢
Dr. Eyad Qunaibi - English
Forwarded from Hijama of The Prophet ﷺ
What a Man or Woman Must Do To Become a Magician.pdf
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What a Man or Woman Must Do To Become a Magician:
After reading this, you will, in shā Allāh, come to know that the magicians are from the most vile and despicable people on this earth
[7pgs ex. cover – feel free to share BārakAllāhu feekum]
T.me/HijamaOTP
After reading this, you will, in shā Allāh, come to know that the magicians are from the most vile and despicable people on this earth
[7pgs ex. cover – feel free to share BārakAllāhu feekum]
T.me/HijamaOTP
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Imam Ahmad bin Hanbal رحمه الله said:
"Being good towards the parents is a kaffaarah (expiation) of the kabaa'ir (major sins)"
[Jaami'ul-'Uloom wal-Hikam]
"Being good towards the parents is a kaffaarah (expiation) of the kabaa'ir (major sins)"
[Jaami'ul-'Uloom wal-Hikam]
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The child is a gift from Allāh, whether son or daughter and by Allāh you will be asked about him or her on the Day of Judgement—Allāh will ask you about this child! It has been reported in the two Sahīhs on the authority of ‘Abdullāh Ibn ‘Umar (May Allāh be pleased with them both) who said that the Messenger of Allāh (Sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) said:
“All of you are shepherds and each is responsible for his flock.” [1] And he mentioned in another Hadīth:
“The man is the guardian of the family of his household and is responsible for his subjects, and the woman is the guardian of her husband's home and his children and is responsible for them.” [2]
Therefore, you are a shepherd and responsible for this flock: your daughters, sons and the people of your household; and Allāh (Glorified be He) will hold you to account for them on the Day of Judgement.
[1] Sahih al-Bukhārī (5188).
[2] Al-Bukhārī and Muslim reported it.
🖋By Shaykh Abdur Razzaaq bin Abdul Muhsin al Badr
“All of you are shepherds and each is responsible for his flock.” [1] And he mentioned in another Hadīth:
“The man is the guardian of the family of his household and is responsible for his subjects, and the woman is the guardian of her husband's home and his children and is responsible for them.” [2]
Therefore, you are a shepherd and responsible for this flock: your daughters, sons and the people of your household; and Allāh (Glorified be He) will hold you to account for them on the Day of Judgement.
[1] Sahih al-Bukhārī (5188).
[2] Al-Bukhārī and Muslim reported it.
🖋By Shaykh Abdur Razzaaq bin Abdul Muhsin al Badr
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These are the top 5 reasons children are vulnerable to dangerous people, and every single one of them is fixable once a parent understands the mechanics.
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1. Children are trained to obey adults without question
This is the biggest vulnerability.
Kids are conditioned to:
• be polite
• not interrupt
• not question adults
• “listen to grown‑ups”
Predators exploit obedience culture more than anything else.
A child who thinks: “I’m not allowed to say no to an adult”
is a child who can be manipulated.
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2. Children don’t understand adult intentions
Kids can read:
• tone
• emotion
• energy
…but they cannot read:
• manipulation
• grooming
• hidden motives
• strategic friendliness
A dangerous adult doesn’t look dangerous to a child.
They look “nice,” “fun,” or “helpful.”
That’s the trap.
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3. Children freeze when confused or scared
Adults think kids will:
• scream
• run
• fight
But most children do the opposite.
They:
• freeze
• shut down
• go silent
• wait for direction
Predators rely on that freeze response.
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4. Children don’t know what’s “weird” yet
A child doesn’t know:
• what a boundary violation looks like
• what an inappropriate request is
• what a red flag feels like
They only know:
• attention
• kindness
• familiarity
Predators use normal‑looking behavior to hide their intentions.
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5. Children assume adults will protect them
This is the heartbreaking one.
Kids believe:
• adults tell the truth
• adults keep them safe
• adults know what’s best
• adults won’t hurt them
So when a dangerous adult says:
• “Come with me”
• “Your mom said it’s okay”
• “I need your help”
• “It’s a secret”
…the child’s brain defaults to trust, not suspicion.
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The deeper truth
Children aren’t vulnerable because they’re weak.
They’re vulnerable because they’re:
• trusting
• obedient
• inexperienced
• eager to please
• socially conditioned to be polite
Predators don’t overpower children.
They out‑strategize them.
And once a parent understands the mechanics, they can reverse the entire power dynamic.
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1. Children are trained to obey adults without question
This is the biggest vulnerability.
Kids are conditioned to:
• be polite
• not interrupt
• not question adults
• “listen to grown‑ups”
Predators exploit obedience culture more than anything else.
A child who thinks: “I’m not allowed to say no to an adult”
is a child who can be manipulated.
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2. Children don’t understand adult intentions
Kids can read:
• tone
• emotion
• energy
…but they cannot read:
• manipulation
• grooming
• hidden motives
• strategic friendliness
A dangerous adult doesn’t look dangerous to a child.
They look “nice,” “fun,” or “helpful.”
That’s the trap.
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3. Children freeze when confused or scared
Adults think kids will:
• scream
• run
• fight
But most children do the opposite.
They:
• freeze
• shut down
• go silent
• wait for direction
Predators rely on that freeze response.
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4. Children don’t know what’s “weird” yet
A child doesn’t know:
• what a boundary violation looks like
• what an inappropriate request is
• what a red flag feels like
They only know:
• attention
• kindness
• familiarity
Predators use normal‑looking behavior to hide their intentions.
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5. Children assume adults will protect them
This is the heartbreaking one.
Kids believe:
• adults tell the truth
• adults keep them safe
• adults know what’s best
• adults won’t hurt them
So when a dangerous adult says:
• “Come with me”
• “Your mom said it’s okay”
• “I need your help”
• “It’s a secret”
…the child’s brain defaults to trust, not suspicion.
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The deeper truth
Children aren’t vulnerable because they’re weak.
They’re vulnerable because they’re:
• trusting
• obedient
• inexperienced
• eager to please
• socially conditioned to be polite
Predators don’t overpower children.
They out‑strategize them.
And once a parent understands the mechanics, they can reverse the entire power dynamic.
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*DECEASED PARENTS*
When a parent passes away remember that you have begun a new phase of birr (dutifulness) to that parent.
Birr after death is the trust and most sincere forms of birr because birr during their lifetime could be tainted with show-off, being polite (as opposed to sincere) and expecting praise from the parents or others. As for after their death, then only Allah hears and sees you.
A deceased parent is in greater need of his/her children - even more than when they the parent was alive. What children do for the parents during the parent's lifetime is for the worldly needs.
But after death only Allah knows what good and bad is in store for the deceased in the grave.
Du'a - i.e., supplication to Allah - for rahmah (mercy), asking Allah to shower the deceased with His mercy is invaluable for the deceased.
Through the child's Du'a, Allah - with His grace and mercy - enlightens the grave removing the darkness and expands the grave thus removing the suffering. And Allah makes the grave a garden from the gardens of Paradise for the deceased.
Therefore, always remember your deceased parent/s, and always ask Allah to shower them with His mercy, enlighten their grave and expand it.
For example as you are about have a meal think about the many wonderful meals your mother had prepared for you and how she looked after you all your life. Your heart will surely soften and at that point, let it drive you to offer a similar meal to an orphan, widow, divorced or needy person on behalf of your deceased parent, begging of Allah to reward them for it. Give charity on their behalf, recalling the many favours they did for you.
Never forget parents. No matter how harsh they may have been with you, only Allah knows the love they had in their hearts for you.
Remember them in your Du'a during sujood - the prostration - between the adhaan - the call for prayer - and the iqamah - the in-masjid call for prayer just a minute before congregational prayer, and in every act of worship and at all times.
Give charity on their behalf privately, wipe away the tears of orphans, widows and divorced (through charity) on behalf of your parents, quench the thirst of the thirsty on their behalf (by having a well dug, for example).
Go out of your way to be the best child to your parents for they have sacrificed much to raise you.
This is the Du'a for parents:
*رَّبِّ ارْحَمْهُمَا كَمَا رَبَّيَانِي صَغِيرًا*
*Rabb-ir-ham-huma kama rabbayaani sagheera* {Quran surah 17, verse 24}
Translation :
'My Lord .. Bestow thy mercy on my parent/s as they cherished and raised me in my childhood'
Lastly let us teach our children about this Du'a for one day we all shall need it.
When a parent passes away remember that you have begun a new phase of birr (dutifulness) to that parent.
Birr after death is the trust and most sincere forms of birr because birr during their lifetime could be tainted with show-off, being polite (as opposed to sincere) and expecting praise from the parents or others. As for after their death, then only Allah hears and sees you.
A deceased parent is in greater need of his/her children - even more than when they the parent was alive. What children do for the parents during the parent's lifetime is for the worldly needs.
But after death only Allah knows what good and bad is in store for the deceased in the grave.
Du'a - i.e., supplication to Allah - for rahmah (mercy), asking Allah to shower the deceased with His mercy is invaluable for the deceased.
Through the child's Du'a, Allah - with His grace and mercy - enlightens the grave removing the darkness and expands the grave thus removing the suffering. And Allah makes the grave a garden from the gardens of Paradise for the deceased.
Therefore, always remember your deceased parent/s, and always ask Allah to shower them with His mercy, enlighten their grave and expand it.
For example as you are about have a meal think about the many wonderful meals your mother had prepared for you and how she looked after you all your life. Your heart will surely soften and at that point, let it drive you to offer a similar meal to an orphan, widow, divorced or needy person on behalf of your deceased parent, begging of Allah to reward them for it. Give charity on their behalf, recalling the many favours they did for you.
Never forget parents. No matter how harsh they may have been with you, only Allah knows the love they had in their hearts for you.
Remember them in your Du'a during sujood - the prostration - between the adhaan - the call for prayer - and the iqamah - the in-masjid call for prayer just a minute before congregational prayer, and in every act of worship and at all times.
Give charity on their behalf privately, wipe away the tears of orphans, widows and divorced (through charity) on behalf of your parents, quench the thirst of the thirsty on their behalf (by having a well dug, for example).
Go out of your way to be the best child to your parents for they have sacrificed much to raise you.
This is the Du'a for parents:
*رَّبِّ ارْحَمْهُمَا كَمَا رَبَّيَانِي صَغِيرًا*
*Rabb-ir-ham-huma kama rabbayaani sagheera* {Quran surah 17, verse 24}
Translation :
'My Lord .. Bestow thy mercy on my parent/s as they cherished and raised me in my childhood'
Lastly let us teach our children about this Du'a for one day we all shall need it.
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The Qur’an is very clear about something most parents don’t like to hear…
Your children are not just a blessing.
They are also a test.
Allah tells us that our wealth and our children are a fitnah,
a test of what truly sits in our hearts.
This doesn’t mean children are bad.
It means love without boundaries can become dangerous.
The hidden trap
Ibn al-Qayyim رحمه الله explained that a parent can be rewarded through their child
or punished through them,
depending on whether they prioritise obedience to Allah
or obedience to the child.
That’s the test.
Hasan al-Basri رحمه الله said:
“Loving something can blind a person from seeing its harm.”
And yes, this applies to parenting too.
When the test shows up
• When rules soften to avoid tears
• When truth bends to keep the peace
• When your child’s approval matters more than Allah’s limits
• When discipline is delayed because “they’re still young”
This is where many parents slip, quietly.
Your child is an amanah.
Not a trophy.
Not an extension of your ego.
Not proof that you’re a “good parent.”
You are not raising someone to be happy at seven but lost at twenty-seven.
You are raising someone who knows Allah.
It doesn’t mean harshness.
It doesn’t mean coldness.
It means intentional love.
Love that guides.
Love that holds boundaries.
Love that chooses Allah, even when it’s uncomfortable.
The real success of parenting isn’t how your child feels about you today.
It’s how they stand before Allah tomorrow.
🤍 May Allah help us love our children without failing their test. AAMEEN
Your children are not just a blessing.
They are also a test.
Allah tells us that our wealth and our children are a fitnah,
a test of what truly sits in our hearts.
This doesn’t mean children are bad.
It means love without boundaries can become dangerous.
The hidden trap
Ibn al-Qayyim رحمه الله explained that a parent can be rewarded through their child
or punished through them,
depending on whether they prioritise obedience to Allah
or obedience to the child.
That’s the test.
Hasan al-Basri رحمه الله said:
“Loving something can blind a person from seeing its harm.”
And yes, this applies to parenting too.
When the test shows up
• When rules soften to avoid tears
• When truth bends to keep the peace
• When your child’s approval matters more than Allah’s limits
• When discipline is delayed because “they’re still young”
This is where many parents slip, quietly.
Your child is an amanah.
Not a trophy.
Not an extension of your ego.
Not proof that you’re a “good parent.”
You are not raising someone to be happy at seven but lost at twenty-seven.
You are raising someone who knows Allah.
It doesn’t mean harshness.
It doesn’t mean coldness.
It means intentional love.
Love that guides.
Love that holds boundaries.
Love that chooses Allah, even when it’s uncomfortable.
The real success of parenting isn’t how your child feels about you today.
It’s how they stand before Allah tomorrow.
🤍 May Allah help us love our children without failing their test. AAMEEN
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From the means by which a Jinn can overpower and possess the children
A very important point
Shaikh Ibn al-`Uthaymeen رحمه الله said:
❝Some of the foolish, ignorant people, lacking intelligence, scare their small innocent children and frighten them by saying: so-and-so will come (and take you), or so-and-so will (do such-and-such to you). So the child gets scared and this fear and anxiety remains in his heart, and this becomes permanent in his heart so that he is constantly in anxiety, fear and distress.
Sometimes it is the father who scares his son and sometimes it is the mother who scares her son and daughter.
But the most foolish ones are those who tell us that the when a child does something wrong (then as punishment) he should be locked inside his room, alone. And even when he shouts and screams they do not feel sorry for him nor do they open the door.
And this is one of the means by which a Jinn overpowers (and possesses) the child. This was conveyed by one of the Jinns who had possessed a child and said that he entered in him when his father had locked him inside the room, and he began to shout and scream, and that's when he possessed him.
So we should be alert and take precautions from the things which can become a means for the Jinn to overpower us.❞
📚 Source:
[ " بيان حقيقة صرع الجن للإنس ؛ مواعظ عامة ومواضيع متفرقة للشيخ محمد بن صالح العثيمين رحمه الله تعالى " ]
A very important point
Shaikh Ibn al-`Uthaymeen رحمه الله said:
❝Some of the foolish, ignorant people, lacking intelligence, scare their small innocent children and frighten them by saying: so-and-so will come (and take you), or so-and-so will (do such-and-such to you). So the child gets scared and this fear and anxiety remains in his heart, and this becomes permanent in his heart so that he is constantly in anxiety, fear and distress.
Sometimes it is the father who scares his son and sometimes it is the mother who scares her son and daughter.
But the most foolish ones are those who tell us that the when a child does something wrong (then as punishment) he should be locked inside his room, alone. And even when he shouts and screams they do not feel sorry for him nor do they open the door.
And this is one of the means by which a Jinn overpowers (and possesses) the child. This was conveyed by one of the Jinns who had possessed a child and said that he entered in him when his father had locked him inside the room, and he began to shout and scream, and that's when he possessed him.
So we should be alert and take precautions from the things which can become a means for the Jinn to overpower us.❞
📚 Source:
[ " بيان حقيقة صرع الجن للإنس ؛ مواعظ عامة ومواضيع متفرقة للشيخ محمد بن صالح العثيمين رحمه الله تعالى " ]
Child Abuse: A Serious Problem
Many children worldwide suffer from child abuse, including sexual abuse. Most cases are not reported because:
1. Children fear their parents or family.
2. They feel too shy or upset.
3. They worry about being teased by friends.
Only a few cases are made public, often when children bravely speak out or when abuse is caught on camera. Sadly, people who commit child abuse can be found in all parts of society.
Few things parents should implement now a days to save their children.
1. Don't ever leave your child to a stranger.
The great Sufiyan Al Thawri said:
لو أن رجلاً عبث بغلام بين إصبعين من أصابع رجليه يريد الشهوة، لكان لواطً
If someone plays with the fingers of a child's foot and his intentions is to please himself then he is a homosexual.
ذم الهوى لابن الجوزي (ص: 181)، مساوئ الأخلاق" (440)، اعتلال القلوب" (253) للخرائطي واسناده حسن.
2. Umar radhiAllahanho stopped children to even go near the man who was accused of this action.
Abdur Razzaq narrated:
عن عائشة قالت: أول من اتهم بالامر القبيح - تعني عمل قوم لوط - على عهد عمر، فأمر عمر بعض شباب قريش ألا يجالسوه.
The first to be accused of this ugly thing - meaning the practice of the nation of Lut aleh salam - during the era of Umar, so Umar ordered some of the youth of Quraysh not to sit with him.
المصنف - عبد الرزاق الصنعاني - ج ١١ - الصفحة ٢٤٣
3. Allah loves those who have daughters, take care of them and save them from this filth.
Ibn Uyanah narrated from Obaidullah (bin Umar) al Sa'di:
أنه بلغه أن الله يحب الرجل المبنات وكان لوط عليه السلام ذا بنات وكان شعيب عليه السلام ذا بنات وكان النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم ذا بنات
It has reached him that Allah loves a man with daughters. Lut Aleh salam had daughters, Shuayb aleh salam had daughters and Prophet peace be upon had daughters too.
An-nafaqa 'ala al-'iyal li-Ibni Abi al-Dunya: 95
Many children worldwide suffer from child abuse, including sexual abuse. Most cases are not reported because:
1. Children fear their parents or family.
2. They feel too shy or upset.
3. They worry about being teased by friends.
Only a few cases are made public, often when children bravely speak out or when abuse is caught on camera. Sadly, people who commit child abuse can be found in all parts of society.
Few things parents should implement now a days to save their children.
1. Don't ever leave your child to a stranger.
The great Sufiyan Al Thawri said:
لو أن رجلاً عبث بغلام بين إصبعين من أصابع رجليه يريد الشهوة، لكان لواطً
If someone plays with the fingers of a child's foot and his intentions is to please himself then he is a homosexual.
ذم الهوى لابن الجوزي (ص: 181)، مساوئ الأخلاق" (440)، اعتلال القلوب" (253) للخرائطي واسناده حسن.
2. Umar radhiAllahanho stopped children to even go near the man who was accused of this action.
Abdur Razzaq narrated:
عن عائشة قالت: أول من اتهم بالامر القبيح - تعني عمل قوم لوط - على عهد عمر، فأمر عمر بعض شباب قريش ألا يجالسوه.
The first to be accused of this ugly thing - meaning the practice of the nation of Lut aleh salam - during the era of Umar, so Umar ordered some of the youth of Quraysh not to sit with him.
المصنف - عبد الرزاق الصنعاني - ج ١١ - الصفحة ٢٤٣
3. Allah loves those who have daughters, take care of them and save them from this filth.
Ibn Uyanah narrated from Obaidullah (bin Umar) al Sa'di:
أنه بلغه أن الله يحب الرجل المبنات وكان لوط عليه السلام ذا بنات وكان شعيب عليه السلام ذا بنات وكان النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم ذا بنات
It has reached him that Allah loves a man with daughters. Lut Aleh salam had daughters, Shuayb aleh salam had daughters and Prophet peace be upon had daughters too.
An-nafaqa 'ala al-'iyal li-Ibni Abi al-Dunya: 95
LOVING YOUR CHILD DOES NOT MEAN CLOSING YOUR EYES WHILE THEY DESTROY OTHERS.
A parent’s heart may ache for their son or daughter, but Islām does not allow love to become an excuse for sin. When you remain silent while your child breaks homes, betrays trusts, and harms innocent families—especially children—you are not protecting them. You are abandoning your duty.
Allah warns us with words that should shake every believing heart:
﴿يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا قُوا أَنفُسَكُمْ وَأَهْلِيكُمْ نَارًا﴾
O you who believe, protect yourselves and your families from the Fire.
Ask yourself: how can a parent watch their child walk toward the Fire and still call it love?
True love restrains.
True love corrects.
True love says “stop” even when it breaks the heart.
Allowing your child to become a home wrecker is not mercy—it is cruelty. Not only to the family being destroyed, but to your own child whose soul is being darkened, whose ākhirah is being placed at risk. The tears of abandoned spouses and confused children do not go unheard by Allāh.
A parent who truly loves their child will stand between them and sin, even if the child becomes angry, even if the world calls it harsh. Because love that leads to Jahannam is not love—it is betrayal.
If you think you are loving your child by tolerating their wrongdoing, then know this:
You are not loving them.
You are losing them.
اللَّهُمَّ احْفَظْنَا وَأَهْلِينَا مِنَ الْفِتَنِ مَا ظَهَرَ مِنْهَا وَمَا بَطَنَ، وَاهْدِ أَبْنَاءَنَا وَبَنَاتِنَا إِلَى طَاعَتِكَ، وَاصْرِفْ عَنْهُمُ السُّوءَ وَالْحَرَامَ، وَاجْعَلْهُمْ قُرَّةَ أَعْيُنٍ لَنَا فِي الدُّنْيَا وَالْآخِرَةِ، وَقِنَا وَإِيَّاهُمْ عَذَابَ النَّارِ.
O Allāh, protect us and our families from trials—those that are apparent and those that are hidden. Guide our sons and daughters to obedience to You, turn away from them all evil and what is unlawful, and make them a comfort to our eyes in this world and the Hereafter. Protect us and them from the punishment of the Fire.
A parent’s heart may ache for their son or daughter, but Islām does not allow love to become an excuse for sin. When you remain silent while your child breaks homes, betrays trusts, and harms innocent families—especially children—you are not protecting them. You are abandoning your duty.
Allah warns us with words that should shake every believing heart:
﴿يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا قُوا أَنفُسَكُمْ وَأَهْلِيكُمْ نَارًا﴾
O you who believe, protect yourselves and your families from the Fire.
Ask yourself: how can a parent watch their child walk toward the Fire and still call it love?
True love restrains.
True love corrects.
True love says “stop” even when it breaks the heart.
Allowing your child to become a home wrecker is not mercy—it is cruelty. Not only to the family being destroyed, but to your own child whose soul is being darkened, whose ākhirah is being placed at risk. The tears of abandoned spouses and confused children do not go unheard by Allāh.
A parent who truly loves their child will stand between them and sin, even if the child becomes angry, even if the world calls it harsh. Because love that leads to Jahannam is not love—it is betrayal.
If you think you are loving your child by tolerating their wrongdoing, then know this:
You are not loving them.
You are losing them.
اللَّهُمَّ احْفَظْنَا وَأَهْلِينَا مِنَ الْفِتَنِ مَا ظَهَرَ مِنْهَا وَمَا بَطَنَ، وَاهْدِ أَبْنَاءَنَا وَبَنَاتِنَا إِلَى طَاعَتِكَ، وَاصْرِفْ عَنْهُمُ السُّوءَ وَالْحَرَامَ، وَاجْعَلْهُمْ قُرَّةَ أَعْيُنٍ لَنَا فِي الدُّنْيَا وَالْآخِرَةِ، وَقِنَا وَإِيَّاهُمْ عَذَابَ النَّارِ.
O Allāh, protect us and our families from trials—those that are apparent and those that are hidden. Guide our sons and daughters to obedience to You, turn away from them all evil and what is unlawful, and make them a comfort to our eyes in this world and the Hereafter. Protect us and them from the punishment of the Fire.
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