Can you offer one sheep as aqiqah for a male child?

It is sunnah with 2 goats and 1 goat for a baby girl.

Aishah had informed her, that the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) ordered them that for a boy, two sheep were sufficient, and for a girl one sheep. [at-Tirmidhi 1513]

The Shafi'is and Hanbalis hold the view that what is lawful and recommend is to slaughter two sheep for a male baby and one sheep for a female.

The Maliki school says that one sheep should be sacrificed for each boy and girl. their evidence:

The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) sacrificed a ram for both al-Hasan and al-Husayn each (Allah be pleased with them). [Abi Dawud 2841]

Imam Malik said, "What we do about the aqiqa is that if someone makes an aqiqa for his children, he gives a sheep for both male and female. The aqiqa is not obligatory but it is desirable to do it, and people continue to come to us about it.[Muwatta, Book 26, Hadith 7]

However, it is responded by the narration of Ibn Abbas which says, Ibn 'Abbas said:
"The Messenger of Allah offered an 'Aqiqah for Al-Hasan and Al-Husain two rams for each." [[ an-Nasa'i 4219]

Said ibn Hajr,' Rather the most that can be said is that it indicates that it is permissible to reduce the number, and that is indeed the case, because the number mentioned is not a stipulated condition; rather it is what is recommended.

Shaykh Ibn Uthaymin said: If a person can only afford one sheep, that is acceptable and it achieves the purpose, but if he has the means, then sacrificing two sheep is better. [Sharh al-Mumti`, 7/492)]

Children don’t fear exams.
They fear comparison.

They don’t fear failure.
They fear being made to feel less.

The pressure they carry is often silent —
in a look, a label, a ranking.

Let’s raise children who measure growth, not grades.
Confidence, not comparison.

Because a child’s worth was never meant to be ranked.

#ChildMindset
#EducationMatters
#MentalHealthAwareness
#ParentingWisdom
#ConsciousParenting

Children of many Prophets didn't follow them ... makes you wonder how much the scope of tarbiya is over stated in our culture ... hidaya and change of hearts eventually comes from Allah alone ... as parents one should make their honest effort but must also be aware of what's not in their control ...

Be dutiful to your parents...

Parents are the Gates

Abu Umama (radi Allahu anhu) narrates that a man enquired from the Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam):

“O Rasul Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam)! What are the rights of parents over their offspring?”

The Prophet replied: “Your entry into Paradise or Hell depends on your good or bad conduct towards your parents.”

[Ibn Majah]

💎 _In other words, if you treat them well the gates of Paradise will be opened for you and you will be admitted therein, but if you violate the rights that your parents have over you, the gates of Hell will be opened for you and you will be consigned to serve as fuel for it.

💫 The following is the advice that Abdullah bin Umar gave to Abdullah ibn Abbas (radi Allahu anhuma) regarding how he should treat his parents:

“If you talk to them in a polite manner and look after their needs and feed them well, you will certainly be admitted to Paradise provided you abstain from major sins.”

[Al-Adab-ul Mufrad]

💫 Abu Hurairah (radi Allahu anhu) once saw two men. He asked one of them, “What is your relationship with the other man?”

The man replied, “He is my father.”

Abu Hurairah (radi Allahu anhu) thereupon advised him,

“Look, never call him by his name, walk ahead of him, or sit before he takes his seat.”

[Al-Adab-ul Mufrad]

➡ In other words, it is not just their material needs of food, clothing, shelter, and medicine that we need to be mindful of. We also need to show them respect and consideration in every deed.

✒ We should address them with titles of respect, and make sure that they are comfortable before we make ourselves comfortable.

✒ The most important right of parents over their children is their right to eeman. Should the child be blessed with faith and find it lacking in the parents, they need to try with utmost love, gentleness and concern to explain and try to instill the love of Allah and His Messenger in them.

✒ _Didn’t they try their best to save us from all sorts of hazards and dangers while we were growing up? Who tried to save us from putting our fingers in electric sockets? Who taught us to be careful with fire? Who taught us to beware of strangers? Who tried to protect us from falling or getting cut or getting burned?_

Is it not then their right that we try to protect them from the Fire of Hell?

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Every Good Deed A Righteous Child Does, There Is A Share In that for his/her Father & Mother

A child is an extension of their parents’ legacy, and every righteous deed they perform continues to elevate the status of their parents with Allāh.

Reflect on this deeply:
Our prayers, acts of worship, and service to others are not just personal gains but gifts that transcend our individual lives, flowing back to those who gave us life.

A truly beneficial son or daughter is one who recognizes this profound connection and strives tirelessly to please Allāh, knowing their every act of goodness is a sadaqah jariyah for their parents.

What greater honour could we offer them than to be the reason they find shade under Allāh’s mercy?

Let us not waste the chance to be a source of goodness for them, for this is the ultimate expression of love and devotion.

Can the evil eye cause physical sickness or financial or social problems ?

Dr. ‘Abdullah as-Sadhaan – who is a specialist in matters of ruqyah and whose doctoral thesis was entitled Diraasah Muqaarinah ‘an ar-Ruqyah ash-Shar‘iyyah (A Comparative Study of Ruqyah as prescribed in Islam) was asked:

Can the evil eye cause physical sickness or financial or social problems ?

He replied:

Yes, the evil eye can cause a lack of healing from many physical problems and may even make them worse. It may also cause financial and marital problems, breakdown in relationships and a lot of calamities. How can it be otherwise, when the Prophet ( صلى الله عليه وسلم ) said: “Death among my ummah is mostly caused, after the will and decree of Allah, by the evil eye.” So whatever occurs of calamities that are less serious than death are more likely to be caused by the evil eye.

Majallat ad-Da‘wah, issue no. 2018, 15 Shawwaal 1426 AH/17 November 2005 CE

Protect Children from Sexual Abuse

🚨 What Is Sexual Abuse?
Sexual abuse refers to any act of a sexual nature imposed on a child or adolescent without their consent. It may be committed by an adult or by another child. Sexual abuse falls into two main categories:

🔴 First Type: Physical Contact
This includes inappropriate kissing, improper hugging, touching a child’s private parts, or attempting to engage in sexual acts.

🔴 Second Type: Non-Contact Abuse
This includes forcing a child to view pornographic images, videos, or scenes, engaging the child in sexually explicit conversations, or sending inappropriate romantic or sexual messages, words, or offensive images and stickers.

▪️ All children, regardless of their social or economic background, may be vulnerable to abuse.

🚨 What Does a Child Abuser Look Like?
In many cases, an abuser does not appear suspicious and may be someone trusted in the child’s life. The abuser may be:
🔴 A man or a woman
🔴 An adult, an adolescent, or even a child
🔴 A stranger, a family member, or a close friend

They may appear completely normal in daily life—married, with children, and known for having a good reputation.

🚨 Can One Child Abuse Another Child?
Yes. The abuser may be:
🔴 An older adolescent
🔴 A child who has authority or influence over younger children

Sometimes, the adolescent who commits abuse is themselves a victim of previous abuse. However, this does not mean that every victim will become an abuser in the future. In such cases, both parties should receive psychological and social support and appropriate rehabilitation.

🚨 How Can You Protect Your Children from Sexual Abuse?

Awareness is the first line of defense

1️⃣ Be alert to warning signs. Maintain communication with the school, caregivers, or babysitters. Do not blindly trust anyone with your child; excessive trust can sometimes place a child at greater risk, and regret will not undo harm.

2️⃣ Get to know the people in your child’s life. Encourage your child to speak openly and confidently with you about who they spend time with, what they do together, and what topics are discussed.

3️⃣ Teach your child about privacy and boundaries. Make it clear that they have the right to refuse any unwanted touch, even from adults. No one is allowed to touch their private parts or kiss them inappropriately.

4️⃣ Explain the difference between a “safe secret” and a “dangerous secret.” Teach your child that any secret they are asked to keep from their parents must be disclosed immediately. No one has the right to say, “Do not tell your parents.” Make it clear that such behavior is wrong.

5️⃣ Teach your child the correct names for body parts and emphasise that their body belongs to them alone. Physical greetings should be limited to appropriate gestures such as a handshake.

6️⃣ Reassure your child that they will never be punished for telling you about anything uncomfortable or inappropriate. Repeatedly remind them: “My child, never stay silent. If anyone says inappropriate or disturbing words to you, tell me immediately, and you will not be punished.”

Protect Children from Sexual Abuse

🚨 What Is Sexual Abuse?
Sexual abuse refers to any act of a sexual nature imposed on a child or adolescent without their consent. It may be committed by an adult or by another child. Sexual abuse falls into two main categories:

🔴 First Type: Physical Contact
This includes inappropriate kissing, improper hugging, touching a child’s private parts, or attempting to engage in sexual acts.

🔴 Second Type: Non-Contact Abuse
This includes forcing a child to view pornographic images, videos, or scenes, engaging the child in sexually explicit conversations, or sending inappropriate romantic or sexual messages, words, or offensive images and stickers.

▪️ All children, regardless of their social or economic background, may be vulnerable to abuse.

🚨 What Does a Child Abuser Look Like?
In many cases, an abuser does not appear suspicious and may be someone trusted in the child’s life. The abuser may be:
🔴 A man or a woman
🔴 An adult, an adolescent, or even a child
🔴 A stranger, a family member, or a close friend

They may appear completely normal in daily life—married, with children, and known for having a good reputation.

🚨 Can One Child Abuse Another Child?
Yes. The abuser may be:
🔴 An older adolescent
🔴 A child who has authority or influence over younger children

Sometimes, the adolescent who commits abuse is themselves a victim of previous abuse. However, this does not mean that every victim will become an abuser in the future. In such cases, both parties should receive psychological and social support and appropriate rehabilitation.

🚨 How Can You Protect Your Children from Sexual Abuse?

Awareness is the first line of defense

1️⃣ Be alert to warning signs. Maintain communication with the school, caregivers, or babysitters. Do not blindly trust anyone with your child; excessive trust can sometimes place a child at greater risk, and regret will not undo harm.

2️⃣ Get to know the people in your child’s life. Encourage your child to speak openly and confidently with you about who they spend time with, what they do together, and what topics are discussed.

3️⃣ Teach your child about privacy and boundaries. Make it clear that they have the right to refuse any unwanted touch, even from adults. No one is allowed to touch their private parts or kiss them inappropriately.

4️⃣ Explain the difference between a “safe secret” and a “dangerous secret.” Teach your child that any secret they are asked to keep from their parents must be disclosed immediately. No one has the right to say, “Do not tell your parents.” Make it clear that such behavior is wrong.

5️⃣ Teach your child the correct names for body parts and emphasise that their body belongs to them alone. Physical greetings should be limited to appropriate gestures such as a handshake.

6️⃣ Reassure your child that they will never be punished for telling you about anything uncomfortable or inappropriate. Repeatedly remind them: “My child, never stay silent. If anyone says inappropriate or disturbing words to you, tell me immediately, and you will not be punished.”

Mamas..... 👑

LET YOUR CHILDREN SEE YOU....

Let them see a woman unafraid to stand for what is right even when it’s uncomfortable.
Let them see a woman who prioritises herself, without guilt and without apology.
Let them see a mother who loves deeply, but never at the expense of her own dignity.
A mother who does what she loves, who smiles, laughs, and still holds space for them.
Let them see a woman with boundaries with herself and with others.
Let them see a mother who feels pain, who cries, who stumbles… and who gets back up anyway.
Let them see a woman whose centre is anchored in her Creator, not in people, moments, or things.
Let them see a mother who cares for her home,her body, her health, and her appearance because she values herself and her space.
Let them see a woman who lives with purpose, intention, and meaningful contribution to their lives.
Let them see a mother who walks away from anything that demands the sacrifice of her self-respect.

Let them see a woman they will one day admire.
A woman they will be inspired by.
Not a woman they felt sorry for, pitied, felt responsible for, afraid of or never want to be like growing up.

Because the greatest lesson you’ll ever teach them…
is who you choose to be.

May Allah(SWT) grant us the ability and strength to be good mothers in order to raise good adults.

Aameen Ya Rabbal Aalimeen

H. H
🌷

Dear teachers

“Not every child will remember what you taught them, but they will remember how you made them feel.”

Parenthood is an enduring investment whose returns transcend generations. The righteousness of a child is, in part, an extension of their upbringing, instruction, supplication, and sacrifice. It is said:

"Whatever good deeds a righteous child offers, his parents share in the reward without diminishing his own,
For the child is the fruit of their effort and the product of their drive."

• أحكام الجنائز للألباني (ص١٢٦)

Ibn Sirin رحمه الله said, “We were with Abu Hurayra one night and he said, “O Allah forgive Abu Hurayra and his mother and whoever asks for forgiveness for both of them.”

Muhammad said, "We used to ask for forgiveness for them so that we would be included in Abu Hurayra's supplication."

[Al Adab Al Mufrad 37]

In Ottoman Schools, every child was evaluated due to his/her talents and every child had different courses.

The Motto of the schools which was written as grafitti on the walls was:

"Here no Fish will be forced to fly and no Bird will be forced to swim"

#Knowledge

The reason for corruption of daughters is from fathers n mothers.

Let's stop chastising our children for not coming 1st in class.

Do not scold your kids for not attaining the 1st, 2nd or 3rd position.

These positions are just numbers, they are not the ultimate determinant of success or failure.

Rate your kid's performance by the grade or score attained in each subject, and not by overall position.

There can be 50 students in a class, your child would score 30th position, and he would still be considered to have passed.

Stop putting unnecessary pressure on your children, they are too young to be experiencing tension and trauma for fear of not meeting expectation.

Back in school days, the vacation day was such a scary day that every student would be tensed and terrified, not kmowing what their results would look like, and what their parents would do.

Some parents still consider anything beyond 3rd position as failure, irrespective of your cummulative scores.

The same pressure is extended to O'level final exams, which accounts for the reason why some students commit sulcide once they fail these exams, imagine the tongue-lashing they must have gotten from their parents.

There is more to life than Western education, even if your child fails in school, they haven't failed in life, you can enrol them to learn technical skills, handwork or trade, success isn't tied to education alone.

We should even show more concern about their Masrasah performance than their western educational performance, we should prioritize their hereafter knowledge over the others.

Let's embrace them and show them love, encourage them to work harder irrespective of their performance, so that they won't be forced to use biro to alter result figures just to impress you or dodge your wrath.

May Allah bless our kids with intellect. ameen.

Muhammad bin Sulaymān rahimahuLlaah said:

"Sons are blessings, and daughters are good deeds. Alläh, the Almighty and Majestic, will call one to account for the blessings, and He will reward for the good deeds."

Al-Adab al-Shar iyyah by Ibn Muflih, 1/154

Fatima رضي الله عنها felt valued simply because the Prophet ﷺ acknowledged her.

Not because she achieved something.
Not because she behaved perfectly.
Not because she needed correction.

But because he noticed her.

When Fatima رضي الله عنها entered a room,
The Prophet ﷺ would stand up for her.
He would kiss her forehead.
He would seat her where he had been sitting.

(Sahih hadith)

That acknowledgment told her something powerful:
“You matter. You are seen. You are loved.”

This is how the Prophet ﷺ built hearts
not with pressure,
but with presence.

For our children, acknowledgment works the same way.

When we:
• pause what we’re doing
• look them in the eye
• respond with warmth

we’re not “spoiling” them.
We’re securing them.

A child who feels seen
doesn’t beg for attention through misbehavior.

They rest in connection.
And that’s where character grows 🤍

Advice to parents of daughters

Your daughters are the most precious responsibility for which we will be held to account so do not take it lightly.

Do not be fooled by believing she will choose the hijab when she becomes of age. The society is the most dominant influencer, it will choose for her while she thinks she made the choice willingly.

The society is not neutral but upon secular-liberal ideals, it will choose to not wear the hijab wa jilbab, and in the eyes of the shariah she’ll be committing indecent crime of nudity.

And the shariah will hold you as parents also responsible for not protecting her honour and teaching her the obligations.

I say this as many parents have come to me asking for advice on how to encourage their daughters to wear the hijab, and in most cases they left it for their daughters too late.

The love for hijab, protection of awrah and consolidation of these must be instilled at an early age. When they reach their teenage it becomes very difficult to convince them to wear it as it’s no longer a problem of thoughts (most will not object on the obligations of hijab) but of nafs (disposition).

How mamy reminders do you need?!
What will it take for you to stop posting pictures of yourself or your loved ones on social media?!

IF U HAVE A FATHER💚 WHO, PRAYS, WORKS & TAUGHT U DEEN THANK ALLAH, THESE MEN ARE RARE & PRICELESS!