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Unsupportive patterns are re-enactments of unhealed wounds.
Young places inside where there’s untended to fear and pain.
Reinforced through historical collective efforts to individuate at the cost of relationship.
When we become the detectives of our own experience we show our inner child our goodwill.
We express our humility in seeing something in ourselves we don’t yet understand well enough to get free.
At the same time, we say - “but you can be sure I intend to and will.”
When preoccupation with someone else’s interest in you becomes prioritized by your interest in yourself…
Baselines shift.
Standards get set.
Intimacy deepens.
Self-trust strengthens.
Inner and outer security solidifies.
Healing happens.
Abandonment as a child was life-threatening. As an adult, it’s informative. It shows us who we can rely on and who we can’t. And it gives us direction to relate from that discernment.
Someone who we can't trust to be there for us is not someone we suggest to ourselves we need.
Because we don’t.
We need reliability and security in our closest bonds. And we choose those invested in offering us that.
This is how we show our inner child *we* are a trustable source of leadership. We will choose them & others who heal them instead of reinforce their trauma patterns.
Ready?
Start by enjoy a New Year sale for my 3-part Loving The Inner Child mini-course!
It's a solid introduction to the work and is a potent way to feel into learning from me.
You're welcome to enroll for instant course access and save $100 through TODAY 1/3!!!
LINK IN STORIES + BIO.
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#healingtrauma #innerchildhealing #awakening #healingbacktowholeness #authenticrelating #consciousrelationships #innerwork #depth #wiser #traumasensitive
Young places inside where there’s untended to fear and pain.
Reinforced through historical collective efforts to individuate at the cost of relationship.
When we become the detectives of our own experience we show our inner child our goodwill.
We express our humility in seeing something in ourselves we don’t yet understand well enough to get free.
At the same time, we say - “but you can be sure I intend to and will.”
When preoccupation with someone else’s interest in you becomes prioritized by your interest in yourself…
Baselines shift.
Standards get set.
Intimacy deepens.
Self-trust strengthens.
Inner and outer security solidifies.
Healing happens.
Abandonment as a child was life-threatening. As an adult, it’s informative. It shows us who we can rely on and who we can’t. And it gives us direction to relate from that discernment.
Someone who we can't trust to be there for us is not someone we suggest to ourselves we need.
Because we don’t.
We need reliability and security in our closest bonds. And we choose those invested in offering us that.
This is how we show our inner child *we* are a trustable source of leadership. We will choose them & others who heal them instead of reinforce their trauma patterns.
Ready?
Start by enjoy a New Year sale for my 3-part Loving The Inner Child mini-course!
It's a solid introduction to the work and is a potent way to feel into learning from me.
You're welcome to enroll for instant course access and save $100 through TODAY 1/3!!!
LINK IN STORIES + BIO.
🤎🥹✅👍🏽
#healingtrauma #innerchildhealing #awakening #healingbacktowholeness #authenticrelating #consciousrelationships #innerwork #depth #wiser #traumasensitive
Forwarded from 🐈⬛ Cat Downloader
Our relationships have a profound impact on our health.
This is why so much of my work is dedicated to learning relational skills. I grew up in a home where I didn’t lean them. And it left me in a series of relationships were I was emotionally immature and emotionally unavailable. Because I wasn’t conscious to this, I blamed my partners. It took me a while to view this as an opportunity to learn the skills I wasn’t taught.
I didn’t know how to communicate, how to work through issues (repair), and how to meet my own needs let alone the needs of another.
After almost 10 years in my relationship, I see relationships as an incredible place to practice these skills. And to heal from our past.
It’s not easy, but it’s worth it.
I also want to note that emotional intimacy isn’t just for romantic relationships. We can have emotional intimacy with friends as well as family.
Do you have emotional intimacy and a safe space of support in your life? #selfhealers
*study linked in stories
🐈⬛@catdlbot
This is why so much of my work is dedicated to learning relational skills. I grew up in a home where I didn’t lean them. And it left me in a series of relationships were I was emotionally immature and emotionally unavailable. Because I wasn’t conscious to this, I blamed my partners. It took me a while to view this as an opportunity to learn the skills I wasn’t taught.
I didn’t know how to communicate, how to work through issues (repair), and how to meet my own needs let alone the needs of another.
After almost 10 years in my relationship, I see relationships as an incredible place to practice these skills. And to heal from our past.
It’s not easy, but it’s worth it.
I also want to note that emotional intimacy isn’t just for romantic relationships. We can have emotional intimacy with friends as well as family.
Do you have emotional intimacy and a safe space of support in your life? #selfhealers
*study linked in stories
🐈⬛@catdlbot