For men to achieve success, they must pass through many tough challenges.
Anyone who’s truly capable has had to ignore their feelings at some point, or at least separate them in order to move forward.
You’re focused on results and getting things done. Feelings rarely matter much in that process.
But while becoming more productive, we also became more numb.
And that’s what makes dating even more difficult.
Because dating skills are the complete opposite.
You must connect with more emotions, paying attention to the experience rather than speed or results.
Humor, tension, comfort, and social charm all have small layers and fine details like how Michelin Star dishes have rich mixes of taste that normal food doesn’t.
But since most of us trained ourselves to shut off emotions, we now struggle to feel them again.
Part of learning game is helping you switch them back on through Emotional Logic.
We are breaking down vague “vibes” into structure and rules that can be learned with logic, not only emotion.
Anyone who’s truly capable has had to ignore their feelings at some point, or at least separate them in order to move forward.
You’re focused on results and getting things done. Feelings rarely matter much in that process.
But while becoming more productive, we also became more numb.
And that’s what makes dating even more difficult.
Because dating skills are the complete opposite.
You must connect with more emotions, paying attention to the experience rather than speed or results.
Humor, tension, comfort, and social charm all have small layers and fine details like how Michelin Star dishes have rich mixes of taste that normal food doesn’t.
But since most of us trained ourselves to shut off emotions, we now struggle to feel them again.
Part of learning game is helping you switch them back on through Emotional Logic.
We are breaking down vague “vibes” into structure and rules that can be learned with logic, not only emotion.
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Here are some texting openers and ways to move the convo forward:
Intrigue Openers: "Can you keep a secret?"
"Haha yes ?
General opener: Like the vibe.. Quick question
" Thanks yes?"
Once they respond ask "Ever been to (insert venue)?"
She will say "No why? " or "Yes its amazing"
If she says no Say "Heard it's cool we should check it out."
Or if she says yes "Yes it is amazing. We should check it out.
Always ask when they are free.
A lot of guys will tell you to pick two days like Thursday or Saturday and have them choose.
Women sometimes have important things going on in their life.
Simply don't be to available for her.
If the day/ time doesn't work for you.
Switch it.
Dont leave pussy on the table though because you box them into 2 days out of the 7.
Intrigue Openers: "Can you keep a secret?"
"Haha yes ?
General opener: Like the vibe.. Quick question
" Thanks yes?"
Once they respond ask "Ever been to (insert venue)?"
She will say "No why? " or "Yes its amazing"
If she says no Say "Heard it's cool we should check it out."
Or if she says yes "Yes it is amazing. We should check it out.
Always ask when they are free.
A lot of guys will tell you to pick two days like Thursday or Saturday and have them choose.
Women sometimes have important things going on in their life.
Simply don't be to available for her.
If the day/ time doesn't work for you.
Switch it.
Dont leave pussy on the table though because you box them into 2 days out of the 7.
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Coming this November:
The Harem Series which is 16 parts of forbidden lessons on desire, control, and emotional dominance.
Only a few will understand it.
Most men who read it… will never see women the same way again.
Will be available on substack
The Harem Series which is 16 parts of forbidden lessons on desire, control, and emotional dominance.
Only a few will understand it.
Most men who read it… will never see women the same way again.
Will be available on substack
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Guys vastly overestimate how much girls sleep around.
No, most women aren’t secretly out here “riding the carousel.”
But and this is important, there are times when another man has entered the frame or is quietly gaining ground over you.
Here’s how you can usually tell:
1) She’s interested but flaky.
She laughs at your jokes, responds quickly, is sweet, and doesn’t argue but when it’s time to meet, she starts disappearing.
Now, don’t automatically assume there’s another guy.
Some girls are just scatterbrained, or they enjoy attention without follow-through.
But it’s possible there’s another man she’s seeing who currently excites her more.
Flakiness is usually a sign of divided attention and in dating, divided attention often means competition.
2) She was all in… until she wasn’t.
You had momentum.
She was texting back instantly, flirting, agreeing to plans then out of nowhere, she goes cold.
That kind of 180 doesn’t happen by accident.
Either you said or did something that lowered her attraction… or another guy beat you to the finish line.
When this happens, don’t chase, don’t question, and definitely don’t try to “fix” it.
Her silence is communication.
The ball’s in her court now and as a man, you walk away with your dignity intact.
3) She resurfaces with a random “hey.”
This one’s classic.
You haven’t spoken in weeks, maybe months, and suddenly she pops up like nothing happened.
That’s your signal that the other guy she was seeing crashed and burned.
Women rarely come back out of nowhere unless there’s a void to fill.
She might even tell you, “Yeah, I was seeing someone, but it didn’t go anywhere.”
Don’t overthink it.
Don’t tease her.
Don’t try to get clever.
Just move forward and set up a meet.
No, most women aren’t secretly out here “riding the carousel.”
But and this is important, there are times when another man has entered the frame or is quietly gaining ground over you.
Here’s how you can usually tell:
1) She’s interested but flaky.
She laughs at your jokes, responds quickly, is sweet, and doesn’t argue but when it’s time to meet, she starts disappearing.
Now, don’t automatically assume there’s another guy.
Some girls are just scatterbrained, or they enjoy attention without follow-through.
But it’s possible there’s another man she’s seeing who currently excites her more.
Flakiness is usually a sign of divided attention and in dating, divided attention often means competition.
2) She was all in… until she wasn’t.
You had momentum.
She was texting back instantly, flirting, agreeing to plans then out of nowhere, she goes cold.
That kind of 180 doesn’t happen by accident.
Either you said or did something that lowered her attraction… or another guy beat you to the finish line.
When this happens, don’t chase, don’t question, and definitely don’t try to “fix” it.
Her silence is communication.
The ball’s in her court now and as a man, you walk away with your dignity intact.
3) She resurfaces with a random “hey.”
This one’s classic.
You haven’t spoken in weeks, maybe months, and suddenly she pops up like nothing happened.
That’s your signal that the other guy she was seeing crashed and burned.
Women rarely come back out of nowhere unless there’s a void to fill.
She might even tell you, “Yeah, I was seeing someone, but it didn’t go anywhere.”
Don’t overthink it.
Don’t tease her.
Don’t try to get clever.
Just move forward and set up a meet.
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HOW TO KNOW IF A GIRL IS INTERESTED IN GOING OUT WITH YOU
When you ask a girl out, try this approach:
"We could grab drinks this weekend. Unless that's not really your thing."
This way, you can come off as relaxed and not too pushy.
Even if she’s not available, it gives her a chance to show she’s still interested and wants to see you another time.
This works well when you’re moving things along quickly with a girl.
This method comes in two steps:
1. Suggest something: For example, “We should play tennis this weekend.”
2. Add a soft doubt: Then follow it with something like, “Or maybe tennis isn’t your thing?”
This gives her two options: either agree that she’s not into the idea or correct you and show interest by saying she would like to do what you suggested.
She can respond in 5 different ways:
1. REJECT THE IDEA WITH NO INTEREST IN YOU.
“Yeah, tennis isn’t really my thing.”
If that’s all she says, it’s a no to both the plan and you.
Time to move on to someone else who’s more interested.
2. REJECT THE IDEA BUT STILL SHOW INTEREST.
“Yeah, tennis isn’t really my thing. But we could do something else!”
Here, she’s turning down the tennis idea but still showing she likes you by suggesting something else.
She’s hoping you’ll offer a different plan, so you still have a chance.
3. LIKES THE IDEA BUT DOESN’T SAY YES TO THE DATE OR SHOW INTEREST.
“Oh, I do like tennis. That’s definitely my thing.”
She likes tennis, but she hasn’t accepted the date with you.
She’s avoiding the deeper question of whether she’s interested in you, which usually means she’s not.
You can try pushing forward, but this rarely turns into something.
4. POLITELY REJECTS THE PLAN BUT OFFERS AN ALTERNATIVE.
“No, tennis is great! Or, there’s a new museum opening this weekend… we could go to that?”
She’s turning down the tennis date politely but giving you another option she’d prefer.
If you stick with your original plan, there’s a good chance she’ll flake.
Instead, go with her suggestion if it works for you, or come up with something simple that she’ll agree to later.
Watch out for her saying “No” or “Nah” even if she sounds interested-that’s usually a sign she doesn’t want to do your original plan with you.
5. ENTHUSIASTICALLY ACCEPTS.
“Oh my God, I love tennis! Yes!”
She’s excited, but you don’t know if it’s because of the plan or because she likes you.
A good rule to follow is that it’s 50/50 – she’s excited about both the idea and you.
When you ask a girl out, try this approach:
"We could grab drinks this weekend. Unless that's not really your thing."
This way, you can come off as relaxed and not too pushy.
Even if she’s not available, it gives her a chance to show she’s still interested and wants to see you another time.
This works well when you’re moving things along quickly with a girl.
This method comes in two steps:
1. Suggest something: For example, “We should play tennis this weekend.”
2. Add a soft doubt: Then follow it with something like, “Or maybe tennis isn’t your thing?”
This gives her two options: either agree that she’s not into the idea or correct you and show interest by saying she would like to do what you suggested.
She can respond in 5 different ways:
1. REJECT THE IDEA WITH NO INTEREST IN YOU.
“Yeah, tennis isn’t really my thing.”
If that’s all she says, it’s a no to both the plan and you.
Time to move on to someone else who’s more interested.
2. REJECT THE IDEA BUT STILL SHOW INTEREST.
“Yeah, tennis isn’t really my thing. But we could do something else!”
Here, she’s turning down the tennis idea but still showing she likes you by suggesting something else.
She’s hoping you’ll offer a different plan, so you still have a chance.
3. LIKES THE IDEA BUT DOESN’T SAY YES TO THE DATE OR SHOW INTEREST.
“Oh, I do like tennis. That’s definitely my thing.”
She likes tennis, but she hasn’t accepted the date with you.
She’s avoiding the deeper question of whether she’s interested in you, which usually means she’s not.
You can try pushing forward, but this rarely turns into something.
4. POLITELY REJECTS THE PLAN BUT OFFERS AN ALTERNATIVE.
“No, tennis is great! Or, there’s a new museum opening this weekend… we could go to that?”
She’s turning down the tennis date politely but giving you another option she’d prefer.
If you stick with your original plan, there’s a good chance she’ll flake.
Instead, go with her suggestion if it works for you, or come up with something simple that she’ll agree to later.
Watch out for her saying “No” or “Nah” even if she sounds interested-that’s usually a sign she doesn’t want to do your original plan with you.
5. ENTHUSIASTICALLY ACCEPTS.
“Oh my God, I love tennis! Yes!”
She’s excited, but you don’t know if it’s because of the plan or because she likes you.
A good rule to follow is that it’s 50/50 – she’s excited about both the idea and you.
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Being MYSTERIOUS vs MR. MYSTERIOUS (a layer).
What makes a guy mysterious? Boundaries.
The mystery comes from the fact that you are not looking to share too much about yourself, with just anyone, and people need to earn your trust/friendship to learn more about you, outside of surface level shit... yes, this INCLUDES WOMEN.
Boundaries are developed, almost earned, like battle scars. You cannot fake this.
MR. MYSTERIOUS would be a guy, who is keeping his mouth shut as a TECHNIQUE.
Thinking that if he does not reveal things about himself, he will get the other person to like them, but that is not the case, because people intuitively know if you are real or fake.
People who are very open, very fast, are either people who have yet not developed boundaries, in which case, it is not a sin, they are just normal... and people who are trying to convince you of something... sell you a dream.
Important distinction.
What makes a guy mysterious? Boundaries.
The mystery comes from the fact that you are not looking to share too much about yourself, with just anyone, and people need to earn your trust/friendship to learn more about you, outside of surface level shit... yes, this INCLUDES WOMEN.
Boundaries are developed, almost earned, like battle scars. You cannot fake this.
MR. MYSTERIOUS would be a guy, who is keeping his mouth shut as a TECHNIQUE.
Thinking that if he does not reveal things about himself, he will get the other person to like them, but that is not the case, because people intuitively know if you are real or fake.
People who are very open, very fast, are either people who have yet not developed boundaries, in which case, it is not a sin, they are just normal... and people who are trying to convince you of something... sell you a dream.
Important distinction.
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THE PERFECT FIRST DATE (STEP BY STEP)
In this post, we are going to be going through how to run a first date, the important steps to go from the moment you meet the girl all the way to closing and ideally crushing the first date.
The very first point that I have here is...
THE OPEN / VIBE CHECK
So the first 5-10 secs when you meet the girl is extremely important because of you can:
- Open
- Be confident
- Smile
- Show her good emotions
- Little bit of physicality and intent (hugging her)
- Compliment her look
Doing all these things will put her at ease and set the foundation for the rest of the interaction.
Bad example (Don't do this)
- Not smiling
- Being awkward
The more awkward or uncomfortable you are in the beginning of the interaction, the harder it's going to be to get her to open up, get close to her or even escalate.
From there once we have started the date, the next step is...
TALK AND VIBE
You want to start talking the moment you meet the girl (also as we are moving into the designated venue or as you both are going to get a bite to eat or a drink)
You want to keep the conversation going.
Doesn't have to be anything crazy, just talk about how her/your day is going.
But be ready to keep the conversation going in the first couple minutes.
NO INTERVIEW MODE
This is super important cause a lot of guys when told to keep the conversation going always delve into asking her interview-esque questions like:
"Where do you live?"
"What do you do for work?"
"What are your hobbies?"
"How long have you lived here?"
All this questions are not bad per se but now is not the time for that.
SEATING / POSITIONING
This is super underrated but it's very important in the course of the date.
A big mistake I see guys make on the date is that they sit down across the table (very far from the girl), this will make it hard to get close to the girl to get accustomed to their touch and to escalate at all.
Ahead of time, you should pick out a good venue where there is a couch area, bar stools or even a square table before the date starts that has:
- A good vibe
- A good ambiance
- Good seating
Point is: Try to sit adjacent to her instead of across.
Seating/positioning allows you to physically escalate effortlessly.
The next step is teasing...
TEASING
So you're already vibing with the girl but at some point, you got to start teasing her.
This should happen within the first 5-10 minutes of the date.
You don't need to blatantly make fun of her
You should just start playfully teasing her which will increase the vibe and help you get into a playful back and forth banter early on.
It will also make it easier to transition to flirting later on.
TOUCH
(This should be done in the first 15-20 mins)
This is super important cause not only are you going to break the physical touch barrier the moment the date starts (from greeting/open) but you still want to progressively get the girl a little more accustomed to your touch.
That's why I recommend the seating/positioning to be close so that you can just touch her without really trying, maybe your leg and hers are touching if you both are next to the barstool or you could playfully push her away at some point or there is a high five or a hug.
Basically something going on where there is little bit of touch building up throughout the date.
Like I said, all this can be done within the first 15-20 mins cause you don't need to wait 2-3 hrs or more to get a little bit touchy and actually display a little bit of intent and start flirting.
FLIRTING
You should start flirting within the first 15-30 minutes cause...
The longer you wait, the harder it is to bring that "side" out and the vibe is just going to be dying out.
This stuff need to happen within that time range to get the girl engaged and to actually begin to build things up.
By now, we are 15-30 mins into the date and we are already vibing, touching, teasing and flirting so the next step would be...
COMFORT BUILDING
In this post, we are going to be going through how to run a first date, the important steps to go from the moment you meet the girl all the way to closing and ideally crushing the first date.
The very first point that I have here is...
THE OPEN / VIBE CHECK
So the first 5-10 secs when you meet the girl is extremely important because of you can:
- Open
- Be confident
- Smile
- Show her good emotions
- Little bit of physicality and intent (hugging her)
- Compliment her look
Doing all these things will put her at ease and set the foundation for the rest of the interaction.
Bad example (Don't do this)
- Not smiling
- Being awkward
The more awkward or uncomfortable you are in the beginning of the interaction, the harder it's going to be to get her to open up, get close to her or even escalate.
From there once we have started the date, the next step is...
TALK AND VIBE
You want to start talking the moment you meet the girl (also as we are moving into the designated venue or as you both are going to get a bite to eat or a drink)
You want to keep the conversation going.
Doesn't have to be anything crazy, just talk about how her/your day is going.
But be ready to keep the conversation going in the first couple minutes.
NO INTERVIEW MODE
This is super important cause a lot of guys when told to keep the conversation going always delve into asking her interview-esque questions like:
"Where do you live?"
"What do you do for work?"
"What are your hobbies?"
"How long have you lived here?"
All this questions are not bad per se but now is not the time for that.
SEATING / POSITIONING
This is super underrated but it's very important in the course of the date.
A big mistake I see guys make on the date is that they sit down across the table (very far from the girl), this will make it hard to get close to the girl to get accustomed to their touch and to escalate at all.
Ahead of time, you should pick out a good venue where there is a couch area, bar stools or even a square table before the date starts that has:
- A good vibe
- A good ambiance
- Good seating
Point is: Try to sit adjacent to her instead of across.
Seating/positioning allows you to physically escalate effortlessly.
The next step is teasing...
TEASING
So you're already vibing with the girl but at some point, you got to start teasing her.
This should happen within the first 5-10 minutes of the date.
You don't need to blatantly make fun of her
You should just start playfully teasing her which will increase the vibe and help you get into a playful back and forth banter early on.
It will also make it easier to transition to flirting later on.
TOUCH
(This should be done in the first 15-20 mins)
This is super important cause not only are you going to break the physical touch barrier the moment the date starts (from greeting/open) but you still want to progressively get the girl a little more accustomed to your touch.
That's why I recommend the seating/positioning to be close so that you can just touch her without really trying, maybe your leg and hers are touching if you both are next to the barstool or you could playfully push her away at some point or there is a high five or a hug.
Basically something going on where there is little bit of touch building up throughout the date.
Like I said, all this can be done within the first 15-20 mins cause you don't need to wait 2-3 hrs or more to get a little bit touchy and actually display a little bit of intent and start flirting.
FLIRTING
You should start flirting within the first 15-30 minutes cause...
The longer you wait, the harder it is to bring that "side" out and the vibe is just going to be dying out.
This stuff need to happen within that time range to get the girl engaged and to actually begin to build things up.
By now, we are 15-30 mins into the date and we are already vibing, touching, teasing and flirting so the next step would be...
COMFORT BUILDING
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Through comfort building, slowly the girl should be getting to know you and you her on a deeper level:
- Each other's past
- Each other's life experiences
- Views on life
- What you both are passionate about
- Difficulty times that you both went through etc.
This should be sprinkled in through the flirting, teasing while the vibe is building up.
From there, we are moving into slightly more teasing, flirting and intent.
You don't just display intent one time in different sections of date.
Balance is key here cause you don't want to display intent too much neither do you want to display too little either.
In the first 30-45 mins, it should have happened several times during the course of the date.
Don't wait 1-2 hours into the date for this.
SEEDING
What this means is you are bringing up activities that you and the girl can potentially do after you both are done with the current activity.
Let's say you both went to get food or a drink, you should be recommending that you both do something else.
This could be getting a glass of wine, listening to music, checking out your balcony, going to a rooftop, going to another location, going to get ice cream or coffee, smoking hookah.
Basically doing something with the girl outside of the first activity.
Don't wait till you're paying the bill and leaving to say "wait I want to keep the date going".
If girls don't know what the next plan is after the current activity then they are going to checkout (start texting their girls for meeting up somewhere).
So you need to "seed" the idea in the first 2/3 of the date and then as things progress along, you start solidifying the plan and actually leading the girl to go do that thing.
GETTING CLOSER
So at some point you need start getting closer to the girl (doesn't mean you need to kiss her yet) It just means at some point since she is getting used to your touch...
Now you could be getting in closer maybe you start closing the distance.
Say you both sitting on a barstool, you may start turning your chair a little bit closer, there could be a moment where you both hugged and then playfully push her away or even kiss her on the cheek.
The physicality is ramping up a little bit in baby steps as the date progresses.
FUTURE PROJECTION
This is bringing up ideas of activities that you and the girl could be doing later on in the future. NOT that night but in the FUTURE.
So while getting to know her, let's say you find out she's into partying, hiking, smoking hookah, or dancing, you can then bring up the idea of a cool spot where you both can go do the activity she is into.
By using future projection, it shows that you are interested in seeing her again and you are not in it for tonight only.
Why future projection is great:
- Most guys never do it and then they struggle with the follow-up texting sequence.
- It makes it easy because you have already discussed what you both are going to do together (on the next date)
PULLING/BOUNCING
This is where the idea of seeding comes into play.
So the pull can be going back to your place to do an activity BUT if the girl is not comfortable with it, then I recommend moving the girl to another location like taking a walk, getting coffee (just simply changing environment) because it gets the girl comfortable with you leading and moving her around different locations that adds fluidity to the date.
There is much to talk about when the environment changes and if the date lightens up then you can most likely go back to your house.
KISSING
It's a crucial part of the date.
The earlier you go for the kiss, the better the rest of the date is going to be.
IMO I don't think the date is solidified until the kiss happens.
Yes, sometimes the kiss can happen at the end of the date if the girl is a bit more reserved or sometimes the kiss doesn't happen at all even though you tried but it at least displays confidence to kiss her (which is also cool).
- Each other's past
- Each other's life experiences
- Views on life
- What you both are passionate about
- Difficulty times that you both went through etc.
This should be sprinkled in through the flirting, teasing while the vibe is building up.
From there, we are moving into slightly more teasing, flirting and intent.
You don't just display intent one time in different sections of date.
Balance is key here cause you don't want to display intent too much neither do you want to display too little either.
In the first 30-45 mins, it should have happened several times during the course of the date.
Don't wait 1-2 hours into the date for this.
SEEDING
What this means is you are bringing up activities that you and the girl can potentially do after you both are done with the current activity.
Let's say you both went to get food or a drink, you should be recommending that you both do something else.
This could be getting a glass of wine, listening to music, checking out your balcony, going to a rooftop, going to another location, going to get ice cream or coffee, smoking hookah.
Basically doing something with the girl outside of the first activity.
Don't wait till you're paying the bill and leaving to say "wait I want to keep the date going".
If girls don't know what the next plan is after the current activity then they are going to checkout (start texting their girls for meeting up somewhere).
So you need to "seed" the idea in the first 2/3 of the date and then as things progress along, you start solidifying the plan and actually leading the girl to go do that thing.
GETTING CLOSER
So at some point you need start getting closer to the girl (doesn't mean you need to kiss her yet) It just means at some point since she is getting used to your touch...
Now you could be getting in closer maybe you start closing the distance.
Say you both sitting on a barstool, you may start turning your chair a little bit closer, there could be a moment where you both hugged and then playfully push her away or even kiss her on the cheek.
The physicality is ramping up a little bit in baby steps as the date progresses.
FUTURE PROJECTION
This is bringing up ideas of activities that you and the girl could be doing later on in the future. NOT that night but in the FUTURE.
So while getting to know her, let's say you find out she's into partying, hiking, smoking hookah, or dancing, you can then bring up the idea of a cool spot where you both can go do the activity she is into.
By using future projection, it shows that you are interested in seeing her again and you are not in it for tonight only.
Why future projection is great:
- Most guys never do it and then they struggle with the follow-up texting sequence.
- It makes it easy because you have already discussed what you both are going to do together (on the next date)
PULLING/BOUNCING
This is where the idea of seeding comes into play.
So the pull can be going back to your place to do an activity BUT if the girl is not comfortable with it, then I recommend moving the girl to another location like taking a walk, getting coffee (just simply changing environment) because it gets the girl comfortable with you leading and moving her around different locations that adds fluidity to the date.
There is much to talk about when the environment changes and if the date lightens up then you can most likely go back to your house.
KISSING
It's a crucial part of the date.
The earlier you go for the kiss, the better the rest of the date is going to be.
IMO I don't think the date is solidified until the kiss happens.
Yes, sometimes the kiss can happen at the end of the date if the girl is a bit more reserved or sometimes the kiss doesn't happen at all even though you tried but it at least displays confidence to kiss her (which is also cool).
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Most guys have the tendency of not following/doing these steps I mentioned and at the end of the date, the escalation wasn't in place and it almost feels uncomfortable trying to go for the kiss.
Most men don't escalate in baby steps throughout the date...this makes it hard to kiss the girl towards the end of the date.
If you are teasing, flirting, touching then it makes sense for the kiss to happen at some point.
At some point in the date, if things have been going very well and you do end up pulling which means you're going to end up back at your place.
YOUR PLACE
The last thing you want to do when you bring a girl home is to take her straight to the bedroom even if you feel it's on, there is no point in taking her straight to the bedroom.
I recommend the escalation happens outside the bedroom first (couch) cause bringing her straight to the bedroom is going to raise her anti-slut defense about whether to have sex with you or not then there is going to be resistance and objections (which is not a good thing) especially when she is not very aroused.
Make her feel comfortable by staying in the living room (couch) but if it is just your bedroom then you should set your room in a way that she can sit elsewhere instead of the bed so it doesn't trigger sex right now.
From there, this is where the last little bit of escalation is going to take place, ideally, we have gotten a lot closer to her and even kissed her (from the date).
You are going to escalate with her on your couch and take your time, slow buildup, taking two steps forward and one step backward.
Don't try to force it
Most men don't escalate in baby steps throughout the date...this makes it hard to kiss the girl towards the end of the date.
If you are teasing, flirting, touching then it makes sense for the kiss to happen at some point.
At some point in the date, if things have been going very well and you do end up pulling which means you're going to end up back at your place.
YOUR PLACE
The last thing you want to do when you bring a girl home is to take her straight to the bedroom even if you feel it's on, there is no point in taking her straight to the bedroom.
I recommend the escalation happens outside the bedroom first (couch) cause bringing her straight to the bedroom is going to raise her anti-slut defense about whether to have sex with you or not then there is going to be resistance and objections (which is not a good thing) especially when she is not very aroused.
Make her feel comfortable by staying in the living room (couch) but if it is just your bedroom then you should set your room in a way that she can sit elsewhere instead of the bed so it doesn't trigger sex right now.
From there, this is where the last little bit of escalation is going to take place, ideally, we have gotten a lot closer to her and even kissed her (from the date).
You are going to escalate with her on your couch and take your time, slow buildup, taking two steps forward and one step backward.
Don't try to force it
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Besides working on your game and having good game, the key to dating top-tier women is also about:
- Achieving financial stability without being consumed by work.
- Traveling and engaging in masculine hobbies, along with socializing.
- Sharing your lifestyle on social media by documenting your experiences regularly, thus gaining more reach.
- Surrounding yourself with other quality men and wingmen on the same path
- Achieving financial stability without being consumed by work.
- Traveling and engaging in masculine hobbies, along with socializing.
- Sharing your lifestyle on social media by documenting your experiences regularly, thus gaining more reach.
- Surrounding yourself with other quality men and wingmen on the same path
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Sixth part of the series
Forgot to post the fifth one here (my bad 😔)
Check it out
Manofstxxx.substack.com
Forgot to post the fifth one here (my bad 😔)
Check it out
Manofstxxx.substack.com
Most y'all are not playing nearly enough mind games with yourselves.
Failure to reach a goal should get you some kind of punishment, even if it's "not your fault".
Otherwise you will always chicken out and then convince yourself outside factors are to blame.
Did not meet any hot girls to talk to naturally today?
Now you have to go to the mall and do a forced attempt almost sure to fail.
See how fast you will start finding more chances to talk during the day.
A failed hunt always meant hunger for the primal man.
Failure to reach a goal should get you some kind of punishment, even if it's "not your fault".
Otherwise you will always chicken out and then convince yourself outside factors are to blame.
Did not meet any hot girls to talk to naturally today?
Now you have to go to the mall and do a forced attempt almost sure to fail.
See how fast you will start finding more chances to talk during the day.
A failed hunt always meant hunger for the primal man.
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Listen up.
International Men's Day isn't about complaining or playing victim.
It's about recognizing that being a man in 2025 comes with real challenges and stepping up anyway.
Yeah, the world sends mixed signals. Yeah, it's confusing sometimes but you know what?
Excuses are easy.
Growth is hard.
Choose hard.
Stop waiting for permission to work on yourself.
Nobody's coming to save you.
That work you've been putting off? Do it. That gym membership collecting dust? Use it. That skill you want to learn? Start today.
Your feelings are valid, but they're not an excuse to stay stuck.
Feel them, process them, then get back to work.
Real strength isn't suffering in silence. It's asking for help when you need it. It's admitting you don't know something (or everything).
It's being man enough to be vulnerable with people who've earned your trust.
Stop measuring yourself against Instagram highlight reels.
The only person you need to be better than is who you were yesterday.
To the men struggling right now: I see you. Your mental health matters. Your pain is real but don't let it become your identity. You're capable of more than you think.
To the men doing the work: Keep going. Building yourself (physically, mentally, financially, spiritually) is the most important project you'll ever work on.
The world needs strong men who are also good men.
Take care of your body. Protect your mind. Build real friendships. Be reliable. Keep your word. Show up for people who matter.
You're not here to have it easy. You're here to be strong enough to handle hard things with grace.
Now get off your phone and go do something that your future self will thank you for.
Happy International Men's Day. 🤝
International Men's Day isn't about complaining or playing victim.
It's about recognizing that being a man in 2025 comes with real challenges and stepping up anyway.
Yeah, the world sends mixed signals. Yeah, it's confusing sometimes but you know what?
Excuses are easy.
Growth is hard.
Choose hard.
Stop waiting for permission to work on yourself.
Nobody's coming to save you.
That work you've been putting off? Do it. That gym membership collecting dust? Use it. That skill you want to learn? Start today.
Your feelings are valid, but they're not an excuse to stay stuck.
Feel them, process them, then get back to work.
Real strength isn't suffering in silence. It's asking for help when you need it. It's admitting you don't know something (or everything).
It's being man enough to be vulnerable with people who've earned your trust.
Stop measuring yourself against Instagram highlight reels.
The only person you need to be better than is who you were yesterday.
To the men struggling right now: I see you. Your mental health matters. Your pain is real but don't let it become your identity. You're capable of more than you think.
To the men doing the work: Keep going. Building yourself (physically, mentally, financially, spiritually) is the most important project you'll ever work on.
The world needs strong men who are also good men.
Take care of your body. Protect your mind. Build real friendships. Be reliable. Keep your word. Show up for people who matter.
You're not here to have it easy. You're here to be strong enough to handle hard things with grace.
Now get off your phone and go do something that your future self will thank you for.
Happy International Men's Day. 🤝
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30-DAY COLD APPROACH CHALLENGE STARTS MONDAY🔥
Alright, listen up.
Most of you are stuck.
You want results with women but you're not taking action.
You're consuming content, watching videos, reading posts but not actually DOING anything.
That ends Monday.
I'm launching a 30-Day Cold Approach Challenge.
Every single day, I'll give you a mission. Small, achievable, progressive tasks that build your confidence and skills.
Day 1 will be stupid easy. Even the most anxious guy here can do it.
By Day 30, you'll be approaching women without thinking twice.
HERE'S HOW IT WORKS:
Every morning at 9 AM,
I'll post your daily mission.
Your job: Complete it.
Comment "DAY X DONE ✅" when you finish.
That's it.
No excuses.
No "I'll do it tomorrow."
No overthinking.
Just do the mission and check in.
THE REWARDS:
This isn't just about building skills.
I'm rewarding the guys who actually put in the work.
LEVEL 1 - FINISHER REWARDS:
Complete at least 25 out of 30 days + share your final results on Dec 23
You get:
- $20 discount code for ANY of my products
- Lifetime access to The Iron Circle - an exclusive private group for action-takers only (this group doesn't exist yet, you'll be founding members)
LEVEL 2 - TOP 3 TRANSFORMATIONS:
Complete all 30 days + submit proof of your results
Top 3 get:
- Featured transformation story (I'll showcase your journey to the entire channel)
- FREE 1-on-1 profile review ($50 value)
- Everything from Level 1
HOW TO QUALIFY:
1. Comment "DAY X DONE ✅" on each daily challenge post
2. On Dec 23, comment your final stats:
- Total approaches you did
- Total numbers you got
- Biggest lesson learned
3. For Top 3 consideration: DM me proof (can be screenshots, photos with faces blurred, or a short summary of your journey)
I'm tracking who shows up and who doesn't.
Don't try to fake it. I'll be checking.
If you comment "DONE" without actually doing the missions, you're only cheating yourself and you won't qualify for rewards.
There will be spot checks.
I might randomly DM people asking about their approaches. Be ready to back up your claims.
WHO THIS IS FOR:
This challenge is for guys who:
- Want to actually change, not just talk about it
- Are willing to be uncomfortable
- Can handle rejection
- Will show up every single day
This is NOT for:
- Guys who just want to consume content
- Guys who make excuses
- Guys who will quit after Day 3
- Guys who aren't serious
THE STAKES:
30 days from now, you'll be one of two people:
Person A: You completed the challenge. You approached dozens of women. You got numbers. You went on dates. You built real confidence. You have skills that will serve you for life.
Person B: You made excuses. You quit early. You're still exactly where you are today - stuck, frustrated, and alone.
Which person will you be?
THE COMMITMENT:
If you're in, comment below: "I'M IN 🔥"
That's your public commitment. You're telling everyone here you're serious.
When it gets hard (and it will), I'll remind you of this comment.
CHALLENGE STARTS MONDAY, NOV 24 AT 9 AM
Day 1 mission drops then.
Make sure notifications are ON for this channel. You don't want to miss a day.
This is your chance to transform your dating life in 30 days.
Most of you won't finish.
Most of you will make excuses.
Prove me wrong.
Who's actually in?
Drop "I'M IN 🔥" below.
Let's fucking go.
Alright, listen up.
Most of you are stuck.
You want results with women but you're not taking action.
You're consuming content, watching videos, reading posts but not actually DOING anything.
That ends Monday.
I'm launching a 30-Day Cold Approach Challenge.
Every single day, I'll give you a mission. Small, achievable, progressive tasks that build your confidence and skills.
Day 1 will be stupid easy. Even the most anxious guy here can do it.
By Day 30, you'll be approaching women without thinking twice.
HERE'S HOW IT WORKS:
Every morning at 9 AM,
I'll post your daily mission.
Your job: Complete it.
Comment "DAY X DONE ✅" when you finish.
That's it.
No excuses.
No "I'll do it tomorrow."
No overthinking.
Just do the mission and check in.
THE REWARDS:
This isn't just about building skills.
I'm rewarding the guys who actually put in the work.
LEVEL 1 - FINISHER REWARDS:
Complete at least 25 out of 30 days + share your final results on Dec 23
You get:
- $20 discount code for ANY of my products
- Lifetime access to The Iron Circle - an exclusive private group for action-takers only (this group doesn't exist yet, you'll be founding members)
LEVEL 2 - TOP 3 TRANSFORMATIONS:
Complete all 30 days + submit proof of your results
Top 3 get:
- Featured transformation story (I'll showcase your journey to the entire channel)
- FREE 1-on-1 profile review ($50 value)
- Everything from Level 1
HOW TO QUALIFY:
1. Comment "DAY X DONE ✅" on each daily challenge post
2. On Dec 23, comment your final stats:
- Total approaches you did
- Total numbers you got
- Biggest lesson learned
3. For Top 3 consideration: DM me proof (can be screenshots, photos with faces blurred, or a short summary of your journey)
I'm tracking who shows up and who doesn't.
Don't try to fake it. I'll be checking.
If you comment "DONE" without actually doing the missions, you're only cheating yourself and you won't qualify for rewards.
There will be spot checks.
I might randomly DM people asking about their approaches. Be ready to back up your claims.
WHO THIS IS FOR:
This challenge is for guys who:
- Want to actually change, not just talk about it
- Are willing to be uncomfortable
- Can handle rejection
- Will show up every single day
This is NOT for:
- Guys who just want to consume content
- Guys who make excuses
- Guys who will quit after Day 3
- Guys who aren't serious
THE STAKES:
30 days from now, you'll be one of two people:
Person A: You completed the challenge. You approached dozens of women. You got numbers. You went on dates. You built real confidence. You have skills that will serve you for life.
Person B: You made excuses. You quit early. You're still exactly where you are today - stuck, frustrated, and alone.
Which person will you be?
THE COMMITMENT:
If you're in, comment below: "I'M IN 🔥"
That's your public commitment. You're telling everyone here you're serious.
When it gets hard (and it will), I'll remind you of this comment.
CHALLENGE STARTS MONDAY, NOV 24 AT 9 AM
Day 1 mission drops then.
Make sure notifications are ON for this channel. You don't want to miss a day.
This is your chance to transform your dating life in 30 days.
Most of you won't finish.
Most of you will make excuses.
Prove me wrong.
Who's actually in?
Drop "I'M IN 🔥" below.
Let's fucking go.
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