2. There are no future sure things. The only sure thing you can give is that you’ll act how the moment calls. He doesn’t need her to make a clear deal that ‘YES - we WILL sleep together on this trip at EXACTLY 11:43 p.m. when our friends are asleep. Bring snacks!’ Instead - you just need to trust that when the time comes you will play it best and that’s not by chasing a fixed result. Any good result, whether that’s sex or just getting closer and more invested, will come as a side effect of you holding another value ABOVE that goal. What is that value? Giving into having fun and bringing the best vibe to everyone around you without terms. Everything else comes as a side effect of that. Gained only INDIRECTLY. Never as a direct target.

3. No one can make you feel anything about you that you don’t let into your mind. He told me that her act made him feel like he was ugly and that there were other guys “better” than him and she wanted to tease him for it. That is one way to see it. And funny enough it would be true if he let it soak into his mind untested. The truth is more complex. It is bendable.

What happened in the end after he got this advice and these points?

He didn’t let himself get too bitter or hurt over it. He kept going as if things were still in his favor - not that he even needed it to go a set way - again only the now is real and what we can act on.

He got her out on a second date a few days later and with this new fresh frame… made the most of their time.

It’s that simple.

Big problem guys face in personal relationships is confusing the map with the territory.

Trying to always carefully plan ahead how to act and react to hidden motives they assume the other person might have.

But this is almost impossible to pull off.

Half the time the other person barely knows why they are even acting how they act or why they think what they think.

The better move is to always return to a state of just being.

Riding the mental slopes, highs, and lows as they show up in your sight in real time.

This means really moving through the land by improvising.

Going with the flow while holding a simple compass of the place you want to reach (hint - HIGHER).

Strangely the way you pick to draw it is how the territory will start to appear.

It is THAT flexible. It’s a loop effect.

It’s a flywheel effect.

As if you were a plane pulling your lever back to lift the nose toward upward ascension.

Do you get it?

If you made even one tiny decision differently, choices down to the nanosecond, the outcome of your life is completely altered.

Billions of micro “mistakes” can lead to huge wins.

Worrying is preposterous.

You never know what fortune you’re walking into.

Every red light you stop at, every twist, every turn, is constantly shifting the timestamp slightly of where you’ll be next.

Who you run into is different, the game board is always revolving.

The board is always moving.

Don’t worry, don’t panic for this reason.

You can’t measure the dangers and blessings you’re both dodging and gaining, and they always rotate.

If you’ve been a 10 year loser and now make a mil a year, you never failed.

You were never a loser.

That precisely had to happen when it did to get you the mil. Gambling proves this. It’s nonsense to say “Damn, I should’ve picked red!” when you lose on black.

Had you bet differently? The nanosecond differential changes the entire spin. The precise moment the wheel is spun also alters. The lesson is it came up red when you get black because of every synthesized moment in time combined to create the outcome.

Change one tiny detail and chaos wins.

So it’s true everything must happen exactly when it does for the next thing to come.

A broke, deadbeat homeless addict lives on the street for 5 years.

Walks into a liquor store with a buck and wins the $50 million lotto.

He quite literally was paid $10 million a year to be homeless and quite literally had to make exactly every choice he made to hit the lotto. Had he made one single solitary different decision in that timeframe, since birth actually, he wouldn’t have been at the store at that EXACT moment to print the EXACT winning numbers.

His entire life is instantly a material success because of his past.

MY POINT IS you can’t predict life so trust the process.

Men seem to have different views on single mothers and older women in general

Here is the good news

They make it VERY clear what they are looking for

There is usually no shyness, hiding, acting fun but then becoming someone different, etc.

They will either tell you straight or their profile will show what it is they are looking for

So when an older woman says "SERIOUS RELATIONSHIPS ONLY"

take that as truth and let her be if you are not looking for anything serious

On the other hand, the older women who have been at peace with leaving the disney fairy tale love story...

They will be fun, flirty, and will gladly join your plan if you are also a fun, cool, sexy, strong guy

Just save yourself the trouble of trying to make something happen fast from a closeness point of view with the older women seeking relationships

It is better for both sides if you avoid

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Whatever girls say they want, do the opposite:

=> “I want a man who respects me” ---> you should tease her and treat her like a child

=> “I want a man who’s there when I need him” ---> you should be hard to find, busy, and not always free

=> “I want a man who’ll provide for me” ---> you should be the challenging casual guy she hopes to fix

=> “I want a man who is ready to commit” ---> you should seem a little afraid of commitment

=> “I want a man who wants only me” ---> you should hint that you see other women

Don’t be a silly character, of course.

But do this, and you immediately stand out from all the eager men in her life.

And what does she do with the special, cool guy like you who is not eager?

She CHASES.

Even after she gets you, she KEEPS chasing (to hold onto you).

💊 Hard truth most men don’t want to hear:

If you want to attract women, you have to talk about things women actually find interesting.

There’s been endless talk about “how to talk to girls,” but most of that advice is trash.

I once heard a “guru” say:

“It doesn’t matter what you talk about… just be passionate.”

Sounds nice.

And sure, being passionate is better than being a dry, boring robot.

Thing is...

If a girl doesn’t know you yet, and she’s still sizing you up…

Talking about your niche model train hobby even with all the passion in the world, won’t click with her.

She simply can’t connect with that.

That’s why you need to learn the kinds of topics she naturally connects to.

Those are easy for her to respond to and they quietly show that you’ve been around women before.

For example:

If you approach a girl wearing headphones…

Would you ask if she’s familiar with Beethoven’s Fifth Symphony?

Or would you tease her about listening to Taylor Swift’s new album?

It’s a no-brainer.

The guys who struggle most with this are the analytical, logical, “successful” types.

They grew up being told by their parents that they’re special because they’re software engineers or high-value professionals the “backbone of civilization.”

So they think it’s beneath them to talk about things women like celebrity gossip, nails, astrology, etc.

But women don’t see it that way.

99% of them don’t care about the technical details of your job lol.

They care about how they feel around you.

And you reach those feelings by talking about things that connect to their world.

Q&A.

If you have any questions regarding dating, relationship or life.

Then feel free to ask away.

Will be in the comments waiting to answer your question 👇

Dating success has less to do with your achievements or “who you are” as a person, and more to do with how you talk.

That’s why men with high paying jobs and sculpted abs still lose to the funny, confident guy who just knows how to talk lol.

I’m not saying your value doesn’t matter but most of you don’t realize how short sighted women can be.

Not shallow like “materialistic,” but shallow in the sense that emotions override logic.

When their feelings are stirred, they’re not cross checking some mental list of what makes a good man. They just follow the moment and go where the fun is.

That’s why women often make “bad choices” or seem irrational.

They’re just chasing short term emotion, their feelings control their moves.

So doesn’t it make sense that...

If you know how to shift a woman’s emotions through conversation, you can also shift her decisions?

Food for thought.

A lot of guys today don’t like the idea of being persistent with girls.

Let’s be honest: this is a loser way to think 😞

Not because “you’re a loser if you don’t persist,” but because guys who stop trying keep losing with a lot of girls.

Every dating chance is a competition with other men. For most animals, that competition is direct the bigger buck steps up, and the smaller buck walks away knowing he lost.

But with humans, the competition is hidden. You don’t see the other men you’re up against.

Her social media followers aren’t your rivals those guys are background noise. She doesn’t see them as options.

Your real competition is:

=> The guy at her job who chats with her every day
=> The friend one of her girlfriends just introduced her to
=> The guy from a party who’s texting her now
=> Her ex who popped back up to see if she’s single

That’s who you’re really competing with.

When you go for a girl who’s open but she doesn’t respond the way you hoped and you stop trying then another guy wins.

You might not see him or even know he exists, but he’s there, waiting, and he got her because you didn’t.

Why did he win?

It’s not because he’s more “alpha” than you. Usually, it’s one of these:

• He was further ahead she already trusted or liked him more
• He moved faster while you were thinking of what to text, he already took her out
• He kept going while you gave up, he stayed consistent and got her out

Guys who quit fast often think persistence makes you a simp.

But if you’re the one dating the girls you want, and they’re loving your vibe, while the quitter gets nothing, who’s really the simp? Not you.

Persistence isn’t chasing. You don’t want to chase but you should always persist.

Here’s what’s NOT chasing:

✅ Sending a playful follow-up when she turns down a date (“Come on, you’ll have fun. I know a great café.”)
✅ Messaging her once or twice a week for a few weeks to see if she’ll meet up
✅ If she pulls back when you try to kiss her, keep things relaxed, build more comfort, and try again later
✅ If she says “I don’t move fast,” stay cool, hang out, make her more at ease, then try again later

The guy who can’t persist keeps hitting walls with women.

He meets a girl, faces one bit of resistance, and gives up.

That’s frustrating and probably why guys who quit so easily always seem bitter. They’ve got energy that never goes anywhere.

Once you learn to persist calmly, without chasing or being needy, you’ll win a lot more than you expect.

Girls who first seemed resistant will drop their guard and open up to you.

And despite what “quitter” guys say (“who wants a girl that’s hard to get?”), these are the exact women they dream about the ones who don’t say yes to every guy, the ones that take skill and confidence to win over.

Don’t be the small buck walking away with his tail down.

Think like a winner, stay cool, stay persistent, and become the buck who wins the girl.

One of the most overlooked ways to run game is by talking to a girl about what you’re doing in real time. Almost like you’re narrating the moment from above.

“Okay, here’s the part where I tell you how attractive you are. I’ll probably mention how much I love your dress and your style. By now, you’re already falling for me, but you’ll still play a little hard to get to keep it fun.”

Talking to a woman this way hits multiple layers at once.

=> It creates a shared secret between you two during the pickup, which builds trust and intimacy.

=> It removes awkwardness and builds anticipation, making escalation smoother.

=> It lets you recover easily if you say something off (“you didn’t like that one, but you were too into me to care”).

=> It adds a playful, sexy layer where you both get to flirt freely, since it’s no longer you doing it, but the “characters” in your story.

Approaching can feel intense sometimes. But you can make it way more relaxed for both of you by shifting the focus from what’s happening to talking about what’s happening.

Try it and enjoy the flow.

A common reason marriages/relationship fall apart is that, early on, the guy is so scared of upsetting or losing the girl that he starts hiding his needs and constantly accommodating hers.

Over time, this creates worse behavior and entitlement, because she learns that by getting mad, she can control him and get whatever she wants.

The result is a dishonest, disconnected relationship filled with resentment. It can sometimes be fixed, but only through serious “shock therapy” meaning major drama. It’s like breaking a bone that healed wrong and hoping it resets properly.

The moral is simple:

If a woman you’re getting serious with isn’t at least 80% aligned with you on values and goals, don’t ignore it, walk away.

And when bad behavior shows up, stop it early.

Set boundaries and be ready to walk if needed.

The moment you give up on your core standards or let her intimidate you, that’s when the relationship starts to rot.

Yes, you might lose her if you do this but if she was going to leave during the early infatuation phase, you would have lost her later - along with the life you built over the years with her

You don’t need to choose the most attractive girl you’ve ever met.

But if you’re going to commit to a woman, she must turn you on.

If you feel even a hint of doubt about her looks like hesitating to be seen with her or not enjoying looking at her...

It’s already dead in the water.

Move on.

This will upset some people, but “dating for marriage” in 2025 is a waste of time. It doesn’t work, it just turns women off.

If you meet a girl with any goal other than having fun and sharing good sex, she’ll feel the agenda and disappear.

Women aren’t out here trying to “be wives.” It’s not just feminism, it’s basic female psychology.

A woman only wants to be a wife to a man she desires and who won her over. She wants to feel like she was so unique, so irresistible, that she made him commit.

It’s deeply unromantic for a woman to date a guy whose main goal is “finding someone to settle down with.” It makes her feel like she’s just filling a checklist. And it kills the natural spark with pressure and expectation.

Your desire to sleep with her needs to come first in the dating process.

That doesn’t mean you sleep with everyone or rush things. It means your sexual drive, the energy that creates tension has to lead the interaction. She needs to feel that desire.

This has always been the natural order. People used to marry quickly because they wanted to satisfy that drive. But modern religion separated sex from vitality, treating it as a side bonus to something “holier.”

That’s completely backward. Marriage should grow into something deeper, but it always begins with the same spark it always has:

Sex.

Making this the foundation is not only how you attract women today, it’s how you build real, lasting connection.

Anyone telling you otherwise simply doesn’t understand the modern dating landscape and is making it harder for you to actually find a wife.

For men to achieve success, they must pass through many tough challenges.

Anyone who’s truly capable has had to ignore their feelings at some point, or at least separate them in order to move forward.

You’re focused on results and getting things done. Feelings rarely matter much in that process.

But while becoming more productive, we also became more numb.

And that’s what makes dating even more difficult.

Because dating skills are the complete opposite.

You must connect with more emotions, paying attention to the experience rather than speed or results.

Humor, tension, comfort, and social charm all have small layers and fine details like how Michelin Star dishes have rich mixes of taste that normal food doesn’t.

But since most of us trained ourselves to shut off emotions, we now struggle to feel them again.

Part of learning game is helping you switch them back on through Emotional Logic.

We are breaking down vague “vibes” into structure and rules that can be learned with logic, not only emotion.

Here are some texting openers and ways to move the convo forward:

Intrigue Openers: "Can you keep a secret?"

"Haha yes ?

General opener: Like the vibe.. Quick question

" Thanks yes?"

Once they respond ask "Ever been to (insert venue)?"

She will say "No why? " or "Yes its amazing"

If she says no Say "Heard it's cool we should check it out."

Or if she says yes "Yes it is amazing. We should check it out.

Always ask when they are free.

A lot of guys will tell you to pick two days like Thursday or Saturday and have them choose.

Women sometimes have important things going on in their life.

Simply don't be to available for her.

If the day/ time doesn't work for you.

Switch it.

Dont leave pussy on the table though because you box them into 2 days out of the 7.

Coming this November:

The Harem Series which is 16 parts of forbidden lessons on desire, control, and emotional dominance.

Only a few will understand it.

Most men who read it… will never see women the same way again.

Will be available on substack

Guys vastly overestimate how much girls sleep around.

No, most women aren’t secretly out here “riding the carousel.”

But and this is important, there are times when another man has entered the frame or is quietly gaining ground over you.

Here’s how you can usually tell:

1) She’s interested but flaky.

She laughs at your jokes, responds quickly, is sweet, and doesn’t argue but when it’s time to meet, she starts disappearing.

Now, don’t automatically assume there’s another guy.

Some girls are just scatterbrained, or they enjoy attention without follow-through.

But it’s possible there’s another man she’s seeing who currently excites her more.

Flakiness is usually a sign of divided attention and in dating, divided attention often means competition.

2) She was all in… until she wasn’t.

You had momentum.

She was texting back instantly, flirting, agreeing to plans then out of nowhere, she goes cold.

That kind of 180 doesn’t happen by accident.

Either you said or did something that lowered her attraction… or another guy beat you to the finish line.

When this happens, don’t chase, don’t question, and definitely don’t try to “fix” it.

Her silence is communication.

The ball’s in her court now and as a man, you walk away with your dignity intact.

3) She resurfaces with a random “hey.”

This one’s classic.

You haven’t spoken in weeks, maybe months, and suddenly she pops up like nothing happened.

That’s your signal that the other guy she was seeing crashed and burned.

Women rarely come back out of nowhere unless there’s a void to fill.

She might even tell you, “Yeah, I was seeing someone, but it didn’t go anywhere.”

Don’t overthink it.

Don’t tease her.

Don’t try to get clever.

Just move forward and set up a meet.

HOW TO KNOW IF A GIRL IS INTERESTED IN GOING OUT WITH YOU

When you ask a girl out, try this approach:

"We could grab drinks this weekend. Unless that's not really your thing."

This way, you can come off as relaxed and not too pushy.

Even if she’s not available, it gives her a chance to show she’s still interested and wants to see you another time.

This works well when you’re moving things along quickly with a girl.

This method comes in two steps:

1. Suggest something: For example, “We should play tennis this weekend.”

2. Add a soft doubt: Then follow it with something like, “Or maybe tennis isn’t your thing?”

This gives her two options: either agree that she’s not into the idea or correct you and show interest by saying she would like to do what you suggested.

She can respond in 5 different ways:

1. REJECT THE IDEA WITH NO INTEREST IN YOU.

“Yeah, tennis isn’t really my thing.”

If that’s all she says, it’s a no to both the plan and you.

Time to move on to someone else who’s more interested.

2. REJECT THE IDEA BUT STILL SHOW INTEREST.

“Yeah, tennis isn’t really my thing. But we could do something else!”

Here, she’s turning down the tennis idea but still showing she likes you by suggesting something else.

She’s hoping you’ll offer a different plan, so you still have a chance.

3. LIKES THE IDEA BUT DOESN’T SAY YES TO THE DATE OR SHOW INTEREST.

“Oh, I do like tennis. That’s definitely my thing.”

She likes tennis, but she hasn’t accepted the date with you.

She’s avoiding the deeper question of whether she’s interested in you, which usually means she’s not.

You can try pushing forward, but this rarely turns into something.

4. POLITELY REJECTS THE PLAN BUT OFFERS AN ALTERNATIVE.

“No, tennis is great! Or, there’s a new museum opening this weekend… we could go to that?”

She’s turning down the tennis date politely but giving you another option she’d prefer.

If you stick with your original plan, there’s a good chance she’ll flake.

Instead, go with her suggestion if it works for you, or come up with something simple that she’ll agree to later.

Watch out for her saying “No” or “Nah” even if she sounds interested-that’s usually a sign she doesn’t want to do your original plan with you.

5. ENTHUSIASTICALLY ACCEPTS.

“Oh my God, I love tennis! Yes!”

She’s excited, but you don’t know if it’s because of the plan or because she likes you.

A good rule to follow is that it’s 50/50 – she’s excited about both the idea and you.

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