Once I had a lively girlfriend who always messaged me first:
=> She messaged me first as soon as I got her number, before I could even send my icebreaker text
=> She messaged me first to get coffee, before I could send her my scheduler text to set up the date
=> She messaged me first to come to my place every time after that, before I could text her to ask when she was free
One day she got access to my phone, and was looking through my messages.
She saw the chat with an ex-girlfriend of mine, and ‘confronted’ me:
“Every time you talked to her you messaged her first! You have never messaged me first” she said.
I looked at her straight and told her, “If you would stop messaging me so much, then I would actually have a chance to message you first.”
Some people might think the second girl must have liked me more than the first girl, because the second girl always messaged me first and the first girl always waited to hear from me.
But the first girl was very feminine, emotional, and believed in strong sex roles, fate, destiny, etc.
She thought it was the man’s job to take the lead and start things.
She would not do anything without me starting, but would always be very happy if I did because she wanted things to move forward.
When I broke up with the first girl, she never messaged me again on her own (and I didn’t message her).
When life brought us back together half a year later, she cried, kissed me, and invited me to her place, saying she had missed me so much.
The second girl was impulsive, tomboy-ish, and went after whatever she wanted without holding back.
She said she was not even really into me when we met, only that she was feeling a bit lonely and I was there / made things happen with her, so she went along with it.
She resisted the idea of a real relationship with me.
When I broke up with the second girl (after some drama), it did not take 30 minutes before she messaged me again and insisted on coming to my apartment.
When I let her come over she said she was not sure if coming back was right but felt if she did not come back she would never see me again which was probably true.
Lesson:
It is not always true that “the girls who like you the most will message you themselves.”
Instead it is more like the girls who are bold and impulsive will message you themselves.
Sometimes those girls may really like you.
Sometimes they may just be a little curious.
Meanwhile, the girls who are gentle, shy, very feminine, etc., may wait forever before messaging you first even if you are the Man of Their Dreams.
=> She messaged me first as soon as I got her number, before I could even send my icebreaker text
=> She messaged me first to get coffee, before I could send her my scheduler text to set up the date
=> She messaged me first to come to my place every time after that, before I could text her to ask when she was free
One day she got access to my phone, and was looking through my messages.
She saw the chat with an ex-girlfriend of mine, and ‘confronted’ me:
“Every time you talked to her you messaged her first! You have never messaged me first” she said.
I looked at her straight and told her, “If you would stop messaging me so much, then I would actually have a chance to message you first.”
Some people might think the second girl must have liked me more than the first girl, because the second girl always messaged me first and the first girl always waited to hear from me.
But the first girl was very feminine, emotional, and believed in strong sex roles, fate, destiny, etc.
She thought it was the man’s job to take the lead and start things.
She would not do anything without me starting, but would always be very happy if I did because she wanted things to move forward.
When I broke up with the first girl, she never messaged me again on her own (and I didn’t message her).
When life brought us back together half a year later, she cried, kissed me, and invited me to her place, saying she had missed me so much.
The second girl was impulsive, tomboy-ish, and went after whatever she wanted without holding back.
She said she was not even really into me when we met, only that she was feeling a bit lonely and I was there / made things happen with her, so she went along with it.
She resisted the idea of a real relationship with me.
When I broke up with the second girl (after some drama), it did not take 30 minutes before she messaged me again and insisted on coming to my apartment.
When I let her come over she said she was not sure if coming back was right but felt if she did not come back she would never see me again which was probably true.
Lesson:
It is not always true that “the girls who like you the most will message you themselves.”
Instead it is more like the girls who are bold and impulsive will message you themselves.
Sometimes those girls may really like you.
Sometimes they may just be a little curious.
Meanwhile, the girls who are gentle, shy, very feminine, etc., may wait forever before messaging you first even if you are the Man of Their Dreams.
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You thought the date went well.
She thought otherwise.
Most men don’t realize why women vanish after a night that felt perfect.
It’s not random, it’s predictable.
In this 9-min breakdown I’ll show you:
• The hidden reasons women ghost
• How to avoid killing attraction
• What makes her want to text you first
Watch here 👇
https://youtu.be/I2Eipb0OTDI
She thought otherwise.
Most men don’t realize why women vanish after a night that felt perfect.
It’s not random, it’s predictable.
In this 9-min breakdown I’ll show you:
• The hidden reasons women ghost
• How to avoid killing attraction
• What makes her want to text you first
Watch here 👇
https://youtu.be/I2Eipb0OTDI
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You Thought It Went Well So Why Did She Never Text Back
You thought the date went well.
She laughed, smiled, and you felt the chemistry.
So why did she never text back?
In this 9-minute video, I break down the hidden reasons women ghost after a “perfect” night, the mistakes most men make after the first date…
She laughed, smiled, and you felt the chemistry.
So why did she never text back?
In this 9-minute video, I break down the hidden reasons women ghost after a “perfect” night, the mistakes most men make after the first date…
The main thing guys need to understand in order to date hotter girls is to not expect every girl to like them.
If you're older, sometimes you'll meet a girl who thinks you're too old. So what?
If you're shorter, sometimes you'll meet a girl who thinks you're too short. Big deal!
Not every girl is going to like every type of guy, and that's okay. That's just how things work!
The good news is, no matter your height, wealth, fitness, or age, there are plenty of hot girls who will like you.
You might not have the same advantages as others, but that's okay. The world isn't fair.
What matters is that there are more girls available to you than you could ever date. So why worry?
The best thing you can do is not worry about things you can't control.
There are plenty of hot girls for every type of guy, so there's no need to focus on any perceived disadvantages.
Just like the idea of needing to be in a certain mindset to pick up girls, thinking negatively about your age, appearance, finances, or background only holds you back.
You're creating a huge obstacle for yourself. It's like shooting yourself in the foot.
We all have things we don't like about ourselves compared to others. But when you obsess over them and blame them for why you're not getting what you want, you're playing the victim.
One of the biggest turn-offs for women is when a guy sees himself as a victim.
Don't let your insecurities hold you back. Instead, focus on what you do have and work with that. You'll be surprised at what you can achieve.
Your height, age, or ethnicity is not a deal-breaker for most girls. So don't let it become one for you.
Lots of people with worst disadvantages than yours killing it with.
Don't falter!
If you're older, sometimes you'll meet a girl who thinks you're too old. So what?
If you're shorter, sometimes you'll meet a girl who thinks you're too short. Big deal!
Not every girl is going to like every type of guy, and that's okay. That's just how things work!
The good news is, no matter your height, wealth, fitness, or age, there are plenty of hot girls who will like you.
You might not have the same advantages as others, but that's okay. The world isn't fair.
What matters is that there are more girls available to you than you could ever date. So why worry?
The best thing you can do is not worry about things you can't control.
There are plenty of hot girls for every type of guy, so there's no need to focus on any perceived disadvantages.
Just like the idea of needing to be in a certain mindset to pick up girls, thinking negatively about your age, appearance, finances, or background only holds you back.
You're creating a huge obstacle for yourself. It's like shooting yourself in the foot.
We all have things we don't like about ourselves compared to others. But when you obsess over them and blame them for why you're not getting what you want, you're playing the victim.
One of the biggest turn-offs for women is when a guy sees himself as a victim.
Don't let your insecurities hold you back. Instead, focus on what you do have and work with that. You'll be surprised at what you can achieve.
Your height, age, or ethnicity is not a deal-breaker for most girls. So don't let it become one for you.
Lots of people with worst disadvantages than yours killing it with.
Don't falter!
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Why Volume Dating is the Fastest Way to Filter for 8s, 9s, and 10s
Most men think they can attract a top tier woman by approaching a handful of girls here and there or swiping on Tinder once in a while.
Then they wonder why the only women in their lives are average at best.
The thing is if you only talk to a few women each month, the odds are stacked against you.
You are operating from scarcity, which makes you cling to whoever gives you a little attention.
That 6s who answers your texts suddenly looks like a prize.
You start overinvesting because you believe she is rare.
Volume destroys that illusion.
When you approach 30, 40, or 50 women a month, you realize that beauty is everywhere and that most women you meet will never qualify to be in your life.
Approaching widely does not make you desperate, it makes you selective.
Just like a CEO interviews dozens of candidates to hire one, an elite man dates widely to filter for women who are actually worth his time.
And it is not just about approaching.
Apps are the same.
If you only swipe on ten girls and match with one, you will hold onto her as if she is your last option.
But if you build a profile that generates consistent matches, suddenly you are not worrying about one flaky girl.
You have ten more conversations ready to replace her.
Volume dating gives you two unfair advantages:
1. Choice: You see enough women to actually encounter 8s, 9s, and 10s.
2. Detachment: You stop chasing, because you know there are always more options waiting.
That is why elite men filter through abundance while average men settle for whoever sticks around.
If you want access to women other men dream about, stop operating from scarcity.
Create volume, master the system, and the quality takes care of itself.
Most men think they can attract a top tier woman by approaching a handful of girls here and there or swiping on Tinder once in a while.
Then they wonder why the only women in their lives are average at best.
The thing is if you only talk to a few women each month, the odds are stacked against you.
You are operating from scarcity, which makes you cling to whoever gives you a little attention.
That 6s who answers your texts suddenly looks like a prize.
You start overinvesting because you believe she is rare.
Volume destroys that illusion.
When you approach 30, 40, or 50 women a month, you realize that beauty is everywhere and that most women you meet will never qualify to be in your life.
Approaching widely does not make you desperate, it makes you selective.
Just like a CEO interviews dozens of candidates to hire one, an elite man dates widely to filter for women who are actually worth his time.
And it is not just about approaching.
Apps are the same.
If you only swipe on ten girls and match with one, you will hold onto her as if she is your last option.
But if you build a profile that generates consistent matches, suddenly you are not worrying about one flaky girl.
You have ten more conversations ready to replace her.
Volume dating gives you two unfair advantages:
1. Choice: You see enough women to actually encounter 8s, 9s, and 10s.
2. Detachment: You stop chasing, because you know there are always more options waiting.
That is why elite men filter through abundance while average men settle for whoever sticks around.
If you want access to women other men dream about, stop operating from scarcity.
Create volume, master the system, and the quality takes care of itself.
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Why 80% of Men Lose Girls After Getting the Number
Most guys think the hardest part of dating is getting the number. They walk away from an interaction feeling like they’ve “won” just because she handed over her digits. But here’s the reality: that’s not the finish line. That’s the starting gun.
Studies, observations, and endless field experience all show the same thing: about 80% of men lose the girl after they get the number. She seemed interested.
She was smiling, laughing, maybe even touching your arm. But once the texting started, the energy died.
Why does this happen?
The first problem is inconsistency of energy. In person, you were fun, present, and confident.
Over text, you turn into a dry, predictable guy asking interview-style questions: “How’s your day?” “What are you up to?” “Did you eat?”
Nothing kills attraction faster than boring, low-value texting.
Women live for emotions, if you can’t spark any through your words, she checks out.
The second problem is chasing behavior. Most men don’t realize that women use text to test your frame. She takes 3 hours to reply just to see how you react.
She gives short, playful answers to check whether you crumble into validation-seeking mode. Instead of staying calm and playful, most guys panic. They double text.
They send long explanations. They follow up too fast. In her mind, you’ve already failed.
The third problem is lack of direction.
Texting isn’t for building a whole relationship, it’s for moving things forward.
Guys who don’t know this end up trapped in endless conversations with no progress. After a few days of small talk, she gets bored and disappears.
The men who win are the ones who know how to transition fast from “fun texting” to “let’s meet up.”
If you don’t learn this skill, all the cold approaches, dating app matches, or social circle opportunities in the world won’t save you.
You’ll always end up with a phone full of dead numbers.
But when you flip the script, everything changes.
Instead of chasing her replies, you set the pace.
Instead of stressing over every text, you create playful exchanges that make her think about you when you’re not even texting.
Instead of wasting time with flakes, you turn most of your numbers into real-life dates.
Texting isn’t a side skill, it’s the bridge between attraction and reality.
Master it, and suddenly you stop losing 8 out of 10 women after the number.
That’s the difference between a guy who “tries” dating and a guy who actually lives it.
-MOS
Most guys think the hardest part of dating is getting the number. They walk away from an interaction feeling like they’ve “won” just because she handed over her digits. But here’s the reality: that’s not the finish line. That’s the starting gun.
Studies, observations, and endless field experience all show the same thing: about 80% of men lose the girl after they get the number. She seemed interested.
She was smiling, laughing, maybe even touching your arm. But once the texting started, the energy died.
Why does this happen?
The first problem is inconsistency of energy. In person, you were fun, present, and confident.
Over text, you turn into a dry, predictable guy asking interview-style questions: “How’s your day?” “What are you up to?” “Did you eat?”
Nothing kills attraction faster than boring, low-value texting.
Women live for emotions, if you can’t spark any through your words, she checks out.
The second problem is chasing behavior. Most men don’t realize that women use text to test your frame. She takes 3 hours to reply just to see how you react.
She gives short, playful answers to check whether you crumble into validation-seeking mode. Instead of staying calm and playful, most guys panic. They double text.
They send long explanations. They follow up too fast. In her mind, you’ve already failed.
The third problem is lack of direction.
Texting isn’t for building a whole relationship, it’s for moving things forward.
Guys who don’t know this end up trapped in endless conversations with no progress. After a few days of small talk, she gets bored and disappears.
The men who win are the ones who know how to transition fast from “fun texting” to “let’s meet up.”
If you don’t learn this skill, all the cold approaches, dating app matches, or social circle opportunities in the world won’t save you.
You’ll always end up with a phone full of dead numbers.
But when you flip the script, everything changes.
Instead of chasing her replies, you set the pace.
Instead of stressing over every text, you create playful exchanges that make her think about you when you’re not even texting.
Instead of wasting time with flakes, you turn most of your numbers into real-life dates.
Texting isn’t a side skill, it’s the bridge between attraction and reality.
Master it, and suddenly you stop losing 8 out of 10 women after the number.
That’s the difference between a guy who “tries” dating and a guy who actually lives it.
-MOS
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🚨 ANNOUNCEMENT 🚨
Most men do not lose women in person.
They lose them after the number is exchanged.
The wrong text.
The wrong timing.
The wrong frame.
I have been breaking this down for a while, and I decided to put everything into one complete system.
A playbook that shows you how to text in a way that keeps women hooked, avoids ghosting, and makes them want to see you again and again.
It is in the works right now, and I will be dropping it here soon.
Stay tuned.
Most men do not lose women in person.
They lose them after the number is exchanged.
The wrong text.
The wrong timing.
The wrong frame.
I have been breaking this down for a while, and I decided to put everything into one complete system.
A playbook that shows you how to text in a way that keeps women hooked, avoids ghosting, and makes them want to see you again and again.
It is in the works right now, and I will be dropping it here soon.
Stay tuned.
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Why Most Guys Lose Here (And Why He Still Got Lucky)
Here’s the breakdown.
What he did wrong:
1. He over-explained.
When she said, “I’m not sure if it’s a good idea,” he immediately jumped into a logical reassurance. Instead of calming her with playful confidence, he tried to convince her with words.
2. He gave away too much reassurance.
She tested him: “What are you expecting from this meeting?”
Instead of staying mysterious, he spilled everything: “I have no expectations for sex, don’t worry.”
This kills tension.
3. Over-qualifying kills the vibe.
Notice how he keeps repeating:
“Don’t worry, I have no expectations for sex”
“I just wanna hang out”
He’s trying to calm her down but the subtext women pick up is: “This guy is seeking my approval.”
This creates doubt.
She thinks: “If he has to say it this much, maybe he IS thinking about it.”
Here’s the breakdown.
What he did wrong:
1. He over-explained.
When she said, “I’m not sure if it’s a good idea,” he immediately jumped into a logical reassurance. Instead of calming her with playful confidence, he tried to convince her with words.
2. He gave away too much reassurance.
She tested him: “What are you expecting from this meeting?”
Instead of staying mysterious, he spilled everything: “I have no expectations for sex, don’t worry.”
This kills tension.
3. Over-qualifying kills the vibe.
Notice how he keeps repeating:
“Don’t worry, I have no expectations for sex”
“I just wanna hang out”
He’s trying to calm her down but the subtext women pick up is: “This guy is seeking my approval.”
This creates doubt.
She thinks: “If he has to say it this much, maybe he IS thinking about it.”
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What he did right:
1. He stayed persistent without being aggressive.
Even though he over-explained, he didn’t back off completely.
He kept pushing forward and reframed with a playful line at the end:
“You’re the one with the crazy thoughts 😂 I just wanna hang out.”
That was a good one.
2. He didn’t pressure her.
Notice he never begged or got reactive.
He didn’t say, “Come on, why not?” or “You’re being silly.”
He stayed calm, which is why she eventually relaxed.
What he could have done better:
Instead of long paragraphs, the move here is playful deflection + short confidence.
For example:
Her: “I’m not sure if it’s a good idea.”
Him: “Depends… do you always overthink fun? 😉”
Or when she said: “What are you expecting from this meeting?”
Instead of a full essay, he could have replied:
“Drinks, bad jokes, and you trying not to fall in love with me.”
The lesson:
Most men fail at this exact stage because they can’t handle female resistance without over-explaining.
They go into interview mode, reassurance mode, or “please like me” mode.
What this guy didn’t realize is that attraction thrives on tension.
By denying all sexual possibility upfront, he almost killed the vibe.
He still got the lay but more often than not, that approach backfires.
-MOS
1. He stayed persistent without being aggressive.
Even though he over-explained, he didn’t back off completely.
He kept pushing forward and reframed with a playful line at the end:
“You’re the one with the crazy thoughts 😂 I just wanna hang out.”
That was a good one.
2. He didn’t pressure her.
Notice he never begged or got reactive.
He didn’t say, “Come on, why not?” or “You’re being silly.”
He stayed calm, which is why she eventually relaxed.
What he could have done better:
Instead of long paragraphs, the move here is playful deflection + short confidence.
For example:
Her: “I’m not sure if it’s a good idea.”
Him: “Depends… do you always overthink fun? 😉”
Or when she said: “What are you expecting from this meeting?”
Instead of a full essay, he could have replied:
“Drinks, bad jokes, and you trying not to fall in love with me.”
The lesson:
Most men fail at this exact stage because they can’t handle female resistance without over-explaining.
They go into interview mode, reassurance mode, or “please like me” mode.
What this guy didn’t realize is that attraction thrives on tension.
By denying all sexual possibility upfront, he almost killed the vibe.
He still got the lay but more often than not, that approach backfires.
-MOS
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HUMAN CONFIRMATION BIAS
A person will ONLY be able to view life through the narrow LENS of what they believe is true about the world
Humans are skilled at shaping the world to match their beliefs
They will go very far to make their world fit with a reality that matches their past beliefs
EVEN if that belief does not help them at all
The woman who fully believes that all men are trash will ignore thousands of good men just to find herself a bad man that matches her view, to prove herself right
The person who fully believes money is tough to get will ignore every good chance and keep living poor, to PROVE that money is rare
NO MATTER the evidence shown otherwise
Your view of the world STARTS inside.
You push your own beliefs onto the world to THEN make the world fit closely with what you think is true
And IGNORE any info that goes against those beliefs
A person will ONLY be able to view life through the narrow LENS of what they believe is true about the world
Humans are skilled at shaping the world to match their beliefs
They will go very far to make their world fit with a reality that matches their past beliefs
EVEN if that belief does not help them at all
The woman who fully believes that all men are trash will ignore thousands of good men just to find herself a bad man that matches her view, to prove herself right
The person who fully believes money is tough to get will ignore every good chance and keep living poor, to PROVE that money is rare
NO MATTER the evidence shown otherwise
Your view of the world STARTS inside.
You push your own beliefs onto the world to THEN make the world fit closely with what you think is true
And IGNORE any info that goes against those beliefs
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Don't be the guy.
A lot of people out there saying someone's gotta DO SOMETHING.
About the left the right Zionists Hamas blacks whites troons Nazis etc. etc. etc.
Don't let it be you.
You are gonna live a long life.
A nice house.
A nice dog.
Not end up cold and alone in the woods on the run from big men putting knees on your neck.
With everyone who said someone's gotta do something saying you're a piece of shit cuz you did something.
Someone's gotta do something.
Never them.
So not you.
Live a long life.
A lot of people out there saying someone's gotta DO SOMETHING.
About the left the right Zionists Hamas blacks whites troons Nazis etc. etc. etc.
Don't let it be you.
You are gonna live a long life.
A nice house.
A nice dog.
Not end up cold and alone in the woods on the run from big men putting knees on your neck.
With everyone who said someone's gotta do something saying you're a piece of shit cuz you did something.
Someone's gotta do something.
Never them.
So not you.
Live a long life.
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"I can't get women cause I'm short and ugly..."
I want to talk about one of the most regurgitated statements that I've heard quite a ton since I started this account.
Such a statement only points to your insecurities. Giving excuses for why you can't go out there to talk to women.
Now, I'm speaking to you as someone who has been there before (making excuses for why I couldn't go talk to women)
I used to be an insecure and anxious porn addict who frequented bars at night looking for a girl to validate me while being blackout drunk.
I wasn't even chasing the sex most times, I was just looking for a girl to acknowledge me.
When my mom and dad separated, it broke me in ways I couldn't believe it would and I'm not saying to get sympathy but to show emotional bravery to being able to communicate to you as a human being.
I used to hate myself so bad that I wanted to commit suicide but now anymore cause I got my life figured out and I got the "women" side handled.
I went to the Gym and was moving through a shopping mall. I looked at the designer shops like Gucci, Tom Ford, etc and it made me realize that these were all started by one person with a delusional and irrational confidence that one day their Brand is going to be renowned around the world.
That's what it takes in life and even better applied in the sexual marketplace (SMV)
"Irrational faith and delusional optimism."
That is the key.
Most people don't even know what confidence means and like Socrates said "The beginning of wisdom is the definition of terms."
I define Confidence as optimism in the absence of certainty.
All of the things I could have used as excuses why I couldn't achieve the things I wanted, I used as motivation.
Was it the time guys told me my accent wouldn't help me get English girls?
Or was the time someone said I was ugly and I shouldn't be cold approaching girls?
Or the time someone told me that being 5"9 won't get me girls in Canada?
Or the time they said Eastern Europe girls don't like black guys?
All these were just feedback.
All I did was see it as fuel to achieve the things they said I couldn't.
Look if you're a guy and you're feeding yourself the belief that you can't get girls because you're short/bald/ugly etc and you want to play that narrative out in your mind (like Henry Ford said "whether you think you can or can't, you're right") then maybe you're right - which is giving yourself an excuse not to put yourself out there.
Most guys who give their excuses are terrified of succeeding cause then their long-held beliefs are crushed when they find out that the gorgeous girl walking down the street is happy he approached her and is attracted to him (even if he is 5"5 and 5 in looks) cause of his gravitas, audacity, leadership, etc.
These traits matter more than your looks or height
It's the unhealthy ego at work that is always trying to prove itself right (self-preservation)
A lot of guys want to use their insecurities as a comfort blanket, they just want to come to my DMs and say things like "I can't do this cause blah blah blah."
If after all the motivation, inspiration, and information I've provided in this channel over the years, you're still adamant that you can't set your dating life in order or gain a foothold in the sexual marketplace place then honestly...
FUCK YOU!
Some guys shouldn't even get a sniff in the dating market but they are crushing it despite the flaws that should be holding them back.
Why?
Cause they have irrational self-belief, and optimism in their abilities and are going out there taking action.
Everyone gets rejected and we all have a genetic baseline that we're working with but the way you win at the Game of Life isn't about complaining about the cards you have been dealt with but playing your hands to the best of your abilities.
Just cause you don't get some girls doesn't mean you can't get any and the more you level up your life, the more the internal will take care of itself.
I want to talk about one of the most regurgitated statements that I've heard quite a ton since I started this account.
Such a statement only points to your insecurities. Giving excuses for why you can't go out there to talk to women.
Now, I'm speaking to you as someone who has been there before (making excuses for why I couldn't go talk to women)
I used to be an insecure and anxious porn addict who frequented bars at night looking for a girl to validate me while being blackout drunk.
I wasn't even chasing the sex most times, I was just looking for a girl to acknowledge me.
When my mom and dad separated, it broke me in ways I couldn't believe it would and I'm not saying to get sympathy but to show emotional bravery to being able to communicate to you as a human being.
I used to hate myself so bad that I wanted to commit suicide but now anymore cause I got my life figured out and I got the "women" side handled.
I went to the Gym and was moving through a shopping mall. I looked at the designer shops like Gucci, Tom Ford, etc and it made me realize that these were all started by one person with a delusional and irrational confidence that one day their Brand is going to be renowned around the world.
That's what it takes in life and even better applied in the sexual marketplace (SMV)
"Irrational faith and delusional optimism."
That is the key.
Most people don't even know what confidence means and like Socrates said "The beginning of wisdom is the definition of terms."
I define Confidence as optimism in the absence of certainty.
All of the things I could have used as excuses why I couldn't achieve the things I wanted, I used as motivation.
Was it the time guys told me my accent wouldn't help me get English girls?
Or was the time someone said I was ugly and I shouldn't be cold approaching girls?
Or the time someone told me that being 5"9 won't get me girls in Canada?
Or the time they said Eastern Europe girls don't like black guys?
All these were just feedback.
All I did was see it as fuel to achieve the things they said I couldn't.
Look if you're a guy and you're feeding yourself the belief that you can't get girls because you're short/bald/ugly etc and you want to play that narrative out in your mind (like Henry Ford said "whether you think you can or can't, you're right") then maybe you're right - which is giving yourself an excuse not to put yourself out there.
Most guys who give their excuses are terrified of succeeding cause then their long-held beliefs are crushed when they find out that the gorgeous girl walking down the street is happy he approached her and is attracted to him (even if he is 5"5 and 5 in looks) cause of his gravitas, audacity, leadership, etc.
These traits matter more than your looks or height
It's the unhealthy ego at work that is always trying to prove itself right (self-preservation)
A lot of guys want to use their insecurities as a comfort blanket, they just want to come to my DMs and say things like "I can't do this cause blah blah blah."
If after all the motivation, inspiration, and information I've provided in this channel over the years, you're still adamant that you can't set your dating life in order or gain a foothold in the sexual marketplace place then honestly...
FUCK YOU!
Some guys shouldn't even get a sniff in the dating market but they are crushing it despite the flaws that should be holding them back.
Why?
Cause they have irrational self-belief, and optimism in their abilities and are going out there taking action.
Everyone gets rejected and we all have a genetic baseline that we're working with but the way you win at the Game of Life isn't about complaining about the cards you have been dealt with but playing your hands to the best of your abilities.
Just cause you don't get some girls doesn't mean you can't get any and the more you level up your life, the more the internal will take care of itself.
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Dude, attracting women is 90% mindset. Internal state = external reality. She's your mirror (she feels what you feel)
Let's say you're 5"5, facially you're not that great but you approached a girl and you're operating from a place of wholeness rather than from a place of lack. Say you're treating your insecurities as your blessing then you're going to do it all despite your shortcomings.
If you're 5"5 then don't do it for just you, do it for other guys who are 5"5 and don't believe it is possible.
The majority of guys will ruminate in their egoic self-absorption and say things like "If you're not 6ft tall and handsome then you should opt out of the game."
Well if that's the narrative you want to feed yourself then good luck to you. If you're adamant that you can't change then it's fine, opt out of the game and continue to play video games while wanking into a sock.
In terms of looking good, you should know there is a big difference between looking good and being good looking and it's within every man's power to improve on what he has been given.
I have time for a guy who DMs me saying "Hi, Mos love our content. Just want to say I'm feeling insecure about my height and I know it's all in my head. I would love some advice to go about this." I prefer guys like this because they see the possibility. Sure we all got something about ourselves we don't like cause there is no perfect human being.
At the same time, I'm not saying don't be insecure, just don't whine about it like a little girl.
Your mindset trumps everything you think will get you chicks.
I'm telling you what you need to know rather than what you need to hear. I do want the best for all of you that's why I'm putting passion into this writing cause I've been there and done it so you can do it yourself.
I promise you that and I don't have time for people who don't have time for themselves but if you're adamant that you can't change then there is nothing I can do for you.
You have to move first and see the possibilities.
Hope you got inspired by this post and if you want help to start then check out the pinned post on this channel and get my free ebook to start so you can implement this.
Note: I'm not saying this cause I'm an asshole but I do believe guys need some tough love at times. All you need is to get 1% better every day. Imagine your life 20 years from now and you're thinking "Fuck, I should have just taken more risks." Don't be that guy.
-MOS
Let's say you're 5"5, facially you're not that great but you approached a girl and you're operating from a place of wholeness rather than from a place of lack. Say you're treating your insecurities as your blessing then you're going to do it all despite your shortcomings.
If you're 5"5 then don't do it for just you, do it for other guys who are 5"5 and don't believe it is possible.
The majority of guys will ruminate in their egoic self-absorption and say things like "If you're not 6ft tall and handsome then you should opt out of the game."
Well if that's the narrative you want to feed yourself then good luck to you. If you're adamant that you can't change then it's fine, opt out of the game and continue to play video games while wanking into a sock.
In terms of looking good, you should know there is a big difference between looking good and being good looking and it's within every man's power to improve on what he has been given.
I have time for a guy who DMs me saying "Hi, Mos love our content. Just want to say I'm feeling insecure about my height and I know it's all in my head. I would love some advice to go about this." I prefer guys like this because they see the possibility. Sure we all got something about ourselves we don't like cause there is no perfect human being.
At the same time, I'm not saying don't be insecure, just don't whine about it like a little girl.
Your mindset trumps everything you think will get you chicks.
I'm telling you what you need to know rather than what you need to hear. I do want the best for all of you that's why I'm putting passion into this writing cause I've been there and done it so you can do it yourself.
I promise you that and I don't have time for people who don't have time for themselves but if you're adamant that you can't change then there is nothing I can do for you.
You have to move first and see the possibilities.
Hope you got inspired by this post and if you want help to start then check out the pinned post on this channel and get my free ebook to start so you can implement this.
Note: I'm not saying this cause I'm an asshole but I do believe guys need some tough love at times. All you need is to get 1% better every day. Imagine your life 20 years from now and you're thinking "Fuck, I should have just taken more risks." Don't be that guy.
-MOS
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We just crossed 1,000 subscribers on Substack, huge thank you to everyone who’s part of this journey.
To celebrate, I’m giving you a special bundle:
📘 Free for all subscribers:
From Ghosted to Desired, Learn how to flip the script when women ignore you and stop getting ghosted.
Check my latest post /email:
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Being congruent with women is key
If you're a shy, nice guy and suddenly switch into sexual mode which is creepy
If you're a smooth, confident guy and suddenly get weak and needy which is also creepy
Women want clarity of intent, BUT they want it shown with subtlety and style
That subtlety and style being the mating dance
So if you just want to be the fun guy, don't just come out and say you want a hookup
Instead
- Style that shows sex appeal (white teeth, tattoos, jewelry, being fit, sharp haircut)
- Smirks
- Playful lines: "damn girl, I cant focus on this talk right now... that dress... damn" (said with a sexy tone and a playful smirk)
- Touch that's fun and adjusted
- Leading with certainty
That shows sexual intent without clumsiness. She feels bliss because it's clear but in a subtle, smooth way
Same rules apply if you want a relationship
A lot of relationship seeking guys think they can just come out and say they want one
And because women publicly say how much they hate guys who just want sex without effort, they think they're earning points
But they aren’t
You can’t skip the mating dance, even with girls who want relationships
Instead
- Still lead as the lover
- Compliment her on non sexual traits
- Point out your rare connection
- Future plan naturally (shared goals, things to do outside of the bedroom)
Bottom line is that women react to your intent and congruence
But only when it's done thru your behavior, vibe, and look NOT what you blurt out directly
If you're a shy, nice guy and suddenly switch into sexual mode which is creepy
If you're a smooth, confident guy and suddenly get weak and needy which is also creepy
Women want clarity of intent, BUT they want it shown with subtlety and style
That subtlety and style being the mating dance
So if you just want to be the fun guy, don't just come out and say you want a hookup
Instead
- Style that shows sex appeal (white teeth, tattoos, jewelry, being fit, sharp haircut)
- Smirks
- Playful lines: "damn girl, I cant focus on this talk right now... that dress... damn" (said with a sexy tone and a playful smirk)
- Touch that's fun and adjusted
- Leading with certainty
That shows sexual intent without clumsiness. She feels bliss because it's clear but in a subtle, smooth way
Same rules apply if you want a relationship
A lot of relationship seeking guys think they can just come out and say they want one
And because women publicly say how much they hate guys who just want sex without effort, they think they're earning points
But they aren’t
You can’t skip the mating dance, even with girls who want relationships
Instead
- Still lead as the lover
- Compliment her on non sexual traits
- Point out your rare connection
- Future plan naturally (shared goals, things to do outside of the bedroom)
Bottom line is that women react to your intent and congruence
But only when it's done thru your behavior, vibe, and look NOT what you blurt out directly
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A lot of dating tips online are more ego-based than result-based.
For example:
=> Shy and inexperienced girls don’t show much or give you much to work with. The usual online coach will say, “If she isn’t giving you much, MOVE ON!”
But shy girls need a man who can LEAD. They need a guy who can slowly build compliance from them, get them to invest, and gently guide their shy girl worlds and lead them into a real seduction.
=> Women who haven’t slept with you yet have no bond to you. They will flake on you, leave you on read, ghost you. The usual online coach will say, “If she doesn’t text back, MOVE ON!”
But a lot of texting is ‘right time, right place.’ Hit up that ghost girl later at the right time, with the right invite, and suddenly she’s coming out, then ends up in your bed.
Then after that she is deeply loyal and wouldn’t think of flaking or ghosting, because now you are NOT SOME RANDOM GUY she hasn’t been with anymore.
GAME exists to handle the many tricky spots that girls throw when you try to get with them and close them.
“If she doesn’t blah blah blah, then NEXT her and MOVE ON!” is not game when the guy is too simple about it.
You do not want to waste time chasing truly uninterested girls, or attention-seeking girls, putting energy into dead leads. So there must be some awareness of how much persistence you will use and where you stop at.
But at the same time, it is tough to go far if you never let your courtships start because you are running off every time a girl throws a hurdle up, instead of using game to seduce past the hurdle.
Seduce past the hurdle, my friend.
It will make you a much more successful lover of women.
It will push you beyond your comfort zone.
It will give you a REAL radar for which girls REALLY are lost causes vs which ones are simply hidden treasures that most men cannot see (or reach) but you, with some skill, can.
- MOS
For example:
=> Shy and inexperienced girls don’t show much or give you much to work with. The usual online coach will say, “If she isn’t giving you much, MOVE ON!”
But shy girls need a man who can LEAD. They need a guy who can slowly build compliance from them, get them to invest, and gently guide their shy girl worlds and lead them into a real seduction.
=> Women who haven’t slept with you yet have no bond to you. They will flake on you, leave you on read, ghost you. The usual online coach will say, “If she doesn’t text back, MOVE ON!”
But a lot of texting is ‘right time, right place.’ Hit up that ghost girl later at the right time, with the right invite, and suddenly she’s coming out, then ends up in your bed.
Then after that she is deeply loyal and wouldn’t think of flaking or ghosting, because now you are NOT SOME RANDOM GUY she hasn’t been with anymore.
GAME exists to handle the many tricky spots that girls throw when you try to get with them and close them.
“If she doesn’t blah blah blah, then NEXT her and MOVE ON!” is not game when the guy is too simple about it.
You do not want to waste time chasing truly uninterested girls, or attention-seeking girls, putting energy into dead leads. So there must be some awareness of how much persistence you will use and where you stop at.
But at the same time, it is tough to go far if you never let your courtships start because you are running off every time a girl throws a hurdle up, instead of using game to seduce past the hurdle.
Seduce past the hurdle, my friend.
It will make you a much more successful lover of women.
It will push you beyond your comfort zone.
It will give you a REAL radar for which girls REALLY are lost causes vs which ones are simply hidden treasures that most men cannot see (or reach) but you, with some skill, can.
- MOS
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