If I’m suspicious she’s a secret fatty…
Get to restaurant early.
Park outside close to the front door.
Watch every chick that comes in alone.
When you get the text or call, ‘I’m here’ that last one was yours
Hot = walk in
Not = drive off
Zero sympathy for liars.
Another way to avoid this is to have a call (video call) prior to the date.
Get to restaurant early.
Park outside close to the front door.
Watch every chick that comes in alone.
When you get the text or call, ‘I’m here’ that last one was yours
Hot = walk in
Not = drive off
Zero sympathy for liars.
Another way to avoid this is to have a call (video call) prior to the date.
❤2
A common misconception is the idea that you have to be a nonchalant asshole all the time to women.
Because apparently, women like “bad boys”
Dudes who say this obviously don’t have game in real life.
And if you take this advice, all your relationships will fail.
The idea that you shouldn’t do anything nice for a woman will lead you down the wrong path.
Especially if you’re trying to have a long term relationship, which most guys seek.
You cannot have a healthy relationship having this mindset.
You may attract but you won’t retain.
And the type of women you can retain acting this way, are not the type women that you’d want to be in an LTR with.
The concept of acting nonchalant has been completely misunderstood.
The nonchalant attitude is meant to show outcome independence.
Another use for the nonchalant attitude is to make her appreciate it more when you do nice things for her.
Because women naturally feel entitled to a man’s kindness.
And can be highly ungrateful.
The purpose of the nonchalant attitude is not to be an asshole every time.
Women don’t like bad boys because bad boys are mean all the time.
They like bad boys because they appreciate their kindness more.
And that’s because they know the bad boys are capable of ruthlessness.
They know he won’t tolerate their BS.
He’d leave her and not look back.
So if you think you can get away with never being nice to women.
I can already tell that you’re either too young.
Or you just don’t have any real life experiences with women.
And all you do is parrot theories that you read online.
Because apparently, women like “bad boys”
Dudes who say this obviously don’t have game in real life.
And if you take this advice, all your relationships will fail.
The idea that you shouldn’t do anything nice for a woman will lead you down the wrong path.
Especially if you’re trying to have a long term relationship, which most guys seek.
You cannot have a healthy relationship having this mindset.
You may attract but you won’t retain.
And the type of women you can retain acting this way, are not the type women that you’d want to be in an LTR with.
The concept of acting nonchalant has been completely misunderstood.
The nonchalant attitude is meant to show outcome independence.
Another use for the nonchalant attitude is to make her appreciate it more when you do nice things for her.
Because women naturally feel entitled to a man’s kindness.
And can be highly ungrateful.
The purpose of the nonchalant attitude is not to be an asshole every time.
Women don’t like bad boys because bad boys are mean all the time.
They like bad boys because they appreciate their kindness more.
And that’s because they know the bad boys are capable of ruthlessness.
They know he won’t tolerate their BS.
He’d leave her and not look back.
So if you think you can get away with never being nice to women.
I can already tell that you’re either too young.
Or you just don’t have any real life experiences with women.
And all you do is parrot theories that you read online.
❤5
FRAME IS IMPLICIT AND NON-VERBAL
Have you ever been with a girl where everything just flowed naturally?
It's because she embraced your vibe from the start.
Maybe it's your looks or your personality... you're strong, you're confident, you have a deep voice, you have a strong presence... or she's seen you enough to connect with your personality through your actions.
It doesn't have to be one specific thing, it can be a combination of what appeals to her.
A lot of guys misunderstand the idea of having a "masculine frame." They think they have to overdo it to show they're alpha.
But if you have to force it, it actually reveals a lack of it.
It's like someone saying, "I'm an alpha male." Not only does it sound cringe, but needing to say it suggests there's no real display of it.
Words are often used to hide what can't be shown.
Similarly, women often say they're strong and independent. Sometimes it's like they're trying to convince themselves, hoping it'll come true. Other times, it's just empty words to seem like someone they're not.
Whether it's the alpha male or the Ms. Independent, when they keep talking about it, it shows they're not really it.
The same goes for Boundaries. They're mainly for yourself to know, rather than having to tell someone else. Otherwise, the reason for your boundaries becomes dependent on someone else.
Having to communicate them only shows your lack of control in the situation. Like with ultimatums. You only do it when you feel powerless. Threats work the same way.
Threats are just the other side of the coin, the opposite of expressing boundaries clearly from the start to someone new.
Consider threats like "If you cheat, it's over." Do you really need to say it if you already know you'd end things? Even thinking about it shows your fear, weakening your frame.
Similarly, with boundaries like "I won't accept you going on girls' trips," just considering it suggests you lack confidence that the person might be tempted. Again, it undermines your strength.
When you meet someone new, you can sense their aura, charisma, and presence without them saying a word. It's all in how they carry themselves. You might even feel intimidated and look down when speaking to them.
Why is eye contact so important in attraction?
In France, when dealing with hoodlums, they often demand you look down. This shows who's dominant and who's submissive. The hoodlum assumes control by ordering you to look down, and if you comply, you accept his dominance.
Commands and expressed Boundaries are different. Commands show dominance and invite submission.
Expressed Boundaries imply equality and expect respect for your rules. Women at best tolerates equals.
Expressed Boundaries imply a lack of control and reveal a false sense of strength, where you can't command the situation.
Strong individuals don't need to show strength directly; they assume it's already present. It's indirect, even with Commands.
Does this mean we should ignore negative possibilities like cheating or girls' trips? No. But we shouldn't let reality overwhelm our own reality. While it could happen, in our world, it won't. By assuming and communicating that assurance, we create a self-fulfilling behavior where such things don't occur under our leadership.
By verbalizing threats or expressed Boundaries, you risk giving away your power. Real strength starts from within and spreads to others. It may not be real at first, but it becomes real over time—an illusion becoming reality. Whether it's frame, self-belief, strength, or power, it all comes from perception, not reality itself.
This is why even rich and famous people, despite their actual reality, often experience similar outcomes as average people. If their reality doesn't match what others see, their behavior will fail to attract or keep a woman.
Have you ever been with a girl where everything just flowed naturally?
It's because she embraced your vibe from the start.
Maybe it's your looks or your personality... you're strong, you're confident, you have a deep voice, you have a strong presence... or she's seen you enough to connect with your personality through your actions.
It doesn't have to be one specific thing, it can be a combination of what appeals to her.
A lot of guys misunderstand the idea of having a "masculine frame." They think they have to overdo it to show they're alpha.
But if you have to force it, it actually reveals a lack of it.
It's like someone saying, "I'm an alpha male." Not only does it sound cringe, but needing to say it suggests there's no real display of it.
Words are often used to hide what can't be shown.
Similarly, women often say they're strong and independent. Sometimes it's like they're trying to convince themselves, hoping it'll come true. Other times, it's just empty words to seem like someone they're not.
Whether it's the alpha male or the Ms. Independent, when they keep talking about it, it shows they're not really it.
The same goes for Boundaries. They're mainly for yourself to know, rather than having to tell someone else. Otherwise, the reason for your boundaries becomes dependent on someone else.
Having to communicate them only shows your lack of control in the situation. Like with ultimatums. You only do it when you feel powerless. Threats work the same way.
Threats are just the other side of the coin, the opposite of expressing boundaries clearly from the start to someone new.
Consider threats like "If you cheat, it's over." Do you really need to say it if you already know you'd end things? Even thinking about it shows your fear, weakening your frame.
Similarly, with boundaries like "I won't accept you going on girls' trips," just considering it suggests you lack confidence that the person might be tempted. Again, it undermines your strength.
When you meet someone new, you can sense their aura, charisma, and presence without them saying a word. It's all in how they carry themselves. You might even feel intimidated and look down when speaking to them.
Why is eye contact so important in attraction?
In France, when dealing with hoodlums, they often demand you look down. This shows who's dominant and who's submissive. The hoodlum assumes control by ordering you to look down, and if you comply, you accept his dominance.
Commands and expressed Boundaries are different. Commands show dominance and invite submission.
Expressed Boundaries imply equality and expect respect for your rules. Women at best tolerates equals.
Expressed Boundaries imply a lack of control and reveal a false sense of strength, where you can't command the situation.
Strong individuals don't need to show strength directly; they assume it's already present. It's indirect, even with Commands.
Does this mean we should ignore negative possibilities like cheating or girls' trips? No. But we shouldn't let reality overwhelm our own reality. While it could happen, in our world, it won't. By assuming and communicating that assurance, we create a self-fulfilling behavior where such things don't occur under our leadership.
By verbalizing threats or expressed Boundaries, you risk giving away your power. Real strength starts from within and spreads to others. It may not be real at first, but it becomes real over time—an illusion becoming reality. Whether it's frame, self-belief, strength, or power, it all comes from perception, not reality itself.
As Varys from Game of Thrones said,
"Power resides where men believe it resides. It's a trick. A shadow on the wall. And a very small man can cast a very large shadow."
This is why even rich and famous people, despite their actual reality, often experience similar outcomes as average people. If their reality doesn't match what others see, their behavior will fail to attract or keep a woman.
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Walking away instead of telling someone off is much stronger because you demonstrate the cost of crossing your internal boundaries without warning. It shows you don't care.
That's why not caring shows the strongest frame. You don't need to do or say anything to someone you don't value or care about. It's not trying too hard because you're not trying at all. Indifference communicates superiority through a steady frame.
Women will always see through any bluff if you try something. You might get away with telling her off once or twice, but if you're still there, what does she realize? That you can't actually say no to her. And then the negative spiral begins.
Life is implicit frames, Life is all about different perspectives or frames. They shape how you see the world around you, while she sees it through her own lens. Reacting to her frame only validates hers and weakens yours.
Even if you feel wronged and want to get back at her, showing your anger or seeking revenge will only make you lose. Instead, stay calm and non-reactive while quietly working to fix what you see as unfair. This shifts the balance of whose reality holds more power.
In practical terms, the more you naturally display traits that fit into her ideal frame to fall within, the less she'll test you because she's already drawn into your world. This is the big picture.
However, if you're lacking in those traits, she'll start testing you to see if you're really the person you seem to be. This is the small picture.
If you don't have enough of the big picture traits, or if they start to fade, you'll find yourself dealing mostly with the small picture tests. In that case, you might need to step back from the situation.
The reason why bad boys or even criminals seem to attract so many women effortlessly is because they excel at the big picture traits.
Having a strong frame is essential, but trying too hard to display it directly, whether through setting boundaries, issuing threats, or showing disapproval, actually undermines your strength. It shows that you're not confident in your own power and are struggling against something that's already happening. This only leads to failure.
Removing your focus, walking away, or simply ignoring the other person demonstrates clearly that their reality doesn't affect yours. It shows that you're not dependent on them to confirm your boundaries, which should ultimately be set for your own well-being.
Boundaries are guidelines for your life, not tools to prove your dominance or assert your frame. Your frame is inherent and doesn't need validation from others.
Only when she returns, if she does, does she realize that your frame is the one she wants to be a part of.
Frame battles are subtle and unspoken, it's like a mental game, and the idea behind it is that it's hidden. Bringing it out into the open shows you don't understand the dynamics, and the moment you do, if she ever does align with your frame, it will feel forced instead of natural.
A Command feels natural because she's already accepted your dominant stance. Your overall presence has already been established in her mind before you even give the command.
Power dynamics operate beneath the surface, never above it.
That's why not caring shows the strongest frame. You don't need to do or say anything to someone you don't value or care about. It's not trying too hard because you're not trying at all. Indifference communicates superiority through a steady frame.
Women will always see through any bluff if you try something. You might get away with telling her off once or twice, but if you're still there, what does she realize? That you can't actually say no to her. And then the negative spiral begins.
Life is implicit frames, Life is all about different perspectives or frames. They shape how you see the world around you, while she sees it through her own lens. Reacting to her frame only validates hers and weakens yours.
Even if you feel wronged and want to get back at her, showing your anger or seeking revenge will only make you lose. Instead, stay calm and non-reactive while quietly working to fix what you see as unfair. This shifts the balance of whose reality holds more power.
In practical terms, the more you naturally display traits that fit into her ideal frame to fall within, the less she'll test you because she's already drawn into your world. This is the big picture.
However, if you're lacking in those traits, she'll start testing you to see if you're really the person you seem to be. This is the small picture.
If you don't have enough of the big picture traits, or if they start to fade, you'll find yourself dealing mostly with the small picture tests. In that case, you might need to step back from the situation.
The reason why bad boys or even criminals seem to attract so many women effortlessly is because they excel at the big picture traits.
Having a strong frame is essential, but trying too hard to display it directly, whether through setting boundaries, issuing threats, or showing disapproval, actually undermines your strength. It shows that you're not confident in your own power and are struggling against something that's already happening. This only leads to failure.
Removing your focus, walking away, or simply ignoring the other person demonstrates clearly that their reality doesn't affect yours. It shows that you're not dependent on them to confirm your boundaries, which should ultimately be set for your own well-being.
Boundaries are guidelines for your life, not tools to prove your dominance or assert your frame. Your frame is inherent and doesn't need validation from others.
Only when she returns, if she does, does she realize that your frame is the one she wants to be a part of.
Frame battles are subtle and unspoken, it's like a mental game, and the idea behind it is that it's hidden. Bringing it out into the open shows you don't understand the dynamics, and the moment you do, if she ever does align with your frame, it will feel forced instead of natural.
A Command feels natural because she's already accepted your dominant stance. Your overall presence has already been established in her mind before you even give the command.
Power dynamics operate beneath the surface, never above it.
As Tywin Lannister wisely said,
"Any man who must say, 'I am the king' is no true king."
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Signs she may be planning to walk away… she:
⚠️ Opens up to you less and less
⚠️ Shows less and less happy feelings
⚠️ Becomes less and less loving
⚠️ Starts to see sex as a task
⚠️ Gets drier and less turned on in bed
⚠️ Becomes busier, giving you less time than before
⚠️ Focuses on herself (hair, makeup, clothes, fitness)
⚠️ Suddenly has an active social life without you
When these appear (especially many), act fast to make things better (if you still want her)
⚠️ Opens up to you less and less
⚠️ Shows less and less happy feelings
⚠️ Becomes less and less loving
⚠️ Starts to see sex as a task
⚠️ Gets drier and less turned on in bed
⚠️ Becomes busier, giving you less time than before
⚠️ Focuses on herself (hair, makeup, clothes, fitness)
⚠️ Suddenly has an active social life without you
When these appear (especially many), act fast to make things better (if you still want her)
❤2
If you take too long, you lose the girl.
Waiting for the perfect time? You lose the girl.
Trying to build extra trust first? Lose the girl.
Think she must get more attracted first? Lose the girl.
Promise yourself you’ll try next time? Lose the girl.
Yes, sometimes a guy can rush things with a girl and move TOO fast.
But that is not the real problem for most men.
The real problem for most men is waiting TOO long and because of that, losing girls.
𝐖𝐎𝐌𝐄𝐍 𝐀𝐑𝐄 𝐋𝐈𝐊𝐄 𝐂𝐀𝐑 𝐒𝐇𝐎𝐏𝐏𝐄𝐑𝐒
They need to think and decide if they want ‘the car’.
But if the salesman doesn’t close them when they are about to leave, he loses the deal.
How fast a girl or deal slips away depends on her urgency and her options.
If a car buyer NEEDS a car, he’ll wait until the salesman is ready. Especially if it’s the only car store in the area.
In the same way, if a woman is DESPERATE for you, she will wait until you are ready. Especially if you’re the only guy she feels is good enough.
Now, there are certain times when women get DESPERATE for men:
• When they hit the age where “baby fever” kicks in
• When they feel so lonely or broken they can’t stand being alone
• Or when it’s “that time of the month” and they just NEED a man
Outside of these times, though, women are NOT desperate for men.
Like a car shopper who doesn’t really need a car at the moment, if she isn’t CLOSED, she leaves, and usually doesn’t return.
And this isn’t even counting women who have OPTIONS.
Like a buyer with 10 different stores to choose from, a woman with choices is even less likely to come back if she isn’t closed when she’s READY to be closed.
𝐀𝐓𝐓𝐑𝐀𝐂𝐓𝐈𝐎𝐍 𝐃𝐎𝐄𝐒 𝐍𝐎𝐓 𝐋𝐀𝐒𝐓 𝐅𝐎𝐑𝐄𝐕𝐄𝐑
Because of something called ‘backward rationalization’, if you don’t close a girl when she’s ready, she later “rewrites history” in her head.
Looking back, she tells herself,
“It’s probably good we didn’t end up together. It must have been destiny. He must not have been the right one.”
After that, her attraction for the guy who never made the move fades.
This is called ‘attraction expiring’.
It doesn’t matter how much she liked him.
It doesn’t matter how badly she wanted him.
It doesn’t even matter if she was the one making most of the moves.
If nothing ever happens, her attraction fades, and she rewrites in her head WHY it never happened — and she writes the guy off in the process.
But there’s a way to stop this from happening.
You can avoid the problem of attraction expiring.
How?
By quitting the wait for the ‘perfect moment’ and instead MOVING FASTER with women.
𝟓 𝐌𝐎𝐌𝐄𝐍𝐓𝐒 𝐓𝐎 𝐌𝐎𝐕𝐄 𝐅𝐀𝐒𝐓𝐄𝐑
Here are 5 key moments to move faster with the women you want:
1.The Approach: When you see a woman you like, go talk to her. Don’t wait for the stars to align or for someone to introduce you. Just go.
2. The Ask Out: Most men wait for obvious signs or for the talk to end before asking her out. The BEST time to ask her? During a HIGH POINT. That is: when she’s laughing, leaning in, or clearly interested. Use the moment and ask her on a date!
3. The Date: Don’t try to be “cool” and set it up for 2 weeks later. Get her out as soon as she’s free. Check when she’s available and pick the EARLIEST time that works. Strike while the fire is burning!
4. The Pull: Things can only move so far without inviting her back to your place or going to hers. Don’t sit and wait for maximum attraction, it’s rare and not even needed. Build a good vibe, make her feel somewhat close, guide her, and then invite her.
5. The Kiss: Once alone with her, many guys freeze. “I’ll do it after the movie,” or, “Let’s wait for the right second,” they think. But the longer you stall, the scarier it feels.
Avoid this with the 10-Minute Kiss Rule: once you’re alone with her, get both of you relaxed, but KISS within 10 MINUTES!
Do this and you’ll miss far fewer chances with women,
Avoid much of the ‘expired attraction’,
And connect a LOT more often with the women you want.
Waiting for the perfect time? You lose the girl.
Trying to build extra trust first? Lose the girl.
Think she must get more attracted first? Lose the girl.
Promise yourself you’ll try next time? Lose the girl.
Yes, sometimes a guy can rush things with a girl and move TOO fast.
But that is not the real problem for most men.
The real problem for most men is waiting TOO long and because of that, losing girls.
𝐖𝐎𝐌𝐄𝐍 𝐀𝐑𝐄 𝐋𝐈𝐊𝐄 𝐂𝐀𝐑 𝐒𝐇𝐎𝐏𝐏𝐄𝐑𝐒
They need to think and decide if they want ‘the car’.
But if the salesman doesn’t close them when they are about to leave, he loses the deal.
How fast a girl or deal slips away depends on her urgency and her options.
If a car buyer NEEDS a car, he’ll wait until the salesman is ready. Especially if it’s the only car store in the area.
In the same way, if a woman is DESPERATE for you, she will wait until you are ready. Especially if you’re the only guy she feels is good enough.
Now, there are certain times when women get DESPERATE for men:
• When they hit the age where “baby fever” kicks in
• When they feel so lonely or broken they can’t stand being alone
• Or when it’s “that time of the month” and they just NEED a man
Outside of these times, though, women are NOT desperate for men.
Like a car shopper who doesn’t really need a car at the moment, if she isn’t CLOSED, she leaves, and usually doesn’t return.
And this isn’t even counting women who have OPTIONS.
Like a buyer with 10 different stores to choose from, a woman with choices is even less likely to come back if she isn’t closed when she’s READY to be closed.
𝐀𝐓𝐓𝐑𝐀𝐂𝐓𝐈𝐎𝐍 𝐃𝐎𝐄𝐒 𝐍𝐎𝐓 𝐋𝐀𝐒𝐓 𝐅𝐎𝐑𝐄𝐕𝐄𝐑
Because of something called ‘backward rationalization’, if you don’t close a girl when she’s ready, she later “rewrites history” in her head.
Looking back, she tells herself,
“It’s probably good we didn’t end up together. It must have been destiny. He must not have been the right one.”
After that, her attraction for the guy who never made the move fades.
This is called ‘attraction expiring’.
It doesn’t matter how much she liked him.
It doesn’t matter how badly she wanted him.
It doesn’t even matter if she was the one making most of the moves.
If nothing ever happens, her attraction fades, and she rewrites in her head WHY it never happened — and she writes the guy off in the process.
But there’s a way to stop this from happening.
You can avoid the problem of attraction expiring.
How?
By quitting the wait for the ‘perfect moment’ and instead MOVING FASTER with women.
𝟓 𝐌𝐎𝐌𝐄𝐍𝐓𝐒 𝐓𝐎 𝐌𝐎𝐕𝐄 𝐅𝐀𝐒𝐓𝐄𝐑
Here are 5 key moments to move faster with the women you want:
1.The Approach: When you see a woman you like, go talk to her. Don’t wait for the stars to align or for someone to introduce you. Just go.
2. The Ask Out: Most men wait for obvious signs or for the talk to end before asking her out. The BEST time to ask her? During a HIGH POINT. That is: when she’s laughing, leaning in, or clearly interested. Use the moment and ask her on a date!
3. The Date: Don’t try to be “cool” and set it up for 2 weeks later. Get her out as soon as she’s free. Check when she’s available and pick the EARLIEST time that works. Strike while the fire is burning!
4. The Pull: Things can only move so far without inviting her back to your place or going to hers. Don’t sit and wait for maximum attraction, it’s rare and not even needed. Build a good vibe, make her feel somewhat close, guide her, and then invite her.
5. The Kiss: Once alone with her, many guys freeze. “I’ll do it after the movie,” or, “Let’s wait for the right second,” they think. But the longer you stall, the scarier it feels.
Avoid this with the 10-Minute Kiss Rule: once you’re alone with her, get both of you relaxed, but KISS within 10 MINUTES!
Do this and you’ll miss far fewer chances with women,
Avoid much of the ‘expired attraction’,
And connect a LOT more often with the women you want.
❤7👍1
𝐀 𝐁𝐈𝐆 𝐏𝐀𝐑𝐓 𝐎𝐅 𝐆𝐄𝐓𝐓𝐈𝐍𝐆 𝐖𝐎𝐌𝐄𝐍 𝐈𝐒 𝐉𝐔𝐒𝐓 𝐌𝐀𝐊𝐈𝐍𝐆 𝐓𝐇𝐄 𝐌𝐎𝐕𝐄
Just like Babe Ruth held both the record for home runs and for strikeouts in Major League Baseball at the same time.
The men who win are the ones always taking shots.
Not just the first shot when approaching, but every shot needed throughout the whole process.
Don’t sit and wait for the magical moment.
Don’t wait until it feels ‘just right’.
Most of the time, that moment never comes or you choke when it does.
Instead, MOVE FASTER and most times, you’ll win the girl.
Just like Babe Ruth held both the record for home runs and for strikeouts in Major League Baseball at the same time.
The men who win are the ones always taking shots.
Not just the first shot when approaching, but every shot needed throughout the whole process.
Don’t sit and wait for the magical moment.
Don’t wait until it feels ‘just right’.
Most of the time, that moment never comes or you choke when it does.
Instead, MOVE FASTER and most times, you’ll win the girl.
❤4
FRIENDZONING WOMEN
I've developed an unconventional approach to dating that gives you access to more high-quality women than you could imagine.
I'll show you what it is and how to execute it.
Most dating advice revolves around 3 premise: Meet women, attract women and date women.
Ofc there are different ways of meeting this women which are:
=> Dating apps & Instagram
=> Cold approaching
=> Social circle
The idea remains the same: If she is attractive, you make your move and if not, next her.
The reasons why a lot of men struggle with dating is as a result of:
=> The women they meet are not necessarily for them.
=> The ones that are for them, they lose cause of poor connection and high level social barriers.
This means they keep trying to plow through but no results which leads to a scarcity mindset.
Now, don't get me wrong cause there is nothing wrong with trying to plow through but...
Consider this: Where are the women you want? Who has access to these women? What factor massively contribute to your success in attracting this women?
The answer is simple.
OTHER WOMEN.
A lot of the women you meet, you won't feel anything for despite the level of attractiveness.
Others will be cool but you just don't find them physically attractive.
Both categories of women are not good romantically speaking but...
They will play a huge role in connecting you with other women.
So keep in mind when you go out to meet women that you don't necessarily need to fit her in the "lover" box.
You just want to know if she is a great fit or not.
If yes? go for it.
If no? Get their number or Insta as "friends"
It's like you are planting a seed.
The next thing is to pull this women into your broader circle by inviting them to parties, night outs and events - tell them to bring their friends.
Ofc most women won't be interested which is not a big deal but most girls will be cool with a guy who is not needy and invites them to cool places.
Through this "female friends" you will meet 2-3x as many women.
These women will be easier to attract since you have a high social proof and best part is if things don't work out, there is 0 social consequences.
Another upside is the fact that hot women are not used to being friend-zoned by an attractive charming guy which means down the line, they will find you more attractive and would want something casual and discreet.
There are two downsides to the "friendzoning" concept:
a) It doesn't give instant results. Building a network takes time, so you need to be patient.
b) Social media is necessary to do it right because it makes it much easier to stay connected with these women.
-MOS
I've developed an unconventional approach to dating that gives you access to more high-quality women than you could imagine.
I'll show you what it is and how to execute it.
Most dating advice revolves around 3 premise: Meet women, attract women and date women.
Ofc there are different ways of meeting this women which are:
=> Dating apps & Instagram
=> Cold approaching
=> Social circle
The idea remains the same: If she is attractive, you make your move and if not, next her.
The reasons why a lot of men struggle with dating is as a result of:
=> The women they meet are not necessarily for them.
=> The ones that are for them, they lose cause of poor connection and high level social barriers.
This means they keep trying to plow through but no results which leads to a scarcity mindset.
Now, don't get me wrong cause there is nothing wrong with trying to plow through but...
Consider this: Where are the women you want? Who has access to these women? What factor massively contribute to your success in attracting this women?
The answer is simple.
OTHER WOMEN.
A lot of the women you meet, you won't feel anything for despite the level of attractiveness.
Others will be cool but you just don't find them physically attractive.
Both categories of women are not good romantically speaking but...
They will play a huge role in connecting you with other women.
So keep in mind when you go out to meet women that you don't necessarily need to fit her in the "lover" box.
You just want to know if she is a great fit or not.
If yes? go for it.
If no? Get their number or Insta as "friends"
It's like you are planting a seed.
The next thing is to pull this women into your broader circle by inviting them to parties, night outs and events - tell them to bring their friends.
Ofc most women won't be interested which is not a big deal but most girls will be cool with a guy who is not needy and invites them to cool places.
Through this "female friends" you will meet 2-3x as many women.
These women will be easier to attract since you have a high social proof and best part is if things don't work out, there is 0 social consequences.
Another upside is the fact that hot women are not used to being friend-zoned by an attractive charming guy which means down the line, they will find you more attractive and would want something casual and discreet.
There are two downsides to the "friendzoning" concept:
a) It doesn't give instant results. Building a network takes time, so you need to be patient.
b) Social media is necessary to do it right because it makes it much easier to stay connected with these women.
-MOS
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When you are with a girl, focus on her.
Focus on her feelings.
Her reactions.
Her body movements.
Her voice tone.
You want to be able to answer, "How is she feeling?"
If you can answer this, you can adjust to her and move with her mood.
If you focus on this, you will also spend less time thinking about yourself and your own worry or doubt.
If you cannot see how she is feeling, then you need more practice to connect actions with certain moods/feelings.
This is not something people automatically understand, even those not on the Autism spectrum.
You might sense what she is feeling, but it is not always correct nor are you always linking it with the right emotional state.
It takes time to be able to "read" people's feelings.
But you have to start somewhere and be guessing how she feels, then acting in RESPONSE to her feelings, so that the seduction can move forward.
That is the job of the leader in a seduction, like the leader in anything, you must see how others feel and think and guide them towards a shared goal.
Focus on her feelings.
Her reactions.
Her body movements.
Her voice tone.
You want to be able to answer, "How is she feeling?"
If you can answer this, you can adjust to her and move with her mood.
If you focus on this, you will also spend less time thinking about yourself and your own worry or doubt.
If you cannot see how she is feeling, then you need more practice to connect actions with certain moods/feelings.
This is not something people automatically understand, even those not on the Autism spectrum.
You might sense what she is feeling, but it is not always correct nor are you always linking it with the right emotional state.
It takes time to be able to "read" people's feelings.
But you have to start somewhere and be guessing how she feels, then acting in RESPONSE to her feelings, so that the seduction can move forward.
That is the job of the leader in a seduction, like the leader in anything, you must see how others feel and think and guide them towards a shared goal.
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What is sexiness in men?
There are things that overlap between men and women in general sexiness...
One is sexual. If you openly show your sexual wants and feelings, that can be sexy to others...
It can also seem creepy, if you show too much around someone who is not interested (or if you aim it at them too much; you can still be sexual without "aiming" it at someone with strong eye contact, flirtatious words, etc.).
But what is especially sexy in men?
Strength.
Courage.
Skill.
Most sexy traits in men fit under these groups.
Strength = Raw physical power, but also Mental or Intellectual Strength. Grit. Willpower.
Courage = Taking Risks, Standing up for yourself or for others (and if you SUCCEED, you look strong too), not following society, etc.
Skill = SUCCESS. Whether in sports, business, art, etc. Women LOVE competitive men...even more competitive men who WIN.
There are things that overlap between men and women in general sexiness...
One is sexual. If you openly show your sexual wants and feelings, that can be sexy to others...
It can also seem creepy, if you show too much around someone who is not interested (or if you aim it at them too much; you can still be sexual without "aiming" it at someone with strong eye contact, flirtatious words, etc.).
But what is especially sexy in men?
Strength.
Courage.
Skill.
Most sexy traits in men fit under these groups.
Strength = Raw physical power, but also Mental or Intellectual Strength. Grit. Willpower.
Courage = Taking Risks, Standing up for yourself or for others (and if you SUCCEED, you look strong too), not following society, etc.
Skill = SUCCESS. Whether in sports, business, art, etc. Women LOVE competitive men...even more competitive men who WIN.
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What do most men do wrong when dating?
They are either:
1. Too open
2. Not open enough
And
3. Not showing the right attitude (fun, calm, sexy, interesting, curious)
4. Showing bad attitudes (anger, fear, fighting, etc.)
If you are too open and also showing bad attitudes, you will really fail badly.
If you show the right qualities, but too little of them, you will be boring and will not stand out.
Cut the bad, grow the good, and learn how to show it the right amount.
A good question to ask yourself (or someone close to you) is: what do people think of me?
Not how you THINK you seem, but how you REALLY seem?
Women are probably noticing that.
They are either:
1. Too open
2. Not open enough
And
3. Not showing the right attitude (fun, calm, sexy, interesting, curious)
4. Showing bad attitudes (anger, fear, fighting, etc.)
If you are too open and also showing bad attitudes, you will really fail badly.
If you show the right qualities, but too little of them, you will be boring and will not stand out.
Cut the bad, grow the good, and learn how to show it the right amount.
A good question to ask yourself (or someone close to you) is: what do people think of me?
Not how you THINK you seem, but how you REALLY seem?
Women are probably noticing that.
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As a man, your "competition":
· Argues with women online
· Hides a serious porn addiction
· Is someone’s pay pig
· Doomscrolls twitter
· Goonscrolls IG/TikTok
· His last failed 14-leg sports betting parlay has trapped him on DraftKings
· Can barely function without drinking constantly
· Can’t calm down fights well
· Is too aggressive to make up for insecurity
· Can’t talk to an elderly grocery worker
· Is on the way to becoming an old grocery worker
· Believes only in himself
· Will betray friends for money or to impress women (his true higher powers)
· Is almost illiterate
· Lies to girls about simple facts for no reason
· Can’t squat, bench, or curl his girl
· Can’t tie his girl into a pretzel
· Worries about his girl all the time in public
· Will embarrass himself to entertain women
· Only knows how to get what he wants through begging, tricks, shame, pressure, or anger
· Wastes his competitive energy fighting kids on video games
· Is too disconnected from his emotions and body to connect with or dominate his lovers
· Alternates between weak or spastic sex
· Hides behind his height, hair, race, or face
· Makes every choice based on how it looks, has no real beliefs
· Is disliked by dogs and bees
There is no competition.
· Argues with women online
· Hides a serious porn addiction
· Is someone’s pay pig
· Doomscrolls twitter
· Goonscrolls IG/TikTok
· His last failed 14-leg sports betting parlay has trapped him on DraftKings
· Can barely function without drinking constantly
· Can’t calm down fights well
· Is too aggressive to make up for insecurity
· Can’t talk to an elderly grocery worker
· Is on the way to becoming an old grocery worker
· Believes only in himself
· Will betray friends for money or to impress women (his true higher powers)
· Is almost illiterate
· Lies to girls about simple facts for no reason
· Can’t squat, bench, or curl his girl
· Can’t tie his girl into a pretzel
· Worries about his girl all the time in public
· Will embarrass himself to entertain women
· Only knows how to get what he wants through begging, tricks, shame, pressure, or anger
· Wastes his competitive energy fighting kids on video games
· Is too disconnected from his emotions and body to connect with or dominate his lovers
· Alternates between weak or spastic sex
· Hides behind his height, hair, race, or face
· Makes every choice based on how it looks, has no real beliefs
· Is disliked by dogs and bees
There is no competition.
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Once I had a lively girlfriend who always messaged me first:
=> She messaged me first as soon as I got her number, before I could even send my icebreaker text
=> She messaged me first to get coffee, before I could send her my scheduler text to set up the date
=> She messaged me first to come to my place every time after that, before I could text her to ask when she was free
One day she got access to my phone, and was looking through my messages.
She saw the chat with an ex-girlfriend of mine, and ‘confronted’ me:
“Every time you talked to her you messaged her first! You have never messaged me first” she said.
I looked at her straight and told her, “If you would stop messaging me so much, then I would actually have a chance to message you first.”
Some people might think the second girl must have liked me more than the first girl, because the second girl always messaged me first and the first girl always waited to hear from me.
But the first girl was very feminine, emotional, and believed in strong sex roles, fate, destiny, etc.
She thought it was the man’s job to take the lead and start things.
She would not do anything without me starting, but would always be very happy if I did because she wanted things to move forward.
When I broke up with the first girl, she never messaged me again on her own (and I didn’t message her).
When life brought us back together half a year later, she cried, kissed me, and invited me to her place, saying she had missed me so much.
The second girl was impulsive, tomboy-ish, and went after whatever she wanted without holding back.
She said she was not even really into me when we met, only that she was feeling a bit lonely and I was there / made things happen with her, so she went along with it.
She resisted the idea of a real relationship with me.
When I broke up with the second girl (after some drama), it did not take 30 minutes before she messaged me again and insisted on coming to my apartment.
When I let her come over she said she was not sure if coming back was right but felt if she did not come back she would never see me again which was probably true.
Lesson:
It is not always true that “the girls who like you the most will message you themselves.”
Instead it is more like the girls who are bold and impulsive will message you themselves.
Sometimes those girls may really like you.
Sometimes they may just be a little curious.
Meanwhile, the girls who are gentle, shy, very feminine, etc., may wait forever before messaging you first even if you are the Man of Their Dreams.
=> She messaged me first as soon as I got her number, before I could even send my icebreaker text
=> She messaged me first to get coffee, before I could send her my scheduler text to set up the date
=> She messaged me first to come to my place every time after that, before I could text her to ask when she was free
One day she got access to my phone, and was looking through my messages.
She saw the chat with an ex-girlfriend of mine, and ‘confronted’ me:
“Every time you talked to her you messaged her first! You have never messaged me first” she said.
I looked at her straight and told her, “If you would stop messaging me so much, then I would actually have a chance to message you first.”
Some people might think the second girl must have liked me more than the first girl, because the second girl always messaged me first and the first girl always waited to hear from me.
But the first girl was very feminine, emotional, and believed in strong sex roles, fate, destiny, etc.
She thought it was the man’s job to take the lead and start things.
She would not do anything without me starting, but would always be very happy if I did because she wanted things to move forward.
When I broke up with the first girl, she never messaged me again on her own (and I didn’t message her).
When life brought us back together half a year later, she cried, kissed me, and invited me to her place, saying she had missed me so much.
The second girl was impulsive, tomboy-ish, and went after whatever she wanted without holding back.
She said she was not even really into me when we met, only that she was feeling a bit lonely and I was there / made things happen with her, so she went along with it.
She resisted the idea of a real relationship with me.
When I broke up with the second girl (after some drama), it did not take 30 minutes before she messaged me again and insisted on coming to my apartment.
When I let her come over she said she was not sure if coming back was right but felt if she did not come back she would never see me again which was probably true.
Lesson:
It is not always true that “the girls who like you the most will message you themselves.”
Instead it is more like the girls who are bold and impulsive will message you themselves.
Sometimes those girls may really like you.
Sometimes they may just be a little curious.
Meanwhile, the girls who are gentle, shy, very feminine, etc., may wait forever before messaging you first even if you are the Man of Their Dreams.
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You thought the date went well.
She thought otherwise.
Most men don’t realize why women vanish after a night that felt perfect.
It’s not random, it’s predictable.
In this 9-min breakdown I’ll show you:
• The hidden reasons women ghost
• How to avoid killing attraction
• What makes her want to text you first
Watch here 👇
https://youtu.be/I2Eipb0OTDI
She thought otherwise.
Most men don’t realize why women vanish after a night that felt perfect.
It’s not random, it’s predictable.
In this 9-min breakdown I’ll show you:
• The hidden reasons women ghost
• How to avoid killing attraction
• What makes her want to text you first
Watch here 👇
https://youtu.be/I2Eipb0OTDI
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You Thought It Went Well So Why Did She Never Text Back
You thought the date went well.
She laughed, smiled, and you felt the chemistry.
So why did she never text back?
In this 9-minute video, I break down the hidden reasons women ghost after a “perfect” night, the mistakes most men make after the first date…
She laughed, smiled, and you felt the chemistry.
So why did she never text back?
In this 9-minute video, I break down the hidden reasons women ghost after a “perfect” night, the mistakes most men make after the first date…
The main thing guys need to understand in order to date hotter girls is to not expect every girl to like them.
If you're older, sometimes you'll meet a girl who thinks you're too old. So what?
If you're shorter, sometimes you'll meet a girl who thinks you're too short. Big deal!
Not every girl is going to like every type of guy, and that's okay. That's just how things work!
The good news is, no matter your height, wealth, fitness, or age, there are plenty of hot girls who will like you.
You might not have the same advantages as others, but that's okay. The world isn't fair.
What matters is that there are more girls available to you than you could ever date. So why worry?
The best thing you can do is not worry about things you can't control.
There are plenty of hot girls for every type of guy, so there's no need to focus on any perceived disadvantages.
Just like the idea of needing to be in a certain mindset to pick up girls, thinking negatively about your age, appearance, finances, or background only holds you back.
You're creating a huge obstacle for yourself. It's like shooting yourself in the foot.
We all have things we don't like about ourselves compared to others. But when you obsess over them and blame them for why you're not getting what you want, you're playing the victim.
One of the biggest turn-offs for women is when a guy sees himself as a victim.
Don't let your insecurities hold you back. Instead, focus on what you do have and work with that. You'll be surprised at what you can achieve.
Your height, age, or ethnicity is not a deal-breaker for most girls. So don't let it become one for you.
Lots of people with worst disadvantages than yours killing it with.
Don't falter!
If you're older, sometimes you'll meet a girl who thinks you're too old. So what?
If you're shorter, sometimes you'll meet a girl who thinks you're too short. Big deal!
Not every girl is going to like every type of guy, and that's okay. That's just how things work!
The good news is, no matter your height, wealth, fitness, or age, there are plenty of hot girls who will like you.
You might not have the same advantages as others, but that's okay. The world isn't fair.
What matters is that there are more girls available to you than you could ever date. So why worry?
The best thing you can do is not worry about things you can't control.
There are plenty of hot girls for every type of guy, so there's no need to focus on any perceived disadvantages.
Just like the idea of needing to be in a certain mindset to pick up girls, thinking negatively about your age, appearance, finances, or background only holds you back.
You're creating a huge obstacle for yourself. It's like shooting yourself in the foot.
We all have things we don't like about ourselves compared to others. But when you obsess over them and blame them for why you're not getting what you want, you're playing the victim.
One of the biggest turn-offs for women is when a guy sees himself as a victim.
Don't let your insecurities hold you back. Instead, focus on what you do have and work with that. You'll be surprised at what you can achieve.
Your height, age, or ethnicity is not a deal-breaker for most girls. So don't let it become one for you.
Lots of people with worst disadvantages than yours killing it with.
Don't falter!
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