🚫 Habit #2: You Seek Reassurance Through Her Replies
You send a text then you wait.
Ten minutes.
Thirty.
An hour.
She finally replies, but it’s short.
Now you’re spinning.
Did she lose interest?
Did I say something wrong?
Should I double-text?
This habit of needing reassurance through her responses kills the vibe.
It makes you over-analyze.
It makes you text from insecurity and women feel it.
You’re reacting instead of leading.
What to do instead: Trust your value. If she’s slow to reply or gives a dry message, stay calm. Don’t chase. Don’t spiral. Don’t try to “win her back” with a better message. Let it go. The man who assumes interest or moves on without drama is the one who keeps his power.
You send a text then you wait.
Ten minutes.
Thirty.
An hour.
She finally replies, but it’s short.
Now you’re spinning.
Did she lose interest?
Did I say something wrong?
Should I double-text?
This habit of needing reassurance through her responses kills the vibe.
It makes you over-analyze.
It makes you text from insecurity and women feel it.
You’re reacting instead of leading.
What to do instead: Trust your value. If she’s slow to reply or gives a dry message, stay calm. Don’t chase. Don’t spiral. Don’t try to “win her back” with a better message. Let it go. The man who assumes interest or moves on without drama is the one who keeps his power.
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🚫 Habit #3: You Over-Explain or Over-Entertain
You think if you show your personality, she’ll like you more.
So you text long paragraphs.
You tell detailed stories
You crack jokes constantly.
You’re trying to keep the energy up to keep her entertained.
But it backfires.
Because underneath all of that is a subtle message: "I hope you like me."
When you try to win her over through texting effort, she feels that need. It doesn’t feel calm. It doesn’t feel masculine.
What to do instead: Keep your messages short and intentional. Lead the interaction forward. Tease her. Flirt. Set a date. If she’s giving low energy, don’t fill in the gap. Let her match you.
You think if you show your personality, she’ll like you more.
So you text long paragraphs.
You tell detailed stories
You crack jokes constantly.
You’re trying to keep the energy up to keep her entertained.
But it backfires.
Because underneath all of that is a subtle message: "I hope you like me."
When you try to win her over through texting effort, she feels that need. It doesn’t feel calm. It doesn’t feel masculine.
What to do instead: Keep your messages short and intentional. Lead the interaction forward. Tease her. Flirt. Set a date. If she’s giving low energy, don’t fill in the gap. Let her match you.
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HOW TO GET A GIRL EMOTIONALLY ATTACHED TO YOU
The thing you have to first understand about women is that women respond to a lot of things just based on how they feel. They do stuff based on how they feel at a particular moment.
That is why when you get a girl's number, you hit her up like 2-3 days later and she won't respond to your text or call... it's because you know on the day you approached her, she was feeling you but 2-3 days later something else is going on at that exact time when you called or texted her and she's not feeling the same way she felt in the moment when she was talking to you.
Understand her feelings might be different at that point so now that she's feeling something different depending on the situation or whatever is happening with her at that moment is going to determine if she's going to hit you back.
Cause if she is still feeling you enough then she is going to want to text you back or pick. up the phone when you call. Most times she doesn't respond cause she is feeling...
=> Tired.
=> Upset.
=> Angry.
=> Not feeling sexy and all these other emotions that are going on in her AT THAT MOMENT.
The way that women behave is quite random and ever-changing. You could be talking to a girl at 2:30 and at 2:45 she is feeling different than how she felt at 2:30.
INTENTIONS MATTER
When we talk about getting a chick emotionally attached to you, a lot of it has to do with your intentions. When you are dealing with a woman then you have to want to get with her sexually and mentally, you have to be in at a 💯 and it has to come across when you are talking to her so that she can feel that energy.
A lot of guys will see a girl that they like and approach her with this sort of nervous energy which is unnerving. What happens is your intention of getting sexual with her gets bottled down in your nervousness about the situation. Since you are nervous then she can't feel that emotion and intention from you.
This is why I tell you guys to practice talking with girls so as you practice more, you will come across as authentic.
Think about like when you are watching a movie. The things that they portray to you in movies like the storyline etc have an intention behind it. Say you are watching a horror movie then you know the intention is to scare you or a comedy movie's intention is to make you laugh. Same thing with music and now you can shift this so when you talk to girls, you have that intention for her to "feel something."
When you are talking to girls and they feel you are nervous then it's going to make that conversation awkward. It takes away the feeling that she is supposed to be feeling for you. All this boils down to self-conviction.
Being sure of yourself makes that intention energy flow when you feel it for real and this is why you have to authentic cause if you are not authentic then you come across as a bad actor. This is why nice guys are struggling to get women cause when you act like a nice guy, it comes across as phony and women can sense that shit.
You need to understand how important it is for your intentions to be there when talking to women which is by believing what you are saying.
When your intention is real, you just make things happen and not in an "I hope she likes me" way but in a "That girl is hot, let's say what she's all about" kind of way which makes you boldly approach them and that turns chicks on.
LISTENING TO HER
Another way to make girls emotionally attached to you is to listen to her. The reason why you need to listen to her is when you are listening to what she says, she is going to give you certain information that you can use in your later conversations to get her emotionally invested.
A lot of guys make the simple mistake of being logical with women but the thing is you can use logic to attach an emotion that she expressed to you. You can attach logic to an emotion she is feeling to make her feel it even more so she can understand what you are saying better. Let me show you how 👇
The thing you have to first understand about women is that women respond to a lot of things just based on how they feel. They do stuff based on how they feel at a particular moment.
That is why when you get a girl's number, you hit her up like 2-3 days later and she won't respond to your text or call... it's because you know on the day you approached her, she was feeling you but 2-3 days later something else is going on at that exact time when you called or texted her and she's not feeling the same way she felt in the moment when she was talking to you.
Understand her feelings might be different at that point so now that she's feeling something different depending on the situation or whatever is happening with her at that moment is going to determine if she's going to hit you back.
Cause if she is still feeling you enough then she is going to want to text you back or pick. up the phone when you call. Most times she doesn't respond cause she is feeling...
=> Tired.
=> Upset.
=> Angry.
=> Not feeling sexy and all these other emotions that are going on in her AT THAT MOMENT.
The way that women behave is quite random and ever-changing. You could be talking to a girl at 2:30 and at 2:45 she is feeling different than how she felt at 2:30.
INTENTIONS MATTER
When we talk about getting a chick emotionally attached to you, a lot of it has to do with your intentions. When you are dealing with a woman then you have to want to get with her sexually and mentally, you have to be in at a 💯 and it has to come across when you are talking to her so that she can feel that energy.
A lot of guys will see a girl that they like and approach her with this sort of nervous energy which is unnerving. What happens is your intention of getting sexual with her gets bottled down in your nervousness about the situation. Since you are nervous then she can't feel that emotion and intention from you.
This is why I tell you guys to practice talking with girls so as you practice more, you will come across as authentic.
Think about like when you are watching a movie. The things that they portray to you in movies like the storyline etc have an intention behind it. Say you are watching a horror movie then you know the intention is to scare you or a comedy movie's intention is to make you laugh. Same thing with music and now you can shift this so when you talk to girls, you have that intention for her to "feel something."
When you are talking to girls and they feel you are nervous then it's going to make that conversation awkward. It takes away the feeling that she is supposed to be feeling for you. All this boils down to self-conviction.
Being sure of yourself makes that intention energy flow when you feel it for real and this is why you have to authentic cause if you are not authentic then you come across as a bad actor. This is why nice guys are struggling to get women cause when you act like a nice guy, it comes across as phony and women can sense that shit.
You need to understand how important it is for your intentions to be there when talking to women which is by believing what you are saying.
When your intention is real, you just make things happen and not in an "I hope she likes me" way but in a "That girl is hot, let's say what she's all about" kind of way which makes you boldly approach them and that turns chicks on.
LISTENING TO HER
Another way to make girls emotionally attached to you is to listen to her. The reason why you need to listen to her is when you are listening to what she says, she is going to give you certain information that you can use in your later conversations to get her emotionally invested.
A lot of guys make the simple mistake of being logical with women but the thing is you can use logic to attach an emotion that she expressed to you. You can attach logic to an emotion she is feeling to make her feel it even more so she can understand what you are saying better. Let me show you how 👇
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Had this girl once who I went out on a first date with and was trying to set up a second date to make something happen. I called her to set up the date, but she was reluctant to go out cause she had work then I remembered she told me about being a huge fan of being outdoors/outdoor activities (this is what happens when you listen - you pick up crucial details) so I told her about a street fair that I know was happening downtown and she was going to love it since she loves the outdoors.
By saying that, it triggers something in her since she loves outdoor activities so much that even if she doesn't want to see me at first, she will be willing to see me now since I used logic to increase the emotional feeling she has about the outdoors.
I used that to entice the situation and make something happen. Another thing is when you bring such a thing up, she notices that you are listening to her and women love to be listened to. You must listen to her so you can pick up details that will make your conversation enticing enough to make stuff happen.
UPGRADE HER MIND
Another way to get her emotionally invested in you is to upgrade her mind. This simply means teaching and making her learn something she probably didn't know before. By doing this, you show her that you have some type of perspective/knowledge/insight that she didn't have before, and since she is getting it from you then she will attach herself to you. She becomes attached based on what you offer on an intellectual level.
I remember talking to a girl who was a singer one time hustling to make it so she had a demo tape and she would do show and other stuff. I remember she used to be obsessed over getting the right song and that if she can't get the right song then she won't make it.
So I offered my perspective on the things I know about the music industry firsthand and how it works. I told her that a lot of times in the music business, artists have a team that writes their songs for them including the hit songs and all they have to do is perform. It's not like most artists have some special gift and that was what the girl thought she needed to make it so I told her "Sure, write the songs as best as you can but don't stress too much about the song and you gotta also focus on networking, marketing and other stuffs."
These were things she didn't know at the time about the business so me telling her all this upgraded her mind and it made her see these things in a different light which changed her whole perspective on things. It made her feel better to know these things and since I'm the one who told her about this, she attaches those good feelings that she had for me.
The simple way to do this is when a girl says something that you know to be wrong, all you have to do is tell her the truth. That's it.
You will come across this a lot of times and you don't need to be "in your face" about it. Just offer a new perspective or point of view and this would upgrade her mind. I had this conversation with my FWB once which goes like this:
Her: Oh you know, I don't know if I can continue seeing you because you keep talking about how you are not trying to get into a relationship right now and I want to get into a relationship because I want a boyfriend then a husband and then have kids blah blah blah
Me: Listen, you don't need to stress about all that because right now, me and you are having a great time. You gotta understand how to live in the moment cause you are not living right now. You are simply worried about the future. Now do you and I have a good time together?
Her: Yes we do
Me: We have fun when we are chilling?
Her: Yes
Me: Exactly, don't worry about all that extra stuff cause you stressing yourself out over nothing. I or you could die tomorrow so the only thing that matters is NOW and right now we are having a good time so let's keep having a good time.
By saying that, it triggers something in her since she loves outdoor activities so much that even if she doesn't want to see me at first, she will be willing to see me now since I used logic to increase the emotional feeling she has about the outdoors.
I used that to entice the situation and make something happen. Another thing is when you bring such a thing up, she notices that you are listening to her and women love to be listened to. You must listen to her so you can pick up details that will make your conversation enticing enough to make stuff happen.
UPGRADE HER MIND
Another way to get her emotionally invested in you is to upgrade her mind. This simply means teaching and making her learn something she probably didn't know before. By doing this, you show her that you have some type of perspective/knowledge/insight that she didn't have before, and since she is getting it from you then she will attach herself to you. She becomes attached based on what you offer on an intellectual level.
I remember talking to a girl who was a singer one time hustling to make it so she had a demo tape and she would do show and other stuff. I remember she used to be obsessed over getting the right song and that if she can't get the right song then she won't make it.
So I offered my perspective on the things I know about the music industry firsthand and how it works. I told her that a lot of times in the music business, artists have a team that writes their songs for them including the hit songs and all they have to do is perform. It's not like most artists have some special gift and that was what the girl thought she needed to make it so I told her "Sure, write the songs as best as you can but don't stress too much about the song and you gotta also focus on networking, marketing and other stuffs."
These were things she didn't know at the time about the business so me telling her all this upgraded her mind and it made her see these things in a different light which changed her whole perspective on things. It made her feel better to know these things and since I'm the one who told her about this, she attaches those good feelings that she had for me.
The simple way to do this is when a girl says something that you know to be wrong, all you have to do is tell her the truth. That's it.
You will come across this a lot of times and you don't need to be "in your face" about it. Just offer a new perspective or point of view and this would upgrade her mind. I had this conversation with my FWB once which goes like this:
Her: Oh you know, I don't know if I can continue seeing you because you keep talking about how you are not trying to get into a relationship right now and I want to get into a relationship because I want a boyfriend then a husband and then have kids blah blah blah
Me: Listen, you don't need to stress about all that because right now, me and you are having a great time. You gotta understand how to live in the moment cause you are not living right now. You are simply worried about the future. Now do you and I have a good time together?
Her: Yes we do
Me: We have fun when we are chilling?
Her: Yes
Me: Exactly, don't worry about all that extra stuff cause you stressing yourself out over nothing. I or you could die tomorrow so the only thing that matters is NOW and right now we are having a good time so let's keep having a good time.
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Notice how I gave her the perspective of living in the moment and that calmed her mind down cause she was thinking about all this other stuff. This is another example of upgrading her mind. She will then attach that wisdom she has heard to me so she knows if she wants more of this then she has to come to me.
A lot of times, women are out juggling multiple guys and that makes you stand out more doing this cause you are probably the only one trying to smash and upgrade her mind while the rest are just looking to smash only.
Now with all these methods of getting emotionally attached, you have to understand that you have to get her to see you in a positive light to the point that she feels good every time she is with you. Doing this stuffs get girls emotionally attached to you.
The best part about this is if you can build a team of women who are emotionally attached to you then you can build a harem since you have them on an emotional level which makes the bond stronger and that is what will make her keep coming back to see you.
Hope this helps.
-MOS
A lot of times, women are out juggling multiple guys and that makes you stand out more doing this cause you are probably the only one trying to smash and upgrade her mind while the rest are just looking to smash only.
Now with all these methods of getting emotionally attached, you have to understand that you have to get her to see you in a positive light to the point that she feels good every time she is with you. Doing this stuffs get girls emotionally attached to you.
The best part about this is if you can build a team of women who are emotionally attached to you then you can build a harem since you have them on an emotional level which makes the bond stronger and that is what will make her keep coming back to see you.
Hope this helps.
-MOS
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This chat is a perfect example of pulling her too much without giving a push.
There has to be a balance between push and pull.
Notice how she is just being nice and entertaining the convo out of curiosity.
She is entertaining it cause she is curious about why he approached her.
There are 3 occasions of him showering her with compliments (and tho I have nothing against using emojis in this context, it will come across as approval seeking)
Once she got the answer to her question she was no longer entertaining the convo which I would have flipped the switch by giving her a date invite with the "I will tell you why on the date."
He offered two dates which she rebuffed without offering a different time.
Which he rewards by validating her again hoping she will bite.
Understand that with everything, you have to make her work for it so she doesn't take it for granted.
Two issues here:
=> Over-validating the girl
=> Pulling too much
Not dunking on anyone but we can always learn from texts like this.
There has to be a balance between push and pull.
Notice how she is just being nice and entertaining the convo out of curiosity.
She is entertaining it cause she is curious about why he approached her.
There are 3 occasions of him showering her with compliments (and tho I have nothing against using emojis in this context, it will come across as approval seeking)
Once she got the answer to her question she was no longer entertaining the convo which I would have flipped the switch by giving her a date invite with the "I will tell you why on the date."
He offered two dates which she rebuffed without offering a different time.
Which he rewards by validating her again hoping she will bite.
Understand that with everything, you have to make her work for it so she doesn't take it for granted.
Two issues here:
=> Over-validating the girl
=> Pulling too much
Not dunking on anyone but we can always learn from texts like this.
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If I’m suspicious she’s a secret fatty…
Get to restaurant early.
Park outside close to the front door.
Watch every chick that comes in alone.
When you get the text or call, ‘I’m here’ that last one was yours
Hot = walk in
Not = drive off
Zero sympathy for liars.
Another way to avoid this is to have a call (video call) prior to the date.
Get to restaurant early.
Park outside close to the front door.
Watch every chick that comes in alone.
When you get the text or call, ‘I’m here’ that last one was yours
Hot = walk in
Not = drive off
Zero sympathy for liars.
Another way to avoid this is to have a call (video call) prior to the date.
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A common misconception is the idea that you have to be a nonchalant asshole all the time to women.
Because apparently, women like “bad boys”
Dudes who say this obviously don’t have game in real life.
And if you take this advice, all your relationships will fail.
The idea that you shouldn’t do anything nice for a woman will lead you down the wrong path.
Especially if you’re trying to have a long term relationship, which most guys seek.
You cannot have a healthy relationship having this mindset.
You may attract but you won’t retain.
And the type of women you can retain acting this way, are not the type women that you’d want to be in an LTR with.
The concept of acting nonchalant has been completely misunderstood.
The nonchalant attitude is meant to show outcome independence.
Another use for the nonchalant attitude is to make her appreciate it more when you do nice things for her.
Because women naturally feel entitled to a man’s kindness.
And can be highly ungrateful.
The purpose of the nonchalant attitude is not to be an asshole every time.
Women don’t like bad boys because bad boys are mean all the time.
They like bad boys because they appreciate their kindness more.
And that’s because they know the bad boys are capable of ruthlessness.
They know he won’t tolerate their BS.
He’d leave her and not look back.
So if you think you can get away with never being nice to women.
I can already tell that you’re either too young.
Or you just don’t have any real life experiences with women.
And all you do is parrot theories that you read online.
Because apparently, women like “bad boys”
Dudes who say this obviously don’t have game in real life.
And if you take this advice, all your relationships will fail.
The idea that you shouldn’t do anything nice for a woman will lead you down the wrong path.
Especially if you’re trying to have a long term relationship, which most guys seek.
You cannot have a healthy relationship having this mindset.
You may attract but you won’t retain.
And the type of women you can retain acting this way, are not the type women that you’d want to be in an LTR with.
The concept of acting nonchalant has been completely misunderstood.
The nonchalant attitude is meant to show outcome independence.
Another use for the nonchalant attitude is to make her appreciate it more when you do nice things for her.
Because women naturally feel entitled to a man’s kindness.
And can be highly ungrateful.
The purpose of the nonchalant attitude is not to be an asshole every time.
Women don’t like bad boys because bad boys are mean all the time.
They like bad boys because they appreciate their kindness more.
And that’s because they know the bad boys are capable of ruthlessness.
They know he won’t tolerate their BS.
He’d leave her and not look back.
So if you think you can get away with never being nice to women.
I can already tell that you’re either too young.
Or you just don’t have any real life experiences with women.
And all you do is parrot theories that you read online.
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FRAME IS IMPLICIT AND NON-VERBAL
Have you ever been with a girl where everything just flowed naturally?
It's because she embraced your vibe from the start.
Maybe it's your looks or your personality... you're strong, you're confident, you have a deep voice, you have a strong presence... or she's seen you enough to connect with your personality through your actions.
It doesn't have to be one specific thing, it can be a combination of what appeals to her.
A lot of guys misunderstand the idea of having a "masculine frame." They think they have to overdo it to show they're alpha.
But if you have to force it, it actually reveals a lack of it.
It's like someone saying, "I'm an alpha male." Not only does it sound cringe, but needing to say it suggests there's no real display of it.
Words are often used to hide what can't be shown.
Similarly, women often say they're strong and independent. Sometimes it's like they're trying to convince themselves, hoping it'll come true. Other times, it's just empty words to seem like someone they're not.
Whether it's the alpha male or the Ms. Independent, when they keep talking about it, it shows they're not really it.
The same goes for Boundaries. They're mainly for yourself to know, rather than having to tell someone else. Otherwise, the reason for your boundaries becomes dependent on someone else.
Having to communicate them only shows your lack of control in the situation. Like with ultimatums. You only do it when you feel powerless. Threats work the same way.
Threats are just the other side of the coin, the opposite of expressing boundaries clearly from the start to someone new.
Consider threats like "If you cheat, it's over." Do you really need to say it if you already know you'd end things? Even thinking about it shows your fear, weakening your frame.
Similarly, with boundaries like "I won't accept you going on girls' trips," just considering it suggests you lack confidence that the person might be tempted. Again, it undermines your strength.
When you meet someone new, you can sense their aura, charisma, and presence without them saying a word. It's all in how they carry themselves. You might even feel intimidated and look down when speaking to them.
Why is eye contact so important in attraction?
In France, when dealing with hoodlums, they often demand you look down. This shows who's dominant and who's submissive. The hoodlum assumes control by ordering you to look down, and if you comply, you accept his dominance.
Commands and expressed Boundaries are different. Commands show dominance and invite submission.
Expressed Boundaries imply equality and expect respect for your rules. Women at best tolerates equals.
Expressed Boundaries imply a lack of control and reveal a false sense of strength, where you can't command the situation.
Strong individuals don't need to show strength directly; they assume it's already present. It's indirect, even with Commands.
Does this mean we should ignore negative possibilities like cheating or girls' trips? No. But we shouldn't let reality overwhelm our own reality. While it could happen, in our world, it won't. By assuming and communicating that assurance, we create a self-fulfilling behavior where such things don't occur under our leadership.
By verbalizing threats or expressed Boundaries, you risk giving away your power. Real strength starts from within and spreads to others. It may not be real at first, but it becomes real over time—an illusion becoming reality. Whether it's frame, self-belief, strength, or power, it all comes from perception, not reality itself.
This is why even rich and famous people, despite their actual reality, often experience similar outcomes as average people. If their reality doesn't match what others see, their behavior will fail to attract or keep a woman.
Have you ever been with a girl where everything just flowed naturally?
It's because she embraced your vibe from the start.
Maybe it's your looks or your personality... you're strong, you're confident, you have a deep voice, you have a strong presence... or she's seen you enough to connect with your personality through your actions.
It doesn't have to be one specific thing, it can be a combination of what appeals to her.
A lot of guys misunderstand the idea of having a "masculine frame." They think they have to overdo it to show they're alpha.
But if you have to force it, it actually reveals a lack of it.
It's like someone saying, "I'm an alpha male." Not only does it sound cringe, but needing to say it suggests there's no real display of it.
Words are often used to hide what can't be shown.
Similarly, women often say they're strong and independent. Sometimes it's like they're trying to convince themselves, hoping it'll come true. Other times, it's just empty words to seem like someone they're not.
Whether it's the alpha male or the Ms. Independent, when they keep talking about it, it shows they're not really it.
The same goes for Boundaries. They're mainly for yourself to know, rather than having to tell someone else. Otherwise, the reason for your boundaries becomes dependent on someone else.
Having to communicate them only shows your lack of control in the situation. Like with ultimatums. You only do it when you feel powerless. Threats work the same way.
Threats are just the other side of the coin, the opposite of expressing boundaries clearly from the start to someone new.
Consider threats like "If you cheat, it's over." Do you really need to say it if you already know you'd end things? Even thinking about it shows your fear, weakening your frame.
Similarly, with boundaries like "I won't accept you going on girls' trips," just considering it suggests you lack confidence that the person might be tempted. Again, it undermines your strength.
When you meet someone new, you can sense their aura, charisma, and presence without them saying a word. It's all in how they carry themselves. You might even feel intimidated and look down when speaking to them.
Why is eye contact so important in attraction?
In France, when dealing with hoodlums, they often demand you look down. This shows who's dominant and who's submissive. The hoodlum assumes control by ordering you to look down, and if you comply, you accept his dominance.
Commands and expressed Boundaries are different. Commands show dominance and invite submission.
Expressed Boundaries imply equality and expect respect for your rules. Women at best tolerates equals.
Expressed Boundaries imply a lack of control and reveal a false sense of strength, where you can't command the situation.
Strong individuals don't need to show strength directly; they assume it's already present. It's indirect, even with Commands.
Does this mean we should ignore negative possibilities like cheating or girls' trips? No. But we shouldn't let reality overwhelm our own reality. While it could happen, in our world, it won't. By assuming and communicating that assurance, we create a self-fulfilling behavior where such things don't occur under our leadership.
By verbalizing threats or expressed Boundaries, you risk giving away your power. Real strength starts from within and spreads to others. It may not be real at first, but it becomes real over time—an illusion becoming reality. Whether it's frame, self-belief, strength, or power, it all comes from perception, not reality itself.
As Varys from Game of Thrones said,
"Power resides where men believe it resides. It's a trick. A shadow on the wall. And a very small man can cast a very large shadow."
This is why even rich and famous people, despite their actual reality, often experience similar outcomes as average people. If their reality doesn't match what others see, their behavior will fail to attract or keep a woman.
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Walking away instead of telling someone off is much stronger because you demonstrate the cost of crossing your internal boundaries without warning. It shows you don't care.
That's why not caring shows the strongest frame. You don't need to do or say anything to someone you don't value or care about. It's not trying too hard because you're not trying at all. Indifference communicates superiority through a steady frame.
Women will always see through any bluff if you try something. You might get away with telling her off once or twice, but if you're still there, what does she realize? That you can't actually say no to her. And then the negative spiral begins.
Life is implicit frames, Life is all about different perspectives or frames. They shape how you see the world around you, while she sees it through her own lens. Reacting to her frame only validates hers and weakens yours.
Even if you feel wronged and want to get back at her, showing your anger or seeking revenge will only make you lose. Instead, stay calm and non-reactive while quietly working to fix what you see as unfair. This shifts the balance of whose reality holds more power.
In practical terms, the more you naturally display traits that fit into her ideal frame to fall within, the less she'll test you because she's already drawn into your world. This is the big picture.
However, if you're lacking in those traits, she'll start testing you to see if you're really the person you seem to be. This is the small picture.
If you don't have enough of the big picture traits, or if they start to fade, you'll find yourself dealing mostly with the small picture tests. In that case, you might need to step back from the situation.
The reason why bad boys or even criminals seem to attract so many women effortlessly is because they excel at the big picture traits.
Having a strong frame is essential, but trying too hard to display it directly, whether through setting boundaries, issuing threats, or showing disapproval, actually undermines your strength. It shows that you're not confident in your own power and are struggling against something that's already happening. This only leads to failure.
Removing your focus, walking away, or simply ignoring the other person demonstrates clearly that their reality doesn't affect yours. It shows that you're not dependent on them to confirm your boundaries, which should ultimately be set for your own well-being.
Boundaries are guidelines for your life, not tools to prove your dominance or assert your frame. Your frame is inherent and doesn't need validation from others.
Only when she returns, if she does, does she realize that your frame is the one she wants to be a part of.
Frame battles are subtle and unspoken, it's like a mental game, and the idea behind it is that it's hidden. Bringing it out into the open shows you don't understand the dynamics, and the moment you do, if she ever does align with your frame, it will feel forced instead of natural.
A Command feels natural because she's already accepted your dominant stance. Your overall presence has already been established in her mind before you even give the command.
Power dynamics operate beneath the surface, never above it.
That's why not caring shows the strongest frame. You don't need to do or say anything to someone you don't value or care about. It's not trying too hard because you're not trying at all. Indifference communicates superiority through a steady frame.
Women will always see through any bluff if you try something. You might get away with telling her off once or twice, but if you're still there, what does she realize? That you can't actually say no to her. And then the negative spiral begins.
Life is implicit frames, Life is all about different perspectives or frames. They shape how you see the world around you, while she sees it through her own lens. Reacting to her frame only validates hers and weakens yours.
Even if you feel wronged and want to get back at her, showing your anger or seeking revenge will only make you lose. Instead, stay calm and non-reactive while quietly working to fix what you see as unfair. This shifts the balance of whose reality holds more power.
In practical terms, the more you naturally display traits that fit into her ideal frame to fall within, the less she'll test you because she's already drawn into your world. This is the big picture.
However, if you're lacking in those traits, she'll start testing you to see if you're really the person you seem to be. This is the small picture.
If you don't have enough of the big picture traits, or if they start to fade, you'll find yourself dealing mostly with the small picture tests. In that case, you might need to step back from the situation.
The reason why bad boys or even criminals seem to attract so many women effortlessly is because they excel at the big picture traits.
Having a strong frame is essential, but trying too hard to display it directly, whether through setting boundaries, issuing threats, or showing disapproval, actually undermines your strength. It shows that you're not confident in your own power and are struggling against something that's already happening. This only leads to failure.
Removing your focus, walking away, or simply ignoring the other person demonstrates clearly that their reality doesn't affect yours. It shows that you're not dependent on them to confirm your boundaries, which should ultimately be set for your own well-being.
Boundaries are guidelines for your life, not tools to prove your dominance or assert your frame. Your frame is inherent and doesn't need validation from others.
Only when she returns, if she does, does she realize that your frame is the one she wants to be a part of.
Frame battles are subtle and unspoken, it's like a mental game, and the idea behind it is that it's hidden. Bringing it out into the open shows you don't understand the dynamics, and the moment you do, if she ever does align with your frame, it will feel forced instead of natural.
A Command feels natural because she's already accepted your dominant stance. Your overall presence has already been established in her mind before you even give the command.
Power dynamics operate beneath the surface, never above it.
As Tywin Lannister wisely said,
"Any man who must say, 'I am the king' is no true king."
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Signs she may be planning to walk away… she:
⚠️ Opens up to you less and less
⚠️ Shows less and less happy feelings
⚠️ Becomes less and less loving
⚠️ Starts to see sex as a task
⚠️ Gets drier and less turned on in bed
⚠️ Becomes busier, giving you less time than before
⚠️ Focuses on herself (hair, makeup, clothes, fitness)
⚠️ Suddenly has an active social life without you
When these appear (especially many), act fast to make things better (if you still want her)
⚠️ Opens up to you less and less
⚠️ Shows less and less happy feelings
⚠️ Becomes less and less loving
⚠️ Starts to see sex as a task
⚠️ Gets drier and less turned on in bed
⚠️ Becomes busier, giving you less time than before
⚠️ Focuses on herself (hair, makeup, clothes, fitness)
⚠️ Suddenly has an active social life without you
When these appear (especially many), act fast to make things better (if you still want her)
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If you take too long, you lose the girl.
Waiting for the perfect time? You lose the girl.
Trying to build extra trust first? Lose the girl.
Think she must get more attracted first? Lose the girl.
Promise yourself you’ll try next time? Lose the girl.
Yes, sometimes a guy can rush things with a girl and move TOO fast.
But that is not the real problem for most men.
The real problem for most men is waiting TOO long and because of that, losing girls.
𝐖𝐎𝐌𝐄𝐍 𝐀𝐑𝐄 𝐋𝐈𝐊𝐄 𝐂𝐀𝐑 𝐒𝐇𝐎𝐏𝐏𝐄𝐑𝐒
They need to think and decide if they want ‘the car’.
But if the salesman doesn’t close them when they are about to leave, he loses the deal.
How fast a girl or deal slips away depends on her urgency and her options.
If a car buyer NEEDS a car, he’ll wait until the salesman is ready. Especially if it’s the only car store in the area.
In the same way, if a woman is DESPERATE for you, she will wait until you are ready. Especially if you’re the only guy she feels is good enough.
Now, there are certain times when women get DESPERATE for men:
• When they hit the age where “baby fever” kicks in
• When they feel so lonely or broken they can’t stand being alone
• Or when it’s “that time of the month” and they just NEED a man
Outside of these times, though, women are NOT desperate for men.
Like a car shopper who doesn’t really need a car at the moment, if she isn’t CLOSED, she leaves, and usually doesn’t return.
And this isn’t even counting women who have OPTIONS.
Like a buyer with 10 different stores to choose from, a woman with choices is even less likely to come back if she isn’t closed when she’s READY to be closed.
𝐀𝐓𝐓𝐑𝐀𝐂𝐓𝐈𝐎𝐍 𝐃𝐎𝐄𝐒 𝐍𝐎𝐓 𝐋𝐀𝐒𝐓 𝐅𝐎𝐑𝐄𝐕𝐄𝐑
Because of something called ‘backward rationalization’, if you don’t close a girl when she’s ready, she later “rewrites history” in her head.
Looking back, she tells herself,
“It’s probably good we didn’t end up together. It must have been destiny. He must not have been the right one.”
After that, her attraction for the guy who never made the move fades.
This is called ‘attraction expiring’.
It doesn’t matter how much she liked him.
It doesn’t matter how badly she wanted him.
It doesn’t even matter if she was the one making most of the moves.
If nothing ever happens, her attraction fades, and she rewrites in her head WHY it never happened — and she writes the guy off in the process.
But there’s a way to stop this from happening.
You can avoid the problem of attraction expiring.
How?
By quitting the wait for the ‘perfect moment’ and instead MOVING FASTER with women.
𝟓 𝐌𝐎𝐌𝐄𝐍𝐓𝐒 𝐓𝐎 𝐌𝐎𝐕𝐄 𝐅𝐀𝐒𝐓𝐄𝐑
Here are 5 key moments to move faster with the women you want:
1.The Approach: When you see a woman you like, go talk to her. Don’t wait for the stars to align or for someone to introduce you. Just go.
2. The Ask Out: Most men wait for obvious signs or for the talk to end before asking her out. The BEST time to ask her? During a HIGH POINT. That is: when she’s laughing, leaning in, or clearly interested. Use the moment and ask her on a date!
3. The Date: Don’t try to be “cool” and set it up for 2 weeks later. Get her out as soon as she’s free. Check when she’s available and pick the EARLIEST time that works. Strike while the fire is burning!
4. The Pull: Things can only move so far without inviting her back to your place or going to hers. Don’t sit and wait for maximum attraction, it’s rare and not even needed. Build a good vibe, make her feel somewhat close, guide her, and then invite her.
5. The Kiss: Once alone with her, many guys freeze. “I’ll do it after the movie,” or, “Let’s wait for the right second,” they think. But the longer you stall, the scarier it feels.
Avoid this with the 10-Minute Kiss Rule: once you’re alone with her, get both of you relaxed, but KISS within 10 MINUTES!
Do this and you’ll miss far fewer chances with women,
Avoid much of the ‘expired attraction’,
And connect a LOT more often with the women you want.
Waiting for the perfect time? You lose the girl.
Trying to build extra trust first? Lose the girl.
Think she must get more attracted first? Lose the girl.
Promise yourself you’ll try next time? Lose the girl.
Yes, sometimes a guy can rush things with a girl and move TOO fast.
But that is not the real problem for most men.
The real problem for most men is waiting TOO long and because of that, losing girls.
𝐖𝐎𝐌𝐄𝐍 𝐀𝐑𝐄 𝐋𝐈𝐊𝐄 𝐂𝐀𝐑 𝐒𝐇𝐎𝐏𝐏𝐄𝐑𝐒
They need to think and decide if they want ‘the car’.
But if the salesman doesn’t close them when they are about to leave, he loses the deal.
How fast a girl or deal slips away depends on her urgency and her options.
If a car buyer NEEDS a car, he’ll wait until the salesman is ready. Especially if it’s the only car store in the area.
In the same way, if a woman is DESPERATE for you, she will wait until you are ready. Especially if you’re the only guy she feels is good enough.
Now, there are certain times when women get DESPERATE for men:
• When they hit the age where “baby fever” kicks in
• When they feel so lonely or broken they can’t stand being alone
• Or when it’s “that time of the month” and they just NEED a man
Outside of these times, though, women are NOT desperate for men.
Like a car shopper who doesn’t really need a car at the moment, if she isn’t CLOSED, she leaves, and usually doesn’t return.
And this isn’t even counting women who have OPTIONS.
Like a buyer with 10 different stores to choose from, a woman with choices is even less likely to come back if she isn’t closed when she’s READY to be closed.
𝐀𝐓𝐓𝐑𝐀𝐂𝐓𝐈𝐎𝐍 𝐃𝐎𝐄𝐒 𝐍𝐎𝐓 𝐋𝐀𝐒𝐓 𝐅𝐎𝐑𝐄𝐕𝐄𝐑
Because of something called ‘backward rationalization’, if you don’t close a girl when she’s ready, she later “rewrites history” in her head.
Looking back, she tells herself,
“It’s probably good we didn’t end up together. It must have been destiny. He must not have been the right one.”
After that, her attraction for the guy who never made the move fades.
This is called ‘attraction expiring’.
It doesn’t matter how much she liked him.
It doesn’t matter how badly she wanted him.
It doesn’t even matter if she was the one making most of the moves.
If nothing ever happens, her attraction fades, and she rewrites in her head WHY it never happened — and she writes the guy off in the process.
But there’s a way to stop this from happening.
You can avoid the problem of attraction expiring.
How?
By quitting the wait for the ‘perfect moment’ and instead MOVING FASTER with women.
𝟓 𝐌𝐎𝐌𝐄𝐍𝐓𝐒 𝐓𝐎 𝐌𝐎𝐕𝐄 𝐅𝐀𝐒𝐓𝐄𝐑
Here are 5 key moments to move faster with the women you want:
1.The Approach: When you see a woman you like, go talk to her. Don’t wait for the stars to align or for someone to introduce you. Just go.
2. The Ask Out: Most men wait for obvious signs or for the talk to end before asking her out. The BEST time to ask her? During a HIGH POINT. That is: when she’s laughing, leaning in, or clearly interested. Use the moment and ask her on a date!
3. The Date: Don’t try to be “cool” and set it up for 2 weeks later. Get her out as soon as she’s free. Check when she’s available and pick the EARLIEST time that works. Strike while the fire is burning!
4. The Pull: Things can only move so far without inviting her back to your place or going to hers. Don’t sit and wait for maximum attraction, it’s rare and not even needed. Build a good vibe, make her feel somewhat close, guide her, and then invite her.
5. The Kiss: Once alone with her, many guys freeze. “I’ll do it after the movie,” or, “Let’s wait for the right second,” they think. But the longer you stall, the scarier it feels.
Avoid this with the 10-Minute Kiss Rule: once you’re alone with her, get both of you relaxed, but KISS within 10 MINUTES!
Do this and you’ll miss far fewer chances with women,
Avoid much of the ‘expired attraction’,
And connect a LOT more often with the women you want.
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𝐀 𝐁𝐈𝐆 𝐏𝐀𝐑𝐓 𝐎𝐅 𝐆𝐄𝐓𝐓𝐈𝐍𝐆 𝐖𝐎𝐌𝐄𝐍 𝐈𝐒 𝐉𝐔𝐒𝐓 𝐌𝐀𝐊𝐈𝐍𝐆 𝐓𝐇𝐄 𝐌𝐎𝐕𝐄
Just like Babe Ruth held both the record for home runs and for strikeouts in Major League Baseball at the same time.
The men who win are the ones always taking shots.
Not just the first shot when approaching, but every shot needed throughout the whole process.
Don’t sit and wait for the magical moment.
Don’t wait until it feels ‘just right’.
Most of the time, that moment never comes or you choke when it does.
Instead, MOVE FASTER and most times, you’ll win the girl.
Just like Babe Ruth held both the record for home runs and for strikeouts in Major League Baseball at the same time.
The men who win are the ones always taking shots.
Not just the first shot when approaching, but every shot needed throughout the whole process.
Don’t sit and wait for the magical moment.
Don’t wait until it feels ‘just right’.
Most of the time, that moment never comes or you choke when it does.
Instead, MOVE FASTER and most times, you’ll win the girl.
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FRIENDZONING WOMEN
I've developed an unconventional approach to dating that gives you access to more high-quality women than you could imagine.
I'll show you what it is and how to execute it.
Most dating advice revolves around 3 premise: Meet women, attract women and date women.
Ofc there are different ways of meeting this women which are:
=> Dating apps & Instagram
=> Cold approaching
=> Social circle
The idea remains the same: If she is attractive, you make your move and if not, next her.
The reasons why a lot of men struggle with dating is as a result of:
=> The women they meet are not necessarily for them.
=> The ones that are for them, they lose cause of poor connection and high level social barriers.
This means they keep trying to plow through but no results which leads to a scarcity mindset.
Now, don't get me wrong cause there is nothing wrong with trying to plow through but...
Consider this: Where are the women you want? Who has access to these women? What factor massively contribute to your success in attracting this women?
The answer is simple.
OTHER WOMEN.
A lot of the women you meet, you won't feel anything for despite the level of attractiveness.
Others will be cool but you just don't find them physically attractive.
Both categories of women are not good romantically speaking but...
They will play a huge role in connecting you with other women.
So keep in mind when you go out to meet women that you don't necessarily need to fit her in the "lover" box.
You just want to know if she is a great fit or not.
If yes? go for it.
If no? Get their number or Insta as "friends"
It's like you are planting a seed.
The next thing is to pull this women into your broader circle by inviting them to parties, night outs and events - tell them to bring their friends.
Ofc most women won't be interested which is not a big deal but most girls will be cool with a guy who is not needy and invites them to cool places.
Through this "female friends" you will meet 2-3x as many women.
These women will be easier to attract since you have a high social proof and best part is if things don't work out, there is 0 social consequences.
Another upside is the fact that hot women are not used to being friend-zoned by an attractive charming guy which means down the line, they will find you more attractive and would want something casual and discreet.
There are two downsides to the "friendzoning" concept:
a) It doesn't give instant results. Building a network takes time, so you need to be patient.
b) Social media is necessary to do it right because it makes it much easier to stay connected with these women.
-MOS
I've developed an unconventional approach to dating that gives you access to more high-quality women than you could imagine.
I'll show you what it is and how to execute it.
Most dating advice revolves around 3 premise: Meet women, attract women and date women.
Ofc there are different ways of meeting this women which are:
=> Dating apps & Instagram
=> Cold approaching
=> Social circle
The idea remains the same: If she is attractive, you make your move and if not, next her.
The reasons why a lot of men struggle with dating is as a result of:
=> The women they meet are not necessarily for them.
=> The ones that are for them, they lose cause of poor connection and high level social barriers.
This means they keep trying to plow through but no results which leads to a scarcity mindset.
Now, don't get me wrong cause there is nothing wrong with trying to plow through but...
Consider this: Where are the women you want? Who has access to these women? What factor massively contribute to your success in attracting this women?
The answer is simple.
OTHER WOMEN.
A lot of the women you meet, you won't feel anything for despite the level of attractiveness.
Others will be cool but you just don't find them physically attractive.
Both categories of women are not good romantically speaking but...
They will play a huge role in connecting you with other women.
So keep in mind when you go out to meet women that you don't necessarily need to fit her in the "lover" box.
You just want to know if she is a great fit or not.
If yes? go for it.
If no? Get their number or Insta as "friends"
It's like you are planting a seed.
The next thing is to pull this women into your broader circle by inviting them to parties, night outs and events - tell them to bring their friends.
Ofc most women won't be interested which is not a big deal but most girls will be cool with a guy who is not needy and invites them to cool places.
Through this "female friends" you will meet 2-3x as many women.
These women will be easier to attract since you have a high social proof and best part is if things don't work out, there is 0 social consequences.
Another upside is the fact that hot women are not used to being friend-zoned by an attractive charming guy which means down the line, they will find you more attractive and would want something casual and discreet.
There are two downsides to the "friendzoning" concept:
a) It doesn't give instant results. Building a network takes time, so you need to be patient.
b) Social media is necessary to do it right because it makes it much easier to stay connected with these women.
-MOS
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When you are with a girl, focus on her.
Focus on her feelings.
Her reactions.
Her body movements.
Her voice tone.
You want to be able to answer, "How is she feeling?"
If you can answer this, you can adjust to her and move with her mood.
If you focus on this, you will also spend less time thinking about yourself and your own worry or doubt.
If you cannot see how she is feeling, then you need more practice to connect actions with certain moods/feelings.
This is not something people automatically understand, even those not on the Autism spectrum.
You might sense what she is feeling, but it is not always correct nor are you always linking it with the right emotional state.
It takes time to be able to "read" people's feelings.
But you have to start somewhere and be guessing how she feels, then acting in RESPONSE to her feelings, so that the seduction can move forward.
That is the job of the leader in a seduction, like the leader in anything, you must see how others feel and think and guide them towards a shared goal.
Focus on her feelings.
Her reactions.
Her body movements.
Her voice tone.
You want to be able to answer, "How is she feeling?"
If you can answer this, you can adjust to her and move with her mood.
If you focus on this, you will also spend less time thinking about yourself and your own worry or doubt.
If you cannot see how she is feeling, then you need more practice to connect actions with certain moods/feelings.
This is not something people automatically understand, even those not on the Autism spectrum.
You might sense what she is feeling, but it is not always correct nor are you always linking it with the right emotional state.
It takes time to be able to "read" people's feelings.
But you have to start somewhere and be guessing how she feels, then acting in RESPONSE to her feelings, so that the seduction can move forward.
That is the job of the leader in a seduction, like the leader in anything, you must see how others feel and think and guide them towards a shared goal.
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