Most men who follow dating advice content for more than six months don’t actually get better.
They get more informed. Those are different things and the gap between them is where most men spend years without realising it.
I’ve watched it happen in slow motion. A man finds the content, starts learning, feels the clarity that comes from finally having a framework for something that used to feel random and confusing. That clarity feels like progress and for the first two or three months it probably is but somewhere along the way the learning becomes the activity instead of the preparation for the activity, and nothing in his actual life changes because nothing in his actual behaviour changes.
The reason my paid channel exists is because I got tired of producing content that informed men without moving them. Free content, by its nature, has to stay general. It has to speak to everyone at once, which means it ends up being truly useful to almost no one in particular.
A man with specific sticking points needs specific answers, not another post about mindset that he can nod along to and then close his phone.
Inside the paid channel you get two things that free content structurally cannot give you. The first is depth - posts that go further into the mechanics of a situation than I can go here, because here I’m writing for a crowd and there I’m writing for men who have already decided they’re serious. The second is access. Every Monday I open the floor for questions and I answer them directly, specifically, without softening the answer to protect anyone’s feelings. If your situation needs a straight read, that’s where you get one.
The price is $10 a month. If you’ve been consuming content for months and your results haven’t moved, the problem probably isn’t that you need more free content. It’s that you need someone to actually look at what you’re doing and tell you what’s wrong with it.
The link below 👇
Manofstxxx.substack.com
They get more informed. Those are different things and the gap between them is where most men spend years without realising it.
I’ve watched it happen in slow motion. A man finds the content, starts learning, feels the clarity that comes from finally having a framework for something that used to feel random and confusing. That clarity feels like progress and for the first two or three months it probably is but somewhere along the way the learning becomes the activity instead of the preparation for the activity, and nothing in his actual life changes because nothing in his actual behaviour changes.
The reason my paid channel exists is because I got tired of producing content that informed men without moving them. Free content, by its nature, has to stay general. It has to speak to everyone at once, which means it ends up being truly useful to almost no one in particular.
A man with specific sticking points needs specific answers, not another post about mindset that he can nod along to and then close his phone.
Inside the paid channel you get two things that free content structurally cannot give you. The first is depth - posts that go further into the mechanics of a situation than I can go here, because here I’m writing for a crowd and there I’m writing for men who have already decided they’re serious. The second is access. Every Monday I open the floor for questions and I answer them directly, specifically, without softening the answer to protect anyone’s feelings. If your situation needs a straight read, that’s where you get one.
The price is $10 a month. If you’ve been consuming content for months and your results haven’t moved, the problem probably isn’t that you need more free content. It’s that you need someone to actually look at what you’re doing and tell you what’s wrong with it.
The link below 👇
Manofstxxx.substack.com
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This happened about two years ago and I still use it as an example when men ask me why logistics matter more than almost anything else.
I met a woman at a house party in the early part of the evening. Friend of a friend, nobody I’d been told about beforehand. We started talking near the kitchen, the conversation went well, she was laughing, touching my arm, the whole thing was moving in an obvious direction. About forty minutes in I suggested we get a drink somewhere quieter. She said yes without hesitating.
This is where I made the mistake.
The quieter place I had in mind was a bar about a fifteen minute drive away. I didn’t have a car that night. She didn’t offer hers. So we stood outside for a few minutes trying to sort out how to actually get there, the conversation broke its rhythm, her friend came out to check on her, and the whole thing that had been building for forty minutes just bled out on the pavement while we were figuring out an Uber.
She went back inside with her friend. We exchanged numbers. She was polite about it but the energy never came back and the text thread went nowhere.
I’ve thought about that night a lot. The attraction was real. The conversation was good. I did nothing wrong in the interaction itself. What I did wrong was suggest a move I hadn’t thought through, in a situation where the momentum was fragile enough that a fifteen minute logistical problem was enough to kill it.
What that night taught me is that the approach and the conversation are only part of the job. The other part is knowing before you suggest anything where you’re actually going to take it, how you’re going to get there, and whether the path between here and there is clean enough to survive real world friction.
Attraction moves, and if you stall it at the wrong moment it doesn’t always come back.
Night game especially exposes this because everything happens faster and the windows are shorter. A woman who is genuinely into you at 10pm has a different set of options by midnight, and the man who moves her smoothly from one location to the next without creating friction is almost always the one who ends up with her attention at the end of the night and it’s because he thought ahead.
Before you suggest moving anywhere, know exactly where you’re suggesting, know how you’re getting there, and make it sound like something you’ve already decided rather than something you’re figuring out in real time.
A man who says “let’s go to X, it’s ten minutes from here” reads completely differently than a man who says “we should go somewhere, what do you think?”
One of those men seems like he knows what he’s doing. The other one just created a committee.
I sorted out my own logistics after that. Small thing. Made a consistent difference.
I met a woman at a house party in the early part of the evening. Friend of a friend, nobody I’d been told about beforehand. We started talking near the kitchen, the conversation went well, she was laughing, touching my arm, the whole thing was moving in an obvious direction. About forty minutes in I suggested we get a drink somewhere quieter. She said yes without hesitating.
This is where I made the mistake.
The quieter place I had in mind was a bar about a fifteen minute drive away. I didn’t have a car that night. She didn’t offer hers. So we stood outside for a few minutes trying to sort out how to actually get there, the conversation broke its rhythm, her friend came out to check on her, and the whole thing that had been building for forty minutes just bled out on the pavement while we were figuring out an Uber.
She went back inside with her friend. We exchanged numbers. She was polite about it but the energy never came back and the text thread went nowhere.
I’ve thought about that night a lot. The attraction was real. The conversation was good. I did nothing wrong in the interaction itself. What I did wrong was suggest a move I hadn’t thought through, in a situation where the momentum was fragile enough that a fifteen minute logistical problem was enough to kill it.
What that night taught me is that the approach and the conversation are only part of the job. The other part is knowing before you suggest anything where you’re actually going to take it, how you’re going to get there, and whether the path between here and there is clean enough to survive real world friction.
Attraction moves, and if you stall it at the wrong moment it doesn’t always come back.
Night game especially exposes this because everything happens faster and the windows are shorter. A woman who is genuinely into you at 10pm has a different set of options by midnight, and the man who moves her smoothly from one location to the next without creating friction is almost always the one who ends up with her attention at the end of the night and it’s because he thought ahead.
Before you suggest moving anywhere, know exactly where you’re suggesting, know how you’re getting there, and make it sound like something you’ve already decided rather than something you’re figuring out in real time.
A man who says “let’s go to X, it’s ten minutes from here” reads completely differently than a man who says “we should go somewhere, what do you think?”
One of those men seems like he knows what he’s doing. The other one just created a committee.
I sorted out my own logistics after that. Small thing. Made a consistent difference.
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If you’re fat, broke and a dweeb, you should watch Solo leveling
You'll eventually realize that what the protagonist is doing is something you can do irl (stop being a loser)
Take for ex the gym: you’re not getting exp points to level up your strength after completing a task but one week you can lift 10lbs for 6 reps, then the next week 8 reps, then the next 10 reps, then the next you can lift 12 lbs for 6 reps and so on
Take whatever example you need to get out of the hole
You'll eventually realize that what the protagonist is doing is something you can do irl (stop being a loser)
Take for ex the gym: you’re not getting exp points to level up your strength after completing a task but one week you can lift 10lbs for 6 reps, then the next week 8 reps, then the next 10 reps, then the next you can lift 12 lbs for 6 reps and so on
Take whatever example you need to get out of the hole
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Every guy who dates hot women has “their thing” that they invite women into. They’re not just asking her out for drinks and praying that she doesn’t flake.
Examples:
- The musical guy has concerts and psychedelics
- The nightlife guy gets her into the best parties/clubs (and has drugs)
- The photography guy takes pics of her
- Outdoorsy guy takes her hiking/camping
- Country guy takes her 2 stepping/teaches her how to shoot guns
- Religious guy invites her to church events
Figure out what your “thing” is and bring girls into it.
Examples:
- The musical guy has concerts and psychedelics
- The nightlife guy gets her into the best parties/clubs (and has drugs)
- The photography guy takes pics of her
- Outdoorsy guy takes her hiking/camping
- Country guy takes her 2 stepping/teaches her how to shoot guns
- Religious guy invites her to church events
Figure out what your “thing” is and bring girls into it.
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A lot of men come into this work thinking that once they figure out women, the loneliness goes away.
They imagine a life where dates are happening, women are responding, sex is more available, and the quiet ache that’s been sitting in their chest for years finally lifts.
So they pour everything into the dating side of things, sometimes for years.
And at some point most of them notice something they weren’t expecting.
The loneliness is still there. Sometimes it’s worse.
The men who get good at dating but stay lonely eventually arrive at the same realisation. What they were calling loneliness was never really about not having a woman.
It was about going through life without being known by anyone.
Without a single person who could see them as a full human being rather than as a role they were playing.
A girlfriend doesn’t fix that.
She’s meeting a different need. Romantic and sexual, which is real and valuable, but she’s not the person who knew you at fourteen, or sat with you the night your dad got sick, or who you could call at two in the morning without it being weird.
That kind of presence in a man’s life almost always comes from other men.
Friendships built over years, where there’s history and trust and the comfort that doesn’t have to trying to act different.
Most men in their late 20s and 30s don’t have this anymore.
The friendships from school faded. The ones from work stayed surface level. Somewhere along the way the idea of male friendship got reduced to occasional drinks and watching sport together.
It’s not enough. It was never going to be enough.
When a man with no real male friendships gets into a relationship, he puts the entire weight of his social and emotional life onto the woman.
She becomes his only real person.
That’s a lot to ask of any relationship and it’s part of why men in this position feel a strange panic when their girlfriend pulls away even slightly. There’s nothing else holding the structure up.
Lose her and you lose your whole social world in one move.
Women feel this weight even when men don’t realise they’re putting it on them, and it changes how they relate to him.
This is one of the harder things to say to men who are deep in the dating improvement world because the implication is uncomfortable.
Some of the energy you’re putting into getting better with women would produce a much better life if it went into rebuilding friendships with men.
Reconnecting with people you’ve drifted from. Joining things where you’ll see the same men week after week and let actual relationships form over time.
It’s slower and less dramatic than the dating stuff. There’s no obvious reward at the end, just the gradual realisation that you have people in your life who actually “know” you.
The loneliness was never about a woman.
It was about being a man with no one to be a man around.
Fix that and the dating side of things gets less heavy, because it’s no longer carrying weight it was never built to carry.
Don’t fix it and even a good relationship will eventually feel like it’s not quite enough. You’ll think the problem is her or the relationship when it was actually the shape of the rest of your life all along.
- MOS
They imagine a life where dates are happening, women are responding, sex is more available, and the quiet ache that’s been sitting in their chest for years finally lifts.
So they pour everything into the dating side of things, sometimes for years.
And at some point most of them notice something they weren’t expecting.
The loneliness is still there. Sometimes it’s worse.
The men who get good at dating but stay lonely eventually arrive at the same realisation. What they were calling loneliness was never really about not having a woman.
It was about going through life without being known by anyone.
Without a single person who could see them as a full human being rather than as a role they were playing.
A girlfriend doesn’t fix that.
She’s meeting a different need. Romantic and sexual, which is real and valuable, but she’s not the person who knew you at fourteen, or sat with you the night your dad got sick, or who you could call at two in the morning without it being weird.
That kind of presence in a man’s life almost always comes from other men.
Friendships built over years, where there’s history and trust and the comfort that doesn’t have to trying to act different.
Most men in their late 20s and 30s don’t have this anymore.
The friendships from school faded. The ones from work stayed surface level. Somewhere along the way the idea of male friendship got reduced to occasional drinks and watching sport together.
It’s not enough. It was never going to be enough.
When a man with no real male friendships gets into a relationship, he puts the entire weight of his social and emotional life onto the woman.
She becomes his only real person.
That’s a lot to ask of any relationship and it’s part of why men in this position feel a strange panic when their girlfriend pulls away even slightly. There’s nothing else holding the structure up.
Lose her and you lose your whole social world in one move.
Women feel this weight even when men don’t realise they’re putting it on them, and it changes how they relate to him.
This is one of the harder things to say to men who are deep in the dating improvement world because the implication is uncomfortable.
Some of the energy you’re putting into getting better with women would produce a much better life if it went into rebuilding friendships with men.
Reconnecting with people you’ve drifted from. Joining things where you’ll see the same men week after week and let actual relationships form over time.
It’s slower and less dramatic than the dating stuff. There’s no obvious reward at the end, just the gradual realisation that you have people in your life who actually “know” you.
The loneliness was never about a woman.
It was about being a man with no one to be a man around.
Fix that and the dating side of things gets less heavy, because it’s no longer carrying weight it was never built to carry.
Don’t fix it and even a good relationship will eventually feel like it’s not quite enough. You’ll think the problem is her or the relationship when it was actually the shape of the rest of your life all along.
- MOS
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Escalation is where most interactions die quietly, and the men it dies on usually don’t even know it happened.
The conversation went well. She was laughing. The vibe was good. You walked away thinking you had a real shot, and then the text thread fizzled or the second date never happened or you found out a week later she’s seeing someone else.
What went wrong is almost always the same thing.
You stayed in conversation mode the whole time and never moved the interaction into something physical, and a woman who has spent two hours with a man who showed no physical intent has already filed him under friend or coworker by the time she goes home.
The window to be a romantic option closes faster than men realise, and once it closes, no amount of good texting reopens it.
Escalation is the thing that keeps you in the romantic category instead of slipping out of it. It’s not about being aggressive or making big moves. It’s about a steady, low key physical presence that signals you’re a man, not a buddy.
The first level is just contact. Light touch on her arm when you’re making a point. A hand on her lower back when you’re moving through a crowd. Brushing her hand when you’re handing her something. None of this is sexual yet. It’s the establishment of physical comfort between you, and it does two things at once. It tells her you’re not nervous about touching her, and it lets her get used to your hands being part of the interaction so the bigger moves later don’t come out of nowhere.
Most men skip this entirely. They have a great conversation with a woman, never touch her once, and then try to kiss her at the end of the night. That kiss feels like it came from nowhere because it did. Her body never had a chance to register you as someone who was already physically present in her space, so the sudden move forward feels like a jolt rather than a continuation.
The second level is sustained contact. Your hand stays on her back a beat longer than it needed to. You hold her hand when she shows you something on her phone. When she leans in to say something, you don’t lean back to a polite distance afterward. The energy stops being “two friends talking” and starts being “two people who are aware of each other’s bodies.”
Reading her response at this stage is where most men either misjudge or freeze. The signals are not subtle once you’re paying attention. If she’s leaning in, holding eye contact for longer than necessary, finding small reasons to touch you back, mirroring your body language, the path is open. If she’s pulling back from contact, creating distance, breaking eye contact quickly, the path is closed and pushing harder is going to make things worse, not better.
The third level is direct physical intent. Holding her gaze. Moving close enough that the next step is obvious. The kiss, when it happens, isn’t a question you’re asking with your face. It’s the natural next thing in a sequence she’s already been part of. The men who pull this off cleanly don’t ask permission with their body language and they don’t manufacture some perfect moment.
They just close the distance with intention and let her meet them or step back. Both responses give you real information.
The big mistake men make at this level is waiting for absolute certainty before they move. There is no absolute certainty. A woman is never going to give you a written invitation, and the man who waits for one ends up being the man she calls a really good friend. Some discomfort with making the move is part of the move. If you only ever escalate when you’re 100% sure, you’ll only ever escalate with women who basically grabbed you first, and that’s not most of them.
Different arenas change the timeline. Night game compresses everything. The escalation that would happen across two dates in day game often needs to happen across two hours in a bar, because the interaction doesn’t have a second meeting built into it. Day game gives you slower windows but the contact still has to start during the first interaction or it gets much harder later.
The conversation went well. She was laughing. The vibe was good. You walked away thinking you had a real shot, and then the text thread fizzled or the second date never happened or you found out a week later she’s seeing someone else.
What went wrong is almost always the same thing.
You stayed in conversation mode the whole time and never moved the interaction into something physical, and a woman who has spent two hours with a man who showed no physical intent has already filed him under friend or coworker by the time she goes home.
The window to be a romantic option closes faster than men realise, and once it closes, no amount of good texting reopens it.
Escalation is the thing that keeps you in the romantic category instead of slipping out of it. It’s not about being aggressive or making big moves. It’s about a steady, low key physical presence that signals you’re a man, not a buddy.
The first level is just contact. Light touch on her arm when you’re making a point. A hand on her lower back when you’re moving through a crowd. Brushing her hand when you’re handing her something. None of this is sexual yet. It’s the establishment of physical comfort between you, and it does two things at once. It tells her you’re not nervous about touching her, and it lets her get used to your hands being part of the interaction so the bigger moves later don’t come out of nowhere.
Most men skip this entirely. They have a great conversation with a woman, never touch her once, and then try to kiss her at the end of the night. That kiss feels like it came from nowhere because it did. Her body never had a chance to register you as someone who was already physically present in her space, so the sudden move forward feels like a jolt rather than a continuation.
The second level is sustained contact. Your hand stays on her back a beat longer than it needed to. You hold her hand when she shows you something on her phone. When she leans in to say something, you don’t lean back to a polite distance afterward. The energy stops being “two friends talking” and starts being “two people who are aware of each other’s bodies.”
Reading her response at this stage is where most men either misjudge or freeze. The signals are not subtle once you’re paying attention. If she’s leaning in, holding eye contact for longer than necessary, finding small reasons to touch you back, mirroring your body language, the path is open. If she’s pulling back from contact, creating distance, breaking eye contact quickly, the path is closed and pushing harder is going to make things worse, not better.
The third level is direct physical intent. Holding her gaze. Moving close enough that the next step is obvious. The kiss, when it happens, isn’t a question you’re asking with your face. It’s the natural next thing in a sequence she’s already been part of. The men who pull this off cleanly don’t ask permission with their body language and they don’t manufacture some perfect moment.
They just close the distance with intention and let her meet them or step back. Both responses give you real information.
The big mistake men make at this level is waiting for absolute certainty before they move. There is no absolute certainty. A woman is never going to give you a written invitation, and the man who waits for one ends up being the man she calls a really good friend. Some discomfort with making the move is part of the move. If you only ever escalate when you’re 100% sure, you’ll only ever escalate with women who basically grabbed you first, and that’s not most of them.
Different arenas change the timeline. Night game compresses everything. The escalation that would happen across two dates in day game often needs to happen across two hours in a bar, because the interaction doesn’t have a second meeting built into it. Day game gives you slower windows but the contact still has to start during the first interaction or it gets much harder later.
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Apps are the strangest one because all the early conversation happens with no physical channel at all, which means the first date is doing double duty like building rapport and establishing physical presence at the same time.
That’s part of why men who do well in person often struggle on apps. They’re used to escalation building gradually across a single long interaction, and an app date asks them to do it on a much faster clock.
The thing to internalise is that escalation isn’t a separate skill from conversation. It’s the second track running underneath it. The men who are good with women are running both tracks at once from the moment they meet her. They’re talking and they’re touching and they’re moving closer, all of it happening at once, none of it announced or made into a moment.
If you take nothing else from this, take the part about light contact early. Most of the men who message me struggling with the friend zone are men who never put their hand on her arm in the first thirty minutes. By the time they realised they wanted to, it had been an hour, the moment was gone, and the interaction had already been categorised in her head as something other than what they wanted it to be.
Don’t wait for the perfect moment. Make contact early, make it light, and let everything that follows be a continuation of something you already started.
- MOS
That’s part of why men who do well in person often struggle on apps. They’re used to escalation building gradually across a single long interaction, and an app date asks them to do it on a much faster clock.
The thing to internalise is that escalation isn’t a separate skill from conversation. It’s the second track running underneath it. The men who are good with women are running both tracks at once from the moment they meet her. They’re talking and they’re touching and they’re moving closer, all of it happening at once, none of it announced or made into a moment.
If you take nothing else from this, take the part about light contact early. Most of the men who message me struggling with the friend zone are men who never put their hand on her arm in the first thirty minutes. By the time they realised they wanted to, it had been an hour, the moment was gone, and the interaction had already been categorised in her head as something other than what they wanted it to be.
Don’t wait for the perfect moment. Make contact early, make it light, and let everything that follows be a continuation of something you already started.
- MOS
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The hardest thing is convincing yourself to win tomorrow too.
It’s easy to assure yourself today where you’ll be or what you’ll have six months from now but when tomorrow comes, the journey feels long and daunting.
Getting through tomorrow, every day, is the hardest thing to do.
It’s easy to assure yourself today where you’ll be or what you’ll have six months from now but when tomorrow comes, the journey feels long and daunting.
Getting through tomorrow, every day, is the hardest thing to do.
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I can’t explain it, but women’s dreams have intuitive powers.
Don’t undermine them when they share their dreams with you; it often foreshadows something deeper.
If she tells you she had a bad dream with you in it, something in her is about to change toward you.
Their dreams connect to their hearts.
Don’t undermine them when they share their dreams with you; it often foreshadows something deeper.
If she tells you she had a bad dream with you in it, something in her is about to change toward you.
Their dreams connect to their hearts.
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The hardest truth for men to accept is that women are genuinely okay with short-term romances.
Men try to rationalize a pretty woman’s promiscuity as trauma from an “absentee father.”
The truth is simpler: women just want to have fun too.
Men try to rationalize a pretty woman’s promiscuity as trauma from an “absentee father.”
The truth is simpler: women just want to have fun too.
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There’s a case to be made that what’s right and true is for you to put absolutely zero effort into building a relationship with any woman, and on top of that even purposely wreck it, until you run into a woman who just decides you’re her one and refuses to let you go.
I don’t fully embrace this philosophy, because in the modern world that woman will probably just not be hot enough tbh, but i can’t bring myself to shit on it either since it definitely creates a more wholesome male-female dynamic.
I don’t fully embrace this philosophy, because in the modern world that woman will probably just not be hot enough tbh, but i can’t bring myself to shit on it either since it definitely creates a more wholesome male-female dynamic.
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Boundaries in a relationship is like anything else with chicks.
She only wants ‘equality’ until it doesn’t work in her favor anymore.
Go do the same shit she is, using her same excuse, and watch how fast that narrative changes.
For example:
Her: posting slutty social media pics ‘baby I am just being social’
You: ‘accidentally’ chatting up girls (and guys) and getting IGs ‘baby I am just being social’
As soon as it doesn’t work in her favor anymore, it’s the ‘wrong kind’ of equality and she don’t want it anymore.
If you don’t like what a girl is doing, you’ll never win by trying to control her. Ever.
Just find out how to make it not work in her favor anymore and she’ll stop it as fast as a girl will stop a conversation around why women should be elegible for the draft just like men are.
She only wants ‘equality’ until it doesn’t work in her favor anymore.
Go do the same shit she is, using her same excuse, and watch how fast that narrative changes.
For example:
Her: posting slutty social media pics ‘baby I am just being social’
You: ‘accidentally’ chatting up girls (and guys) and getting IGs ‘baby I am just being social’
As soon as it doesn’t work in her favor anymore, it’s the ‘wrong kind’ of equality and she don’t want it anymore.
If you don’t like what a girl is doing, you’ll never win by trying to control her. Ever.
Just find out how to make it not work in her favor anymore and she’ll stop it as fast as a girl will stop a conversation around why women should be elegible for the draft just like men are.
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Top player game isn’t being able to get a woman really into you.
It’s being able to dial that back so she feels she’s 51% in control of the relationship and is easy to breakup with because it feels it was her choice.
Boost attraction when we want to keep her, cut it when we want her to end it.
We have to do this for several reasons:
- really awesome girls are rare, a waiting game of sorts
- best way to patiently pass top girls’ tests is to have a rotation
- ethics: we don’t want to get girls really invested and break their hearts. Damage = a sloppy half-ass player
It’s being able to dial that back so she feels she’s 51% in control of the relationship and is easy to breakup with because it feels it was her choice.
Boost attraction when we want to keep her, cut it when we want her to end it.
We have to do this for several reasons:
- really awesome girls are rare, a waiting game of sorts
- best way to patiently pass top girls’ tests is to have a rotation
- ethics: we don’t want to get girls really invested and break their hearts. Damage = a sloppy half-ass player
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Someone asked me a question in my DMs which was “how to have standards but be not judgmental”
Judgment is proactively pushing our standard onto others because of a need to be believed / gain control.
Guy with standards would just let his attention drift elsewhere, no need to hurt feelings/ push his view.
What guys who are judgmental don’t realize is that, in addition to breaking the vibe, every judgment they pass is a compliance test. They’re begging to be agreed with. They’ll keep doing it and then be confused the group ignores/defies them but they trained them to.
Judgment is proactively pushing our standard onto others because of a need to be believed / gain control.
Guy with standards would just let his attention drift elsewhere, no need to hurt feelings/ push his view.
What guys who are judgmental don’t realize is that, in addition to breaking the vibe, every judgment they pass is a compliance test. They’re begging to be agreed with. They’ll keep doing it and then be confused the group ignores/defies them but they trained them to.
The #1 sin in game is ‘qualifying ourself’
That is any action we secretly did to change another person’s opinion of us or our worldview.
Ironically, also trying to convince people we don’t care what others think of us.
Its what women test for but most guys fail before she tests
This muscle gets weaker the more we do it.
We can’t go from flashing cash on IG, arguing on twitter, getting ripped only to impress girls….then expect to pass her tests in a club.
We can’t live the life of a seller and then suddenly and congruently act like we’re the buyer
The opposite of qualifying ourselves is expression.
In qualifying, we try to ‘steer’ their reaction to how we want them to react.
In expression, we don’t ‘steer’ it that is we give freedom to react ‘bad’. Send it and let the chips fall
This creates trust and makes them receptive
When I talk about projection, I mean a state of expression where you are pre-emptively doing things that ‘dare’ people to judge you and react badly…. not as a tactic but because the happy feeling in you is so strong.
This creates massive trust in the whole club and rockstar status
That is any action we secretly did to change another person’s opinion of us or our worldview.
Ironically, also trying to convince people we don’t care what others think of us.
Its what women test for but most guys fail before she tests
This muscle gets weaker the more we do it.
We can’t go from flashing cash on IG, arguing on twitter, getting ripped only to impress girls….then expect to pass her tests in a club.
We can’t live the life of a seller and then suddenly and congruently act like we’re the buyer
The opposite of qualifying ourselves is expression.
In qualifying, we try to ‘steer’ their reaction to how we want them to react.
In expression, we don’t ‘steer’ it that is we give freedom to react ‘bad’. Send it and let the chips fall
This creates trust and makes them receptive
When I talk about projection, I mean a state of expression where you are pre-emptively doing things that ‘dare’ people to judge you and react badly…. not as a tactic but because the happy feeling in you is so strong.
This creates massive trust in the whole club and rockstar status
There’s a reason rich dudes PAY to have entourages of all DUDES vs be surrounded by like 20 hot girls.
They get it. Every good wing who is invested in your success like it’s his own is worth ~50 girls.
I’ve got my best friends laid >50 times and him the same for me.
Sadly, most guys are terrible wings. They’ll either try to low crawl your girl or as soon as they see there’s nothing in it for them that night, they quit, take all their toys, and go home.
A good trained wing should get you laid more than you can yourself. He’s a superpower
A good player has a lot of notches.
An elite player has a lot of ASSISTS. He gets his guys laid and lets them bat way above their league.
His struggle isn’t getting laid, it’s keeping his guys from going 😍 mode on the first hottie and peacing out to go play house with her
They get it. Every good wing who is invested in your success like it’s his own is worth ~50 girls.
I’ve got my best friends laid >50 times and him the same for me.
Sadly, most guys are terrible wings. They’ll either try to low crawl your girl or as soon as they see there’s nothing in it for them that night, they quit, take all their toys, and go home.
A good trained wing should get you laid more than you can yourself. He’s a superpower
A good player has a lot of notches.
An elite player has a lot of ASSISTS. He gets his guys laid and lets them bat way above their league.
His struggle isn’t getting laid, it’s keeping his guys from going 😍 mode on the first hottie and peacing out to go play house with her