The aura every man wants is built from years of facing brutal problems and solving them
It carves a certain look into you that nothing else can copy
Shoes, spray tans, TRT, teeth whitening, no cosmetic shortcut can fake it
You always recognize it when you see it
It carves a certain look into you that nothing else can copy
Shoes, spray tans, TRT, teeth whitening, no cosmetic shortcut can fake it
You always recognize it when you see it
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Girls who are interested in you DON’T stay interested forever.
There’s a set amount of time she’s interested, after which, if you do not CLOSE, she MOVES ON.
This is one of the most important rules for men to learn.
She ain’t going to wait around forever.
Seal the deal.
There’s a set amount of time she’s interested, after which, if you do not CLOSE, she MOVES ON.
This is one of the most important rules for men to learn.
She ain’t going to wait around forever.
Seal the deal.
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How to play the game the right way
Easy...
Don’t make her think she’ll get something you can’t give
During the early “free trial” time, show her a great time
So if she later wants more and you can’t offer that
She still left the situation better than when she came in
Could someone say you left her worse off because you didn’t offer commitment?
Maybe
But like most things in life, it’s about keeping a balance and meeting halfway
You want to stay free, so you stay free
And you did this without lying
That’s the key part
Easy...
Don’t make her think she’ll get something you can’t give
During the early “free trial” time, show her a great time
So if she later wants more and you can’t offer that
She still left the situation better than when she came in
Could someone say you left her worse off because you didn’t offer commitment?
Maybe
But like most things in life, it’s about keeping a balance and meeting halfway
You want to stay free, so you stay free
And you did this without lying
That’s the key part
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Let's do a thought experiment to cleanse your soul:
You see a video of a woman cheating on her man with another guy. Its morbid and disgusting. You think, "what a gross existence.."
Then you scroll and see another video, this time it's a podcast where guys bring on girls that will definitely get them views. She's an OF chick talking about how she wants a 6'5 chad who makes $1m/yr. You think what a gold digging hoe. Used up and expects all that from a man?
Then you repeat this a few more times with a bunch of more videos and stories over the next few days. Do you know what happens to you?
Youve become Grade A radicalized by handpicked propaganda. You become worn and torn on the topic of dating. You repeat weird things like "the West is done for" and "all women are whores"
You become calloused. You take what few viral videos you've seen on the internet and displace the entire existence of women as what you've seen on your phone. With some of the worlds worst examples of the most beautiful and softest creature.
You've become a women-fearing, angry little boy. And you use this online "truth" to run your mind and command of operations. You are miserable. Of course you have difficulty with women; you are suspicious of their every move to a mentally ill level.
Stop watching these videos if this is you. Become disciplined in scrolling right by them. Click you're not interested, rehash your algo. Your future wife and kids will thank you. This is all a show. You'll be better off for it.
Thank me later.
You see a video of a woman cheating on her man with another guy. Its morbid and disgusting. You think, "what a gross existence.."
Then you scroll and see another video, this time it's a podcast where guys bring on girls that will definitely get them views. She's an OF chick talking about how she wants a 6'5 chad who makes $1m/yr. You think what a gold digging hoe. Used up and expects all that from a man?
Then you repeat this a few more times with a bunch of more videos and stories over the next few days. Do you know what happens to you?
Youve become Grade A radicalized by handpicked propaganda. You become worn and torn on the topic of dating. You repeat weird things like "the West is done for" and "all women are whores"
You become calloused. You take what few viral videos you've seen on the internet and displace the entire existence of women as what you've seen on your phone. With some of the worlds worst examples of the most beautiful and softest creature.
You've become a women-fearing, angry little boy. And you use this online "truth" to run your mind and command of operations. You are miserable. Of course you have difficulty with women; you are suspicious of their every move to a mentally ill level.
Stop watching these videos if this is you. Become disciplined in scrolling right by them. Click you're not interested, rehash your algo. Your future wife and kids will thank you. This is all a show. You'll be better off for it.
Thank me later.
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Overlooking a clear dealbreaker is just postponing the damage that will eventually hit you harder than if you had walked away at the start
Believing you can change someone is usually a way of avoiding a hard decision
Have dignity and end it when you see it clearly
Believing you can change someone is usually a way of avoiding a hard decision
Have dignity and end it when you see it clearly
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Not dating women until you hit certain amount of 💵 or a certain stat is one of the wildest copes out there.
If you will not do it now I can promise you that you will not magically do it when you hit your mark.
You should be doing everything on the come up that you would be doing if you already made it big.
If you will not do it now I can promise you that you will not magically do it when you hit your mark.
You should be doing everything on the come up that you would be doing if you already made it big.
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So many guys online be like “I can’t get girls, I’m not tall/hot/rich enough.”
Then you meet them: their personalities are flat, convo is awkward, and social skills bad.
Develop personality, conversation, and social aptitude.
Then see if you care about that other stuff (you won’t).
Then you meet them: their personalities are flat, convo is awkward, and social skills bad.
Develop personality, conversation, and social aptitude.
Then see if you care about that other stuff (you won’t).
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You have to go meet women IN PERSON.
Not just “learning about women” on red/black pill channels that freak you out with the “worst of women.”
Go talk to real women, OFTEN, and you’ll see the “worst of women” are tiny in number and you almost never meet them.
Also, dating apps don’t count.
The “worst of women” thrive on apps.
Not just “learning about women” on red/black pill channels that freak you out with the “worst of women.”
Go talk to real women, OFTEN, and you’ll see the “worst of women” are tiny in number and you almost never meet them.
Also, dating apps don’t count.
The “worst of women” thrive on apps.
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The proper way to build INTRIGUE:
=> Bring up interesting stuff, but don’t explain everything (plant the bait) => When she asks (takes the bait), give a bit more, but still leave things unsaid
=> She’ll keep asking if she’s intrigued
The proper way to build CONNECTION:
=> Talk to her and find out her attitudes / what she values
=> Connect with her over the attitudes and values you share
Do both right, and she’ll feel DEEPLY CONNECTED to you… yet still see you as a man full of intrigue and mystery.
=> Bring up interesting stuff, but don’t explain everything (plant the bait) => When she asks (takes the bait), give a bit more, but still leave things unsaid
=> She’ll keep asking if she’s intrigued
The proper way to build CONNECTION:
=> Talk to her and find out her attitudes / what she values
=> Connect with her over the attitudes and values you share
Do both right, and she’ll feel DEEPLY CONNECTED to you… yet still see you as a man full of intrigue and mystery.
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Do you want girls to CHOOSE you or do you want girls to CHASE you?
❌ CHOOSE: you talk about yourself, hoping she’s impressed.
✅ CHASE: you ask her what she does that’s impressive, and approve of what you like.
❌ CHOOSE: you pay for fancy dates, hoping she feels grateful.
✅ CHASE: you remove money from the equation so the focus is on the connection.
❌ CHOOSE: you act as respectful as possible, hoping she’ll like you.
✅ CHASE: you tease her, bust her balls, and make her qualify herself to you.
❌ CHOOSE: you never stop focusing on her, hoping she won’t run off.
✅ CHASE: you talk to friends and other people; sometimes SHE has to reengage YOU.
❌ CHOOSE: you fill every pause in conversation, hoping it never feels awkward.
✅ CHASE: you leave pauses sometimes, seeing if she’ll fill them.
❌ CHOOSE: you do everything for her, making it as easy as possible to be with you.
✅ CHASE: you ask her to do things for you, testing if she’s willing to invest.
❌ CHOOSE: you keep it platonic, hoping not to scare her by being sexual.
✅ CHASE: you sexualize things at some point, because it’s FUN, and that’s where you want it to go.
Some guys hope to be chosen. Some guys make girls chase them. Decide which one you’ll be, and act accordingly.
❌ CHOOSE: you talk about yourself, hoping she’s impressed.
✅ CHASE: you ask her what she does that’s impressive, and approve of what you like.
❌ CHOOSE: you pay for fancy dates, hoping she feels grateful.
✅ CHASE: you remove money from the equation so the focus is on the connection.
❌ CHOOSE: you act as respectful as possible, hoping she’ll like you.
✅ CHASE: you tease her, bust her balls, and make her qualify herself to you.
❌ CHOOSE: you never stop focusing on her, hoping she won’t run off.
✅ CHASE: you talk to friends and other people; sometimes SHE has to reengage YOU.
❌ CHOOSE: you fill every pause in conversation, hoping it never feels awkward.
✅ CHASE: you leave pauses sometimes, seeing if she’ll fill them.
❌ CHOOSE: you do everything for her, making it as easy as possible to be with you.
✅ CHASE: you ask her to do things for you, testing if she’s willing to invest.
❌ CHOOSE: you keep it platonic, hoping not to scare her by being sexual.
✅ CHASE: you sexualize things at some point, because it’s FUN, and that’s where you want it to go.
Some guys hope to be chosen. Some guys make girls chase them. Decide which one you’ll be, and act accordingly.
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USING “ONLY” TO RESPOND TO WOMEN’S TESTS works extremely well for playful tests or teasing.
Example:
Her: “Do you do this with every girl?”
You: “Only the cool ones / naughty ones / etc.”
Her: “I bet you bring every girl here.”
You: “Only the really bad ones.”
It gives you a vibe of selectiveness while staying relaxed and playful with her test.
Example:
Her: “Do you do this with every girl?”
You: “Only the cool ones / naughty ones / etc.”
Her: “I bet you bring every girl here.”
You: “Only the really bad ones.”
It gives you a vibe of selectiveness while staying relaxed and playful with her test.
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FRUSTRATION with women shows you at least ONE (1) thing:
=> You are with the wrong type of woman, OR
=> You are approaching women the wrong way
Most of the time, it’s BOTH: you are dealing with the wrong type of woman, in the wrong possible way.
=> You are with the wrong type of woman, OR
=> You are approaching women the wrong way
Most of the time, it’s BOTH: you are dealing with the wrong type of woman, in the wrong possible way.
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Game is the skill to: • Approach • initiate • Flirt • Talk • connect • Touch • Lead frame • Make moves • Win people over • Handle pushback • Solve logistics • Seduce • Escalate • Close
You can hide many flaws with solid game.
You cannot hide lack of game with anything except huge fame, wealth, or amazing and brief good luck.
You can hide many flaws with solid game.
You cannot hide lack of game with anything except huge fame, wealth, or amazing and brief good luck.
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Women act the most aggressive with men they discover are:
• Newly single, OR
• Just moved into town, OR
• Only staying a few days, OR
• About to leave soon
These are the men who look like “guys usually taken in a relationship but I caught him at the perfect time” or “no strings fun with a guy who likely has an exciting life somewhere else.”
The man who has been single for long in her town, who is not leaving, who did not just end a breakup, who is not there on holiday, is simply the normal single guy trying to meet someone like everybody else.
Or at least, that is how he appears.
• Newly single, OR
• Just moved into town, OR
• Only staying a few days, OR
• About to leave soon
These are the men who look like “guys usually taken in a relationship but I caught him at the perfect time” or “no strings fun with a guy who likely has an exciting life somewhere else.”
The man who has been single for long in her town, who is not leaving, who did not just end a breakup, who is not there on holiday, is simply the normal single guy trying to meet someone like everybody else.
Or at least, that is how he appears.
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You don’t need to follow every “strict alpha male” rule to succeed with women:
- It’s fine to ask women questions
- It’s fine to build a connection with them
- It’s fine to tell women you like them
- It’s fine to double text
The key is doing it with purpose, calm, and savvy instead of hoping for a result.
- It’s fine to ask women questions
- It’s fine to build a connection with them
- It’s fine to tell women you like them
- It’s fine to double text
The key is doing it with purpose, calm, and savvy instead of hoping for a result.
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Disregard women’s opinions about men. “I like this”, “I like that”... People who express opinions are trying to help themselves. They are not trying to help YOU. Observe what women DO instead!
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Modern women do not care much about being viewed as ‘loose’... But they very, very much care about being viewed as commitment-worthy.
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When women ask you “what are you looking for?”
✅ “Someone I enjoy being around”
✅ “Someone I feel I can relate to”
✅ “Fun times and great connections”
… are all very USEFUL answers.”
✅ “Someone I enjoy being around”
✅ “Someone I feel I can relate to”
✅ “Fun times and great connections”
… are all very USEFUL answers.”
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Tackle your next most achievable obstacle this week:
=> If you think you’re ugly, get a makeover
=> If you think you’re unsocial, sign up for Toastmasters
=> If you’re too serious, take an improv comedy class
=> If you’re too easily intimidated, sign up for Krav Maga or Wing Chun
=> If you have no chill, take a meditation class
=> If you’re too nerdy, take a surfing, snowboarding, or tennis class
The world only sucks for men standing still!
=> If you think you’re ugly, get a makeover
=> If you think you’re unsocial, sign up for Toastmasters
=> If you’re too serious, take an improv comedy class
=> If you’re too easily intimidated, sign up for Krav Maga or Wing Chun
=> If you have no chill, take a meditation class
=> If you’re too nerdy, take a surfing, snowboarding, or tennis class
The world only sucks for men standing still!
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There’s a version of you that has everything figured out in his head.
He knows what kind of woman he wants.
He knows what he’d say if he walked up to her.
He’s replayed the last situation that went wrong so many times he could draw you a diagram of exactly where it fell apart and what he’d do differently.
He feels ready. He’s been ready for a while now.
He hasn’t talked to a woman he didn’t already know in over a month.
This is the thing that kills more potential than fear ever did.
It’s a specific loop where thinking about the problem becomes a substitute for engaging with it and it’s seductive because it feels like work. It’s tiring. It’s detailed. It involves dating. So it registers as progress even though nothing has actually happened.
The guy who’s been burned is the most vulnerable. He’ll spend weeks breaking down what went wrong with the last girl, what he should have said, what he’ll do when the next one comes along.
The next one comes along and he’s not ready because he’s still in the debrief from the one before.
And the cruel part is the analysis is usually correct.
He probably did identify the real mistakes. He probably would handle it differently but your nervous system doesn’t care what you’ve figured out.
The first approach after a long gap feels identical to the first approach you ever did, because your body hasn’t been through it recently, only your mind has.
The only exit is doing something before your brain talks you out of it.
Not a big thing.
Just something real, today, that puts you back in contact with actual women instead of your idea of them.
The longer you stay in your head the more convincing it gets in there and the more the outside world starts to feel like the thing that needs more preparation before you’re ready for it.
You’re not almost ready.
You’ve been almost ready for months.
He knows what kind of woman he wants.
He knows what he’d say if he walked up to her.
He’s replayed the last situation that went wrong so many times he could draw you a diagram of exactly where it fell apart and what he’d do differently.
He feels ready. He’s been ready for a while now.
He hasn’t talked to a woman he didn’t already know in over a month.
This is the thing that kills more potential than fear ever did.
It’s a specific loop where thinking about the problem becomes a substitute for engaging with it and it’s seductive because it feels like work. It’s tiring. It’s detailed. It involves dating. So it registers as progress even though nothing has actually happened.
The guy who’s been burned is the most vulnerable. He’ll spend weeks breaking down what went wrong with the last girl, what he should have said, what he’ll do when the next one comes along.
The next one comes along and he’s not ready because he’s still in the debrief from the one before.
And the cruel part is the analysis is usually correct.
He probably did identify the real mistakes. He probably would handle it differently but your nervous system doesn’t care what you’ve figured out.
The first approach after a long gap feels identical to the first approach you ever did, because your body hasn’t been through it recently, only your mind has.
The only exit is doing something before your brain talks you out of it.
Not a big thing.
Just something real, today, that puts you back in contact with actual women instead of your idea of them.
The longer you stay in your head the more convincing it gets in there and the more the outside world starts to feel like the thing that needs more preparation before you’re ready for it.
You’re not almost ready.
You’ve been almost ready for months.
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