Whatever girls say they want, do the opposite:
=> “I want a man who respects me” ---> you should tease her and treat her like a child
=> “I want a man who’s there when I need him” ---> you should be hard to find, busy, and not always free
=> “I want a man who’ll provide for me” ---> you should be the challenging casual guy she hopes to fix
=> “I want a man who is ready to commit” ---> you should seem a little afraid of commitment
=> “I want a man who wants only me” ---> you should hint that you see other women
Don’t be a silly character, of course.
But do this, and you immediately stand out from all the eager men in her life.
And what does she do with the special, cool guy like you who is not eager?
She CHASES.
Even after she gets you, she KEEPS chasing (to hold onto you).
=> “I want a man who respects me” ---> you should tease her and treat her like a child
=> “I want a man who’s there when I need him” ---> you should be hard to find, busy, and not always free
=> “I want a man who’ll provide for me” ---> you should be the challenging casual guy she hopes to fix
=> “I want a man who is ready to commit” ---> you should seem a little afraid of commitment
=> “I want a man who wants only me” ---> you should hint that you see other women
Don’t be a silly character, of course.
But do this, and you immediately stand out from all the eager men in her life.
And what does she do with the special, cool guy like you who is not eager?
She CHASES.
Even after she gets you, she KEEPS chasing (to hold onto you).
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💊 Hard truth most men don’t want to hear:
If you want to attract women, you have to talk about things women actually find interesting.
There’s been endless talk about “how to talk to girls,” but most of that advice is trash.
I once heard a “guru” say:
“It doesn’t matter what you talk about… just be passionate.”
Sounds nice.
And sure, being passionate is better than being a dry, boring robot.
Thing is...
If a girl doesn’t know you yet, and she’s still sizing you up…
Talking about your niche model train hobby even with all the passion in the world, won’t click with her.
She simply can’t connect with that.
That’s why you need to learn the kinds of topics she naturally connects to.
Those are easy for her to respond to and they quietly show that you’ve been around women before.
For example:
If you approach a girl wearing headphones…
Would you ask if she’s familiar with Beethoven’s Fifth Symphony?
Or would you tease her about listening to Taylor Swift’s new album?
It’s a no-brainer.
The guys who struggle most with this are the analytical, logical, “successful” types.
They grew up being told by their parents that they’re special because they’re software engineers or high-value professionals the “backbone of civilization.”
So they think it’s beneath them to talk about things women like celebrity gossip, nails, astrology, etc.
But women don’t see it that way.
99% of them don’t care about the technical details of your job lol.
They care about how they feel around you.
And you reach those feelings by talking about things that connect to their world.
If you want to attract women, you have to talk about things women actually find interesting.
There’s been endless talk about “how to talk to girls,” but most of that advice is trash.
I once heard a “guru” say:
“It doesn’t matter what you talk about… just be passionate.”
Sounds nice.
And sure, being passionate is better than being a dry, boring robot.
Thing is...
If a girl doesn’t know you yet, and she’s still sizing you up…
Talking about your niche model train hobby even with all the passion in the world, won’t click with her.
She simply can’t connect with that.
That’s why you need to learn the kinds of topics she naturally connects to.
Those are easy for her to respond to and they quietly show that you’ve been around women before.
For example:
If you approach a girl wearing headphones…
Would you ask if she’s familiar with Beethoven’s Fifth Symphony?
Or would you tease her about listening to Taylor Swift’s new album?
It’s a no-brainer.
The guys who struggle most with this are the analytical, logical, “successful” types.
They grew up being told by their parents that they’re special because they’re software engineers or high-value professionals the “backbone of civilization.”
So they think it’s beneath them to talk about things women like celebrity gossip, nails, astrology, etc.
But women don’t see it that way.
99% of them don’t care about the technical details of your job lol.
They care about how they feel around you.
And you reach those feelings by talking about things that connect to their world.
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Q&A.
If you have any questions regarding dating, relationship or life.
Then feel free to ask away.
Will be in the comments waiting to answer your question 👇
If you have any questions regarding dating, relationship or life.
Then feel free to ask away.
Will be in the comments waiting to answer your question 👇
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Dating success has less to do with your achievements or “who you are” as a person, and more to do with how you talk.
That’s why men with high paying jobs and sculpted abs still lose to the funny, confident guy who just knows how to talk lol.
I’m not saying your value doesn’t matter but most of you don’t realize how short sighted women can be.
Not shallow like “materialistic,” but shallow in the sense that emotions override logic.
When their feelings are stirred, they’re not cross checking some mental list of what makes a good man. They just follow the moment and go where the fun is.
That’s why women often make “bad choices” or seem irrational.
They’re just chasing short term emotion, their feelings control their moves.
So doesn’t it make sense that...
If you know how to shift a woman’s emotions through conversation, you can also shift her decisions?
Food for thought.
That’s why men with high paying jobs and sculpted abs still lose to the funny, confident guy who just knows how to talk lol.
I’m not saying your value doesn’t matter but most of you don’t realize how short sighted women can be.
Not shallow like “materialistic,” but shallow in the sense that emotions override logic.
When their feelings are stirred, they’re not cross checking some mental list of what makes a good man. They just follow the moment and go where the fun is.
That’s why women often make “bad choices” or seem irrational.
They’re just chasing short term emotion, their feelings control their moves.
So doesn’t it make sense that...
If you know how to shift a woman’s emotions through conversation, you can also shift her decisions?
Food for thought.
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A lot of guys today don’t like the idea of being persistent with girls.
Let’s be honest: this is a loser way to think 😞
Not because “you’re a loser if you don’t persist,” but because guys who stop trying keep losing with a lot of girls.
Every dating chance is a competition with other men. For most animals, that competition is direct the bigger buck steps up, and the smaller buck walks away knowing he lost.
But with humans, the competition is hidden. You don’t see the other men you’re up against.
Her social media followers aren’t your rivals those guys are background noise. She doesn’t see them as options.
Your real competition is:
=> The guy at her job who chats with her every day
=> The friend one of her girlfriends just introduced her to
=> The guy from a party who’s texting her now
=> Her ex who popped back up to see if she’s single
That’s who you’re really competing with.
When you go for a girl who’s open but she doesn’t respond the way you hoped and you stop trying then another guy wins.
You might not see him or even know he exists, but he’s there, waiting, and he got her because you didn’t.
Why did he win?
It’s not because he’s more “alpha” than you. Usually, it’s one of these:
• He was further ahead she already trusted or liked him more
• He moved faster while you were thinking of what to text, he already took her out
• He kept going while you gave up, he stayed consistent and got her out
Guys who quit fast often think persistence makes you a simp.
But if you’re the one dating the girls you want, and they’re loving your vibe, while the quitter gets nothing, who’s really the simp? Not you.
Persistence isn’t chasing. You don’t want to chase but you should always persist.
Here’s what’s NOT chasing:
✅ Sending a playful follow-up when she turns down a date (“Come on, you’ll have fun. I know a great café.”)
✅ Messaging her once or twice a week for a few weeks to see if she’ll meet up
✅ If she pulls back when you try to kiss her, keep things relaxed, build more comfort, and try again later
✅ If she says “I don’t move fast,” stay cool, hang out, make her more at ease, then try again later
The guy who can’t persist keeps hitting walls with women.
He meets a girl, faces one bit of resistance, and gives up.
That’s frustrating and probably why guys who quit so easily always seem bitter. They’ve got energy that never goes anywhere.
Once you learn to persist calmly, without chasing or being needy, you’ll win a lot more than you expect.
Girls who first seemed resistant will drop their guard and open up to you.
And despite what “quitter” guys say (“who wants a girl that’s hard to get?”), these are the exact women they dream about the ones who don’t say yes to every guy, the ones that take skill and confidence to win over.
Don’t be the small buck walking away with his tail down.
Think like a winner, stay cool, stay persistent, and become the buck who wins the girl.
Let’s be honest: this is a loser way to think 😞
Not because “you’re a loser if you don’t persist,” but because guys who stop trying keep losing with a lot of girls.
Every dating chance is a competition with other men. For most animals, that competition is direct the bigger buck steps up, and the smaller buck walks away knowing he lost.
But with humans, the competition is hidden. You don’t see the other men you’re up against.
Her social media followers aren’t your rivals those guys are background noise. She doesn’t see them as options.
Your real competition is:
=> The guy at her job who chats with her every day
=> The friend one of her girlfriends just introduced her to
=> The guy from a party who’s texting her now
=> Her ex who popped back up to see if she’s single
That’s who you’re really competing with.
When you go for a girl who’s open but she doesn’t respond the way you hoped and you stop trying then another guy wins.
You might not see him or even know he exists, but he’s there, waiting, and he got her because you didn’t.
Why did he win?
It’s not because he’s more “alpha” than you. Usually, it’s one of these:
• He was further ahead she already trusted or liked him more
• He moved faster while you were thinking of what to text, he already took her out
• He kept going while you gave up, he stayed consistent and got her out
Guys who quit fast often think persistence makes you a simp.
But if you’re the one dating the girls you want, and they’re loving your vibe, while the quitter gets nothing, who’s really the simp? Not you.
Persistence isn’t chasing. You don’t want to chase but you should always persist.
Here’s what’s NOT chasing:
✅ Sending a playful follow-up when she turns down a date (“Come on, you’ll have fun. I know a great café.”)
✅ Messaging her once or twice a week for a few weeks to see if she’ll meet up
✅ If she pulls back when you try to kiss her, keep things relaxed, build more comfort, and try again later
✅ If she says “I don’t move fast,” stay cool, hang out, make her more at ease, then try again later
The guy who can’t persist keeps hitting walls with women.
He meets a girl, faces one bit of resistance, and gives up.
That’s frustrating and probably why guys who quit so easily always seem bitter. They’ve got energy that never goes anywhere.
Once you learn to persist calmly, without chasing or being needy, you’ll win a lot more than you expect.
Girls who first seemed resistant will drop their guard and open up to you.
And despite what “quitter” guys say (“who wants a girl that’s hard to get?”), these are the exact women they dream about the ones who don’t say yes to every guy, the ones that take skill and confidence to win over.
Don’t be the small buck walking away with his tail down.
Think like a winner, stay cool, stay persistent, and become the buck who wins the girl.
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One of the most overlooked ways to run game is by talking to a girl about what you’re doing in real time. Almost like you’re narrating the moment from above.
“Okay, here’s the part where I tell you how attractive you are. I’ll probably mention how much I love your dress and your style. By now, you’re already falling for me, but you’ll still play a little hard to get to keep it fun.”
Talking to a woman this way hits multiple layers at once.
=> It creates a shared secret between you two during the pickup, which builds trust and intimacy.
=> It removes awkwardness and builds anticipation, making escalation smoother.
=> It lets you recover easily if you say something off (“you didn’t like that one, but you were too into me to care”).
=> It adds a playful, sexy layer where you both get to flirt freely, since it’s no longer you doing it, but the “characters” in your story.
Approaching can feel intense sometimes. But you can make it way more relaxed for both of you by shifting the focus from what’s happening to talking about what’s happening.
Try it and enjoy the flow.
“Okay, here’s the part where I tell you how attractive you are. I’ll probably mention how much I love your dress and your style. By now, you’re already falling for me, but you’ll still play a little hard to get to keep it fun.”
Talking to a woman this way hits multiple layers at once.
=> It creates a shared secret between you two during the pickup, which builds trust and intimacy.
=> It removes awkwardness and builds anticipation, making escalation smoother.
=> It lets you recover easily if you say something off (“you didn’t like that one, but you were too into me to care”).
=> It adds a playful, sexy layer where you both get to flirt freely, since it’s no longer you doing it, but the “characters” in your story.
Approaching can feel intense sometimes. But you can make it way more relaxed for both of you by shifting the focus from what’s happening to talking about what’s happening.
Try it and enjoy the flow.
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A common reason marriages/relationship fall apart is that, early on, the guy is so scared of upsetting or losing the girl that he starts hiding his needs and constantly accommodating hers.
Over time, this creates worse behavior and entitlement, because she learns that by getting mad, she can control him and get whatever she wants.
The result is a dishonest, disconnected relationship filled with resentment. It can sometimes be fixed, but only through serious “shock therapy” meaning major drama. It’s like breaking a bone that healed wrong and hoping it resets properly.
The moral is simple:
If a woman you’re getting serious with isn’t at least 80% aligned with you on values and goals, don’t ignore it, walk away.
And when bad behavior shows up, stop it early.
Set boundaries and be ready to walk if needed.
The moment you give up on your core standards or let her intimidate you, that’s when the relationship starts to rot.
Yes, you might lose her if you do this but if she was going to leave during the early infatuation phase, you would have lost her later - along with the life you built over the years with her
Over time, this creates worse behavior and entitlement, because she learns that by getting mad, she can control him and get whatever she wants.
The result is a dishonest, disconnected relationship filled with resentment. It can sometimes be fixed, but only through serious “shock therapy” meaning major drama. It’s like breaking a bone that healed wrong and hoping it resets properly.
The moral is simple:
If a woman you’re getting serious with isn’t at least 80% aligned with you on values and goals, don’t ignore it, walk away.
And when bad behavior shows up, stop it early.
Set boundaries and be ready to walk if needed.
The moment you give up on your core standards or let her intimidate you, that’s when the relationship starts to rot.
Yes, you might lose her if you do this but if she was going to leave during the early infatuation phase, you would have lost her later - along with the life you built over the years with her
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You don’t need to choose the most attractive girl you’ve ever met.
But if you’re going to commit to a woman, she must turn you on.
If you feel even a hint of doubt about her looks like hesitating to be seen with her or not enjoying looking at her...
It’s already dead in the water.
Move on.
But if you’re going to commit to a woman, she must turn you on.
If you feel even a hint of doubt about her looks like hesitating to be seen with her or not enjoying looking at her...
It’s already dead in the water.
Move on.
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This will upset some people, but “dating for marriage” in 2025 is a waste of time. It doesn’t work, it just turns women off.
If you meet a girl with any goal other than having fun and sharing good sex, she’ll feel the agenda and disappear.
Women aren’t out here trying to “be wives.” It’s not just feminism, it’s basic female psychology.
A woman only wants to be a wife to a man she desires and who won her over. She wants to feel like she was so unique, so irresistible, that she made him commit.
It’s deeply unromantic for a woman to date a guy whose main goal is “finding someone to settle down with.” It makes her feel like she’s just filling a checklist. And it kills the natural spark with pressure and expectation.
Your desire to sleep with her needs to come first in the dating process.
That doesn’t mean you sleep with everyone or rush things. It means your sexual drive, the energy that creates tension has to lead the interaction. She needs to feel that desire.
This has always been the natural order. People used to marry quickly because they wanted to satisfy that drive. But modern religion separated sex from vitality, treating it as a side bonus to something “holier.”
That’s completely backward. Marriage should grow into something deeper, but it always begins with the same spark it always has:
Sex.
Making this the foundation is not only how you attract women today, it’s how you build real, lasting connection.
Anyone telling you otherwise simply doesn’t understand the modern dating landscape and is making it harder for you to actually find a wife.
If you meet a girl with any goal other than having fun and sharing good sex, she’ll feel the agenda and disappear.
Women aren’t out here trying to “be wives.” It’s not just feminism, it’s basic female psychology.
A woman only wants to be a wife to a man she desires and who won her over. She wants to feel like she was so unique, so irresistible, that she made him commit.
It’s deeply unromantic for a woman to date a guy whose main goal is “finding someone to settle down with.” It makes her feel like she’s just filling a checklist. And it kills the natural spark with pressure and expectation.
Your desire to sleep with her needs to come first in the dating process.
That doesn’t mean you sleep with everyone or rush things. It means your sexual drive, the energy that creates tension has to lead the interaction. She needs to feel that desire.
This has always been the natural order. People used to marry quickly because they wanted to satisfy that drive. But modern religion separated sex from vitality, treating it as a side bonus to something “holier.”
That’s completely backward. Marriage should grow into something deeper, but it always begins with the same spark it always has:
Sex.
Making this the foundation is not only how you attract women today, it’s how you build real, lasting connection.
Anyone telling you otherwise simply doesn’t understand the modern dating landscape and is making it harder for you to actually find a wife.
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For men to achieve success, they must pass through many tough challenges.
Anyone who’s truly capable has had to ignore their feelings at some point, or at least separate them in order to move forward.
You’re focused on results and getting things done. Feelings rarely matter much in that process.
But while becoming more productive, we also became more numb.
And that’s what makes dating even more difficult.
Because dating skills are the complete opposite.
You must connect with more emotions, paying attention to the experience rather than speed or results.
Humor, tension, comfort, and social charm all have small layers and fine details like how Michelin Star dishes have rich mixes of taste that normal food doesn’t.
But since most of us trained ourselves to shut off emotions, we now struggle to feel them again.
Part of learning game is helping you switch them back on through Emotional Logic.
We are breaking down vague “vibes” into structure and rules that can be learned with logic, not only emotion.
Anyone who’s truly capable has had to ignore their feelings at some point, or at least separate them in order to move forward.
You’re focused on results and getting things done. Feelings rarely matter much in that process.
But while becoming more productive, we also became more numb.
And that’s what makes dating even more difficult.
Because dating skills are the complete opposite.
You must connect with more emotions, paying attention to the experience rather than speed or results.
Humor, tension, comfort, and social charm all have small layers and fine details like how Michelin Star dishes have rich mixes of taste that normal food doesn’t.
But since most of us trained ourselves to shut off emotions, we now struggle to feel them again.
Part of learning game is helping you switch them back on through Emotional Logic.
We are breaking down vague “vibes” into structure and rules that can be learned with logic, not only emotion.
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Here are some texting openers and ways to move the convo forward:
Intrigue Openers: "Can you keep a secret?"
"Haha yes ?
General opener: Like the vibe.. Quick question
" Thanks yes?"
Once they respond ask "Ever been to (insert venue)?"
She will say "No why? " or "Yes its amazing"
If she says no Say "Heard it's cool we should check it out."
Or if she says yes "Yes it is amazing. We should check it out.
Always ask when they are free.
A lot of guys will tell you to pick two days like Thursday or Saturday and have them choose.
Women sometimes have important things going on in their life.
Simply don't be to available for her.
If the day/ time doesn't work for you.
Switch it.
Dont leave pussy on the table though because you box them into 2 days out of the 7.
Intrigue Openers: "Can you keep a secret?"
"Haha yes ?
General opener: Like the vibe.. Quick question
" Thanks yes?"
Once they respond ask "Ever been to (insert venue)?"
She will say "No why? " or "Yes its amazing"
If she says no Say "Heard it's cool we should check it out."
Or if she says yes "Yes it is amazing. We should check it out.
Always ask when they are free.
A lot of guys will tell you to pick two days like Thursday or Saturday and have them choose.
Women sometimes have important things going on in their life.
Simply don't be to available for her.
If the day/ time doesn't work for you.
Switch it.
Dont leave pussy on the table though because you box them into 2 days out of the 7.
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Coming this November:
The Harem Series which is 16 parts of forbidden lessons on desire, control, and emotional dominance.
Only a few will understand it.
Most men who read it… will never see women the same way again.
Will be available on substack
The Harem Series which is 16 parts of forbidden lessons on desire, control, and emotional dominance.
Only a few will understand it.
Most men who read it… will never see women the same way again.
Will be available on substack
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Guys vastly overestimate how much girls sleep around.
No, most women aren’t secretly out here “riding the carousel.”
But and this is important, there are times when another man has entered the frame or is quietly gaining ground over you.
Here’s how you can usually tell:
1) She’s interested but flaky.
She laughs at your jokes, responds quickly, is sweet, and doesn’t argue but when it’s time to meet, she starts disappearing.
Now, don’t automatically assume there’s another guy.
Some girls are just scatterbrained, or they enjoy attention without follow-through.
But it’s possible there’s another man she’s seeing who currently excites her more.
Flakiness is usually a sign of divided attention and in dating, divided attention often means competition.
2) She was all in… until she wasn’t.
You had momentum.
She was texting back instantly, flirting, agreeing to plans then out of nowhere, she goes cold.
That kind of 180 doesn’t happen by accident.
Either you said or did something that lowered her attraction… or another guy beat you to the finish line.
When this happens, don’t chase, don’t question, and definitely don’t try to “fix” it.
Her silence is communication.
The ball’s in her court now and as a man, you walk away with your dignity intact.
3) She resurfaces with a random “hey.”
This one’s classic.
You haven’t spoken in weeks, maybe months, and suddenly she pops up like nothing happened.
That’s your signal that the other guy she was seeing crashed and burned.
Women rarely come back out of nowhere unless there’s a void to fill.
She might even tell you, “Yeah, I was seeing someone, but it didn’t go anywhere.”
Don’t overthink it.
Don’t tease her.
Don’t try to get clever.
Just move forward and set up a meet.
No, most women aren’t secretly out here “riding the carousel.”
But and this is important, there are times when another man has entered the frame or is quietly gaining ground over you.
Here’s how you can usually tell:
1) She’s interested but flaky.
She laughs at your jokes, responds quickly, is sweet, and doesn’t argue but when it’s time to meet, she starts disappearing.
Now, don’t automatically assume there’s another guy.
Some girls are just scatterbrained, or they enjoy attention without follow-through.
But it’s possible there’s another man she’s seeing who currently excites her more.
Flakiness is usually a sign of divided attention and in dating, divided attention often means competition.
2) She was all in… until she wasn’t.
You had momentum.
She was texting back instantly, flirting, agreeing to plans then out of nowhere, she goes cold.
That kind of 180 doesn’t happen by accident.
Either you said or did something that lowered her attraction… or another guy beat you to the finish line.
When this happens, don’t chase, don’t question, and definitely don’t try to “fix” it.
Her silence is communication.
The ball’s in her court now and as a man, you walk away with your dignity intact.
3) She resurfaces with a random “hey.”
This one’s classic.
You haven’t spoken in weeks, maybe months, and suddenly she pops up like nothing happened.
That’s your signal that the other guy she was seeing crashed and burned.
Women rarely come back out of nowhere unless there’s a void to fill.
She might even tell you, “Yeah, I was seeing someone, but it didn’t go anywhere.”
Don’t overthink it.
Don’t tease her.
Don’t try to get clever.
Just move forward and set up a meet.
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HOW TO KNOW IF A GIRL IS INTERESTED IN GOING OUT WITH YOU
When you ask a girl out, try this approach:
"We could grab drinks this weekend. Unless that's not really your thing."
This way, you can come off as relaxed and not too pushy.
Even if she’s not available, it gives her a chance to show she’s still interested and wants to see you another time.
This works well when you’re moving things along quickly with a girl.
This method comes in two steps:
1. Suggest something: For example, “We should play tennis this weekend.”
2. Add a soft doubt: Then follow it with something like, “Or maybe tennis isn’t your thing?”
This gives her two options: either agree that she’s not into the idea or correct you and show interest by saying she would like to do what you suggested.
She can respond in 5 different ways:
1. REJECT THE IDEA WITH NO INTEREST IN YOU.
“Yeah, tennis isn’t really my thing.”
If that’s all she says, it’s a no to both the plan and you.
Time to move on to someone else who’s more interested.
2. REJECT THE IDEA BUT STILL SHOW INTEREST.
“Yeah, tennis isn’t really my thing. But we could do something else!”
Here, she’s turning down the tennis idea but still showing she likes you by suggesting something else.
She’s hoping you’ll offer a different plan, so you still have a chance.
3. LIKES THE IDEA BUT DOESN’T SAY YES TO THE DATE OR SHOW INTEREST.
“Oh, I do like tennis. That’s definitely my thing.”
She likes tennis, but she hasn’t accepted the date with you.
She’s avoiding the deeper question of whether she’s interested in you, which usually means she’s not.
You can try pushing forward, but this rarely turns into something.
4. POLITELY REJECTS THE PLAN BUT OFFERS AN ALTERNATIVE.
“No, tennis is great! Or, there’s a new museum opening this weekend… we could go to that?”
She’s turning down the tennis date politely but giving you another option she’d prefer.
If you stick with your original plan, there’s a good chance she’ll flake.
Instead, go with her suggestion if it works for you, or come up with something simple that she’ll agree to later.
Watch out for her saying “No” or “Nah” even if she sounds interested-that’s usually a sign she doesn’t want to do your original plan with you.
5. ENTHUSIASTICALLY ACCEPTS.
“Oh my God, I love tennis! Yes!”
She’s excited, but you don’t know if it’s because of the plan or because she likes you.
A good rule to follow is that it’s 50/50 – she’s excited about both the idea and you.
When you ask a girl out, try this approach:
"We could grab drinks this weekend. Unless that's not really your thing."
This way, you can come off as relaxed and not too pushy.
Even if she’s not available, it gives her a chance to show she’s still interested and wants to see you another time.
This works well when you’re moving things along quickly with a girl.
This method comes in two steps:
1. Suggest something: For example, “We should play tennis this weekend.”
2. Add a soft doubt: Then follow it with something like, “Or maybe tennis isn’t your thing?”
This gives her two options: either agree that she’s not into the idea or correct you and show interest by saying she would like to do what you suggested.
She can respond in 5 different ways:
1. REJECT THE IDEA WITH NO INTEREST IN YOU.
“Yeah, tennis isn’t really my thing.”
If that’s all she says, it’s a no to both the plan and you.
Time to move on to someone else who’s more interested.
2. REJECT THE IDEA BUT STILL SHOW INTEREST.
“Yeah, tennis isn’t really my thing. But we could do something else!”
Here, she’s turning down the tennis idea but still showing she likes you by suggesting something else.
She’s hoping you’ll offer a different plan, so you still have a chance.
3. LIKES THE IDEA BUT DOESN’T SAY YES TO THE DATE OR SHOW INTEREST.
“Oh, I do like tennis. That’s definitely my thing.”
She likes tennis, but she hasn’t accepted the date with you.
She’s avoiding the deeper question of whether she’s interested in you, which usually means she’s not.
You can try pushing forward, but this rarely turns into something.
4. POLITELY REJECTS THE PLAN BUT OFFERS AN ALTERNATIVE.
“No, tennis is great! Or, there’s a new museum opening this weekend… we could go to that?”
She’s turning down the tennis date politely but giving you another option she’d prefer.
If you stick with your original plan, there’s a good chance she’ll flake.
Instead, go with her suggestion if it works for you, or come up with something simple that she’ll agree to later.
Watch out for her saying “No” or “Nah” even if she sounds interested-that’s usually a sign she doesn’t want to do your original plan with you.
5. ENTHUSIASTICALLY ACCEPTS.
“Oh my God, I love tennis! Yes!”
She’s excited, but you don’t know if it’s because of the plan or because she likes you.
A good rule to follow is that it’s 50/50 – she’s excited about both the idea and you.
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Being MYSTERIOUS vs MR. MYSTERIOUS (a layer).
What makes a guy mysterious? Boundaries.
The mystery comes from the fact that you are not looking to share too much about yourself, with just anyone, and people need to earn your trust/friendship to learn more about you, outside of surface level shit... yes, this INCLUDES WOMEN.
Boundaries are developed, almost earned, like battle scars. You cannot fake this.
MR. MYSTERIOUS would be a guy, who is keeping his mouth shut as a TECHNIQUE.
Thinking that if he does not reveal things about himself, he will get the other person to like them, but that is not the case, because people intuitively know if you are real or fake.
People who are very open, very fast, are either people who have yet not developed boundaries, in which case, it is not a sin, they are just normal... and people who are trying to convince you of something... sell you a dream.
Important distinction.
What makes a guy mysterious? Boundaries.
The mystery comes from the fact that you are not looking to share too much about yourself, with just anyone, and people need to earn your trust/friendship to learn more about you, outside of surface level shit... yes, this INCLUDES WOMEN.
Boundaries are developed, almost earned, like battle scars. You cannot fake this.
MR. MYSTERIOUS would be a guy, who is keeping his mouth shut as a TECHNIQUE.
Thinking that if he does not reveal things about himself, he will get the other person to like them, but that is not the case, because people intuitively know if you are real or fake.
People who are very open, very fast, are either people who have yet not developed boundaries, in which case, it is not a sin, they are just normal... and people who are trying to convince you of something... sell you a dream.
Important distinction.
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THE PERFECT FIRST DATE (STEP BY STEP)
In this post, we are going to be going through how to run a first date, the important steps to go from the moment you meet the girl all the way to closing and ideally crushing the first date.
The very first point that I have here is...
THE OPEN / VIBE CHECK
So the first 5-10 secs when you meet the girl is extremely important because of you can:
- Open
- Be confident
- Smile
- Show her good emotions
- Little bit of physicality and intent (hugging her)
- Compliment her look
Doing all these things will put her at ease and set the foundation for the rest of the interaction.
Bad example (Don't do this)
- Not smiling
- Being awkward
The more awkward or uncomfortable you are in the beginning of the interaction, the harder it's going to be to get her to open up, get close to her or even escalate.
From there once we have started the date, the next step is...
TALK AND VIBE
You want to start talking the moment you meet the girl (also as we are moving into the designated venue or as you both are going to get a bite to eat or a drink)
You want to keep the conversation going.
Doesn't have to be anything crazy, just talk about how her/your day is going.
But be ready to keep the conversation going in the first couple minutes.
NO INTERVIEW MODE
This is super important cause a lot of guys when told to keep the conversation going always delve into asking her interview-esque questions like:
"Where do you live?"
"What do you do for work?"
"What are your hobbies?"
"How long have you lived here?"
All this questions are not bad per se but now is not the time for that.
SEATING / POSITIONING
This is super underrated but it's very important in the course of the date.
A big mistake I see guys make on the date is that they sit down across the table (very far from the girl), this will make it hard to get close to the girl to get accustomed to their touch and to escalate at all.
Ahead of time, you should pick out a good venue where there is a couch area, bar stools or even a square table before the date starts that has:
- A good vibe
- A good ambiance
- Good seating
Point is: Try to sit adjacent to her instead of across.
Seating/positioning allows you to physically escalate effortlessly.
The next step is teasing...
TEASING
So you're already vibing with the girl but at some point, you got to start teasing her.
This should happen within the first 5-10 minutes of the date.
You don't need to blatantly make fun of her
You should just start playfully teasing her which will increase the vibe and help you get into a playful back and forth banter early on.
It will also make it easier to transition to flirting later on.
TOUCH
(This should be done in the first 15-20 mins)
This is super important cause not only are you going to break the physical touch barrier the moment the date starts (from greeting/open) but you still want to progressively get the girl a little more accustomed to your touch.
That's why I recommend the seating/positioning to be close so that you can just touch her without really trying, maybe your leg and hers are touching if you both are next to the barstool or you could playfully push her away at some point or there is a high five or a hug.
Basically something going on where there is little bit of touch building up throughout the date.
Like I said, all this can be done within the first 15-20 mins cause you don't need to wait 2-3 hrs or more to get a little bit touchy and actually display a little bit of intent and start flirting.
FLIRTING
You should start flirting within the first 15-30 minutes cause...
The longer you wait, the harder it is to bring that "side" out and the vibe is just going to be dying out.
This stuff need to happen within that time range to get the girl engaged and to actually begin to build things up.
By now, we are 15-30 mins into the date and we are already vibing, touching, teasing and flirting so the next step would be...
COMFORT BUILDING
In this post, we are going to be going through how to run a first date, the important steps to go from the moment you meet the girl all the way to closing and ideally crushing the first date.
The very first point that I have here is...
THE OPEN / VIBE CHECK
So the first 5-10 secs when you meet the girl is extremely important because of you can:
- Open
- Be confident
- Smile
- Show her good emotions
- Little bit of physicality and intent (hugging her)
- Compliment her look
Doing all these things will put her at ease and set the foundation for the rest of the interaction.
Bad example (Don't do this)
- Not smiling
- Being awkward
The more awkward or uncomfortable you are in the beginning of the interaction, the harder it's going to be to get her to open up, get close to her or even escalate.
From there once we have started the date, the next step is...
TALK AND VIBE
You want to start talking the moment you meet the girl (also as we are moving into the designated venue or as you both are going to get a bite to eat or a drink)
You want to keep the conversation going.
Doesn't have to be anything crazy, just talk about how her/your day is going.
But be ready to keep the conversation going in the first couple minutes.
NO INTERVIEW MODE
This is super important cause a lot of guys when told to keep the conversation going always delve into asking her interview-esque questions like:
"Where do you live?"
"What do you do for work?"
"What are your hobbies?"
"How long have you lived here?"
All this questions are not bad per se but now is not the time for that.
SEATING / POSITIONING
This is super underrated but it's very important in the course of the date.
A big mistake I see guys make on the date is that they sit down across the table (very far from the girl), this will make it hard to get close to the girl to get accustomed to their touch and to escalate at all.
Ahead of time, you should pick out a good venue where there is a couch area, bar stools or even a square table before the date starts that has:
- A good vibe
- A good ambiance
- Good seating
Point is: Try to sit adjacent to her instead of across.
Seating/positioning allows you to physically escalate effortlessly.
The next step is teasing...
TEASING
So you're already vibing with the girl but at some point, you got to start teasing her.
This should happen within the first 5-10 minutes of the date.
You don't need to blatantly make fun of her
You should just start playfully teasing her which will increase the vibe and help you get into a playful back and forth banter early on.
It will also make it easier to transition to flirting later on.
TOUCH
(This should be done in the first 15-20 mins)
This is super important cause not only are you going to break the physical touch barrier the moment the date starts (from greeting/open) but you still want to progressively get the girl a little more accustomed to your touch.
That's why I recommend the seating/positioning to be close so that you can just touch her without really trying, maybe your leg and hers are touching if you both are next to the barstool or you could playfully push her away at some point or there is a high five or a hug.
Basically something going on where there is little bit of touch building up throughout the date.
Like I said, all this can be done within the first 15-20 mins cause you don't need to wait 2-3 hrs or more to get a little bit touchy and actually display a little bit of intent and start flirting.
FLIRTING
You should start flirting within the first 15-30 minutes cause...
The longer you wait, the harder it is to bring that "side" out and the vibe is just going to be dying out.
This stuff need to happen within that time range to get the girl engaged and to actually begin to build things up.
By now, we are 15-30 mins into the date and we are already vibing, touching, teasing and flirting so the next step would be...
COMFORT BUILDING
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