If you want a strong long-term relationship, your voice has to be the one she listens to most
That’s you showing her the way, and her following your lead
Sadly the older she gets, the more likely she’s already chosen who to follow: her dad, her ex, her mom, or that feminist friend
That’s you showing her the way, and her following your lead
Sadly the older she gets, the more likely she’s already chosen who to follow: her dad, her ex, her mom, or that feminist friend
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Nuance on telling your girl "No"
There are only 2 types in what women expect from men:
1. Things men have always handled
Examples:
- Protecting your mom if someone attacks you both
- Figuring out how to earn more if the home is broke
- Making the first move with girls
- Having a plan for the date
2. Things girls ask when they want to be spoiled (this includes your mom and sister, they’re women too)
Examples:
- "I had a great idea!" And it’s a trip she wants you to fund
- $500 USD first date meals
- Use up credit cards just because she’s upset
- I want a new iphone/mac/car just because
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Women will praise you for handling type #1 stuff and will usually back off if you slack on those
The good news is that if you say NO to type #2 stuff, they’ll actually honor you more (yes, even your family)
The issue with simps is they try hard to meet type #2 stuff while ignoring type #1 stuff.
That’s why women use them and still feel grossed out by them.
There are only 2 types in what women expect from men:
1. Things men have always handled
Examples:
- Protecting your mom if someone attacks you both
- Figuring out how to earn more if the home is broke
- Making the first move with girls
- Having a plan for the date
2. Things girls ask when they want to be spoiled (this includes your mom and sister, they’re women too)
Examples:
- "I had a great idea!" And it’s a trip she wants you to fund
- $500 USD first date meals
- Use up credit cards just because she’s upset
- I want a new iphone/mac/car just because
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Women will praise you for handling type #1 stuff and will usually back off if you slack on those
The good news is that if you say NO to type #2 stuff, they’ll actually honor you more (yes, even your family)
The issue with simps is they try hard to meet type #2 stuff while ignoring type #1 stuff.
That’s why women use them and still feel grossed out by them.
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How to know if you’re shadowbanned on a dating app:
If you were getting lots of matches and suddenly it drops off, that’s something to notice.
Doesn’t mean it’s a shadowban for sure though.
The clearest way to check is if you still get matches on Bumble and Hinge but Tinder goes dry all at once—that’s strong proof of a shadowban.
But honestly, 90% of guys who think they’re banned just have bad profiles.
So make sure your pics don’t suck, and only then check for a ban.
If you were getting lots of matches and suddenly it drops off, that’s something to notice.
Doesn’t mean it’s a shadowban for sure though.
The clearest way to check is if you still get matches on Bumble and Hinge but Tinder goes dry all at once—that’s strong proof of a shadowban.
But honestly, 90% of guys who think they’re banned just have bad profiles.
So make sure your pics don’t suck, and only then check for a ban.
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When a girl calls you annoying it means she likes you a lot and it’s stressing her out
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If you’ve seen the lists of biggest regrets from dying people.
They all say the same thing.
They wish they had been brave enough to do what they really wanted.
To let themselves feel true happiness.
This is as true as it gets.
The truth is right there.
They gave you the answers to life, the understanding you’ve been searching for, and all you have to do is listen.
Anytime you feel stuck in a bad mindset, this should be your first thought.
You don’t know when life ends.
Don’t live in a way where one day you’ll say those same regrets.
They all say the same thing.
They wish they had been brave enough to do what they really wanted.
To let themselves feel true happiness.
This is as true as it gets.
The truth is right there.
They gave you the answers to life, the understanding you’ve been searching for, and all you have to do is listen.
Anytime you feel stuck in a bad mindset, this should be your first thought.
You don’t know when life ends.
Don’t live in a way where one day you’ll say those same regrets.
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You don’t need to be cheerful all the time, but you do need to notice when you're being negative.
If you’re in a bad mood, you should be able to tell yourself that you're giving off bad energy.
If people call you out on it, you should admit they're right and quickly change how you act.
No need to explain, defend, or argue.
Just a quiet thought like, “Yeah I’m acting like a loser right now,” then doing whatever you can to stop letting that feeling spread to others.
This is a key part of emotional control that depends on how you deal with your own ego.
You’re either working with it, or fighting against it.
If you’re in a bad mood, you should be able to tell yourself that you're giving off bad energy.
If people call you out on it, you should admit they're right and quickly change how you act.
No need to explain, defend, or argue.
Just a quiet thought like, “Yeah I’m acting like a loser right now,” then doing whatever you can to stop letting that feeling spread to others.
This is a key part of emotional control that depends on how you deal with your own ego.
You’re either working with it, or fighting against it.
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A man spends all his time chasing money.
He says he’s doing it for his and his girl’s future.
The girl ends up leaving him.
The man doesn’t get it.
He says she didn’t value him.
He gets mad that she didn’t see what he was building.
He says all women are the same.
What he misses is that he could’ve just remembered what small things she liked and done those for her sometimes.
He could’ve just paid attention to what made her light up and created more moments like that.
The whole time, he could’ve given her what she really wanted, not what he thought she should have wanted.
He says he’s doing it for his and his girl’s future.
The girl ends up leaving him.
The man doesn’t get it.
He says she didn’t value him.
He gets mad that she didn’t see what he was building.
He says all women are the same.
What he misses is that he could’ve just remembered what small things she liked and done those for her sometimes.
He could’ve just paid attention to what made her light up and created more moments like that.
The whole time, he could’ve given her what she really wanted, not what he thought she should have wanted.
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You might not like this. But if your love life is bad, YOU are the reason.
If you want to change it, begin by owning up to it.
If you want to change it, begin by owning up to it.
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A sad fact about life is you can’t save everyone.
And you might ruin your own life trying.
And you might ruin your own life trying.
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Fifth part of a 10 series post
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New substack post
Check it out here 👇
manofstxxx.substack.com
PS: make sure to subscribe if u have not as more parts will follow
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If you want to be happy, just choose to be happy.
You don’t need to own or get anything first.
It’s a simple choice, something you can make at any time.
It’s the clearest idea in the world, but seems hard to get because there’s no struggle behind it.
Your brain sees it as too easy, like there must be a trick because most people are always chasing it.
Know that you don’t need a reason to feel good.
You laugh or smile at something, you feel joy.
You say you’re lucky to be alive, and you feel joy.
Don’t look for a reason or ask why or question when you feel a moment of peace.
Pick any kind of energy you want to feel, live out, and give off, and it’s yours right away.
That’s all there is.
You don’t need to own or get anything first.
It’s a simple choice, something you can make at any time.
It’s the clearest idea in the world, but seems hard to get because there’s no struggle behind it.
Your brain sees it as too easy, like there must be a trick because most people are always chasing it.
Know that you don’t need a reason to feel good.
You laugh or smile at something, you feel joy.
You say you’re lucky to be alive, and you feel joy.
Don’t look for a reason or ask why or question when you feel a moment of peace.
Pick any kind of energy you want to feel, live out, and give off, and it’s yours right away.
That’s all there is.
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Most of your issues are in your head, so if you believe that most of them aren’t real, they’ll really go away.
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Want to feel more like a man?
Every time something hard or stressful shows up, something that takes you out of your safe zone…
Do it.
Even if you don’t know what to do yet. Believe in yourself to figure it out.
That’s how you live at your edge. That’s masculine energy
Every time something hard or stressful shows up, something that takes you out of your safe zone…
Do it.
Even if you don’t know what to do yet. Believe in yourself to figure it out.
That’s how you live at your edge. That’s masculine energy
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The real issue with men in the West is they don’t know how to tell women No anymore.
This doesn’t mean you have to be rude, or ignore what upsets her.
Loving a woman means you think about her feelings.
But you can't depend on her to decide what must be done.
In both big and small things, Western men forgot this, and this is a big reason why Western women feel so unhappy.
A man who lets a woman guide his choices is not seen as someone who can lead.
All the talk online about "shit tests" misses this main point.
If you’re trying to pass a woman’s tests, you’re just acting like a smart pet.
You’re playing her game.
Stop caring so much about what she demands and start trusting your own thinking.
If she gives you too much drama over silly things, speak up and be ready to walk away.
Show her your strength, give her your full love, but stop taking her too seriously.
This doesn’t mean you have to be rude, or ignore what upsets her.
Loving a woman means you think about her feelings.
But you can't depend on her to decide what must be done.
In both big and small things, Western men forgot this, and this is a big reason why Western women feel so unhappy.
A man who lets a woman guide his choices is not seen as someone who can lead.
All the talk online about "shit tests" misses this main point.
If you’re trying to pass a woman’s tests, you’re just acting like a smart pet.
You’re playing her game.
Stop caring so much about what she demands and start trusting your own thinking.
If she gives you too much drama over silly things, speak up and be ready to walk away.
Show her your strength, give her your full love, but stop taking her too seriously.
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Women don’t love your money.
The numbers mean nothing to most of them.
What they care about is that you make things happen.
That money helps with this is just a side detail.
It’s better to be broke, generous, and “know someone” than rich, stingy hermit.
The numbers mean nothing to most of them.
What they care about is that you make things happen.
That money helps with this is just a side detail.
It’s better to be broke, generous, and “know someone” than rich, stingy hermit.
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You don’t need to pick the hottest girl you’ve ever seen
But if you plan to stay with a woman long term, she MUST turn you on.
If you feel unsure about how she looks, like not feeling proud to be seen with her or not liking how she looks...
It’s OVER from the start.
Move on
But if you plan to stay with a woman long term, she MUST turn you on.
If you feel unsure about how she looks, like not feeling proud to be seen with her or not liking how she looks...
It’s OVER from the start.
Move on
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Be kind, not just nice.
Being kind means treating people right and caring. Being nice just means trying not to upset anyone.
A man who wants to win a woman’s heart should never only aim to be nice.
Being kind means treating people right and caring. Being nice just means trying not to upset anyone.
A man who wants to win a woman’s heart should never only aim to be nice.
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THE IRON CIRCLE
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At some point, all women will want both the provider and the lover.
Even if they don’t know it at first.
Men must realize money can’t keep a woman’s love.
Without romance and thrill, she’ll lose interest and leave.
You can’t buy love from a woman.
Even if they don’t know it at first.
Men must realize money can’t keep a woman’s love.
Without romance and thrill, she’ll lose interest and leave.
You can’t buy love from a woman.
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Never ever let yourself feel jealous or bitter toward a real friend who’s doing better than you in some area
Money, girls, freedom
Be glad you have him.
No long term thinking, slow minds.
Money, girls, freedom
Be glad you have him.
No long term thinking, slow minds.
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