Talking to girls should never be a struggle for you

It should feel 100% chill and fun

If you feel tense about going up to girls, it means you have issues inside or just lost your rhythm, which you can get back fast

Go

A big reason guys get tired of girls is they’re always acting when they’re around them

Always putting on a mask, always trying to look a certain way, always flexing their arms a bit

Girls are fun to be with when you are fine with who you are

Guys don’t really get what “game” means

It’s not about tricking or fooling a girl into liking you with little moves

Good “game” is just about staying cool and calm and not letting silly thoughts make you act weird around her

Looking clean helps

Stop trying to be super smooth when you talk to girls

Just be yourself, show her that you’re a person and not a bot repeating lines to get sex

Real bonding matters

Girls are super kind when you don’t fake who you are, it’s crazy

If you keep arguing about tiny stuff with your girl, that means she’s trying to pull out the real you from under your fake stuff – which girls can smell

Guys get shocked seeing some short, small, broke dude with a way hotter girl, like yeah man, no surprise, maybe he just knows how to vibe with girls without begging them to notice the Rolex – he’s showing who he is, you’re showing a fake shell

The “wow he’s from another country” charm is gone because travel is so easy now

You get nothing from playing that role

Learn the local tongue and stay longer to get the finest girls

Localmaxxing

Nothing feels worse than talking to a girl and then doing a fake laugh and then having to live knowing you fake laughed in a talk with a girl hoping it would help her like you

Clown show

It’s NEVER her fault

You were either weak enough to let the bad stuff happen, or you picked the wrong girl

When you fight with your girl, you’re really fighting with yourself

The only person to blame is YOU

Get better

Any guy who knows how to talk to girls, if you ask him "what do you say to them?" won’t say much more than "just small talk, talk about random stuff", because he’s not focused on how he looks to her, he’s focused on her, not scared about his place

This REDPILL stuff really has guys scared to be kind to a girl, scared to do sweet things for her, scared to say they like her, worried they’re being used just because they spent 12$ on some damn risotto.

If that sounds like you then you will never win in dating.

Stop being so uptight.

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Getting lots of girls mainly teaches you that life has way more to offer than girls

You stop being needy

Now when you talk to girls, you’re looking for real ones, not trying to win

Guys who never played the game seem calm, but really just gave up – they won’t make it

Girls almost never leave a guy unless they disappear or go silent on him

If she’s sending long texts about how “it’s not working,” that’s actually fine

Just don’t reply, like a few of them

Why are you all so dramatic “nooo I need to say something back”

Guys always try to impress girls by being smart and trying to be different

Impress her by doing none of that and just being yourself

She’s seen enough tricks, let her see something honest

Speak to her like she’s a real person

When you meet girls and you’re thinking “I hope she likes me and I hope I can kiss/sleep with her”

NGMI

You should be tired of women in general and still give new ones a chance, hoping they’re better (could be but rare)

This is how you build real boundaries

You should only study where you failed with girls, not where you won

If it works then it works, don’t mess with it

Let it play out

If you don’t know why it’s working, it means you’re not “trying” – just vibing and that’s being real

Not knowing can feel great when you’re winning

You can tell a tip is useful when there's also a useful tip that says the total opposite

What matters is the moment, life isn’t simple

Platitudes are for lazy people who don’t want to think – they just follow anything

Any loser who knows enough other losers who made some money online can be at a nightclub at a table with girls (they are texting actual cool guys the whole time) and take photos and videos to post online.

The true indicator of high status is relationships with attractive chicks.

To the guys who stress about looks:

Studies with plethysmographs show women get turned on by everything even chimp having sex.

If a chimp can turn her on, so can you.

Use some of the time you spend trying to look hot to focus on turning her on.

If she starts texting a lot after being quiet or cold, it means the guy she liked is gone.

You now have a spot to fill.