Something you notice when you live true to yourself and hold yourself to a respectful level is that most of the friends we still talk to and spend time with are just people we haven’t let go of yet because of old memories and shared time.
And when you really look closely at real problems and life patterns that test both friendships and relationships, you start to see that many of those friends you’ve known for years and think are amazing... really aren’t.
Being a good friend is not easy.
I’ve seen that for many people, it doesn’t come naturally.
It actually takes real effort to become and stay a good, solid friend.
It means being happy for your friend’s wins even when you’re going through one of the hardest times in your life.
It means not trying to go after the girl your friend is dating or likes, just because you’re feeling desperate and not doing well with women yourself.
It takes someone of value to truly be called a friend, because one of the best things people hope for is growth in themselves and in life.
So how can someone be a true friend if he doesn’t help push you to grow?
Sure, there are friends who will help you in your darkest times. It’s true that some people seen as “losers” can end up being your best friends.
No denying that.
But sometimes doing something is easier than stopping yourself from doing something wrong.
For example, it’s easier to feel jealous than to hold back that envy.
It’s easier to message the girl your friend is seeing than to control that urge and not do it.
And it’s easier to get in your car at 2 AM and go pick up your friend from trouble than it is to stop yourself from being a bad friend in other moments.
Because one nice act, even if it’s important and really helpful in a rough time, doesn’t make up for all the other wrong things done.
It’s a lot to take in, and I think the main issue with many friendships is that they have weak spots at their core.
Maybe someone is really bad with money and not someone you can trust with it.
Maybe someone is always chasing girls even though he already has one, he’s never happy with what he’s got and wants yours too.
Maybe someone is an only child who craves attention and carries those deep needs into everything he does.
There are only a few people out there who, even if they’ve had similar, the same, or worse problems in their past, still end up being true and loyal friends through and through.
And as you grow older, you’ll notice most people end up losing most of their friends.
It could be their fault, or maybe it’s their friends’ fault.
But if you’re still young and think your day-1 friends are really that for life, I hope you’re right.
But you probably aren’t, for most of them, at least.
That’s just how life works.
That’s why when you’ve lived and loved, and you’ve done both with your heart open, you start to become better at seeing people for who they are.
But you also begin to see the world and others with more doubt and caution.
And I think that’s okay, because that’s how life normally goes.
Only a few people make it into your close circle.
The rest only realize they should’ve been better once it’s too late.
And when you really look closely at real problems and life patterns that test both friendships and relationships, you start to see that many of those friends you’ve known for years and think are amazing... really aren’t.
Being a good friend is not easy.
I’ve seen that for many people, it doesn’t come naturally.
It actually takes real effort to become and stay a good, solid friend.
It means being happy for your friend’s wins even when you’re going through one of the hardest times in your life.
It means not trying to go after the girl your friend is dating or likes, just because you’re feeling desperate and not doing well with women yourself.
It takes someone of value to truly be called a friend, because one of the best things people hope for is growth in themselves and in life.
So how can someone be a true friend if he doesn’t help push you to grow?
Sure, there are friends who will help you in your darkest times. It’s true that some people seen as “losers” can end up being your best friends.
No denying that.
But sometimes doing something is easier than stopping yourself from doing something wrong.
For example, it’s easier to feel jealous than to hold back that envy.
It’s easier to message the girl your friend is seeing than to control that urge and not do it.
And it’s easier to get in your car at 2 AM and go pick up your friend from trouble than it is to stop yourself from being a bad friend in other moments.
Because one nice act, even if it’s important and really helpful in a rough time, doesn’t make up for all the other wrong things done.
It’s a lot to take in, and I think the main issue with many friendships is that they have weak spots at their core.
Maybe someone is really bad with money and not someone you can trust with it.
Maybe someone is always chasing girls even though he already has one, he’s never happy with what he’s got and wants yours too.
Maybe someone is an only child who craves attention and carries those deep needs into everything he does.
There are only a few people out there who, even if they’ve had similar, the same, or worse problems in their past, still end up being true and loyal friends through and through.
And as you grow older, you’ll notice most people end up losing most of their friends.
It could be their fault, or maybe it’s their friends’ fault.
But if you’re still young and think your day-1 friends are really that for life, I hope you’re right.
But you probably aren’t, for most of them, at least.
That’s just how life works.
That’s why when you’ve lived and loved, and you’ve done both with your heart open, you start to become better at seeing people for who they are.
But you also begin to see the world and others with more doubt and caution.
And I think that’s okay, because that’s how life normally goes.
Only a few people make it into your close circle.
The rest only realize they should’ve been better once it’s too late.
💯7👍2❤1
If you want to get better with girls, set goals you can actually reach, then go for them.
🆇 “Today I am going to get laid.” You won’t hit this unless you’re already a player.
✅ “Today I am going to talk to 3 new girls.” A goal like this is doable if you’re just starting.
🆇 “This week I’m going to find my wife.” You won’t if you’re not dating lots of women.
✅ “This week I am going to ask out 2 new women.” This goal is real if you’re starting fresh.
🆇 “After this month I’ll have a completely revamped appearance.” Not realistic for a newbie.
✅ “Throughout this month I’ll improve my posture, eye contact, and body language.” This works.
Set small, doable goals (doable based on your current level), and knock them down.
When you hit those small goals, it feels GOOD, you build drive, and your belief grows.
Every huge “Pyramid of Achievement” is built out of a series of much smaller individual “Brick Goals” laid down one at a time.
You don’t just snap your fingers and have a pyramid.
You start by laying down bricks.
Small, doable goals are those bricks!
🆇 “Today I am going to get laid.” You won’t hit this unless you’re already a player.
✅ “Today I am going to talk to 3 new girls.” A goal like this is doable if you’re just starting.
🆇 “This week I’m going to find my wife.” You won’t if you’re not dating lots of women.
✅ “This week I am going to ask out 2 new women.” This goal is real if you’re starting fresh.
🆇 “After this month I’ll have a completely revamped appearance.” Not realistic for a newbie.
✅ “Throughout this month I’ll improve my posture, eye contact, and body language.” This works.
Set small, doable goals (doable based on your current level), and knock them down.
When you hit those small goals, it feels GOOD, you build drive, and your belief grows.
Every huge “Pyramid of Achievement” is built out of a series of much smaller individual “Brick Goals” laid down one at a time.
You don’t just snap your fingers and have a pyramid.
You start by laying down bricks.
Small, doable goals are those bricks!
👍4❤2
Dating should feel relaxed:
✅ No stress
✅ No pressure
✅ Just hanging out
✅ Seeing if it clicks
That’s the vibe you show to HER!
(This chill energy makes her way more likely to get turned on!)
✅ No stress
✅ No pressure
✅ Just hanging out
✅ Seeing if it clicks
That’s the vibe you show to HER!
(This chill energy makes her way more likely to get turned on!)
❤5
Don’t say you “don’t care.”
Everyone cares.
But act like you don’t care.
Not to the point where you’re careless or rude.
Just enough that people feel you’ve got it handled and seem super cool.
Everyone cares.
But act like you don’t care.
Not to the point where you’re careless or rude.
Just enough that people feel you’ve got it handled and seem super cool.
❤3👍1
HOW TO KNOW YOUR ATTACHMENT STYLE
She starts drama:
➡️ AVOIDANT: “I won’t deal with that. I’m out!” 🙄
➡️ ANXIOUS: “What should I do? What do I say to fix this?” 😦
➡️ DISORGANIZED: “How DARE she say that! Why would she act like that? Ugh!!!” 😖
➡️ SECURE: “Looks like she’s upset or feels off. Let me try to fix this.” 🤔
You can use this to spot her style too.
She starts drama:
➡️ AVOIDANT: “I won’t deal with that. I’m out!” 🙄
➡️ ANXIOUS: “What should I do? What do I say to fix this?” 😦
➡️ DISORGANIZED: “How DARE she say that! Why would she act like that? Ugh!!!” 😖
➡️ SECURE: “Looks like she’s upset or feels off. Let me try to fix this.” 🤔
You can use this to spot her style too.
💯7
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For the first time ever, I’m offering a hands-on dating transformation program for men who want real results:
✅ 4–5 dates/week using dating apps and warm approach
✅ 1-on-1 feedback on your profile, messages, and vibe
✅ Daily guidance to help you attract, escalate, and lead like a man
So if you're tired of:
- Matching with women but never meeting them?
- Feeling invisible in real life?
- Wasting time on apps with no system?
Then this is your moment to change everything.
I’ll be in your corner for 6 weeks, showing you exactly how to get the women you want.
You’ll also master:
• Texting that gets replies
• Warm approach that actually works
• Date setup + escalation that feels smooth
• Your voice, body language, and energy
Only 2 (one spot already taken) high-level men will be accepted for May.
NOTE: We are currently in week 1, day 3 do if u want to make a decision, now is the time.
Apply here :
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Be VERY careful when a girl tries to pull you in:
🤨 Says you should change how you dress
🤨 Tells you to grow your beard
🤨 Gives you too many heavy snacks
🤨 Tries to stop you from hitting the gym
🤨 Wants you to stop doing things you enjoy
She’s trying to make you less hot!
🤨 Says you should change how you dress
🤨 Tells you to grow your beard
🤨 Gives you too many heavy snacks
🤨 Tries to stop you from hitting the gym
🤨 Wants you to stop doing things you enjoy
She’s trying to make you less hot!
❤6
Men go on a ‘Hero’s Journey.’
But do women have a ‘Heroine’s Journey’?
Yes and it’s all about MEN! (everything they do links back to men)
Here’s how a study explains the usual story for girls in romance books:
“He’s hard to understand, maybe even risky. She has to figure him out and change his bold ways so they can fall in love. Once she ‘gets’ him, the story ends.”
This is the romance novel woman’s path:
1️⃣ She meets a man who is hard to read, maybe even a bit wild (not a nice guy).
2️⃣ He pushes her out of her comfort zone (not weak or soft).
3️⃣ Her goal is to learn who he really is (he draws her in).
4️⃣ Then she has to get him to settle down with her (she chases love).
5️⃣ When he finally gives in, it ends (they’ll marry, live calmly, have kids, and the fun stops).
Now think about Disney or old fairy tale princess stories. It’s a lot like that too. The Disney version of the journey:
1️⃣ She meets a sweet, high-status, good-looking prince.
2️⃣ Something blocks them. Either it’s a test (Ariel, Belle) or some villain (Cinderella, Aurora, Snow White).
3️⃣ She either waits to be saved (Snow White, Aurora) or goes for him (Cinderella, Ariel, Belle).
4️⃣ There’s no need to pull him into love. The Prince wants her fast (to make it easy for kids).
5️⃣ Once he’s hers, the story ends. Few stories go on after marriage (except rare ones like “The Three Little Men in the Forest” from Brothers Grimm, which continues past the marriage of the heroine to the prince)
There are some small changes across these dream stories but they always center on the woman locking in a man!
(the fact that these stories are everywhere shows what women really want ❤️)
But do women have a ‘Heroine’s Journey’?
Yes and it’s all about MEN! (everything they do links back to men)
Here’s how a study explains the usual story for girls in romance books:
“He’s hard to understand, maybe even risky. She has to figure him out and change his bold ways so they can fall in love. Once she ‘gets’ him, the story ends.”
This is the romance novel woman’s path:
1️⃣ She meets a man who is hard to read, maybe even a bit wild (not a nice guy).
2️⃣ He pushes her out of her comfort zone (not weak or soft).
3️⃣ Her goal is to learn who he really is (he draws her in).
4️⃣ Then she has to get him to settle down with her (she chases love).
5️⃣ When he finally gives in, it ends (they’ll marry, live calmly, have kids, and the fun stops).
Now think about Disney or old fairy tale princess stories. It’s a lot like that too. The Disney version of the journey:
1️⃣ She meets a sweet, high-status, good-looking prince.
2️⃣ Something blocks them. Either it’s a test (Ariel, Belle) or some villain (Cinderella, Aurora, Snow White).
3️⃣ She either waits to be saved (Snow White, Aurora) or goes for him (Cinderella, Ariel, Belle).
4️⃣ There’s no need to pull him into love. The Prince wants her fast (to make it easy for kids).
5️⃣ Once he’s hers, the story ends. Few stories go on after marriage (except rare ones like “The Three Little Men in the Forest” from Brothers Grimm, which continues past the marriage of the heroine to the prince)
There are some small changes across these dream stories but they always center on the woman locking in a man!
(the fact that these stories are everywhere shows what women really want ❤️)
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GUY: “Girls nowadays are too hard to get.”
ME: “How many girls have you spoken to in the last month?”
GUY: “None because there’s no point.”
ME: “Go talk to 20 girls, flirt around, then ask them out.”
GUY: “That’s too much effort.”
ME: “Alright. What’s your friend group like?”
GUY: “I don’t have any friends.”
ME: “Then go make some and hang out. Meet girls through them.”
GUY: “It’s too hard making friends.”
ME: “Ugh… can you join some events or something?”
GUY: “I tried that but I didn’t meet anyone.”
ME: “Do you speak to people when you go?”
GUY: “Maybe one or two people.”
ME: “This week, go to two meetups and talk to EVERYONE.”
GUY: “That’s too much. I’m not outgoing.”
ME: “Do you work with people? Go to school?”
GUY: “Yeah but we don’t really talk.”
ME: “Start chatting and try to become friends.”
GUY: “I don’t like the people I work with or my classmates.”
ME: 😡🤬
Really, if everything feels “too hard” and you dislike everyone and everything, don’t say girls are hard to get or that it’s tough to make friends, Captain Choosy!
Go learn some social skills!!!!!
ME: “How many girls have you spoken to in the last month?”
GUY: “None because there’s no point.”
ME: “Go talk to 20 girls, flirt around, then ask them out.”
GUY: “That’s too much effort.”
ME: “Alright. What’s your friend group like?”
GUY: “I don’t have any friends.”
ME: “Then go make some and hang out. Meet girls through them.”
GUY: “It’s too hard making friends.”
ME: “Ugh… can you join some events or something?”
GUY: “I tried that but I didn’t meet anyone.”
ME: “Do you speak to people when you go?”
GUY: “Maybe one or two people.”
ME: “This week, go to two meetups and talk to EVERYONE.”
GUY: “That’s too much. I’m not outgoing.”
ME: “Do you work with people? Go to school?”
GUY: “Yeah but we don’t really talk.”
ME: “Start chatting and try to become friends.”
GUY: “I don’t like the people I work with or my classmates.”
ME: 😡🤬
Really, if everything feels “too hard” and you dislike everyone and everything, don’t say girls are hard to get or that it’s tough to make friends, Captain Choosy!
Go learn some social skills!!!!!
❤3👍2
Women can deal with almost anything short-term if they really like a man:
✅ He’s not exclusive
✅ He doesn’t have a job
✅ He’s rude or mean
But once things start to get “serious,” it becomes harder to do those things without it falling apart.
✅ He’s not exclusive
✅ He doesn’t have a job
✅ He’s rude or mean
But once things start to get “serious,” it becomes harder to do those things without it falling apart.
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Here’s some free advice for you guys:
Don't date your looksmatch or a girl with higher SMV than you.
If you do, it’ll always feel hard to keep her.
You’ll feel like you have to work for every bit of love from her, and you’ll feel like you must beg to keep her.
This is because women want men with more SMV.
If she’s as attractive as you, she’ll feel like she settled.
That means she’ll either barely accept you or secretly hate it.
She’ll always be looking for someone better and won’t hesitate to leave when she finds him.
That creates bad patterns in long-term relationships.
If you even care about getting any genuine desire whatsoever out of your life partner, you need to date at least a couple points below your SMV.
Yes, there’s no other way, put your pride aside and choose what works, not what just looks good.
If your SMV is legitimately higher than hers, she knows for sure she can't do better than you, and she'll always look up to you, respect you, and, as a result, will never withhold intimacy from you... because she actually fears losing you.
She’ll feel lucky every day that she got a guy like you.
And that’s how it will stay and really, that’s how it should be.
That’s how strong, long-lasting relationships should work.
Don't date your looksmatch or a girl with higher SMV than you.
If you do, it’ll always feel hard to keep her.
You’ll feel like you have to work for every bit of love from her, and you’ll feel like you must beg to keep her.
This is because women want men with more SMV.
If she’s as attractive as you, she’ll feel like she settled.
That means she’ll either barely accept you or secretly hate it.
She’ll always be looking for someone better and won’t hesitate to leave when she finds him.
That creates bad patterns in long-term relationships.
If you even care about getting any genuine desire whatsoever out of your life partner, you need to date at least a couple points below your SMV.
Yes, there’s no other way, put your pride aside and choose what works, not what just looks good.
If your SMV is legitimately higher than hers, she knows for sure she can't do better than you, and she'll always look up to you, respect you, and, as a result, will never withhold intimacy from you... because she actually fears losing you.
She’ll feel lucky every day that she got a guy like you.
And that’s how it will stay and really, that’s how it should be.
That’s how strong, long-lasting relationships should work.
❤6🔥2
Guys who act “too tough” seem fake and unsure.
But guys who act “too soft” seem weak and not trustworthy.
The right balance is STRONG, but RELAXED.
FOCUSED, yet CALM.
IN CHARGE, but EASYGOING.
But guys who act “too soft” seem weak and not trustworthy.
The right balance is STRONG, but RELAXED.
FOCUSED, yet CALM.
IN CHARGE, but EASYGOING.
💯8❤3
Don’t act like her boyfriend before you’ve slept with her if you ever want to sleep with her.
💯5❤2
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I’m offering a hands-on dating transformation program for men who want real results:
✅ 4–5 dates/week using dating apps and warm approach
✅ 1-on-1 feedback on your profile, messages, and vibe
✅ Daily guidance to help you attract, escalate, and lead like a man
So if you're tired of:
- Matching with women but never meeting them?
- Feeling invisible in real life?
- Wasting time on apps with no system?
Then this is your moment to change everything.
I’ll be in your corner for 6 weeks, showing you exactly how to get the women you want.
You’ll also master:
• Texting that gets replies
• Warm approach that actually works
• Date setup + escalation that feels smooth
• Your voice, body language, and energy
Only 2 (one spot already taken) high-level men will be accepted for June.
Apply here :
👉https://manofstxxx.gumroad.com/l/cvhjz
Let’s build the most attractive version of you.
I’m offering a hands-on dating transformation program for men who want real results:
✅ 4–5 dates/week using dating apps and warm approach
✅ 1-on-1 feedback on your profile, messages, and vibe
✅ Daily guidance to help you attract, escalate, and lead like a man
So if you're tired of:
- Matching with women but never meeting them?
- Feeling invisible in real life?
- Wasting time on apps with no system?
Then this is your moment to change everything.
I’ll be in your corner for 6 weeks, showing you exactly how to get the women you want.
You’ll also master:
• Texting that gets replies
• Warm approach that actually works
• Date setup + escalation that feels smooth
• Your voice, body language, and energy
Only 2 (one spot already taken) high-level men will be accepted for June.
Apply here :
👉https://manofstxxx.gumroad.com/l/cvhjz
Let’s build the most attractive version of you.
Gumroad
The Magnetic Man Protocol
THE MAGNETIC MAN PROTOCOLGet 4–5 Dates a Week Without Cold ApproachThe 6-week coaching system for high-performance men who want a dating life that reflects their value using warm approach + dating ...
👍1
PEOPLE WILL BE AS LAZY AS YOU LET THEM BE
If you let a girl be lazy and do stuff for her and don’t ask her to do things, SHE WILL BE LAZY.
Why would she work harder if she doesn’t have to?
Yes, some people feel “duty” or “responsibility.”
But others especially ones who care less (this girl might even be a bit autistic) — just won’t do things unless they must:
➡️ Don’t do things for women they can do themselves
➡️ Tell women to do things and EXPECT them to listen; give consequences if they don’t
➡️ If women want you to do things they can do, act “too busy.” LET them handle it!
Start thinking: “Most things solve themselves” if you just stop doing them.
If she wants something done bad enough, she will get up and do it.
If you let a girl be lazy and do stuff for her and don’t ask her to do things, SHE WILL BE LAZY.
Why would she work harder if she doesn’t have to?
Yes, some people feel “duty” or “responsibility.”
But others especially ones who care less (this girl might even be a bit autistic) — just won’t do things unless they must:
➡️ Don’t do things for women they can do themselves
➡️ Tell women to do things and EXPECT them to listen; give consequences if they don’t
➡️ If women want you to do things they can do, act “too busy.” LET them handle it!
Start thinking: “Most things solve themselves” if you just stop doing them.
If she wants something done bad enough, she will get up and do it.
❤4👍1
She should need the relationship more than you do.
She should be more into it than you are.
Losing you should hurt her more than losing her would hurt you.
She should be more into it than you are.
Losing you should hurt her more than losing her would hurt you.
❤4
Real high value men are “high value” because they GIVE value.
Ways to give value to others:
✅ Be funny and help lift the mood.
✅ Be friendly and share your energy.
✅ Make others feel welcome in talks and groups.
✅ Say people’s NAMES and GREET them!
✅ Know fun places and invite people.
✅ Listen well, then talk based on what they said.
✅ Help people meet others they’ll like.
✅ If you have cash, pay for stuff… but don’t go broke doing it!
The more of these you do, the MORE value people see in you.
Don’t be “just the funny guy” or “just the money guy.”
Give more than one kind of value and do them all!
Ways to give value to others:
✅ Be funny and help lift the mood.
✅ Be friendly and share your energy.
✅ Make others feel welcome in talks and groups.
✅ Say people’s NAMES and GREET them!
✅ Know fun places and invite people.
✅ Listen well, then talk based on what they said.
✅ Help people meet others they’ll like.
✅ If you have cash, pay for stuff… but don’t go broke doing it!
The more of these you do, the MORE value people see in you.
Don’t be “just the funny guy” or “just the money guy.”
Give more than one kind of value and do them all!
🔥4❤2
Texts to NEVER send girls you haven’t hooked up with:
🆇 “Sup.”
🆇 “What’re you doing?”
🆇 “Wanna hang out?”
🆇 “Are you free RN?”
🆇 “Hey.”
🆇 “When we gonna hang?”
Only okay if she’s your SUPER close friend
🆇 “Sup.”
🆇 “What’re you doing?”
🆇 “Wanna hang out?”
🆇 “Are you free RN?”
🆇 “Hey.”
🆇 “When we gonna hang?”
Only okay if she’s your SUPER close friend
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If you treat her BETTER than she earns, she’ll treat you WORSE.
If you treat her like trash, she’ll show you some respect.
If you want her to really look up to you, be strong, set rules, show care, and always be focused on your path.
If you treat her like trash, she’ll show you some respect.
If you want her to really look up to you, be strong, set rules, show care, and always be focused on your path.
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