A girl has to meet you halfway with fun energy.
Most guys are too hard on themselves and think their talking or flirting is weak.
I believe in owning your mistakes so you can get better.
But she also needs to be fun and flirty too.
If she acts like a brick wall even after you try to make her feel safe and happy, there’s not much else you can do.
So don’t blame yourself too much.
If you’ve had good vibes with flirty, fun girls before, you likely already know how to talk and flirt well.
So when you meet a "brick wall" girl, check your vibe and effort.
If you did your part, then it’s on her, not you.
Most guys are too hard on themselves and think their talking or flirting is weak.
I believe in owning your mistakes so you can get better.
But she also needs to be fun and flirty too.
If she acts like a brick wall even after you try to make her feel safe and happy, there’s not much else you can do.
So don’t blame yourself too much.
If you’ve had good vibes with flirty, fun girls before, you likely already know how to talk and flirt well.
So when you meet a "brick wall" girl, check your vibe and effort.
If you did your part, then it’s on her, not you.
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Keep up a little with what’s popular in the world.
It helps you talk to girls more and makes you seem more like them, which helps your vibe.
Don’t act like you’re too cool for that stuff.
Trust me, having more things to talk about that she likes helps a lot.
Sure, if you’re hot enough, you can talk about anything because you’re already a high-value guy.
But if you’re hot AND talk about what she likes?
Now your vibe is top level.
Even if you don’t like trends or shows or celeb stuff, it helps a lot if you want to connect with girls.
Plus, the date will go smoother when you can keep the chat going easily.
It helps you talk to girls more and makes you seem more like them, which helps your vibe.
Don’t act like you’re too cool for that stuff.
Trust me, having more things to talk about that she likes helps a lot.
Sure, if you’re hot enough, you can talk about anything because you’re already a high-value guy.
But if you’re hot AND talk about what she likes?
Now your vibe is top level.
Even if you don’t like trends or shows or celeb stuff, it helps a lot if you want to connect with girls.
Plus, the date will go smoother when you can keep the chat going easily.
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Once you learn how to deal with women, help your close friends who are struggling.
Give them tips without being too pushy.
They’ll thank you later.
Give them tips without being too pushy.
They’ll thank you later.
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Had a weird realization yesterday.
The point of becoming attractive, rich and charismatic is so that you can get anything you want:
=> sleep in till noon?
=> live in a different city for 3 months because you hate winter season in your regular city?
=> spend a weekend on the beach with a girl who’s not your girlfriend but giving you all the affection and sex as if she was?
All possible.
The thing is that in order to translate "being able to get stuff" into "being able to enjoy what I get" you need a personality.
So you’re able to pack your stuff and live away for 3 months, ok what are you doing over there during that time?
Are you gonna sit in your room the entire time?
Are you gonna explore the city and culture?
Are you gonna date around?
You can’t just throw money at everything and say "entertain me".
That’s why the experiences you collect during the process are so important, they veer you towards your ideal lifestyle.
Don’t be the guy who spends his youth saying "one day" and by the time he gets to old age he hasn’t done any of those things
The point of becoming attractive, rich and charismatic is so that you can get anything you want:
=> sleep in till noon?
=> live in a different city for 3 months because you hate winter season in your regular city?
=> spend a weekend on the beach with a girl who’s not your girlfriend but giving you all the affection and sex as if she was?
All possible.
The thing is that in order to translate "being able to get stuff" into "being able to enjoy what I get" you need a personality.
So you’re able to pack your stuff and live away for 3 months, ok what are you doing over there during that time?
Are you gonna sit in your room the entire time?
Are you gonna explore the city and culture?
Are you gonna date around?
You can’t just throw money at everything and say "entertain me".
That’s why the experiences you collect during the process are so important, they veer you towards your ideal lifestyle.
Don’t be the guy who spends his youth saying "one day" and by the time he gets to old age he hasn’t done any of those things
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Let go of revenge fantasies, they’re not worth your time.
But if you’re really petty, take solace in knowing that the guy most girls end up with turns out to be a disappointment.
Think about it:
Just because the ugly dork gives flowers to the prettiest girl in school and she accepts a free dinner doesn’t mean that’s the kind of girl he can get, he's just being used for what he brings to the table: money, attention, free uber driver, etc
The sane way, just because a girl gets fucked by top guys doesn’t mean that’s the kind of men she can get.
The man who gives her a ring and is willing to commit to her is the kind of man she can get, and that man is almost always waaaaaaaaay below the level of the guys that just played with her.
But if you’re really petty, take solace in knowing that the guy most girls end up with turns out to be a disappointment.
Think about it:
Just because the ugly dork gives flowers to the prettiest girl in school and she accepts a free dinner doesn’t mean that’s the kind of girl he can get, he's just being used for what he brings to the table: money, attention, free uber driver, etc
The sane way, just because a girl gets fucked by top guys doesn’t mean that’s the kind of men she can get.
The man who gives her a ring and is willing to commit to her is the kind of man she can get, and that man is almost always waaaaaaaaay below the level of the guys that just played with her.
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Girls can’t comprehend male friendships.
It’s why JK Rowling made Dumbledore gay, they think "No way a guy is gonna be with you through thick and thin without getting anything in return, they must be fucking"
They can’t wrap their heads around the concept of camaraderie: people having your back without asking for anything in return (other than you having their back)
And I don’t blame them, ever since they went through puberty their lives have been as if they had inherited grandma’s money and everyone around them plays nice at first and then asks for a handout.
Though environment in which to create real bonds, and since women think their experience is universal, they see two bros going through hell together and camaraderie is the furthest thing in their minds, their youth trained them to think everyone always wants something out of you.
It’s why JK Rowling made Dumbledore gay, they think "No way a guy is gonna be with you through thick and thin without getting anything in return, they must be fucking"
They can’t wrap their heads around the concept of camaraderie: people having your back without asking for anything in return (other than you having their back)
And I don’t blame them, ever since they went through puberty their lives have been as if they had inherited grandma’s money and everyone around them plays nice at first and then asks for a handout.
Though environment in which to create real bonds, and since women think their experience is universal, they see two bros going through hell together and camaraderie is the furthest thing in their minds, their youth trained them to think everyone always wants something out of you.
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Sadly, once a girl goes through pain and doesn’t deal with it right, she becomes hurt forever.
Her first guy, who she thought she’d marry, cheats on her?
She has two paths:
1. Dye her hair red/pink and sleep with 10 guys, thinking all men are trash
2. Feel down for a while then move on, thinking some people suck but not everyone
You want to stay away from girls who pick the first road, which sadly is most of them.
Her first guy, who she thought she’d marry, cheats on her?
She has two paths:
1. Dye her hair red/pink and sleep with 10 guys, thinking all men are trash
2. Feel down for a while then move on, thinking some people suck but not everyone
You want to stay away from girls who pick the first road, which sadly is most of them.
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You know who doesn’t feel nervous?
People doing what they’re meant to do.
If you’re stuck in some boring job and deep down you know you’re meant for more, of course you’ll feel nervous… you’re wasting time playing pretend because you’re scared to go all in and maybe fail
People doing what they’re meant to do.
If you’re stuck in some boring job and deep down you know you’re meant for more, of course you’ll feel nervous… you’re wasting time playing pretend because you’re scared to go all in and maybe fail
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Girls like excitement
But that doesn’t mean you need to create it or even join in
See, when you're in a meeting and don’t reply to her texts, she spends that time wondering where you are
When you reply 4 hours later she feels calm again. If she mentions it, you just look at her like she’s overthinking.
I mean… you were in a meeting, nothing wrong there, you’re just handling your stuff
Then she thinks "ok, maybe I was being a little dramatic". Compare that to the guy who keeps texting during the meeting
He gets no work done.
There’s no surprise, he’s always free for her.
He makes her feel nothing but the fact that he’d rather be with her than do anything else.
But that doesn’t mean you need to create it or even join in
See, when you're in a meeting and don’t reply to her texts, she spends that time wondering where you are
When you reply 4 hours later she feels calm again. If she mentions it, you just look at her like she’s overthinking.
I mean… you were in a meeting, nothing wrong there, you’re just handling your stuff
Then she thinks "ok, maybe I was being a little dramatic". Compare that to the guy who keeps texting during the meeting
He gets no work done.
There’s no surprise, he’s always free for her.
He makes her feel nothing but the fact that he’d rather be with her than do anything else.
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Will drop a new post on substack.
Currently working on it.
Title: Is Your Mission Attractive Enough to Get You Women?
Currently working on it.
Title: Is Your Mission Attractive Enough to Get You Women?
THE IRON CIRCLE
Will drop a new post on substack. Currently working on it. Title: Is Your Mission Attractive Enough to Get You Women?
Made to address the "Focus on your mission and the women will come" crowd.
Stay tuned!!!
Stay tuned!!!
1-10 girl rating:
1. Looks worse than guys.
2. Still looks worse than guys.
3. You’re clearly drunk, please stop.
4. Likes you more than you like her (makes sense why).
5. Only if it’s been over a month since you got laid.
6. Should be your go-to level.
7. Best return for time and effort (but in some places, a 7 acts like a 10, so skip).
8. Top for most guys. Life gives you a few chances to be with one, but to keep her, you need rare skills and life exp, so 99% won’t.
9. Forget what coaches say: only cash, power, or fame will get one.
10. Rarer than a sea porpoise, you’ll never have or see one.
1. Looks worse than guys.
2. Still looks worse than guys.
3. You’re clearly drunk, please stop.
4. Likes you more than you like her (makes sense why).
5. Only if it’s been over a month since you got laid.
6. Should be your go-to level.
7. Best return for time and effort (but in some places, a 7 acts like a 10, so skip).
8. Top for most guys. Life gives you a few chances to be with one, but to keep her, you need rare skills and life exp, so 99% won’t.
9. Forget what coaches say: only cash, power, or fame will get one.
10. Rarer than a sea porpoise, you’ll never have or see one.
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To be honest, sex is the biggest barrier to success.
Most guys who are obsessed with women’s bodies tend to struggle with making money.
On the other hand, nerds have it easier:
No distractions from desire, just pure focus.
Bezos, Gates, and Musk didn’t happen by accident.
Most guys who are obsessed with women’s bodies tend to struggle with making money.
On the other hand, nerds have it easier:
No distractions from desire, just pure focus.
Bezos, Gates, and Musk didn’t happen by accident.
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Money is great; it’s the best enabler in the world.
But there are things it can’t buy:
=> Fitness
=> Mental strength
=> Class
=> Integrity
=> Charisma
=> Manners
=> Attraction
But there are things it can’t buy:
=> Fitness
=> Mental strength
=> Class
=> Integrity
=> Charisma
=> Manners
=> Attraction
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Cristiano Ronaldo won everything.
He has won many trophies multiple times and broke every football record.
And yet... there he is, acting selfish like a teenager just starting his career, crying like a baby because he missed a penalty that could’ve cost his country the chance to advance.
The same goes for men who love women: you may have slept with incredible women in your 20s.
You might have a track record with "out-of-your-league" models.
But if that was a while ago, your past achievements won’t matter anymore.
You’ll feel like crap.
You’ll feel like you’ve aged.
You’ll feel like you can’t get women anymore.
That’s why some guys are like strikers, who become weaker and more anxious the longer they go without scoring.
Yes, thinking about your past wins and knowing that you can do it again helps, but nothing beats the validation you get in the present.
To know you still have it by seeing a new naked body in your bed. Yes, it may seem immature or insecure, but nature doesn’t care.
That’s why some men feel dead inside when they settle down.
Because they miss the excitement of the chase, the thrill of the NEW.
There’s no real solution to this other than accepting that it will always be like this, and age won’t change it.
It’s up to you whether you keep playing the game like Ronaldo or sit on the sidelines like a coach who still loves the game but has decided not to play anymore.
He has won many trophies multiple times and broke every football record.
And yet... there he is, acting selfish like a teenager just starting his career, crying like a baby because he missed a penalty that could’ve cost his country the chance to advance.
The same goes for men who love women: you may have slept with incredible women in your 20s.
You might have a track record with "out-of-your-league" models.
But if that was a while ago, your past achievements won’t matter anymore.
You’ll feel like crap.
You’ll feel like you’ve aged.
You’ll feel like you can’t get women anymore.
That’s why some guys are like strikers, who become weaker and more anxious the longer they go without scoring.
Yes, thinking about your past wins and knowing that you can do it again helps, but nothing beats the validation you get in the present.
To know you still have it by seeing a new naked body in your bed. Yes, it may seem immature or insecure, but nature doesn’t care.
That’s why some men feel dead inside when they settle down.
Because they miss the excitement of the chase, the thrill of the NEW.
There’s no real solution to this other than accepting that it will always be like this, and age won’t change it.
It’s up to you whether you keep playing the game like Ronaldo or sit on the sidelines like a coach who still loves the game but has decided not to play anymore.
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Winning in life is all about TAMING.
Taming your laziness before starting work or hitting the gym.
Taming your breath when running a long-distance race.
Taming your impatience when making a business decision.
Taming your emotions during a discussion or confrontation.
Taming your urge when you’re about to double text her.
Taming your desires when you’re about to watch porn
Taming her so you can have a healthy relationship.
Taming your laziness before starting work or hitting the gym.
Taming your breath when running a long-distance race.
Taming your impatience when making a business decision.
Taming your emotions during a discussion or confrontation.
Taming your urge when you’re about to double text her.
Taming your desires when you’re about to watch porn
Taming her so you can have a healthy relationship.
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The endless conflict of results with women.
In today’s world, it’s easy to get caught up in the outcome or lack of it.
Do you know those phases when you get a few attractive girls and feel like the king of the world?
Conversely, do you also know those phases when nothing goes right?
The two women you talked to this week? They ghosted you.
The last few nights? A disaster.
Girls passing by on the street? It’s like you’re invisible.
And so, the confident guy from a couple of weeks ago becomes insecure and starts questioning everything.
“Have I gotten worse?”
“Am I getting older?”
“Has my value as a man disappeared?”
I get it. It’s easy to fall into this negative spiral. I’ve been there, you’ve been there, we’ve all been there.
But somehow, we tend to forget our value as men.
And that’s normal: after all, our brains are wired for short-term memory, and we forget what happened just days ago.
On top of that, society often drags men down, making them feel like they’re not enough. That they suck.
But that’s why you need to tame your mind.
Zoom out and see the bigger picture.
Remind yourself that you’ve done it before and you’ll do it again (even if that feels unlikely or impossible right now).
The answer is simple: always focus on the process. That means being your best self every day.
Groom yourself. Dress with style. Get the best body you can. Have a positive attitude. Also, an IDGAF attitude.
Walk around genuinely believing you are the shit and that no one is above you.
Easier said than done, right? Sure.
But in the end, your mindset and process are all that matter and all that will ever matter.
Ultimately, most things are subjective and out of your control, so focus on the one thing you can control:
Your mind and the actions you take every day that will lead to results.
In today’s world, it’s easy to get caught up in the outcome or lack of it.
Do you know those phases when you get a few attractive girls and feel like the king of the world?
Conversely, do you also know those phases when nothing goes right?
The two women you talked to this week? They ghosted you.
The last few nights? A disaster.
Girls passing by on the street? It’s like you’re invisible.
And so, the confident guy from a couple of weeks ago becomes insecure and starts questioning everything.
“Have I gotten worse?”
“Am I getting older?”
“Has my value as a man disappeared?”
I get it. It’s easy to fall into this negative spiral. I’ve been there, you’ve been there, we’ve all been there.
But somehow, we tend to forget our value as men.
And that’s normal: after all, our brains are wired for short-term memory, and we forget what happened just days ago.
On top of that, society often drags men down, making them feel like they’re not enough. That they suck.
But that’s why you need to tame your mind.
Zoom out and see the bigger picture.
Remind yourself that you’ve done it before and you’ll do it again (even if that feels unlikely or impossible right now).
The answer is simple: always focus on the process. That means being your best self every day.
Groom yourself. Dress with style. Get the best body you can. Have a positive attitude. Also, an IDGAF attitude.
Walk around genuinely believing you are the shit and that no one is above you.
Easier said than done, right? Sure.
But in the end, your mindset and process are all that matter and all that will ever matter.
Ultimately, most things are subjective and out of your control, so focus on the one thing you can control:
Your mind and the actions you take every day that will lead to results.
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You’ve probably heard this advice before: you must find your ‘WHY’ to start living your life. True, but how do you REALLY find it?
In most cases, that 'why' only surfaces after a powerful 'when.'
When Betty from Ireland, the new marketing director, tells you what to do.
She was an apprentice a few years ago, and now she’s giving you orders.
When your soy manager keeps piling on more tasks, making you work longer hours, with no extra pay.
When you wake up on a Monday, already wishing it were Friday.
When you live for the weekends. When you finally feel happy, only to feel depressed again after your holidays. When you feel trapped but can’t escape the Matrix.
When you’re embarrassed to look at yourself in the mirror because you’ve been working 12 hours a day and have no energy to hit the gym.
Or worse, when you come home and your wife, a 4, yells at you because you didn’t make the bed, take out the trash, or do some other insignificant task.
Or when you find yourself wrapped in toilet paper after watching porn because times are tough, and you can’t attract a real woman anymore.
Sometimes, the best thing that can happen in life is to experience such embarrassment, frustration, and pain, that you have no choice but to explode with anger and turn your life around.
In most cases, that 'why' only surfaces after a powerful 'when.'
When Betty from Ireland, the new marketing director, tells you what to do.
She was an apprentice a few years ago, and now she’s giving you orders.
When your soy manager keeps piling on more tasks, making you work longer hours, with no extra pay.
When you wake up on a Monday, already wishing it were Friday.
When you live for the weekends. When you finally feel happy, only to feel depressed again after your holidays. When you feel trapped but can’t escape the Matrix.
When you’re embarrassed to look at yourself in the mirror because you’ve been working 12 hours a day and have no energy to hit the gym.
Or worse, when you come home and your wife, a 4, yells at you because you didn’t make the bed, take out the trash, or do some other insignificant task.
Or when you find yourself wrapped in toilet paper after watching porn because times are tough, and you can’t attract a real woman anymore.
Sometimes, the best thing that can happen in life is to experience such embarrassment, frustration, and pain, that you have no choice but to explode with anger and turn your life around.
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