Once you learn how to deal with women, help your close friends who are struggling.
Give them tips without being too pushy.
They’ll thank you later.
Give them tips without being too pushy.
They’ll thank you later.
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Guys who spam a girl’s phone after she says no are dumb.
She’s being honest with you, and you punish her for that?
Would you send a mean email to a boss who didn’t hire you?
That’s acting like a little kid throwing a fit.
She’s being honest with you, and you punish her for that?
Would you send a mean email to a boss who didn’t hire you?
That’s acting like a little kid throwing a fit.
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Ever noticed that only women get mad when you say men and women can’t be just friends?
They get really emotional about it.
So if it’s mostly women fighting for this idea, and the "guy friends" stay quiet…
What does that tell you?
They get really emotional about it.
So if it’s mostly women fighting for this idea, and the "guy friends" stay quiet…
What does that tell you?
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No doubt about it, grit and bouncing back will make people call you a genius over time.
Being smart is really just being able to handle more pain than everyone else and still keep going.
Not breaking down before everyone else does.
Being smart is really just being able to handle more pain than everyone else and still keep going.
Not breaking down before everyone else does.
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Most guys wait to feel and look great before doing anything.
And they may only get that feeling a few hours a week.
The way you see yourself is too quick and unsure.
You’re making real moves when you can win even when you feel and look terrible.
And they may only get that feeling a few hours a week.
The way you see yourself is too quick and unsure.
You’re making real moves when you can win even when you feel and look terrible.
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Real confidence comes from knowing you’ll always get back up after life hits hard.
The guy who wins the lottery and the guy who got rich at 25, lost it, and got it back at 30 are not the same.
The guy who wins the lottery and the guy who got rich at 25, lost it, and got it back at 30 are not the same.
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How to play the game the right way
Easy...
Don’t make her think she’ll get something you can’t give
During the early “free trial” time, show her a great time
So if she later wants more and you can’t offer that
She still left the situation better than when she came in
Could someone say you left her worse off because you didn’t offer commitment?
Maybe
But like most things in life, it’s about keeping a balance and meeting halfway
You want to stay free, so you stay free
And you did this without lying
That’s the key part
Easy...
Don’t make her think she’ll get something you can’t give
During the early “free trial” time, show her a great time
So if she later wants more and you can’t offer that
She still left the situation better than when she came in
Could someone say you left her worse off because you didn’t offer commitment?
Maybe
But like most things in life, it’s about keeping a balance and meeting halfway
You want to stay free, so you stay free
And you did this without lying
That’s the key part
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If you’re not careful, and keep reading stuff without trying it and learning what works and what doesn’t,
You might turn bitter.
What do I mean?
Like girls who think they’re always being hit on?
Those clips where a guy warns a girl her tire’s flat and she says "I have a boyfriend"? Like that.
For guys, it’s thinking every girl is testing them. "She didn’t do what I wanted, so I’ll stop giving her attention to see if she changes."
Bro, she just said your hands are cold and to warm them before touching her chest.
Come on, don’t turn into what you once hated.
You might turn bitter.
What do I mean?
Like girls who think they’re always being hit on?
Those clips where a guy warns a girl her tire’s flat and she says "I have a boyfriend"? Like that.
For guys, it’s thinking every girl is testing them. "She didn’t do what I wanted, so I’ll stop giving her attention to see if she changes."
Bro, she just said your hands are cold and to warm them before touching her chest.
Come on, don’t turn into what you once hated.
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A girl has to meet you halfway with fun energy.
Most guys are too hard on themselves and think their talking or flirting is weak.
I believe in owning your mistakes so you can get better.
But she also needs to be fun and flirty too.
If she acts like a brick wall even after you try to make her feel safe and happy, there’s not much else you can do.
So don’t blame yourself too much.
If you’ve had good vibes with flirty, fun girls before, you likely already know how to talk and flirt well.
So when you meet a "brick wall" girl, check your vibe and effort.
If you did your part, then it’s on her, not you.
Most guys are too hard on themselves and think their talking or flirting is weak.
I believe in owning your mistakes so you can get better.
But she also needs to be fun and flirty too.
If she acts like a brick wall even after you try to make her feel safe and happy, there’s not much else you can do.
So don’t blame yourself too much.
If you’ve had good vibes with flirty, fun girls before, you likely already know how to talk and flirt well.
So when you meet a "brick wall" girl, check your vibe and effort.
If you did your part, then it’s on her, not you.
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Keep up a little with what’s popular in the world.
It helps you talk to girls more and makes you seem more like them, which helps your vibe.
Don’t act like you’re too cool for that stuff.
Trust me, having more things to talk about that she likes helps a lot.
Sure, if you’re hot enough, you can talk about anything because you’re already a high-value guy.
But if you’re hot AND talk about what she likes?
Now your vibe is top level.
Even if you don’t like trends or shows or celeb stuff, it helps a lot if you want to connect with girls.
Plus, the date will go smoother when you can keep the chat going easily.
It helps you talk to girls more and makes you seem more like them, which helps your vibe.
Don’t act like you’re too cool for that stuff.
Trust me, having more things to talk about that she likes helps a lot.
Sure, if you’re hot enough, you can talk about anything because you’re already a high-value guy.
But if you’re hot AND talk about what she likes?
Now your vibe is top level.
Even if you don’t like trends or shows or celeb stuff, it helps a lot if you want to connect with girls.
Plus, the date will go smoother when you can keep the chat going easily.
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Once you learn how to deal with women, help your close friends who are struggling.
Give them tips without being too pushy.
They’ll thank you later.
Give them tips without being too pushy.
They’ll thank you later.
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Had a weird realization yesterday.
The point of becoming attractive, rich and charismatic is so that you can get anything you want:
=> sleep in till noon?
=> live in a different city for 3 months because you hate winter season in your regular city?
=> spend a weekend on the beach with a girl who’s not your girlfriend but giving you all the affection and sex as if she was?
All possible.
The thing is that in order to translate "being able to get stuff" into "being able to enjoy what I get" you need a personality.
So you’re able to pack your stuff and live away for 3 months, ok what are you doing over there during that time?
Are you gonna sit in your room the entire time?
Are you gonna explore the city and culture?
Are you gonna date around?
You can’t just throw money at everything and say "entertain me".
That’s why the experiences you collect during the process are so important, they veer you towards your ideal lifestyle.
Don’t be the guy who spends his youth saying "one day" and by the time he gets to old age he hasn’t done any of those things
The point of becoming attractive, rich and charismatic is so that you can get anything you want:
=> sleep in till noon?
=> live in a different city for 3 months because you hate winter season in your regular city?
=> spend a weekend on the beach with a girl who’s not your girlfriend but giving you all the affection and sex as if she was?
All possible.
The thing is that in order to translate "being able to get stuff" into "being able to enjoy what I get" you need a personality.
So you’re able to pack your stuff and live away for 3 months, ok what are you doing over there during that time?
Are you gonna sit in your room the entire time?
Are you gonna explore the city and culture?
Are you gonna date around?
You can’t just throw money at everything and say "entertain me".
That’s why the experiences you collect during the process are so important, they veer you towards your ideal lifestyle.
Don’t be the guy who spends his youth saying "one day" and by the time he gets to old age he hasn’t done any of those things
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Let go of revenge fantasies, they’re not worth your time.
But if you’re really petty, take solace in knowing that the guy most girls end up with turns out to be a disappointment.
Think about it:
Just because the ugly dork gives flowers to the prettiest girl in school and she accepts a free dinner doesn’t mean that’s the kind of girl he can get, he's just being used for what he brings to the table: money, attention, free uber driver, etc
The sane way, just because a girl gets fucked by top guys doesn’t mean that’s the kind of men she can get.
The man who gives her a ring and is willing to commit to her is the kind of man she can get, and that man is almost always waaaaaaaaay below the level of the guys that just played with her.
But if you’re really petty, take solace in knowing that the guy most girls end up with turns out to be a disappointment.
Think about it:
Just because the ugly dork gives flowers to the prettiest girl in school and she accepts a free dinner doesn’t mean that’s the kind of girl he can get, he's just being used for what he brings to the table: money, attention, free uber driver, etc
The sane way, just because a girl gets fucked by top guys doesn’t mean that’s the kind of men she can get.
The man who gives her a ring and is willing to commit to her is the kind of man she can get, and that man is almost always waaaaaaaaay below the level of the guys that just played with her.
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Girls can’t comprehend male friendships.
It’s why JK Rowling made Dumbledore gay, they think "No way a guy is gonna be with you through thick and thin without getting anything in return, they must be fucking"
They can’t wrap their heads around the concept of camaraderie: people having your back without asking for anything in return (other than you having their back)
And I don’t blame them, ever since they went through puberty their lives have been as if they had inherited grandma’s money and everyone around them plays nice at first and then asks for a handout.
Though environment in which to create real bonds, and since women think their experience is universal, they see two bros going through hell together and camaraderie is the furthest thing in their minds, their youth trained them to think everyone always wants something out of you.
It’s why JK Rowling made Dumbledore gay, they think "No way a guy is gonna be with you through thick and thin without getting anything in return, they must be fucking"
They can’t wrap their heads around the concept of camaraderie: people having your back without asking for anything in return (other than you having their back)
And I don’t blame them, ever since they went through puberty their lives have been as if they had inherited grandma’s money and everyone around them plays nice at first and then asks for a handout.
Though environment in which to create real bonds, and since women think their experience is universal, they see two bros going through hell together and camaraderie is the furthest thing in their minds, their youth trained them to think everyone always wants something out of you.
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Sadly, once a girl goes through pain and doesn’t deal with it right, she becomes hurt forever.
Her first guy, who she thought she’d marry, cheats on her?
She has two paths:
1. Dye her hair red/pink and sleep with 10 guys, thinking all men are trash
2. Feel down for a while then move on, thinking some people suck but not everyone
You want to stay away from girls who pick the first road, which sadly is most of them.
Her first guy, who she thought she’d marry, cheats on her?
She has two paths:
1. Dye her hair red/pink and sleep with 10 guys, thinking all men are trash
2. Feel down for a while then move on, thinking some people suck but not everyone
You want to stay away from girls who pick the first road, which sadly is most of them.
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You know who doesn’t feel nervous?
People doing what they’re meant to do.
If you’re stuck in some boring job and deep down you know you’re meant for more, of course you’ll feel nervous… you’re wasting time playing pretend because you’re scared to go all in and maybe fail
People doing what they’re meant to do.
If you’re stuck in some boring job and deep down you know you’re meant for more, of course you’ll feel nervous… you’re wasting time playing pretend because you’re scared to go all in and maybe fail
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Girls like excitement
But that doesn’t mean you need to create it or even join in
See, when you're in a meeting and don’t reply to her texts, she spends that time wondering where you are
When you reply 4 hours later she feels calm again. If she mentions it, you just look at her like she’s overthinking.
I mean… you were in a meeting, nothing wrong there, you’re just handling your stuff
Then she thinks "ok, maybe I was being a little dramatic". Compare that to the guy who keeps texting during the meeting
He gets no work done.
There’s no surprise, he’s always free for her.
He makes her feel nothing but the fact that he’d rather be with her than do anything else.
But that doesn’t mean you need to create it or even join in
See, when you're in a meeting and don’t reply to her texts, she spends that time wondering where you are
When you reply 4 hours later she feels calm again. If she mentions it, you just look at her like she’s overthinking.
I mean… you were in a meeting, nothing wrong there, you’re just handling your stuff
Then she thinks "ok, maybe I was being a little dramatic". Compare that to the guy who keeps texting during the meeting
He gets no work done.
There’s no surprise, he’s always free for her.
He makes her feel nothing but the fact that he’d rather be with her than do anything else.
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Will drop a new post on substack.
Currently working on it.
Title: Is Your Mission Attractive Enough to Get You Women?
Currently working on it.
Title: Is Your Mission Attractive Enough to Get You Women?
THE IRON CIRCLE
Will drop a new post on substack. Currently working on it. Title: Is Your Mission Attractive Enough to Get You Women?
Made to address the "Focus on your mission and the women will come" crowd.
Stay tuned!!!
Stay tuned!!!