How to get a girl talking: share random details.
Don’t just answer plainly, give more info, you never know what she’ll find interesting.
She says she’s from X place?
Don’t just say you’ve been there twice.
Say you’ve been there twice, once because of X and the second time for Y, and you noticed Z while you were there.
Give her something to ask about.
Don’t just answer plainly, give more info, you never know what she’ll find interesting.
She says she’s from X place?
Don’t just say you’ve been there twice.
Say you’ve been there twice, once because of X and the second time for Y, and you noticed Z while you were there.
Give her something to ask about.
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Modern dating is tough because for the first time, people expect their partner to play all roles:
✅ Wife
✅ Mom of your kids
✅ Best friend
✅ Best sex ever
✅ Therapist
✅ Constant romance
✅ Caregiver
✅ Partner in your mission
That’s a lot for one person.
But it makes sense, we’re higher on Maslow’s pyramid now.
Instead of marrying for survival, we want marriage to complete us.
And that’s way harder.
In the past, people married because her dad had land, she could have babies, and he had strength and weapons.
Together, survival was easier.
She played wife and mom, but side chicks were different girls.
His best friend was someone else.
His purpose partner wasn’t her.
As we chase meaning and live more alone, we’ll keep expecting more from one person.
✅ Wife
✅ Mom of your kids
✅ Best friend
✅ Best sex ever
✅ Therapist
✅ Constant romance
✅ Caregiver
✅ Partner in your mission
That’s a lot for one person.
But it makes sense, we’re higher on Maslow’s pyramid now.
Instead of marrying for survival, we want marriage to complete us.
And that’s way harder.
In the past, people married because her dad had land, she could have babies, and he had strength and weapons.
Together, survival was easier.
She played wife and mom, but side chicks were different girls.
His best friend was someone else.
His purpose partner wasn’t her.
As we chase meaning and live more alone, we’ll keep expecting more from one person.
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Paying for drinks or dinner is part of the cost of seeing women.
Paying for her nails, hair, nice outfits, or a gift is investing in her.
Paying her bills is just not smart.
"Investing" in her doesn’t mean she’ll love you more.
It means you’ll care more about her.
The idea is if she’s a good woman and you want to care about her, you can by giving.
But if she doesn’t care about you, giving won’t make her start to care.
Paying for her nails, hair, nice outfits, or a gift is investing in her.
Paying her bills is just not smart.
"Investing" in her doesn’t mean she’ll love you more.
It means you’ll care more about her.
The idea is if she’s a good woman and you want to care about her, you can by giving.
But if she doesn’t care about you, giving won’t make her start to care.
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If you don’t make some RULES, it’s easy to lose control and mess things up:
-Only meet her once a week
-Don’t stay the night
-No presents
Unless you want her to get confused and feel hurt.
(Not talking about LTR)
-Only meet her once a week
-Don’t stay the night
-No presents
Unless you want her to get confused and feel hurt.
(Not talking about LTR)
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Struggling with a girl, your purpose, or inner game?
Drop your biggest question, I’ll reply to a few today.
Drop your biggest question, I’ll reply to a few today.
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Never be scared to go talk to a woman, even if you think she’s too good for you.
And you might be right.
But women make silly choices all the time.
You never know? You could be her next silly choice.
But you still slept with her.
Every woman has slept with a guy she’s not proud of.
And you might be right.
But women make silly choices all the time.
You never know? You could be her next silly choice.
But you still slept with her.
Every woman has slept with a guy she’s not proud of.
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Girls who just moved to a city are real gems
Starting fresh gives them energy to try new things and go with the flow
If she’s pretty and chill, you should meet her
She’ll likely be very open and warm
Starting fresh gives them energy to try new things and go with the flow
If she’s pretty and chill, you should meet her
She’ll likely be very open and warm
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If a woman tells you she’s already “had her fun”.
It means whatever stage she’s moving into now doesn’t feel fun to her.
If the life she had before meeting you is what she calls fun.
What do you think she sees you as?
It means whatever stage she’s moving into now doesn’t feel fun to her.
If the life she had before meeting you is what she calls fun.
What do you think she sees you as?
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When you go on a date with a girl, you should already know what you want to happen.
=> A kiss
=> Setting the second date
=> Taking her home
Whatever your goal is, know it before you meet her.
Then you can plan your steps and not just make it up as you go.
=> A kiss
=> Setting the second date
=> Taking her home
Whatever your goal is, know it before you meet her.
Then you can plan your steps and not just make it up as you go.
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Once you learn how to deal with women, help your close friends who are struggling.
Give them tips without being too pushy.
They’ll thank you later.
Give them tips without being too pushy.
They’ll thank you later.
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Guys who spam a girl’s phone after she says no are dumb.
She’s being honest with you, and you punish her for that?
Would you send a mean email to a boss who didn’t hire you?
That’s acting like a little kid throwing a fit.
She’s being honest with you, and you punish her for that?
Would you send a mean email to a boss who didn’t hire you?
That’s acting like a little kid throwing a fit.
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Ever noticed that only women get mad when you say men and women can’t be just friends?
They get really emotional about it.
So if it’s mostly women fighting for this idea, and the "guy friends" stay quiet…
What does that tell you?
They get really emotional about it.
So if it’s mostly women fighting for this idea, and the "guy friends" stay quiet…
What does that tell you?
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No doubt about it, grit and bouncing back will make people call you a genius over time.
Being smart is really just being able to handle more pain than everyone else and still keep going.
Not breaking down before everyone else does.
Being smart is really just being able to handle more pain than everyone else and still keep going.
Not breaking down before everyone else does.
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Most guys wait to feel and look great before doing anything.
And they may only get that feeling a few hours a week.
The way you see yourself is too quick and unsure.
You’re making real moves when you can win even when you feel and look terrible.
And they may only get that feeling a few hours a week.
The way you see yourself is too quick and unsure.
You’re making real moves when you can win even when you feel and look terrible.
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Real confidence comes from knowing you’ll always get back up after life hits hard.
The guy who wins the lottery and the guy who got rich at 25, lost it, and got it back at 30 are not the same.
The guy who wins the lottery and the guy who got rich at 25, lost it, and got it back at 30 are not the same.
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How to play the game the right way
Easy...
Don’t make her think she’ll get something you can’t give
During the early “free trial” time, show her a great time
So if she later wants more and you can’t offer that
She still left the situation better than when she came in
Could someone say you left her worse off because you didn’t offer commitment?
Maybe
But like most things in life, it’s about keeping a balance and meeting halfway
You want to stay free, so you stay free
And you did this without lying
That’s the key part
Easy...
Don’t make her think she’ll get something you can’t give
During the early “free trial” time, show her a great time
So if she later wants more and you can’t offer that
She still left the situation better than when she came in
Could someone say you left her worse off because you didn’t offer commitment?
Maybe
But like most things in life, it’s about keeping a balance and meeting halfway
You want to stay free, so you stay free
And you did this without lying
That’s the key part
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If you’re not careful, and keep reading stuff without trying it and learning what works and what doesn’t,
You might turn bitter.
What do I mean?
Like girls who think they’re always being hit on?
Those clips where a guy warns a girl her tire’s flat and she says "I have a boyfriend"? Like that.
For guys, it’s thinking every girl is testing them. "She didn’t do what I wanted, so I’ll stop giving her attention to see if she changes."
Bro, she just said your hands are cold and to warm them before touching her chest.
Come on, don’t turn into what you once hated.
You might turn bitter.
What do I mean?
Like girls who think they’re always being hit on?
Those clips where a guy warns a girl her tire’s flat and she says "I have a boyfriend"? Like that.
For guys, it’s thinking every girl is testing them. "She didn’t do what I wanted, so I’ll stop giving her attention to see if she changes."
Bro, she just said your hands are cold and to warm them before touching her chest.
Come on, don’t turn into what you once hated.
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A girl has to meet you halfway with fun energy.
Most guys are too hard on themselves and think their talking or flirting is weak.
I believe in owning your mistakes so you can get better.
But she also needs to be fun and flirty too.
If she acts like a brick wall even after you try to make her feel safe and happy, there’s not much else you can do.
So don’t blame yourself too much.
If you’ve had good vibes with flirty, fun girls before, you likely already know how to talk and flirt well.
So when you meet a "brick wall" girl, check your vibe and effort.
If you did your part, then it’s on her, not you.
Most guys are too hard on themselves and think their talking or flirting is weak.
I believe in owning your mistakes so you can get better.
But she also needs to be fun and flirty too.
If she acts like a brick wall even after you try to make her feel safe and happy, there’s not much else you can do.
So don’t blame yourself too much.
If you’ve had good vibes with flirty, fun girls before, you likely already know how to talk and flirt well.
So when you meet a "brick wall" girl, check your vibe and effort.
If you did your part, then it’s on her, not you.
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Keep up a little with what’s popular in the world.
It helps you talk to girls more and makes you seem more like them, which helps your vibe.
Don’t act like you’re too cool for that stuff.
Trust me, having more things to talk about that she likes helps a lot.
Sure, if you’re hot enough, you can talk about anything because you’re already a high-value guy.
But if you’re hot AND talk about what she likes?
Now your vibe is top level.
Even if you don’t like trends or shows or celeb stuff, it helps a lot if you want to connect with girls.
Plus, the date will go smoother when you can keep the chat going easily.
It helps you talk to girls more and makes you seem more like them, which helps your vibe.
Don’t act like you’re too cool for that stuff.
Trust me, having more things to talk about that she likes helps a lot.
Sure, if you’re hot enough, you can talk about anything because you’re already a high-value guy.
But if you’re hot AND talk about what she likes?
Now your vibe is top level.
Even if you don’t like trends or shows or celeb stuff, it helps a lot if you want to connect with girls.
Plus, the date will go smoother when you can keep the chat going easily.
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Once you learn how to deal with women, help your close friends who are struggling.
Give them tips without being too pushy.
They’ll thank you later.
Give them tips without being too pushy.
They’ll thank you later.
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