If we were to go to someone and say, I am being physically abused, they would not understand what we are saying.

Our particular blessing is our learning about how to endure, reclassify, and transmute experiences of being targeted with extreme continuous violence.

We can only reach that blessing if we remember what is happening.

When people trick us into thinking it can't possibly be that direct or that serious, we can get mushy in our cognition around it. That is what results in lashing out in anger, thrashing in fear, drowning in despair. When some part of us believes that it isn't as serious as we say.

But when we do believe that it is as serious as we say, when we fully believe it and fully recognize it and we maintain contact with one another to have a resonating group body that remembers it, we can be calm immediately.

Because that is the lie to our bodies that has put us in such disarray. Not remembering that it was a lie is something that destroys our bodies, but remembering that it was a lie restores stability.

There is no thrashing or lashing out or spiraling into doom that is not immediately addressed by this.

Remembering it as isolated individuals can be extremely difficult and for long periods of time I did not find it to be possible at all.

Remembering it as a group body strengthens each individual's relational neurological recall.

The more we build the group body and the infrastructure that supports the group body, The more we remember this together.

That is what stops all of the other violence.

Some of the violence is stopped right away in the midst of that. Some of the violence takes time to fold into something that is not violent anymore.

When we watch for the movements of it, the pace of it, we can start to get indications about whether something will be relieved quickly or whether it may take time to feel that relief that we need.

The actual relief, the actual need, is for relational contact with resonating beings.

We were taught that we had to have other specific things, and our families and communities had our relational neurology cut off from one another.

But what we actually needed was the relational neurology and the stabilized respect between beings.

Now that we are reconstructing that, there is no other thing that can hurt us as badly as we thought it could hurt us before.

Each time we feel something is really harming us the worst, each time we feel a situation is impossible to navigate, it is the relational neurological repair that addresses the issue most effectively and successfully, not anything else.

There are other things the bodies need, but this is significantly offset by the vaster more pleomorphic capacities of the group body over the individual body.

This is why pleomorphism was written out of mainstream medicine in the 1880s.