Degrees of Forgiveness with Spouses and Children

Allaah — Glorified and Exalted be He — said:

يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا إِنَّ مِنْ أَزْوَاجِكُمْ وَأَوْلَادِكُمْ عَدُوًّا لَّكُمْ فَاحْذَرُوهُمْ ۚ وَإِن تَعْفُوا وَتَصْفَحُوا وَتَغْفِرُوا فَإِنَّ اللَّهَ غَفُورٌ رَّحِيمٌ

O you who believe! Verily, among your wives and your children there are enemies for you (who may stop you from the obedience of Allaah), therefore beware of them! But if you pardon (them) and overlook, and forgive (their faults), then verily, Allaah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.
(Surah At-Taghabun 64:14)

Allaah the Exalted combined "pardon" (al-'afw), "overlooking" (as-safh), and "forgiveness" (al-maghfirah) to emphasize the perfection of overlooking the mistakes of spouses and children, as these terms represent ascending degrees of forbearance:

- Pardon (Al-'Afw): Relinquishing punishment.
- Overlooking (As-Safh): Turning away from the sin and refraining from reprimand.
- Forgiveness (Al-Maghfirah): Concealing the sin and not publicizing it.

Within this is a Divine guidance toward open-mindedness, preserving affection, and building homes upon forbearance and mercy.

Shaykh Fayṣal Al-Hashidi

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Relationships that diminish your worth

Allaah says:

وَلَا يَلْتَفِتْ مِنكُمْ أَحَدٌ
And let no one among you look back. Surah Hud (11:81)

Treat relationships that have ended as if they are graves, and graves are not to be exhumed!

Whoever has become "behind your back" [in the past], then leave him behind your back. Do not be a prisoner of your past, and do not leave the door slightly ajar lest it tempt you to return.

Battles that yield no benefit only exhaust you, so turn your back! Friendships that diminish your worth are not necessary for you, so learn how to part ways!

Places that kill the passion within you only extinguish your light, so learn how to depart!

Always remember that you have a destination you must reach; for indeed, the one who keeps looking back never arrives.

Shaykh Saleem Al-Hilaali

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What is the benefit of your Tawheed?!

While you fear marriage due to a dread of poverty, and you imagine that your life will be miserable.

And what is the benefit of your Tawheed while you tremble with fear of illness, and you imagine that you are weak and unable to face it!

What is the benefit of pronouncing "There is no deity worthy of worship in truth except Allaah" if you do not apply it?

The true Muwahhid (Monotheist) does not fear illness, nor poverty after marriage, nor the delay of sustenance (Rizq), nor his upcoming future, nor the matters of this worldly life.

Do not be weak; focus on learning the correct Creed (Aqeedah) and Tawheed.

Distance yourselves from the whispers of Shaytaan and his promises of poverty, misery, and constriction in sustenance.

For sustenance is from Allaah; He provides for whom He wills, how He wills. Sustenance has never been in the hands of any human being; rather, it is in the Hand of the Lord of mankind.

Make this your belief and your methodology. Do not become delusional or believe the illusions and Shirk (friends) of Shaytaan.

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ما فائدة توحيدك ؟؟! ⛔

وأنت تخاف الزواج خشية الفقر و تتوهم أن حياتك سوف تكون سيئة

و ما فائدة توحيدك و أنت ترتعب من المرض، وتتوهم أنك ضعيف لا تستطيع مواجهته! ✅️

ما الفائدة أن تنطق ب ( لا إله إلا الله) وأنت لا تطبقها

الموحد الحقيقي، لا يخاف من مرض
ولا من فقر بعد الزوج
ولا من تأخر الرزق
ولا من قادم مستقبله
ولا من أمور الدنيا

لا تكونوا ضعفاء، إهتموا بتعلم العقيدة الصحيحة و التوحيد /وابتعدو عن وساوس الشيطان ووعوده بالفقر ونكد وضيق في الرزق...✅

فالرزق من الله يرزق من يشاء كيف شاء ولم يكن يوما الرزق على أحد من بني البشر بل بيد رب البشر إجعلوا هذا في معتقدكم ومنهجكم ولا تتوهموا وتصدقوا أوهام الشيطان وشركه .

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Patience with Daughters

1. The Mu’adhin of Bishr bin Al-Harith said:

I saw Bishr bin al-Harith in a dream and I said: "What has Allaah done with you?" He said: "He has forgiven me."
I said: "What has He done with Abu Nasr al-Tammar?" He said: "Far from it, far from it [his status is high]! He is in ‘Illiyyin (the highest stations of Paradise) due to his patience with his daughters."
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Tarikh Baghdad (10/421).

2. Abu Bakrin Al-Warraq - may Allaah have mercy upon him - said

I had a daughter who was afflicted — either with illness or insanity — and I used to wish for her death, and then she died. He said: "I saw her in a dream, and it was as if young children were taking their fathers by the hand and entering them into Paradise."

He said: "So I said to my daughter: 'Take my hand and enter me into Paradise.'" He said: "She said to me: 'No, for you used to wish for my death!'"
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Tarikh Baghdad (5/261).

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[Memories]

One day after the Ẓuhr prayer, I was reading with a student a book on Aḥādīth al-Aḥkām. He was fourteen years old. When he was reading, I said to him, "Would you like to join me for lunch?"
He replied, "Excuse me, Shaykh. My wife is waiting for me for lunch."

I said, "May Allah bless you. How old is she?"

He replied, "Thirteen years old!"

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Allahuma Bārik!

IT AMPLIFIES WHAT ALREADY EXISTS WITHIN THE HEART

بســـم اللــه الرحــمــن الـرحـــيــم

Human beings possess a peculiar nostalgia: whenever they speak of a time when life felt better, simpler, and more meaningful, they often point to eras when technology had not yet colonized every moment of existence. The less technologically saturated our lives were, the more present we seemed to be — with our families, communities, and our Lord. Modern technological advancement is a double-edged sword. While it offers undeniable conveniences, it has lowered the barrier to sin and multiplied avenues of heedlessness. What once required effort or secrecy now sits comfortably in one’s pocket; the struggle against the nafs has been digitized — and for many, it has been lost.

Some insist that technology can be used for good — and this is true.

Technology is not inherently evil; it is a tool. Yet tools reveal the craftsman. And here lies the uncomfortable reality: technology does not create character — it magnifies it. It amplifies what already exists within the heart.

The disciplined become more productive, the sincere more beneficial, but the heedless more distracted, and the spiritually weak find their weaknesses amplified. Although technology can serve knowledge and daʿwah, many Muslims have allowed it to become a conduit for wasted time and spiritual erosion. The problem is not technology itself but the unrefined soul encountering limitless tools without disciplined guidance. Technology is a mirror — a magnifying glass — revealing who we truly are: with strong īmān it becomes a means of khayr; with weak īmān it becomes a vehicle toward self-destruction.

We ask Allaah for strength and aid.

Abu Juwayriyah Nūruddīn
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The Rizq You Strive For and the Rizq You Wait For

بســـم اللــه الرحــمــن الـرحـــيــم

The rizq you chase in this world, your material provision, is unseen, unknown, and unpredictable. Yet you wake up for it. You hustle for it. You break sweat for it. People labour day and night, and many discover that their halāl earnings still look smaller beside the glittering illusions of harām wealth.

Some over zealous women even shoulder the burden of sustaining sick parents, younger siblings, and vulnerable family members.

And still, in this dunya, the one who slows down is instantly branded “lazy,” as if humans are incapable of knowing their own intentions better than the public that judges them.

Then comes the rizq of a husband.

Suddenly, almost magically, the standards shift.

Here, passiveness becomes a badge of honour.
No looking. No searching. No asking. No initiating. No movement.
And she is never called lazy. On the contrary, she shields her inaction with the fragile umbrella of “I’m waiting for qadar,” while some so-called du‘āt applaud and clap for her “modesty,” disguising stagnancy as spirituality.

But what is she expecting, exactly?

That a husband will stroll out of the unseen?
That he will manifest like the prince charming of Snow White and Sleeping Beauty, noble, prepared, flawless, and divinely dispatched to rescue her from her own uncertainty and confused doubts?

And not an average man, no.
She imagines one strong and steadfast, with the resilience of the least of the Sahābah, a protector and provider, principled, polite, emotionally mature, well-grounded in ‘aqeedah, and firm upon the Sunnah.

But Allāh has already set the principle:

{وَأَنْ لَيْسَ لِلْإِنسَانِ إِلَّا مَا سَعَىٰ (39) وَأَنَّ سَعْيَهُ سَوْفَ يُرَىٰ (40) ثُمَّ يُجْزَاهُ الْجَزَاءَ الْأَوْفَىٰ (41)}
“And that man can have nothing except what he strives for;
and that his striving will be seen;
then he will be fully recompensed for it.” [Surah An-Najm: 39–41]


Your delicacies of delicious meals do not appear on your dining table well arranged by miracle.

Your beautifully perfect fit clothes did not stitch themselves and cling to your body from the sky.

Your comfy shelter did not come looking for you, well situated in a good area, you sought it out, you moved toward it, you worked for it.

So why, then, should the righteous husband you desire simply knock on your door, while you wait in your living room doing shakara?

No be juju be that? Wouldn't you be sceptical?!

The same hands that reach toward sustenance must also reach toward sincere du‘ā, and toward halāl effort, in the search for a spouse. Rizq does not descend upon those who sleep through their striving. It comes to those who walk, who move, who act, while trusting in Allāh.

Even the wife of Mūsā (before she became his wife) did not sit back and wait for destiny to unfold.
She strove, with modesty and intelligence, by suggesting to her father that he should hire Mūsā, and from that wise proposal came the marriage. She took a step, through the right channel, at the right time.

Effort through halāl avenues is not a contradiction to piety;
it is its completion.

Effort is not a betrayal of tawakkul.
Effort is the proof of it.
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How we can welcome Ramadan

بســـم اللــه الرحــمــن الـرحـــيــم

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1. Being Grateful to Allaah.

2. Having Ikhlaas (sincerity).

3. Seeking Knowledge.

4. Having Determination to rush in competing in good deeds.

5. Doing A lot of Istigfaar (seeking forgiveness from Allaah).

6. Entering Ramadan with a clean pure heart.

7. Doing sincere Tawbah (repentance) to Allaah.

8. Leaving off what would reduce good deeds.

9. Leaving off major sins.

10. Leaving off actions that delay forgiveness.

11. Leaving off sins in general as sins confine the slave from hurrying to righteous actions.


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The Honors of the Memorizer of the Qur'aan

أوسمة حافظ القرآن


By the Shaykh:
Abū Abdillāh Fayṣal Al-Ḥāshidī - May Allaah preserve him.

Translated by:
Abu Juwayriyah Nūruddīn ibn Sulaymān ibn Hārūn Al Idi An-Nījīrīyy - May Allaah preserve him.
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