Ghusl and shrouding kit for a deceased woman

بســـم اللــه الرحــمــن الـرحـــيــم

Preparing and honoring our deceased is a sacred trust and a communal obligation in Islam. This short guide was put together to help Muslim women understand the correct, dignified, and compassionate way to perform ghusl, shrouding, and burial preparations while preserving the honor, modesty, and sanctity of the deceased, especially a woman.

It includes a comprehensive kit checklist, practical local alternatives, and Sunnah-based reminders, so that when the time comes, we are prepared and not confused, rushed, or unaware.

May Allaah accept it as a means of benefit, sadaqah jāriyah, and a reminder to treat our dead with the same mercy and respect we hope to receive when our own time comes.
بارك الله فيكم

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Taking into account the feelings of the woman during the Sharia-compliant looking

Imaam An-Nawawi - may Allaah the Exalted have mercy on him - said:

"Our companions (the scholars of the Madhhab) said: It is recommended that his looking at her be before the (formal) proposal, so that if he dislikes her, he leaves her without causing harm; as opposed to if he leaves her after the proposal."

Sharh Muslim by An-Nawawi (9/210)

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WHEN JEALOUSY DOES NOT WAIT FOR THE HEREAFTER - part 1.

بســـم اللــه الرحــمــن الـرحـــيــم

Jealousy is one of those sins people excuse too easily.
They say, “It’s normal.” “I am a very jealous person.” “Aaishah our mother was also jealous.” etc.

Yes, the feeling may be normal— but acting on it is a decision, and every decision has a price.

This story is proof that some punishments are not delayed.
Jealousy might be one of them.

She wanted to inconvenience her husband for attending another woman’s joy.
The harm chose her child instead. That is how sin and oppression works — once you release it, you no longer control where it lands.

Shayṭān never tells you the ending. He only says, “Do this small thing.” Then he steps back and watches lives collapse.

An innocent child paid for an adult’s unresolved jealousy.
That is one of the most frightening realities of sin:
the weakest often suffer first.

Regret came — but regret after destruction is not the same as restraint before action. Tears cannot rewind consequences. Pain does not undo poison.

Marriage, especially polygyny, exposes what is already inside the heart. It does not create jealousy — it reveals it. And whoever does not control envy will eventually harm themselves.

The most painful lesson?
Life does not pause for your tragedy. The aqīqah continued.
The world moved on. Only the mother was left with a silence that will never speak back.

Sisters!!! Jealousy never builds a home. It burns it down — sometimes immediately.

Some punishments wait for the Hereafter. Others arrive while the sin is still warm.

May Allah protect us from jealousy, because when it is not checked, it destroys what we love most.

والله أعلم.

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The objectives of marriage according to the Salaf

عَنْ أَسْمَاءَ بِنْتِ أَبِي بَكْرٍ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُمَا قَالَتْ: تَزَوَّجَنِي الزُّبَيْرُ وَمَا لَهُ فِي الْأَرْضِ مِنْ مَالٍ وَلَا مَمْلُوكٍ وَلَا شَيْءٍ غَيْرَ نَاضِحٍ وَغَيْرِ فَرَسِهِ.

Asmāʾ bint Abī Bakrin (may Allaah be pleased with them both) said:

Az-Zubayr married me while he had nothing on the earth — no wealth, no slave, and nothing at all except a water-drawing camel and his horse.
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Al-Bukhārī (5224) and Muslim 2182

Commentary:

Imām al-Qurṭubī (may Allaah have mercy upon him) said:
This indicates that what they considered in compatibility was only religion and virtue, not wealth and affluence, as he ﷺ said:

(فَعَلَيْكَ بِذَاتِ الدِّينِ، تَرِبَتْ يَدَاكَ).
“Then choose the one possessing religion — may your hands be rubbed in dust (ie successful).”

This was only because the people’s objectives in marriage were cooperation upon the religion and increasing the Ummah of Muḥammad, the Seal of the Prophet.

And because they knew that wealth is a vanishing shadow and a passing cloud, while virtue remains until the Day of Meeting.

As for today, the situation has been reversed, and people have turned away from what is obligatory to what is absurd or impossible.

Al-Mufhim limā Ashkala min Kitāb Talkhīṣ Muslim (5/516).

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Love Grows [ Between Spouses]

Love grows between spouses through understanding, respect, and kind words 🌹
not through perfection, but through patience with flaws and turning them into points of strength.

Every smile, every apology, and every moment of understanding…
is water that nourishes the tree of love, making it deeper and more firmly rooted 💞🌹

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Learning the English language.

The Question: What is your eminence's opinion regarding a student of knowledge learning the English language, especially for the sake of using it in calling to Allaah?

The Answer: All praise is due to Allaah, and peace and blessings be upon the Messenger of Allaah. To proceed: The eminent Shaykh Muhammad bin Saalih Al-Uthaymīn — may Allaah the Exalted have mercy on him — was asked the previous question, and his eminence replied by saying:

"Our opinion regarding learning the English language is that it is a means, without doubt; and it becomes vile if it is for vile objectives. However, the only thing that must be avoided is that it be taken as a substitute for the Arabic language, for indeed this is not permissible."

"And we have heard some of the foolish people speaking it instead of the Arabic language, to the extent that some of the infatuated fools — whom I consider to be tails (followers) of others — were teaching their children the greeting of the non-Muslims; they teach them to say 'bye-bye' upon parting and what is similar to that."

"Because substituting the Arabic language — by which is the language of the Qur'aan and the noblest of languages — with this language is prohibited; and it has been authentically reported from the Salaf (Predecessors) the prohibition of the gibberish (foreign speech) of the non-Arabs, and they are whoever is other than the Arabs."

"As for using it as a means for Da'wah (calling to Allaah), then there is no doubt that it is obligatory (Waajib) sometimes. I did not learn it, and I wish that I had learned it; I have found on some occasions that I am forced (to use) it, such that even the translator cannot express exactly what is in my heart."

"And I mention to you a story that happened in the Airport Masjid in Jeddah with the men of Islamic Awareness; we were speaking after the Fajr prayer about the Teejaani Madhhab (sect) and that it is a false Madhhab and disbelief (Kufr) in Islaam. I began speaking what I knew about it, then a man came to me and said: 'I want you to permit (me)—meaning to translate—into the Hausa language.' I said: 'There is no objection.' So he translated.

Then a man entered quickly and said: 'This man who is translating for you is praising the Teejaaniyyah Madhhab/Sect!' I was shocked and said: 'Inna liLLaahi wa inna ilayHi raaji'oon' (To Allaah we belong and to Him we shall return). If I had known such a language, I would not have needed the likes of those who deceive."

"So the result is that knowing the language of the one you address is undoubtedly important in conveying information. Allaah the Exalted said:

«{ وَمَا أَرْسَلْنَا مِنْ رَسُولٍ إِلَّا بِلِسَانِ قَوْمِهِ لِيُبَيِّنَ لَهُمْ } [إِبْرَاهِيمَ: ٤]».

{And We sent not a Messenger except with the language of his people, in order that he might make (the Message) clear for them.} [Ibraheem: 4]

From the Fataawa of Shaykh Muhammad bin Saalih Al-Uthaymīn, Kitaab Al-’Ilm, Page 143.

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Degrees of Forgiveness with Spouses and Children

Allaah — Glorified and Exalted be He — said:

يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا إِنَّ مِنْ أَزْوَاجِكُمْ وَأَوْلَادِكُمْ عَدُوًّا لَّكُمْ فَاحْذَرُوهُمْ ۚ وَإِن تَعْفُوا وَتَصْفَحُوا وَتَغْفِرُوا فَإِنَّ اللَّهَ غَفُورٌ رَّحِيمٌ

O you who believe! Verily, among your wives and your children there are enemies for you (who may stop you from the obedience of Allaah), therefore beware of them! But if you pardon (them) and overlook, and forgive (their faults), then verily, Allaah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.
(Surah At-Taghabun 64:14)

Allaah the Exalted combined "pardon" (al-'afw), "overlooking" (as-safh), and "forgiveness" (al-maghfirah) to emphasize the perfection of overlooking the mistakes of spouses and children, as these terms represent ascending degrees of forbearance:

- Pardon (Al-'Afw): Relinquishing punishment.
- Overlooking (As-Safh): Turning away from the sin and refraining from reprimand.
- Forgiveness (Al-Maghfirah): Concealing the sin and not publicizing it.

Within this is a Divine guidance toward open-mindedness, preserving affection, and building homes upon forbearance and mercy.

Shaykh Fayṣal Al-Hashidi

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Relationships that diminish your worth

Allaah says:

وَلَا يَلْتَفِتْ مِنكُمْ أَحَدٌ
And let no one among you look back. Surah Hud (11:81)

Treat relationships that have ended as if they are graves, and graves are not to be exhumed!

Whoever has become "behind your back" [in the past], then leave him behind your back. Do not be a prisoner of your past, and do not leave the door slightly ajar lest it tempt you to return.

Battles that yield no benefit only exhaust you, so turn your back! Friendships that diminish your worth are not necessary for you, so learn how to part ways!

Places that kill the passion within you only extinguish your light, so learn how to depart!

Always remember that you have a destination you must reach; for indeed, the one who keeps looking back never arrives.

Shaykh Saleem Al-Hilaali

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What is the benefit of your Tawheed?!

While you fear marriage due to a dread of poverty, and you imagine that your life will be miserable.

And what is the benefit of your Tawheed while you tremble with fear of illness, and you imagine that you are weak and unable to face it!

What is the benefit of pronouncing "There is no deity worthy of worship in truth except Allaah" if you do not apply it?

The true Muwahhid (Monotheist) does not fear illness, nor poverty after marriage, nor the delay of sustenance (Rizq), nor his upcoming future, nor the matters of this worldly life.

Do not be weak; focus on learning the correct Creed (Aqeedah) and Tawheed.

Distance yourselves from the whispers of Shaytaan and his promises of poverty, misery, and constriction in sustenance.

For sustenance is from Allaah; He provides for whom He wills, how He wills. Sustenance has never been in the hands of any human being; rather, it is in the Hand of the Lord of mankind.

Make this your belief and your methodology. Do not become delusional or believe the illusions and Shirk (friends) of Shaytaan.

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ما فائدة توحيدك ؟؟! ⛔

وأنت تخاف الزواج خشية الفقر و تتوهم أن حياتك سوف تكون سيئة

و ما فائدة توحيدك و أنت ترتعب من المرض، وتتوهم أنك ضعيف لا تستطيع مواجهته! ✅️

ما الفائدة أن تنطق ب ( لا إله إلا الله) وأنت لا تطبقها

الموحد الحقيقي، لا يخاف من مرض
ولا من فقر بعد الزوج
ولا من تأخر الرزق
ولا من قادم مستقبله
ولا من أمور الدنيا

لا تكونوا ضعفاء، إهتموا بتعلم العقيدة الصحيحة و التوحيد /وابتعدو عن وساوس الشيطان ووعوده بالفقر ونكد وضيق في الرزق...✅

فالرزق من الله يرزق من يشاء كيف شاء ولم يكن يوما الرزق على أحد من بني البشر بل بيد رب البشر إجعلوا هذا في معتقدكم ومنهجكم ولا تتوهموا وتصدقوا أوهام الشيطان وشركه .

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Patience with Daughters

1. The Mu’adhin of Bishr bin Al-Harith said:

I saw Bishr bin al-Harith in a dream and I said: "What has Allaah done with you?" He said: "He has forgiven me."
I said: "What has He done with Abu Nasr al-Tammar?" He said: "Far from it, far from it [his status is high]! He is in ‘Illiyyin (the highest stations of Paradise) due to his patience with his daughters."
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Tarikh Baghdad (10/421).

2. Abu Bakrin Al-Warraq - may Allaah have mercy upon him - said

I had a daughter who was afflicted — either with illness or insanity — and I used to wish for her death, and then she died. He said: "I saw her in a dream, and it was as if young children were taking their fathers by the hand and entering them into Paradise."

He said: "So I said to my daughter: 'Take my hand and enter me into Paradise.'" He said: "She said to me: 'No, for you used to wish for my death!'"
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Tarikh Baghdad (5/261).

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[Memories]

One day after the Ẓuhr prayer, I was reading with a student a book on Aḥādīth al-Aḥkām. He was fourteen years old. When he was reading, I said to him, "Would you like to join me for lunch?"
He replied, "Excuse me, Shaykh. My wife is waiting for me for lunch."

I said, "May Allah bless you. How old is she?"

He replied, "Thirteen years old!"

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Allahuma Bārik!

IT AMPLIFIES WHAT ALREADY EXISTS WITHIN THE HEART

بســـم اللــه الرحــمــن الـرحـــيــم

Human beings possess a peculiar nostalgia: whenever they speak of a time when life felt better, simpler, and more meaningful, they often point to eras when technology had not yet colonized every moment of existence. The less technologically saturated our lives were, the more present we seemed to be — with our families, communities, and our Lord. Modern technological advancement is a double-edged sword. While it offers undeniable conveniences, it has lowered the barrier to sin and multiplied avenues of heedlessness. What once required effort or secrecy now sits comfortably in one’s pocket; the struggle against the nafs has been digitized — and for many, it has been lost.

Some insist that technology can be used for good — and this is true.

Technology is not inherently evil; it is a tool. Yet tools reveal the craftsman. And here lies the uncomfortable reality: technology does not create character — it magnifies it. It amplifies what already exists within the heart.

The disciplined become more productive, the sincere more beneficial, but the heedless more distracted, and the spiritually weak find their weaknesses amplified. Although technology can serve knowledge and daʿwah, many Muslims have allowed it to become a conduit for wasted time and spiritual erosion. The problem is not technology itself but the unrefined soul encountering limitless tools without disciplined guidance. Technology is a mirror — a magnifying glass — revealing who we truly are: with strong īmān it becomes a means of khayr; with weak īmān it becomes a vehicle toward self-destruction.

We ask Allaah for strength and aid.

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The Rizq You Strive For and the Rizq You Wait For

بســـم اللــه الرحــمــن الـرحـــيــم

The rizq you chase in this world, your material provision, is unseen, unknown, and unpredictable. Yet you wake up for it. You hustle for it. You break sweat for it. People labour day and night, and many discover that their halāl earnings still look smaller beside the glittering illusions of harām wealth.

Some over zealous women even shoulder the burden of sustaining sick parents, younger siblings, and vulnerable family members.

And still, in this dunya, the one who slows down is instantly branded “lazy,” as if humans are incapable of knowing their own intentions better than the public that judges them.

Then comes the rizq of a husband.

Suddenly, almost magically, the standards shift.

Here, passiveness becomes a badge of honour.
No looking. No searching. No asking. No initiating. No movement.
And she is never called lazy. On the contrary, she shields her inaction with the fragile umbrella of “I’m waiting for qadar,” while some so-called du‘āt applaud and clap for her “modesty,” disguising stagnancy as spirituality.

But what is she expecting, exactly?

That a husband will stroll out of the unseen?
That he will manifest like the prince charming of Snow White and Sleeping Beauty, noble, prepared, flawless, and divinely dispatched to rescue her from her own uncertainty and confused doubts?

And not an average man, no.
She imagines one strong and steadfast, with the resilience of the least of the Sahābah, a protector and provider, principled, polite, emotionally mature, well-grounded in ‘aqeedah, and firm upon the Sunnah.

But Allāh has already set the principle:

{وَأَنْ لَيْسَ لِلْإِنسَانِ إِلَّا مَا سَعَىٰ (39) وَأَنَّ سَعْيَهُ سَوْفَ يُرَىٰ (40) ثُمَّ يُجْزَاهُ الْجَزَاءَ الْأَوْفَىٰ (41)}
“And that man can have nothing except what he strives for;
and that his striving will be seen;
then he will be fully recompensed for it.” [Surah An-Najm: 39–41]


Your delicacies of delicious meals do not appear on your dining table well arranged by miracle.

Your beautifully perfect fit clothes did not stitch themselves and cling to your body from the sky.

Your comfy shelter did not come looking for you, well situated in a good area, you sought it out, you moved toward it, you worked for it.

So why, then, should the righteous husband you desire simply knock on your door, while you wait in your living room doing shakara?

No be juju be that? Wouldn't you be sceptical?!

The same hands that reach toward sustenance must also reach toward sincere du‘ā, and toward halāl effort, in the search for a spouse. Rizq does not descend upon those who sleep through their striving. It comes to those who walk, who move, who act, while trusting in Allāh.

Even the wife of Mūsā (before she became his wife) did not sit back and wait for destiny to unfold.
She strove, with modesty and intelligence, by suggesting to her father that he should hire Mūsā, and from that wise proposal came the marriage. She took a step, through the right channel, at the right time.

Effort through halāl avenues is not a contradiction to piety;
it is its completion.

Effort is not a betrayal of tawakkul.
Effort is the proof of it.
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