Choose your environment properly.

That’s the simplest and most incredibly effective rule!

If you feel lousy around someone - say goodbye to them, if you're walking like a lemon after another whine from someone you know - cry farewell to them, if someone mentions you when they need something - don't even look in their direction!

❗️And don't feel sorry for them!

Surround yourself with people who have a goal and are enthusiastic about it, you will be motivated and have someone to look up to!

You build your environment, and it also builds you🏆

The "burden of proof" tactic and its application to an argument

Crush and dominate other people's opinions!

Proving is harder than destroying evidence. That's what we'll work with👌🏻

Instead of insisting on your opinion, give your interlocutor the opportunity to prove it wrong.

Now it's not you proving your point of view is correct, it's him trying to convince you of its incorrectness, so you are INSTANTLY in a winning position.

⚡️ All that's left to do is to defeat him intelligently.

Awkward Silence

The same beast everyone else is afraid of, even the most brutal male! And in vain😏

Frequently, guys try to fill the pause and strike up a new conversation by asking questions without stopping. And you know what they think: that you're giving them the ultimate interrogation!

I'll let you in on a little secret - all the awkwardness is in your head!

❌When there's a pause in the conversation, the girl will look at you, and if she sees your dazed look and nervousness, you're in trouble, boy! She's got you figured out!

✅And if you're silent and buzzed about what's going on, whether it's a walk or a hot coffee, she'll know there's no problem and no reason to get excited. It will be further proof that YOU ARE CONTROLLING THE SITUATION.

And if she felt a little uneasy before, she'll get rid of it.

Simplify Your Life

Put away all your worries about communicating with others, and they'll reach out to you!

If a non-smiling face comes toward you or you feel aloof, don't immediately conclude that the person is unwilling to chat.

Think of yourself when you have problems at work, or when you're just tired. Chances are the person just found out they lost their car keys or that their girlfriend is cheating on them, and you're just spoiling your mood right now!

Here’s also the 18/40/60 rule, formulated by psychiatrist Daniel Amen:

🔺 At 18, you worry about what the people around you think of you; at 40, you no longer care about their opinions; at 60, you realize that no one thought of you at all.

The "spinning the pedals of a bicycle" principle

Stop putting things off and finally achieve everything you're passionate about🔥

Remember: when you get on your bike, you have to exert the most effort when the vehicle is just starting up.

You have to pedal as hard as you can, giving you initial acceleration. It gets easier from there, and when the bike picks up speed, you only pedal a little and everything goes like clockwork👌🏻

Get it? 😉

Don't waste your time with whiners

What should you do if not everyone wants to be strong and your "favorite" whiner is on the horizon, looking for another friendly shoulder to cry on?

If you're already caught in his whining trap, knock him out with the following question:

❓"How and when do you think you can solve this problem?"

And don't back down from it! If it didn't work the first time, keep using that phrase.

Remember, these people don't want to solve anything, they just like to complain.

Rage

Anger is only good if it energizes you to win🔥

But let's face it, more often than not it just drains and wastes your time, and also your health!

And extinguishing any spark will help you with the following exercise:

✅Do something as focused as possible.
Clean the desktop on your computer or smartphone. Go through all the junk you don't need or just wash the dishes.

Most importantly, try to concentrate as much as possible.

This way your brain "switches" and reduces the production of stress hormones.

Nothing is worth your nerves⚡️

If someone raises his voice at you

The boss in a bad mood or a girl in a PMS - it doesn't matter. You must always remember your dignity!

✅ You just say, "I'm not gonna talk like that," and if the situation doesn't change, you walk away.

Nah, it doesn't mean that you slam the door in your boss's angry face, just that you walk away peacefully to think about the problem at hand.

The purpose of any argument is to solve the problem, which yelling clearly does not do!

No fuss

❓What distinguishes a confident man from a loser who can't stand up for himself?

Posture, manner of communication, posture? Yay! But here’s something else - relaxation!

Nope, it's not the relaxation on the chair in the strangest poses in the office, but the calmness and confidence that you are good! It really will be transmitted to those around you!

✔️Let me explain: if you're worried and fearful - you start talking quietly and quickly, fiddling with your phone or your voice is shaking, etc.

All these things you will never find in a man who knows his worth!

Power in Thought, Winner🏆

How to prepare for a nervous conversation

"We gotta have a serious talk" or "Hurry up and get in my office!" - these are phrases obviously giving you a heavy dose of stress!

But you can't show weakness if you wanna look dignified!

❓How to prepare for a tough conversation?

✅Think about all the possible outcomes: the most advantageous for you, acceptable and absolutely unacceptable. Now steer your interlocutor in the first or second direction👌🏻

Any problems are solved wisely, your task is to come out of any situation with a victory🏆

The main mistake on a date

A few of my acquaintances have already lamented meeting guys like that and, naturally, they never saw each other again.

So, what scares away the hotties? 👇🏻

Talking only about how cool you are. And nope, it's not the stuff about how you graduated with honors, it's the stuff where you chat about how you put some asshole in his place🚫

✔️ Remember: never talk about how strong you are (morally, physically), time will come and she will see it and appreciate you more!

Choose easier topics for dating! I can drop a couple on you, are you curious? Hit 🔥

Are you devaluing yourself?

I'm talking specifically about those thoughts standing in the way of enjoying your accomplishments, which are:

- "That was easy, everyone can do that, I didn't do anything special."
- "Anyone can do that."
- "I can do better, I should have done it otherwise," etc.

And rather than positive emotions and motivation, you experience nothing at best, and a tiny bit of frustration at worst🥀

❗️When we devalue ourselves, we slide into a box of doubt, and boil in our anxieties, constantly pondering "did I do it right?"

Here are the stresses, the apathy, and the deterioration of our overall well-being. Is that what you want? I don't think so.

Praise yourself for the little victories, pay attention to any little thing you've handled-it will recharge your battery, and you'll quickly solve any problem on the road to your dreams🏆

Gaze to conquer her

Either to devour her with a gaze or to stare thoughtfully anywhere but at her?

None of that, my friend!

If we're talking about conquering a hottie, then:

❌ don't turn on your most menacing stare of all time for the sake of looking brutal.

Try to smile during long eye contact, this gesture makes her seem friendly.

The girl has no need to look at the bridge of her nose. Look into her eyes! It helps to arouse her emotions: embarrassment or laughter! This is what we need🌹

Major flaw in a man. Strong personal opinion.

When it comes to success and achieving goals, their biggest enemy is not being self-sufficient.

You can be smart, you can be creative, but that gets wiped into the dust under the weight of not being able to make decisions for yourself!

Lately I've begun to run into just such people a lot. They're in their 30s, and the person stiffens up before they can solve some minor chore.

▪️What this expresses:

- delaying things for lack of knowing what to do
- shifting responsibility
- procrastination
- waiting for tips from others
- not having one's own opinion, etc.

Better to make a mistake, but your own!

Speaking of TED

⚡️Just one TED video a day keeps you compelling and broadens your horizons!

You can listen to them in transportation, during breakfast, and I sometimes even listen to them while showering😄

So let's just say I try to diversify my routine👌🏻

It helps to learn something new and useful & your knowledge base will noticeably expand🧠

Save time

Technology is progress! Not only of mankind, but also of you personally!

With the right apps, you can not only manage your time efficiently, but also get through tasks faster and get to the pleasant things👌🏻

- Google Shared Calendars or the TimeTree app is a digital event calendar that will keep you up-to-date on upcoming events and activities. Available on and notify others about them.

- Remember the milk is a free task management app. The advantage: it is compatible with various devices: cell phone, computer, Gmail, Outlook, etc.

- Focus@Will is an app with music that increases concentration. Ideal for those who have difficulty concentrating while studying, working, or reading.

Magic Word

And that's not work, my friend😁

If you wanna accomplish anything, there's only one way to do it - count on regularity!

Like, you can slave at the gym so hard that you can barely get your legs over after a workout, BUT if you do WITHOUT a certain schedule, all your efforts will go for naught!

❌ give in to a flash of unrestrained desire to act and quickly end up like a virgin at the sight of a woman's bra strap

✅ take small steps without much exhaustion to get the best results.

The best thing you can do is to exert as much effort as possible until the first minimal results, and then you will be motivated and you will realize that you are doing the right thing.

Strength in Sincerity

Ever notice how some people are TOTALLY uninhibited about their emotions, thereby winning over those around them?

That way others see that you are just as human and can sometimes make mistakes, and they subconsciously relax!

🚫 Remember: no mask with a fake smile or indifference! It's always noticeable to those around you and it works repulsively!

Well, should the assholes be put in their place?

Clutches on public transportation, the line at the store, and a bunch of other places where people think to voice their very valuable opinions are inevitable. Are they worth the attention❓

I had a girl who was incredibly positive and responsive, and she shared her secret with me👌🏻

✅Whenever someone snapped at her or made an inappropriate remark, she would respond with just one phrase: "I'm sorry for your bad mood" and walk away.

"Can you imagine how complicated and boring his life is that he said such a nasty thing to me?" - she said.

⚡️When you're happy, do you ignore other people's shortcomings enough to tell him so? NO!!!

Agree?

Pick a moment to ask

That plays a key role, champ🏆

For a person to do what you want, just find the right time👌🏻

🔺When a person gets tired, they become more receptive to any information as their mental reserve of energy is depleted.

You're more likely to hear the next response, "I'll do it tomorrow," because he won't be willing to make any decisions at this point.

✅ And then it's a matter of honor! Most people try to keep their word, so we make sure that what we say coincides with what we do.

Strong Spirit and Beyond

When I feel like I'm about to get lightning bolts of anger coming out of my eyes, I often use my one and only purely male anti-stress!

⭕️ And it's an expander! Imagine the face of the asshole who ruined your mood and squeeze-squeeze the expansion pack😄

✅ And your nerves are stronger and your handshake is tougher!