How do Intelligent People Deal with Difficult and Tox!c People.
2. Do not take anything they do or say personally. Nothing that they do or say is because of you. It is because of themselves. Don’t take anything personally because by taking things personally you set yourself up to suffer for nothing. You can never feel hurt by what they say or do until you take it personal.
3. Don’t befriend them and be more mindful about what types of people you allow into your life. Tox!c people have a way of sending out the vibe that you owe them something. They also have a way of taking from you or doing something that hurts you, then maintaining they were doing it all for you.
3. Set limits, especially with complainers. Complainers and negative people are bad news because they wallow in their problems and fail to focus on solutions. They want people to join their pity party so that they can feel better about themselves. You can avoid this only by setting limits and distancing yourself when necessary.
4. Become aware of their emotions. To maintain emotional distance, you need to be aware of those emotions. You can’t stop someone from pushing your buttons if you don’t recognize when it’s happening. Understand how their emotions hurt you plan the best way to free yourself from them. You can establish a boundary, but you will have to do it consciously and proactively.
5. Do not let anyone limit your joy. When your sense of pleasure and satisfaction are derived from the opinions of other people, you are no longer the master of your own happiness. When intelligent people feel good about something that they have done, they won’t let anyone’s opinions or unpleasant remarks take that away from them.
6. Intelligent people do not focus on problems; they focus only on solutions. Where you focus your attention determines your emotional state. When you occupy your mind with problems you are facing, you create and prolong negative emotions and stress. But when you focus on actions to better yourself and your circumstances, you create a sense of personal efficacy that produces positive emotions and reduces stress.
7. They squash negative self-talk. Sometimes you can nurse negative feelings about how someone is treating you. There is nothing wrong with feeling bad about how others treat you, but your self-talk can either intensify the negativity or help you move past it. Negative self-talk can sends you into a downward emotional spiral that is difficult to pull out of. You should avoid negative self-talk at all costs.
2. Do not take anything they do or say personally. Nothing that they do or say is because of you. It is because of themselves. Don’t take anything personally because by taking things personally you set yourself up to suffer for nothing. You can never feel hurt by what they say or do until you take it personal.
3. Don’t befriend them and be more mindful about what types of people you allow into your life. Tox!c people have a way of sending out the vibe that you owe them something. They also have a way of taking from you or doing something that hurts you, then maintaining they were doing it all for you.
3. Set limits, especially with complainers. Complainers and negative people are bad news because they wallow in their problems and fail to focus on solutions. They want people to join their pity party so that they can feel better about themselves. You can avoid this only by setting limits and distancing yourself when necessary.
4. Become aware of their emotions. To maintain emotional distance, you need to be aware of those emotions. You can’t stop someone from pushing your buttons if you don’t recognize when it’s happening. Understand how their emotions hurt you plan the best way to free yourself from them. You can establish a boundary, but you will have to do it consciously and proactively.
5. Do not let anyone limit your joy. When your sense of pleasure and satisfaction are derived from the opinions of other people, you are no longer the master of your own happiness. When intelligent people feel good about something that they have done, they won’t let anyone’s opinions or unpleasant remarks take that away from them.
6. Intelligent people do not focus on problems; they focus only on solutions. Where you focus your attention determines your emotional state. When you occupy your mind with problems you are facing, you create and prolong negative emotions and stress. But when you focus on actions to better yourself and your circumstances, you create a sense of personal efficacy that produces positive emotions and reduces stress.
7. They squash negative self-talk. Sometimes you can nurse negative feelings about how someone is treating you. There is nothing wrong with feeling bad about how others treat you, but your self-talk can either intensify the negativity or help you move past it. Negative self-talk can sends you into a downward emotional spiral that is difficult to pull out of. You should avoid negative self-talk at all costs.
Harsh Truths Most People Need to Hear but Don’t Want to Hear them.
1 Nobody cares but if they happen to care, you should not care that they care but the care may not be a genuine care.
2 You need people but at the same you don’t need other people. Meaning that you need people as a social being but should not depend or hope on people.
3 Your life can get stuck because of fear.
4 No one is truly selfless. People do things with expectations.
5 Truth is like a surgery. It hurts but it cures while l!e is like a painkiller. It gives you immediate relief but has its side effects.
6 No one is going to come to save you; it's entirely your responsibility and the earlier you know this is better.
7 Sometimes things won't go your way in many areas of life but that does not mean that other ways are wrong.
8 Success is not final, and failure is not fatal.
1 Nobody cares but if they happen to care, you should not care that they care but the care may not be a genuine care.
2 You need people but at the same you don’t need other people. Meaning that you need people as a social being but should not depend or hope on people.
3 Your life can get stuck because of fear.
4 No one is truly selfless. People do things with expectations.
5 Truth is like a surgery. It hurts but it cures while l!e is like a painkiller. It gives you immediate relief but has its side effects.
6 No one is going to come to save you; it's entirely your responsibility and the earlier you know this is better.
7 Sometimes things won't go your way in many areas of life but that does not mean that other ways are wrong.
8 Success is not final, and failure is not fatal.
15 highlight about success that you need to know 💕👇
1. Always be yourself, express yourself, have faith in yourself, do not go out and look for a successful personality and duplicate it.
2. Coming together is a beginning; keeping together is progress; working together is success.
3. Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful.
4. Success is the sum of small efforts - repeated day in and day out.
5. Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm.
6. The price of success is hard work, dedication to the job at hand, and the determination that whether we win or lose, we have applied the best of ourselves to the task at hand.
7. All you need in this life is ignorance and confidence, and then success is sure.
8. Action is the foundational key to all success.
9. Success isn't measured by money or power or social rank. Success is measured by your discipline and inner peace.
10. There are people who make things happen, there are people who watch things happen, and there are people who wonder what happened. To be successful, you need to be a person who makes things happen.
11. Success is not a good teacher, failure makes you humble.
12. If at first you don't succeed, try, try again. Then quit. There's no point in being a damn fool about it.
13. Most people give up just when they're about to achieve success. They quit on the one yard line. They give up at the last minute of the game one foot from a winning touchdown. never give up
14. In order to succeed you must fail, so that you know what not to do the next time. that's fact
15. Take up one idea. Make that one idea your life - think of it, dream of it, live on that idea. Let the brain, muscles, nerves, every part of your body, be full of that idea, and just leave every other idea alone. This is the way to success.....
1. Always be yourself, express yourself, have faith in yourself, do not go out and look for a successful personality and duplicate it.
2. Coming together is a beginning; keeping together is progress; working together is success.
3. Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful.
4. Success is the sum of small efforts - repeated day in and day out.
5. Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm.
6. The price of success is hard work, dedication to the job at hand, and the determination that whether we win or lose, we have applied the best of ourselves to the task at hand.
7. All you need in this life is ignorance and confidence, and then success is sure.
8. Action is the foundational key to all success.
9. Success isn't measured by money or power or social rank. Success is measured by your discipline and inner peace.
10. There are people who make things happen, there are people who watch things happen, and there are people who wonder what happened. To be successful, you need to be a person who makes things happen.
11. Success is not a good teacher, failure makes you humble.
12. If at first you don't succeed, try, try again. Then quit. There's no point in being a damn fool about it.
13. Most people give up just when they're about to achieve success. They quit on the one yard line. They give up at the last minute of the game one foot from a winning touchdown. never give up
14. In order to succeed you must fail, so that you know what not to do the next time. that's fact
15. Take up one idea. Make that one idea your life - think of it, dream of it, live on that idea. Let the brain, muscles, nerves, every part of your body, be full of that idea, and just leave every other idea alone. This is the way to success.....
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Techniques to Increase Your Communication Skills and Confidence.
1 Talk to mirror loudly and expressively.
2 Read literature to improve your language and vocabulary.
3 Listen more and speak less.
4 Observe people and situations to see how confident and good communicators handle different situations.
5 Dress well, neat and tidy but not expensive nor flashy. Neatness improves your self-confidence.
6 Have good knowledge of current affairs such as politics, career, business, movies, fashion, and science. Awareness increases confidence and improves communication capabilities. It means you will have something to contribute to conversations.
7 Watch videos where experts interact with people to observe their body movements, especially hand movements and the way they use floor and practise those. YouTube is a good resource for that.
8 When you are having conversation with people, do not make it monotonous. Try to interact, ask questions, and allow others talk.
9 When you don't have an answer, the best answer is “I will get back to you later", don't get nervous nor do a guess work.
10 When you don’t know the answer to the street interviews or questions, admit that you don’t know and ask for the answer rather than embarrassing yourself by saying what you are not sure of.
11 When you have low knowledge about a topic in discussion, let the other person speak first to get an insight of the topic.
12 Accept that you can be wrong, there is no perfect scholar in this world because nothing is perfect. Be wrong but with grace!
13 Take care of oral and dental hygiene to make your interactions less awkward.
14 Communication must be humble, but with a pinch of firmness.
15 When hear or read a new word, take note of it and check the meaning in your dictionary or Google it.
16 When you are on the stage, remember that the audience are just humans as you are, and nothing is so special about them. Anyone can on the stage, and anyone can among the audience. This helps you to overcome being nervous.
17 Communication improves with practice, start interacting more and seek opportunity to communicate.
18 Accepting yourself as who you are is the first step in improving your confidence level.
19 Don't create unnecessary hype or give unneeded importance to an event or you will automatically become nervous.
20 Learn to laugh at yourself and nobody else would be able to laugh at you!
1 Talk to mirror loudly and expressively.
2 Read literature to improve your language and vocabulary.
3 Listen more and speak less.
4 Observe people and situations to see how confident and good communicators handle different situations.
5 Dress well, neat and tidy but not expensive nor flashy. Neatness improves your self-confidence.
6 Have good knowledge of current affairs such as politics, career, business, movies, fashion, and science. Awareness increases confidence and improves communication capabilities. It means you will have something to contribute to conversations.
7 Watch videos where experts interact with people to observe their body movements, especially hand movements and the way they use floor and practise those. YouTube is a good resource for that.
8 When you are having conversation with people, do not make it monotonous. Try to interact, ask questions, and allow others talk.
9 When you don't have an answer, the best answer is “I will get back to you later", don't get nervous nor do a guess work.
10 When you don’t know the answer to the street interviews or questions, admit that you don’t know and ask for the answer rather than embarrassing yourself by saying what you are not sure of.
11 When you have low knowledge about a topic in discussion, let the other person speak first to get an insight of the topic.
12 Accept that you can be wrong, there is no perfect scholar in this world because nothing is perfect. Be wrong but with grace!
13 Take care of oral and dental hygiene to make your interactions less awkward.
14 Communication must be humble, but with a pinch of firmness.
15 When hear or read a new word, take note of it and check the meaning in your dictionary or Google it.
16 When you are on the stage, remember that the audience are just humans as you are, and nothing is so special about them. Anyone can on the stage, and anyone can among the audience. This helps you to overcome being nervous.
17 Communication improves with practice, start interacting more and seek opportunity to communicate.
18 Accepting yourself as who you are is the first step in improving your confidence level.
19 Don't create unnecessary hype or give unneeded importance to an event or you will automatically become nervous.
20 Learn to laugh at yourself and nobody else would be able to laugh at you!
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Here are the Good Habits of Wealthy People
1 Planning and setting goals: Wealthy people are good at setting clear, achievable goals for themselves, and then develop a plan to reach those goals. Remember that goals without plan are just wishes. You need to develop a plan for achieving you goals, and it is better when the plan is written down.
2 Saving and investing: Wealthy people are disciplined savers, and they invest their money wisely to help it grow over time. The poor spend the little they have with the hope that they need to hit it big before they can save and invest. The idea of let eat today and tomorrow will care for itself is common among the poor and that justifies their poverty. You do not need big amount of money to start saving and investing. Every little help.
3 Continuous learning: Successful and wealthy people are constantly learning and educating themselves. They read books, attend seminars, and network with other successful people to stay on top of industry trends and new ideas. The poor feel that the whole world is against them and accept that they don’t have other option than to remain poor.
4 Healthy lifestyle: Wealthy people understand the importance of maintaining good physical and mental health. They often exercise regularly, eat a balanced diet, and get plenty of rest. Majority of the poor don’t exercise for all year round with so many excuses such as being busy and hustling, yet still poor despite their busyness and hustling. But they have time for gossip and other toxic activities.
5 Strong work ethic: Successful people tend to have a strong work ethic and are willing to put in long hours to achieve their goals. The poor do the opposite. They work for a few hours and take long break, holiday, or partying.
6 Networking: Wealthy people are skilful in terms of building and maintaining relationships. They understand the value of networking and often surround themselves with successful people who can offer advice and support. The poor surround themselves with those who partner with them to destroy others.
7 Positive mindset: Wealthy people have a positive attitude and a growth mindset. They view failures as opportunities to learn and grow, and they focus on solutions rather than problems. The poor focus on problems and complains through which they magnify those and attract more.
Overall, the habits of wealthy people revolve around discipline, hard and smart work, networking continuous learning, and a positive mindset. Adopt them and your life will never be the same again.
1 Planning and setting goals: Wealthy people are good at setting clear, achievable goals for themselves, and then develop a plan to reach those goals. Remember that goals without plan are just wishes. You need to develop a plan for achieving you goals, and it is better when the plan is written down.
2 Saving and investing: Wealthy people are disciplined savers, and they invest their money wisely to help it grow over time. The poor spend the little they have with the hope that they need to hit it big before they can save and invest. The idea of let eat today and tomorrow will care for itself is common among the poor and that justifies their poverty. You do not need big amount of money to start saving and investing. Every little help.
3 Continuous learning: Successful and wealthy people are constantly learning and educating themselves. They read books, attend seminars, and network with other successful people to stay on top of industry trends and new ideas. The poor feel that the whole world is against them and accept that they don’t have other option than to remain poor.
4 Healthy lifestyle: Wealthy people understand the importance of maintaining good physical and mental health. They often exercise regularly, eat a balanced diet, and get plenty of rest. Majority of the poor don’t exercise for all year round with so many excuses such as being busy and hustling, yet still poor despite their busyness and hustling. But they have time for gossip and other toxic activities.
5 Strong work ethic: Successful people tend to have a strong work ethic and are willing to put in long hours to achieve their goals. The poor do the opposite. They work for a few hours and take long break, holiday, or partying.
6 Networking: Wealthy people are skilful in terms of building and maintaining relationships. They understand the value of networking and often surround themselves with successful people who can offer advice and support. The poor surround themselves with those who partner with them to destroy others.
7 Positive mindset: Wealthy people have a positive attitude and a growth mindset. They view failures as opportunities to learn and grow, and they focus on solutions rather than problems. The poor focus on problems and complains through which they magnify those and attract more.
Overall, the habits of wealthy people revolve around discipline, hard and smart work, networking continuous learning, and a positive mindset. Adopt them and your life will never be the same again.
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The Best Way to Believe in Yourself.
During the Christmas period, I made a post telling people to spend wise because January around the corner and someone in the comment section said that “at least u have to look good so that yours will not be different”. The comment summarised why we have only a few rich people in the world, and a few people who are themselves, while majority struggle with conformity bias.
If you want to be yourself, consider the following:
1. Trying not to be different, trying not to upset people and trying not to disappoint the expectations of people are recipe for not believing in yourself.
2. Accept your true self, your world view, your personality, and your dreams.
3. So long you are not committing crime nor coming sin, let go of society's expectations, society’s acceptable, the should be of the society and listen to yourself.
4. Start acting on your dreams and be ready to pay the price because once you do, you will accept yourself a little bit more. Most successful people paid the price of success, but the society only focus on the result rather than the process.
4. People will oppose you; they will force their world view on you but that is okay.
5. Give yourself the chance to go for what you want. You still have that voice telling you’re the thing you want. Listen to it and give yourself a chance for it.
6. Keep going after that which you want even when it gets hard. Feed your soul with it.
7. Once you accept your true dreams and start pursuing them, you will find self-belief.
8. And that’s how you start to believe in yourself by being you.
During the Christmas period, I made a post telling people to spend wise because January around the corner and someone in the comment section said that “at least u have to look good so that yours will not be different”. The comment summarised why we have only a few rich people in the world, and a few people who are themselves, while majority struggle with conformity bias.
If you want to be yourself, consider the following:
1. Trying not to be different, trying not to upset people and trying not to disappoint the expectations of people are recipe for not believing in yourself.
2. Accept your true self, your world view, your personality, and your dreams.
3. So long you are not committing crime nor coming sin, let go of society's expectations, society’s acceptable, the should be of the society and listen to yourself.
4. Start acting on your dreams and be ready to pay the price because once you do, you will accept yourself a little bit more. Most successful people paid the price of success, but the society only focus on the result rather than the process.
4. People will oppose you; they will force their world view on you but that is okay.
5. Give yourself the chance to go for what you want. You still have that voice telling you’re the thing you want. Listen to it and give yourself a chance for it.
6. Keep going after that which you want even when it gets hard. Feed your soul with it.
7. Once you accept your true dreams and start pursuing them, you will find self-belief.
8. And that’s how you start to believe in yourself by being you.
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1. As a young person in search of new opportunities and breakthroughs, be careful of things you post on social media.
2. That certain persons do not like or comment on things you write or how you present yourself does not mean they do not notice you.
3. Always promote positive things, promote your brand, product and image, showcase your skills, knowledge and network, that is how people determine your value.
4. You can be whatever you desire in this life, just learn and implement simple techniques to sell yourself to mankind. You are your own best PR manager.
5. Whenever you have the opportunity to comment on social media, be positive and post something that has value. As I have always pointed out, favor, goodwill, or what some call miracle comes from within you.
The world makes offer on you based on the value they see in you.
6. Silence is golden, but it is not in all situations you keep silent. Several people have secured scholarships, jobs, contracts all because someone noticed their positive contributions online.
7. If you come on social media and all you do is to show your body, you get attracted to men who use you and jump on the next victim showing his or her body.
Make sure you present yourself in such a way that people get attracted to you for the right reasons.
8. If you come to social media showcasing a product, the day they need that product they will remember you. The world has changed, social media is now a market place, use it with wisdom.
9. Showcase your skill, knowledge and network, that is what determines your value. What you sow is what you reap.
10. This is a new week, start it on a positive note. Let the world see value in you. You are your own brand maker. Hope we learnt something new today.
2. That certain persons do not like or comment on things you write or how you present yourself does not mean they do not notice you.
3. Always promote positive things, promote your brand, product and image, showcase your skills, knowledge and network, that is how people determine your value.
4. You can be whatever you desire in this life, just learn and implement simple techniques to sell yourself to mankind. You are your own best PR manager.
5. Whenever you have the opportunity to comment on social media, be positive and post something that has value. As I have always pointed out, favor, goodwill, or what some call miracle comes from within you.
The world makes offer on you based on the value they see in you.
6. Silence is golden, but it is not in all situations you keep silent. Several people have secured scholarships, jobs, contracts all because someone noticed their positive contributions online.
7. If you come on social media and all you do is to show your body, you get attracted to men who use you and jump on the next victim showing his or her body.
Make sure you present yourself in such a way that people get attracted to you for the right reasons.
8. If you come to social media showcasing a product, the day they need that product they will remember you. The world has changed, social media is now a market place, use it with wisdom.
9. Showcase your skill, knowledge and network, that is what determines your value. What you sow is what you reap.
10. This is a new week, start it on a positive note. Let the world see value in you. You are your own brand maker. Hope we learnt something new today.
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Use These 8 Techniques to Boost Your Confidence Level.
1. Act and Behave Like Your Confident Self: Act, talk, behave and dress the way your confident self will do.
2. Notice Confident People: Shift your attention from yourself to start noticing the people you consider to be confident. Observe the way they act, what they say and how they behave and learn from them.
3. Reconnect with play: Play is a state of truly being yourself when we you have doubt of yourself and fears to be looking stup*d. Find the games that ignite that state in you.
4. Calculated risk: Get out of your comfort zone and do things that make you think differently.
5. Develop a skill: When you are good at something, you will become confident.
6. Eliminate negativity: Get rid of toxic friends, influencers or anyone or thing that makes you feel horrible about yourself.
7. Self-care: self-care includes everything related to staying physically healthy including hygiene, nutrition, and seeking medical care when needed. Do something good for your body every day such as exercise, skincare, healthy foods etc.
8. Get out of your head: do not allow your thoughts to hold you captive. Stop the spiral of toxic thoughts that are self-destructive, such as I will never be good enough, other people have better lives than I do, God couldn’t really love me, etc. Rather do activities that get you out of your head and make you gain awareness of yourself such as exercise, yoga, meditation, etc.
1. Act and Behave Like Your Confident Self: Act, talk, behave and dress the way your confident self will do.
2. Notice Confident People: Shift your attention from yourself to start noticing the people you consider to be confident. Observe the way they act, what they say and how they behave and learn from them.
3. Reconnect with play: Play is a state of truly being yourself when we you have doubt of yourself and fears to be looking stup*d. Find the games that ignite that state in you.
4. Calculated risk: Get out of your comfort zone and do things that make you think differently.
5. Develop a skill: When you are good at something, you will become confident.
6. Eliminate negativity: Get rid of toxic friends, influencers or anyone or thing that makes you feel horrible about yourself.
7. Self-care: self-care includes everything related to staying physically healthy including hygiene, nutrition, and seeking medical care when needed. Do something good for your body every day such as exercise, skincare, healthy foods etc.
8. Get out of your head: do not allow your thoughts to hold you captive. Stop the spiral of toxic thoughts that are self-destructive, such as I will never be good enough, other people have better lives than I do, God couldn’t really love me, etc. Rather do activities that get you out of your head and make you gain awareness of yourself such as exercise, yoga, meditation, etc.
8 Lessons to Learn by Age 40
#1. Embrace the Journey
Most of your life will be spent in the journey, not the destination. Life is precious and each day isn’t guaranteed. If you put all your happiness in the destination, you’ll be very disappointed when you get there. This goes for physique changes, financial health, and relationships; once you reach the goal you have set it surprisingly isn’t as sweet as you imagined it. Find solace and peace with the journey to getting there; this is where the real magic happens.
Acknowledge the stage you’re in and be grateful for the experience. The hard times won’t last and instead of feeling overwhelmed, stressed, and negative, are knowing that on the other side you’ll be wiser and more resilient.
#2. Take the Leap
Spend too much time thinking about “what ifs” and you’re just going to delay the action. None of us can predict what the future holds and no matter the outcome, have confidence in yourself that you can handle it. Often the hardest part is letting go of expectations of what things “should” be or succumbing the trap of perfectionism, when what we really need to do is let down our walls, invite possibility of failure in and ACT.
#3. Be Intentional and Live Powerfully
With your time, your money, your actions. With your training program, your nutrition plan, which people you choose to be in your life. Seek to find the “Why” behind everything. Be present, refine your skills, choose to respond vs. react, and expand your thoughts and comfort zones. Increase focus on creating the experience rather than letting things happen to you.
#4. Discipline Equals Freedom
Be afraid of failure. The only person you can control is you. So focus on making yourself who you want to be: Faster. Stronger. Smarter. More humble. Less ego. Act in according to your values and your goals; Discipline means taking the hard road—the uphill road. To do what is right, for you and for others so you can achieve the greatness you have envisioned for yourself. It will put you on the path to strength, health, intelligence and happiness. And most important, discipline will put you on the path to freedom.
#5. You Are Your Thoughts
Ghandi said:
“Your beliefs become your thoughts,
Your thoughts become your words,
Your words become your actions,
Your actions become your habits,
Your habits become your values,
Your values become your destiny.”
Excuses only sound good to the person making them. The only way to truly become the person you want to be is by acting in the way that she acts; starting right now.
Your thoughts control your body and your body reciprocally controls your thoughts. If you’re feeling sad, try putting a smile on your face, even if it is the last thing that you want to do. Fake a smile, and feel how your body starts to feel lighter. Sometimes a change in our physical state is all that it takes to create a change in our mental state. Smile more, laugh more, and don’t take life so seriously.
#6. Failure Only Comes If You Quit
Otherwise it just gives you lessons and perspective for new opportunities. Life is too short to not take those chances, to not take that leap. Every experience is an opportunity to learn from and be better the next time around. We only truly fail when we decide to give up instead of finding another way. Time cures all and you’ll live with much less regret by trying and failing, rather than not trying at all. Don’t take no for an answer, especially when it comes to your goals and dreams.
People on a high slope skiing
#7. Trust Your Intuition
When something feels off, it is. Be in or be out. Let your yes be yes or your no be no. Be 100% in the relationship, in the job, in your travels, in your decisions. We all have that little voice inside us telling us what we should do; don’t be afraid to listen to it.
#1. Embrace the Journey
Most of your life will be spent in the journey, not the destination. Life is precious and each day isn’t guaranteed. If you put all your happiness in the destination, you’ll be very disappointed when you get there. This goes for physique changes, financial health, and relationships; once you reach the goal you have set it surprisingly isn’t as sweet as you imagined it. Find solace and peace with the journey to getting there; this is where the real magic happens.
Acknowledge the stage you’re in and be grateful for the experience. The hard times won’t last and instead of feeling overwhelmed, stressed, and negative, are knowing that on the other side you’ll be wiser and more resilient.
#2. Take the Leap
Spend too much time thinking about “what ifs” and you’re just going to delay the action. None of us can predict what the future holds and no matter the outcome, have confidence in yourself that you can handle it. Often the hardest part is letting go of expectations of what things “should” be or succumbing the trap of perfectionism, when what we really need to do is let down our walls, invite possibility of failure in and ACT.
#3. Be Intentional and Live Powerfully
With your time, your money, your actions. With your training program, your nutrition plan, which people you choose to be in your life. Seek to find the “Why” behind everything. Be present, refine your skills, choose to respond vs. react, and expand your thoughts and comfort zones. Increase focus on creating the experience rather than letting things happen to you.
#4. Discipline Equals Freedom
Be afraid of failure. The only person you can control is you. So focus on making yourself who you want to be: Faster. Stronger. Smarter. More humble. Less ego. Act in according to your values and your goals; Discipline means taking the hard road—the uphill road. To do what is right, for you and for others so you can achieve the greatness you have envisioned for yourself. It will put you on the path to strength, health, intelligence and happiness. And most important, discipline will put you on the path to freedom.
#5. You Are Your Thoughts
Ghandi said:
“Your beliefs become your thoughts,
Your thoughts become your words,
Your words become your actions,
Your actions become your habits,
Your habits become your values,
Your values become your destiny.”
Excuses only sound good to the person making them. The only way to truly become the person you want to be is by acting in the way that she acts; starting right now.
Your thoughts control your body and your body reciprocally controls your thoughts. If you’re feeling sad, try putting a smile on your face, even if it is the last thing that you want to do. Fake a smile, and feel how your body starts to feel lighter. Sometimes a change in our physical state is all that it takes to create a change in our mental state. Smile more, laugh more, and don’t take life so seriously.
#6. Failure Only Comes If You Quit
Otherwise it just gives you lessons and perspective for new opportunities. Life is too short to not take those chances, to not take that leap. Every experience is an opportunity to learn from and be better the next time around. We only truly fail when we decide to give up instead of finding another way. Time cures all and you’ll live with much less regret by trying and failing, rather than not trying at all. Don’t take no for an answer, especially when it comes to your goals and dreams.
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#7. Trust Your Intuition
When something feels off, it is. Be in or be out. Let your yes be yes or your no be no. Be 100% in the relationship, in the job, in your travels, in your decisions. We all have that little voice inside us telling us what we should do; don’t be afraid to listen to it.
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"According to Psychologists, there are four types of Intelligence:
1) Intelligence Quotient (IQ)
2) Emotional Quotient (EQ)
3) Social Quotient (SQ)
4) Adversity Quotient (AQ)
1. Intelligence Quotient (IQ): this is the measure of your level of comprehension. You need IQ to solve maths, memorize things, and recall lessons.
2. Emotional Quotient (EQ): this is the measure of your ability to maintain peace with others, keep to time, be responsible, be honest, respect boundaries, be humble, genuine and considerate.
3. Social Quotient (SQ): this is the measure of your ability to build a network of friends and maintain it over a long period of time.
People that have higher EQ and SQ tend to go further in life than those with a high IQ but low EQ and SQ. Most schools capitalize on improving IQ levels while EQ and SQ are played down.
A man of high IQ can end up being employed by a man of high EQ and SQ even though he has an average IQ.
Your EQ represents your Character, while your SQ represents your Charisma. Give in to habits that will improve these three Qs, especially your EQ and SQ.
Now there is a 4th one, a new paradigm:
4. The Adversity Quotient (AQ): The measure of your ability to go through a rough patch in life, and come out of it without losing your mind.
When faced with troubles, AQ determines who will give up, who will abandon their family, and who will consider suicide.
Parents please expose your children to other areas of life than just Academics. They should adore manual labour (never use work as a form of punishment), Sports and Arts.
Develop their IQ, as well as their EQ, SQ and AQ. They should become multifaceted human beings able to do things independently of their parents.
Finally, do not prepare the road for your children. Prepare your children for the road.
1) Intelligence Quotient (IQ)
2) Emotional Quotient (EQ)
3) Social Quotient (SQ)
4) Adversity Quotient (AQ)
1. Intelligence Quotient (IQ): this is the measure of your level of comprehension. You need IQ to solve maths, memorize things, and recall lessons.
2. Emotional Quotient (EQ): this is the measure of your ability to maintain peace with others, keep to time, be responsible, be honest, respect boundaries, be humble, genuine and considerate.
3. Social Quotient (SQ): this is the measure of your ability to build a network of friends and maintain it over a long period of time.
People that have higher EQ and SQ tend to go further in life than those with a high IQ but low EQ and SQ. Most schools capitalize on improving IQ levels while EQ and SQ are played down.
A man of high IQ can end up being employed by a man of high EQ and SQ even though he has an average IQ.
Your EQ represents your Character, while your SQ represents your Charisma. Give in to habits that will improve these three Qs, especially your EQ and SQ.
Now there is a 4th one, a new paradigm:
4. The Adversity Quotient (AQ): The measure of your ability to go through a rough patch in life, and come out of it without losing your mind.
When faced with troubles, AQ determines who will give up, who will abandon their family, and who will consider suicide.
Parents please expose your children to other areas of life than just Academics. They should adore manual labour (never use work as a form of punishment), Sports and Arts.
Develop their IQ, as well as their EQ, SQ and AQ. They should become multifaceted human beings able to do things independently of their parents.
Finally, do not prepare the road for your children. Prepare your children for the road.
5 Stupidly Simple Truths:
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1. When you appreciate your faults, they lose their power over you.
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2. The more something scares you, the more you should do it.
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3. Personal growth is merely the process of learning to lie to oneself less.
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4. You don't have to prove anything to anybody, ever. Including yourself.
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5. The why's of life are far more important than the what's of life. Start asking yourself "Why?"
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1. When you appreciate your faults, they lose their power over you.
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2. The more something scares you, the more you should do it.
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3. Personal growth is merely the process of learning to lie to oneself less.
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4. You don't have to prove anything to anybody, ever. Including yourself.
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5. The why's of life are far more important than the what's of life. Start asking yourself "Why?"
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If you want to understand the person's thought process, listen to his words. If you want to understand who the person truly is, how much heart he's got left and what he carries in that heart, consciously observe his actions, how he treats others and how he lives his life. We have two eyes and one mouth for a reason, and once people learn how to use them properly, they are truly equipped for life and all its challenges. If you choose to voluntarily and consciously observe other people and, over time, allow your mind to build a database of people's emotional and functional patterns, no one can really take advantage of or fool you anymore. For example, if you have encountered and observed 100 liars in your life, your conscience automatically tracks and observes their broken emotional/functional patterns, low frequency, and draining energy and will alert you to be careful and pay attention even more because something is off. People who are badly misinformed or confused and haven't built this natural self-defence mechanism are constantly lied to, betrayed, and taken advantage of, and they end up even more traumatised, unconscious, and disappointed in themselves and humanity. A lot of them get so badly hurt that they think that's the only way to go through life, so they would do the same, go through life and try to lie and take advantage of others, making things worse and traumatising even more people, who will end up traumatised and unconscious in the early stages of life and would do the same. It takes a lot to try to do the right thing instead of going around and doing the same thing that was done to you, especially if you're hurt in the early stages of life and don't know any other way. People might hate being stuck in darkness, but once you're stuck in there for too long, it becomes your home, and then you go and spread it around, because that's all you know. That’s why traumatised and stupid people can only break other people, and they will think that they know better, but those are unfortunate victims, and sadly, we have plenty of them. That's why we are so advanced but many people are unconscious, confused and deeply lost more than ever.
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The toxic cultural programming/education system is designed to make people into traumatised, unconscious, insecure, worthless, soulless, and ego driven creatures who can’t even think for themselves any more and end up living in survival/self-deception mode. From an early age, they sell people so many lies, and then they build their whole lives on them. But is it really life when there is no real peace and happiness? And then, the truth is so painful that most people couldn’t even handle it, and that’s exactly why they live the lives that they live. Yes, the world can be very harsh, unfair, and horrible in many ways, but it’s not as horrible as those lies that people keep telling themselves every single day. Because if you’re not lying to yourself and can actually think for yourself, people's lives would be constantly improving and there wouldn't be so much misery, because only true growth will make you happy and fulfilled. Living in a survival/constant comfort zone; that's what makes people miserable. It slowly destroys their souls because they are not doing what they are supposed to do and are not fulfilling their destiny. They put them in the cage and told them that they couldn't fly, but why the hell are the gates there and left open? They should check themselves out. They might realise that they have wings and can actually fly, and after that, they will never want to go back into that cage again.
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Five golden rules to achieve your destiny:
1. Set Clear Goals: Clearly define what you want to achieve in life. Set specific, measurable, achievable, relevant, and time-bound (SMART) goals that align with your vision of your destiny.
2. Take Action: Dreams and goals are great, but they won't become a reality without action. Take consistent and deliberate steps towards your goals. Break them down into smaller tasks and tackle them one by one.
3. Embrace Failure as Learning: Failure is a natural part of any journey. Instead of being discouraged, see it as an opportunity to learn and grow. Analyze your setbacks, identify lessons, and use them to refine your approach. Persistence and resilience are key.
4. Cultivate Self-Belief: Believe in yourself and your abilities. Develop a positive mindset, practice self-affirmation, and surround yourself with supportive and uplifting influences. Confidence in your potential will help you overcome challenges and stay focused on your destiny.
5. Stay Committed and Flexible: Stay committed to your goals, but also be flexible in your approach. Life may throw unexpected curveballs, and being adaptable will help you navigate through obstacles. Stay open to new opportunities and adjust your path when necessary while keeping your destination in mind.
Remember, achieving your destiny is a journey that requires determination, patience, and self-discovery. Stay true to yourself, learn from your experiences.
1. Set Clear Goals: Clearly define what you want to achieve in life. Set specific, measurable, achievable, relevant, and time-bound (SMART) goals that align with your vision of your destiny.
2. Take Action: Dreams and goals are great, but they won't become a reality without action. Take consistent and deliberate steps towards your goals. Break them down into smaller tasks and tackle them one by one.
3. Embrace Failure as Learning: Failure is a natural part of any journey. Instead of being discouraged, see it as an opportunity to learn and grow. Analyze your setbacks, identify lessons, and use them to refine your approach. Persistence and resilience are key.
4. Cultivate Self-Belief: Believe in yourself and your abilities. Develop a positive mindset, practice self-affirmation, and surround yourself with supportive and uplifting influences. Confidence in your potential will help you overcome challenges and stay focused on your destiny.
5. Stay Committed and Flexible: Stay committed to your goals, but also be flexible in your approach. Life may throw unexpected curveballs, and being adaptable will help you navigate through obstacles. Stay open to new opportunities and adjust your path when necessary while keeping your destination in mind.
Remember, achieving your destiny is a journey that requires determination, patience, and self-discovery. Stay true to yourself, learn from your experiences.
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Remember we can never control the choices, actions, and behaviors of other people.
Never.
So don't waste your energy thinking that you can, instead let them be who they are.
In the words of Maya Angelou, "When people show you who they are believe them."
(The best thing about hard times is that you get to see everyone's true colors.-unknown)
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So don't waste your energy thinking that you can, instead let them be who they are.
In the words of Maya Angelou, "When people show you who they are believe them."
(The best thing about hard times is that you get to see everyone's true colors.-unknown)
6 LAWS TO WIN IN LIFE
1.Stop telling people your plans
When you over share, you hurt your own progress. Keep things private and win.
2.Know when to say no
Strong people put their own well being before pleasing others. Practice saying no more often.
3. Make a decision, and commit to it
Too many people lack discipline and go back to their toxic patterns. Make a decision to change, and stick to it.
4. There is power in numbers
Nobody has made it in life all by themselves. You need a team that uplifts and supports you. Stop being a lone wolf.
5. Starve your distractions, feed your focus
Focus on your goals instead of
cheap dopamine. You will achieve anything you ever wanted.
6. Always provide value to others
There is only one secret to success: making other people's lives easier. In business and relationships, providing value will keep you their first priority.
1.Stop telling people your plans
When you over share, you hurt your own progress. Keep things private and win.
2.Know when to say no
Strong people put their own well being before pleasing others. Practice saying no more often.
3. Make a decision, and commit to it
Too many people lack discipline and go back to their toxic patterns. Make a decision to change, and stick to it.
4. There is power in numbers
Nobody has made it in life all by themselves. You need a team that uplifts and supports you. Stop being a lone wolf.
5. Starve your distractions, feed your focus
Focus on your goals instead of
cheap dopamine. You will achieve anything you ever wanted.
6. Always provide value to others
There is only one secret to success: making other people's lives easier. In business and relationships, providing value will keep you their first priority.
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Daily reminder 🔥
You are whole, enough, complete, worthy, and loved.
Your worth never comes from another person.
Your worth is right inside of you, so sit in quiet for a few minutes every day and connect with your true Self within.
You are worthy by virtue of existing as a human being.
Remember that the way people treat you is a reflection of what is happening inside of them. It is not about you. 💚
(The “boring” life you’re living will save you from a lot of things.TeamProsper_)
You are whole, enough, complete, worthy, and loved.
Your worth never comes from another person.
Your worth is right inside of you, so sit in quiet for a few minutes every day and connect with your true Self within.
You are worthy by virtue of existing as a human being.
Remember that the way people treat you is a reflection of what is happening inside of them. It is not about you. 💚
(The “boring” life you’re living will save you from a lot of things.TeamProsper_)
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HOW TO BE A TOP 1% SUPER PERSON
• Have a Journal
• No porn
• Meditate
• Work out
• Lift weights
• Focus on yourself
• Go on nature walks
• Don't follow the crowd
• Focus on self-improvement
• Chase goals, instead of women/men
• Learn how to build your own business
• Have a Journal
• No porn
• Meditate
• Work out
• Lift weights
• Focus on yourself
• Go on nature walks
• Don't follow the crowd
• Focus on self-improvement
• Chase goals, instead of women/men
• Learn how to build your own business
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You can become more proactive for yourself.
Stop living the life full of excuses and complaints.
You either expect more of yourself or underestimate your actual skills.
Realize you have a lot more you can know and can learn.
So many people think they are intelligent enough and stop learning. Do not be like them.
If you feel like you could know more then learn. It’s up to you to teach yourself. There are free online courses.
It can also be fun to randomly pick a Wikipedia page and then just keep reading from link to link.
Stop living the life full of excuses and complaints.
You either expect more of yourself or underestimate your actual skills.
Realize you have a lot more you can know and can learn.
So many people think they are intelligent enough and stop learning. Do not be like them.
If you feel like you could know more then learn. It’s up to you to teach yourself. There are free online courses.
It can also be fun to randomly pick a Wikipedia page and then just keep reading from link to link.
The Rules for Being Human
Every human being is a problem in search of a solution.
~Ashley Montagu
1. You will receive a body.
You may like it or hate it, but it will be yours for the entire period of this time around.
2. You will learn lessons.
You are enrolled in a full-time informal school called Life.
Each day in this school you will have the opportunity to learn lessons. You may like the lessons or think them irrelevant and stupid.
3. There are no mistakes, only lessons.
Growth is a process of trial and error: Experimentation. The “failed” experiments are as much a part of the process as the experiment that ultimately “works.”
4. A lesson is repeated until learned.
A lesson will be presented to you in various forms until you have learned it. When you have learned it, you can then go on to the next lesson.
There is no part of life that does not contain its lessons. If you are alive, there are lessons to be learned.
“6There” is no better than “here.”
When your “there” has become a “here,” you will simply obtain another “there” that will again look better than “here.”
7. Others are merely mirrors of you.
You cannot love or hate something about another person unless it reflects something you love or hate about yourself.
8. What you make of your life is up to you.
You have all the tools and resources you need. What you do with them is up to you. The choice is yours.
9. Your answers lie inside you.
The answers to Life’s questions lie inside you. All you need to do is look, listen and trust.
10. You will forget all this
Every human being is a problem in search of a solution.
~Ashley Montagu
1. You will receive a body.
You may like it or hate it, but it will be yours for the entire period of this time around.
2. You will learn lessons.
You are enrolled in a full-time informal school called Life.
Each day in this school you will have the opportunity to learn lessons. You may like the lessons or think them irrelevant and stupid.
3. There are no mistakes, only lessons.
Growth is a process of trial and error: Experimentation. The “failed” experiments are as much a part of the process as the experiment that ultimately “works.”
4. A lesson is repeated until learned.
A lesson will be presented to you in various forms until you have learned it. When you have learned it, you can then go on to the next lesson.
5. Learning lessons does not end.There is no part of life that does not contain its lessons. If you are alive, there are lessons to be learned.
“6There” is no better than “here.”
When your “there” has become a “here,” you will simply obtain another “there” that will again look better than “here.”
7. Others are merely mirrors of you.
You cannot love or hate something about another person unless it reflects something you love or hate about yourself.
8. What you make of your life is up to you.
You have all the tools and resources you need. What you do with them is up to you. The choice is yours.
9. Your answers lie inside you.
The answers to Life’s questions lie inside you. All you need to do is look, listen and trust.
10. You will forget all this
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No one is going to make you smarter
No one is going to make you exercise and eat right.
No one is going to make you rich.
Everything starts with you.
The day you realize and internalize that is the day your life will change forever.
No one is going to make you exercise and eat right.
No one is going to make you rich.
Everything starts with you.
The day you realize and internalize that is the day your life will change forever.
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