socializing, calling names, language, fight club, fragile masculinity

"when people call you a snowflake just remember they're quoting fight club, a satire written by a gay man about how male fragility causes men to destroy themselves, resent society, and become radicalized, and that tyler durden isnt the hero but a personification of the main character's mental illness, and that his "snowflake" speech is a dig at how fascists use dehumanizing language to breed loyalty from insecure people"

housing, activism, fake bees / wasps / hornets

"if anyone has a shut off notice"

arguing, socializing, boundaries

"meet me in the middle, says the unjust man.

you take a step toward him. he takes a step back.

meet me in the middle, says the unjust man."

self defense

"you cant truly call yourself peaceful unless you are capable of great violence

if you're not capable of violence, you're not peaceful, you're harmless

important distinction"

self compassion

"you dont have to be grateful that it isnt worse
[...]
somebody, somewhere, always has it worse than you. there is one person on this planet that has it the worst of all, and that person is NOT the only person allowed to be unhappy with their lot"

guilt, self compassion, trauma, past

"forgive yourself.
you did the best with who you were at the time."

resources, lgbt, binding

"make your own binder"

socializing, invisible problems

"the worst thing you can do to a person with an invisible illness is make them feel like they need to prove how sick they are"

society, self compassion, mental health

"just a quick reminder that a society exists to serve the people within it. there's no such thing as a person being "useless" to a society, only a society that is useless to a person"

consent, language, rape

“Consensual sex” is just sex. To say that implies that there is such a thing as “non consensual sex”, which there isn't. That’s rape. That is what it needs to be called. There is only sex or rape. Do not teach people that rape is just another type of sex. They are two very separate events. You wouldn’t say “breathing swimming” and “non breathing swimming”, you say swimming and drowning."

boundaries, socializing, abuse

"if you catch yourself begging someone for... human decency? a response? time together? clarity? respect? some compassion? some kindness?

you need to take a step back and realize that you're begging someone for the bare minimum. thats ridiculous and beneath you. fuck that."