Where Are The Men?

O brothers in Islam, look at our state today. The balance Allah placed between man and woman is being turned upside down. Women now carry the roles of leaders, CEO's, directors, decision-makers, and we dare to call this “progress”, but it is just a sign of the men's weakness.

Universities are filled with women, while many sons drift without purpose. Fathers pour money into their daughters’ education, but neglect to raise their sons into men who can provide, protect and lead.

But before pointing fingers only at women, as some do, we must ask: Where are the men? Where are they?.

Hajj, Step-by-Step, just for you:

Last week, I asked: would you rather attend a practical hajj course or be led by an ‘aalim for your hajj or umrah? Many chose the course. Some said both, but the question was either or. In reality, both matter. You should not be going to hajj alone. As a woman, you need a mahram or at least a group led by a trustworthy male figure. Beyond that, hajj itself is demanding. It is crowded, people get lost, and the weather can be intense. Imagine getting lost and not knowing what to do next. Imagine missing ‘Arafah. No hajj fulfilled, subhānaLlāh.

Going without proper education, training, and guidance can turn this journey into a struggle, especially when you may not get another chance. We have heard stories of people who go for hajj yet cannot fulfil it. Salāh becomes heavy. Even Wudū’ feels like a burden. Legs feel too weak to walk to Masjid al-Haram. While others send salawāt upon the Prophet, their lips remain still. Moments that shake you and force complete surrender to Allah.

What makes someone physically and financially able to attempt hajj, yet spiritually unable to complete it?

Why is hajj the most beautiful experience for one person, and the most difficult for another?

Why do some make du‘ā during tawaf and see immediate response, while others return feeling empty?

How do you prepare mentally, spiritually, physically, financially, and even emotionally for the journey to the most honoured House of Allah?

To answer these, I’ve partnered with Al-‘Aabidaat Academy to organise a full practical hajj course. It takes you step by step, from preparation to returning home.

This course is for you whether you are going this year or still asking Allah to invite you. It is for group leaders, students of knowledge who want practical fiqh, and every Muslimah who wants to become the answer to her du‘ā before it is granted.

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It’s not stress.
It’s dopamine addiction.

It’s not depression and emptiness.
It’s dopamine addiction.

It’s not lethargy and tiredness.
It’s dopamine addiction.

It’s not burnout and brain fog.
It’s dopamine addiction.

It’s not failure of plans and demotivation.
It’s dopamine addiction.

It’s not black magic or punishment of sins.
It’s dopamine addiction.

Dopamine addiction (through excessive use of mobile and reels and social media) is the single and biggest reason of literally everything you are going through in your mood. The biggest skill to learn of this century is managing social media and smart phone. It’s the most valuable skill to learn. How to learn it? Search it yourself. Search dopamine addiction. Search how to get rid of it. Search dopamine fasting.

How to avoid becoming a spendthrift?

Before purchasing a thing always keep this in mind:

1. That you don't buy a thing which you already own or have something similar to it.
2. The thing that is being bought is out of requirement and not because you can buy it.
3. That it won't be used in disobedience to Allaah.

Allaah تعالى says: {But spend not wastefully (your wealth) in the manner of a spendthrift.}

Ibn Masood رضي الله عنه said: “This refers to spending extravagantly when it is not appropriate (i.e. spending unnecessarily).”

Ibn Abbaas رضي الله عنهما said likewise.

Mujaahid said: “If a man spends all his wealth on appropriate things, then he is not a spendthrift, but if he spends a little inappropriately, then he is a spendthrift.”

Qataadah said: “Extravagance means spending money on sin, in disobeying Allaah, and on wrongful and corrupt things.”

Hārithah bin Wahb al-Khazā’ee [may Allāh be pleased with him] reported: The Messenger of Allāh صَلَّى اللّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ said:

“Shall I not inform you about the Residents of Paradise? They are every humble person considered weak [whom the people look down upon], but if they gave an oath by Allah it would be fulfilled. Shall I not inform you about the Residents of Hellfire? They are every brute, haughty, and arrogant person.”

Saheeh al-Bukhāri, 4918 | Saheeh

TN:عُتُلٍّ, ‘Utul means one who is cruel, harsh, strong, greedy and stingy. Al-Waki’ [may Allāh have mercy on him] said: “Utul is every greedy, stingy, rude, harsh and arrogant person.”

*الـــذوق الألـــذ:*
*The Sweetest Taste ♡*

Ibn al-Mubarak رحمه الله said:

"The people of this world left the world before tasting the best of what is in it." He was asked, "What is the best of it?"

He replied, "𝗞𝗡𝗢𝗪𝗜𝗡𝗚 𝗔𝗟𝗟𝗔𝗛."

[Sifat as-Safwah, Ibn al-Jawzi 2/326]

_To know Allah is to find peace._
_To find Allah is to find everything._

Fear of a bad ending

Ibn al-Qayyim رحمه الله said:

“Sufyān al-Thawrī, may Allāh have mercy on him, once cried a whole night until the morning, so in the morning he was asked if his cry was due to the fear of sins.

He picked hay from the ground and said:

‘Sins are lighter than this hay, I only cried out of fear of the bad ending.’

Ibn al-Qayyim said:

“And this is the peak of Fīqh (knowledge and understanding) that a man fears that his sins let him down at the time of death and that they come between him and the good ending.”

[al-Dāaʾ wa al-Dawāʾ | 390]

A Reminder for y'all beautiful sisters❤️

Allah does not like to C women Grieve...❤️‍🩹

"Salaatul-Hajah" and "Salat Hifzul-Qur’an" are not lawful

Question: I have heard about Salatul-Hajah (the prayer of need) and Salat Hifzul Qur’an (the prayer of Qur’an memorization) - are these prayers or not?

Answer by Shaykh Muhammad bin Saalih al-`Uthaymeen رحمه الله

They are both incorrect; neither Salatul-Hajah nor Salat Hifzul-Qur’an are correct, because it is not possible to confirm such acts of worship except by some legal evidence and there is no legal evidence by which to make them lawful.

Fataawa Islamiyyah, DARUSSALAM, vol.2 p.314

http://www.fatwaislam.com/fis/index.cfm?scn=fd&ID=780

HOW TO RECOGNIZE MERCY & MISERY.

Ibn Qayyim (rahimahullah d. 751AH)

If Allah places a person under certain tests and trials and the person recognizes that he or she must resort to Allah alone, seeking His help. Then this is a good sign for the person, trials turn to purification and mercy.

On the other hand, if the person rejects, complains, and turns away from Allah and seeks help from human beings like himself, then this is a bad sign for him. Trials turn to punishment and misery for the person.

[Tareequl Hijratayn 103, pg, 239]

A hundred years from now, when you lie alone in your grave, no one will care about how much wealth you had, what car you drove, or the house you lived in. All of it will fade away.

What will truly remain are your righteous deeds — أعمالك الصالحة.

So fear Allah — اتقِ الله — and prepare for the day when you will be left alone in your قبر, with nothing but what you sent forward for your آخِرة.

فمن يعمل مثقال ذرة خيرًا يره، ومن يعمل مثقال ذرة شرًا يره.

SEEING ALLAAH IN PARADISE:

Prophet Muhammad (Peace & blessings be upon him) said:

“When those deserving paradise enter it, Almighty Allaah, Most Blessed, will ask: ‘Do you wish Me to give you anything more?’ They will reply: ‘Did You not brighten our faces, place us in paradise and save us from the hellfire?’ He will then lift the veil, and of the things given to them, nothing will be dearer to them than gazing at their Lord, the Mighty and Glorious.” The Prophet (Peace & blessings upon him)] then recited the verse: “Those who do good will have the best reward and something more.” Soorah Yoonus (10):26.

(Sahih Muslim, vol. 1, p. 114, nos. 347-8).

The Duḥā Prayer: Its Virtue and Its Time

Shaykh Muhammad ibn Salih al-Uthaymeen, may Allah have mercy upon him, said:

The correct view is that maintaining it regularly is Sunnah—not because the Messenger ﷺ consistently maintained it, but because a person protects himself with it from something that is obligatory upon him. For every joint of our bodies has a charity due upon it. A person has three hundred and sixty joints, as has come in the hadith:

“Every human being from the children of Ādam has been created upon three hundred and sixty joints.”

So every day, there are three hundred and sixty acts of charity due upon him—and who is able to do that except whom Allah wills? However, two units of Duḥā suffice in place of all of these charities.

As for its time: it begins from when the sun rises to the height of a spear, until shortly before the zenith by about five to seven minutes. The end of its time is better than its beginning, due to the hadith:

“The prayer of the oft-returning ones (al-awwābīn) is when the young camels feel the heat of the sun.” (Reported by Muslim)

And it is not made up if it is missed.

📚Taʿlīq ʿalā Ṣaḥīḥ al-Bukhārī (4/280)

Words of Wisdom Ibn al-Qayyim:
Ibn al-Qayyim:

Types of Patience

Patience is of two types: physical and psychological. Each type may also be optional or obligatory. Thus, we have four types of patience:

1) Optional physical patience such as doing hard labor willingly.

2) Obligatory physical patience, such as enduring the pain of beatings, illness, wounds or cold or hot weather.

3) Optional psychological patience, such as refraining from doing ill-conduct that contradicts sacred knowledge or reason.

4) Obligatory psychological patience, such as enduring the pain of separation from one's loved ones who are beyond his reach.

The obligatory types of patience can be applied to human beings and animals, whereas the optional types apply only to people. However, some people may only maintain patience for obligatory things, like animals, and forsake optional patience.

[The Way to Patience & Gratitude, p.13-14]

𝐎𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐎𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐠.
𝐆𝐢𝐫𝐥𝐢𝐞𝐬 𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐢𝐬 𝐨𝐟𝐭𝐞𝐧 𝐚 𝐭𝐨𝐨𝐥 𝐨𝐟 𝐒𝐡𝐚𝐲𝐭𝐚𝐧 𝐭𝐨 𝐜𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐭𝐞 𝐝𝐨𝐮𝐛𝐭 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐟𝐞𝐚𝐫. 𝐓𝐫𝐮𝐬𝐭 𝐀𝐥𝐥𝐚𝐡’𝐬 𝐝𝐞𝐜𝐫𝐞𝐞, 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐇𝐞 𝐢𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐛𝐞𝐬𝐭 𝐩𝐥𝐚𝐧𝐧𝐞𝐫: 𝐖𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐭𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡𝐭𝐬 𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐥𝐦 𝐲𝐨𝐮, 𝐫𝐞𝐜𝐢𝐭𝐞 𝐇𝐚𝐬𝐛𝐢𝐲𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐚𝐡𝐮 𝐥𝐚 𝐢𝐥𝐚𝐡𝐚 𝐢𝐥𝐥𝐚 𝐇𝐮! (𝐒𝐮𝐫𝐚𝐡 𝐀𝐭-𝐓𝐚𝐰𝐛𝐚𝐡 𝟗:𝟏𝟐𝟗).
𝐏𝐥𝐚𝐜𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐭𝐫𝐮𝐬𝐭 𝐢𝐧 𝐇𝐢𝐦, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐥𝐞𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐡𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐭 𝐟𝐢𝐧𝐝 𝐩𝐞𝐚𝐜𝐞.🪄

You've heard of the 99 Names of Allah.

But there are 3 names
that scholars say most Muslims
have never truly understood.

And when you understand them —
the way you see your entire life changes.

Al-Latīf.

Most people translate it as: The Kind.

That's too small.

Al-Latīf means:
The One who reaches you through paths so subtle
you don't even realise He's moving.

That conversation that changed your direction.
That delay that protected you from something you never saw coming.
That door that closed so violently it hurt —
right before a better one opened.

That wasn't coincidence.

That was Al-Latīf.

Working in ways too subtle for your eyes.
Too gentle for your understanding.

Al-Wakīl.

The Trustee. The One you hand your affairs to.

Not the One you consult.
Not the One you pray to when you've run out of options.

The One you fully transfer your trust to.

There's a du'a for moments of fear that the Prophet ﷺ taught:

"Hasbunallāhu wa ni'mal-wakīl."
(Allah is sufficient for us — and what an excellent Trustee He is.)

Ibrahim (AS) said it when he was thrown into fire.
The fire became cool.

Muhammad ﷺ and the Sahabah said it when they were told an army was coming to destroy them.
They returned with blessings.

When is the last time you truly transferred something to Al-Wakīl?
Not with your lips. With your chest.
"It's Yours. I can't carry this anymore. I trust
You."

Al-Mujīb.
The One who responds.
Not: the One who sometimes responds. Not: the One who responds if you qualifjy.
Every single call. Every single time.
Without exception.

Allah says:
"And when My servants ask you concerning Me — indeed I am near. I respond to the du'a of the one who calls when he calls upon Me."(2:186)

He didn't say "I might respond. " He didn't say "I respond if the conditions are met."
"Irespond."
Full stop.

The response might be: Giving you what you asked for. Giving you something better. Removinga harm you didn't know was coming. Storing it for you on a Day when you'll need it most.
But He always responds.
Al-Mujīb never ignores a call.

You're not forgotten. You're not too small. You're not too sinful.
You are talking to Al-Latīf, AI-Wakīl,
Al-Mujīb.
And every word you've ever whispered in the dark was heard.

#copied

Make an excuse for your brother!
Umar ibn al-Khattab, may Allah be pleased with him, said, “It is not allowed for a Muslim who hears a word from his brother to assume evil of him if he can find something good about it.”

Source: al-Tamhīd 18/20

HOW WE WASTE OUR TIME AND YOUTH
In the Mumbai local train, early morning in chilling cold, an elderly gentleman boards in and sells small chocolates. This is his daily routine and I have seen him for the past ten years. He is around 65, an age at which many government officers sit at home and gain pensions. What are his earnings? His box contains just a few hundred chocolates. It might take his entire morning to sell those and fetch him just two dollars if I convert it into US currency.

Another old man, I see on the beaches of Juhu carrying hot kettle of tea and struggling in the soft sands, walks a few miles till midnight. He sells around two litres of tea and that too fetches him around two dollars.

Now let us take a round at the Corniche and juice centres of Mumbai and Karachi at midnight. You will see young Muslim men in caps, as a religious identity, speeding cars and bikes and merrying at eateries, playing loud music. If you cannot visit Bhendi Bazar, then visit Delhi Juma Masjid or Kolkata's Juma Masjid. Crows are black everywhere. The media says that after 11 pm, it is peak hours at eateries in these localities. Most of these guys gulp down Pepsis and lick icecreams worth two dollars each. The amount of pocket money that is blown off by young people is too huge as compared to their monthly earnings. This is the time when youth is supposed to be studying at home or peacefully sleeping. Or if he is a man of Taqwa, he may even study the Qur'an. But our youth's special years are zipped, zapped, and zoomed on streets, eateries and malls.

When I pass by the railway station, I see teenagers polishing shoes to earn for their parents. On each Mumbai local railway station platform ( that runs up to 100), there are hundreds of these teenagers earning a living right from the morning. At that time, many Muslim youth who roam around in the streets at midnight are sleeping without fajr prayers.

A popular Hadith says : The Rizq of my Ummah is distributed during Fajr. Most of us have understood the concept of Rizq properly, yet we do not value the words of the Prophet (pbuh).
The youth are the backbone of a community. When this backbone suffers from 'SLEEP DISC' the whole body suffers handicap. The reason for these 'sleep disc' is late nights, whether you are roaming in the streets or cyber lanes. Many watch late-night TV shows and sports. In my school days, my disciplinary grandfather used to take a round around our rooms at 10 pm and check who is not sleeping.

Many times we used to find it hard to give explanations as to why we were still awake at 11!. Today's parents join their children in late-night entertainment and fun. The students then sleep in class to compensate their lost sleep.

Extravagance is not only in lavish spending of wealth, but it also reflects in spending time lavishly too. After all you can earn your lost money but not your time... By Sir Nisaar Y. Nadiadwala

Ibn al-Qayyim رحمه الله:

“Which life is better than the life of a person whose worries have all united and become one concern directed towards attaining the pleasure of Allāh, gathered the scattered feelings of his heart through the devotion to Allāh, whose intentions and thoughts were once divided- each scattered in a different valley- are now focused on Allāh.

So the remembrance of the Most Beloved, the love to Him and the longing to meet Him and the comfort in being near to him becomes overwhelming for him. His concern, intentions and objectives and the feelings of his heart revolve around all this.”

[The Disease & The Cure | Pg. 329]

Ibn al-Qayyim, may Allah have mercy on him, said, “The religion itself is entirely good character, so whoever surpasses you in character has surpassed you in religion. Likewise, it is such with spirituality (al-tasawwuf). Al-Kanani said: Spirituality is itself good character, so whoever surpasses you in character has surpassed you in spirituality.”

And he said, “Good manners itself is the religion in its entirety.”

Source: Madārij al-Sālikīn 2/294

’Uthaimeen: Prepare to Meet Allaah by Examining Yourself

Shaikh ’Uthaimeen, may Allaah have mercy on him, said, “A person must prepare to meet Allaah عزوجل and know how he will meet Allaah—will he do so in a condition that pleases Him عزوجل or the opposite?

So examine yourself and know what state you are in.”

📖 Sharh al-Arba’een an-Nawawiyyah, p. 478.